Because couple live together under one roof does not mean they are together, many marriages have been torn apart from the very beginning even the olden days the same thing does happen, but the difference now is but a simple fact, people are being more vocal than before.

Simply because after RELIGION, Marriage is the 2nd greatest scam to mankind. Failure of submission on the part of woman is a major problem. Two masters can not direct a ship. Even my own, I am very tired and no more intrested

Liposure:
you ve seen it all

You damm!! Right! I have...

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

When you're about to married, woman humble and give you maximum good character you've expected. But immediately you married then those love begin to depreciate especially when you have kids. I'm praying to find ways to runaway . I can't die young.
I provided all what a woman needs at home but yet I have no rest of mind. Social media spoilt many homes already. Any little thing, offline messages will be sent to their entire friends & family when you had a little misunderstanding. .

Marraige in the past is base on understanding, friendship and respect created between families.
Our forefathers make sure they look into the family that their son/daughter are to marry into, pre arrange it and they are brought in a good background and its easy to mediate if couple has misunderstanding.
Marraige this days is base on "LOVE" that is generated and can easily be undone if the behaviour of the opposite change.
Love is an attraction of a certain attributes and once that attributes is gone, love will disappear.
This days, couple tends to copy what friends do outside to their home which never work and share their problem with mate instead of sharing it with an elderly family member with marital experience.
There is no marraige on earth that don't experience problem and misunderstanding.

Simply because love is dead and buried

Why do people get married??
For Love or
For children??
This is a question that must be answered first..

Marriage is not for everybody... it's not a must to get married,I guess people to think it through before going into in.Some think it's an obligation that must be fulfilled.

We can't judge what those in the past would have done. Go farm, come back, work for house, then the husband is to make village noise, etc. We don't know.

All the way until the 90s and early 2000s, Lagos was flyover and mezmerizing to other nigerians not from Lagos.


Times have changed. If our moms and dads, or grandparents had the same technologies, we don't know how it would have impacted their relationships.


I can't give past generation credit on discipline if the tech influence and courts are not factored in.

Feminism is one cause

Nowadays society doesn't see divorce as an abomination instead it glorifies it and rewards it.

Also, social media teaches the nowadays us not to be content with what we have....this seems trivial but it's the catalist which breeds lots of discontent

Ofemmanu1:


I for beat all the nonsense and ingredients cheap food away for your head.

You should be arrested. Anumanu

sisisioge:
Marriages are no longer lasting because times have changed and the incidents are not entirely willing to change as well.

Back in the days, everyone knew their place:

1. Men were absolute financial provider while women were absolutely responsible for house keeping
2. Men expected and received total submission, afterall he who pays the piper dictates the tune.
3. Men worked, women were either housewives or helped with their husbands businesses.
4. Men were transparent with their affairs, instead of cheating, they rather take another wife which was totally acceptable by the wives.
5. Men provided the support system required for molding/grooming children.
6. Because she knew her place, she dared not denied oga seeex. Refer to number 1 above.

Nowadays, the world has changed. Everyone brings finances to the table. Remember, he who pays the piper reserves the right to dictate the tune. She cant be hustling in the field like you and still be expected to contribute domestic efforts like a full time housewife. Even seex will suffer as shes just as tired as you. It is well sha...Communication and fairness will make things better.

you made valid points
this is just the answer to OP's question

It's because of misplaced priority...

Cc: Lalasticlala
https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/present-day-woman-misplaced-priority-marriage

Then there was just one captain of the ship - The Man
Now there are 2 captains. You know what they say about a ship with more than one captain.

Right on

Social Media Influence

crackhaus:
Everybody don wise my brother, that's the summary of the whole matter...

Exactly man!! Nobody wants to be "cheated"
1 the wife ex feminist the man rtd. red piller
2 as young people we no go like dull we like to enjoy our self as such in our adolescence inculcate bad and harmful beliefs and behaviours (eg. Unfaithfulness) these behaviours will sure bite back in the future no matter how much you love your partner
3 influence from the social figures especially from social media. with money or fame comes respect ones a person gets rich in our society today he/she is a figure to so many. As so we the followers forget that not everyone is fit to give advice so by trying to follow trends or a figure we may be destroyed

Peace.

HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day

Devil has nothing to do with the high rate of divorce in the world.

We need to start taking responsibility for our actions instead of blaming everything to others or devil

If people concentrate on their marriages and not allow their egos to take over them they will be able to salvage it.

couples should learn how to forgive and respect one another.

Misunderstanding is normal in any marriage but they holding onto their egos instead of reaching a compromise will surely cause problems.

Marriages don't last again because of the following dynamics

1. THE LAW has empowered the female folks and this goes against the African tradition.
2. Feminism
3. The Internet has helped to transport foreign culture..e.g baby mama and all that...

Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.

how someone will just calm down and type utter nonsense baffles me....just read what u wrote, 80% of our grand parents..rarely experienced domestic abuse..

Every one want twist the law of marriage the way it will suit him or her.thanks

it is because to captions can't sail a ship at the same time.

HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day

Devil dey dey mind him own business for hellfire, you dey here dey call am.

As much as we may shift all blames on improve in tech, let patners learn to

APPRECIATE
APPOLOGISE
COMPROMISE

Allowing God to be the captain of the ship..
Any marriage devoid of God's standard will surely collapes..



[quote author=mkoabiola post=97988175]Social media.
Feminism
Slay queen.
Etc

Because social media gives people the illusion of a perfect marriage.

angelfallz:
There are many reasons why many marriages in the past lasted and were healthy.

Many people on this thread have given some major reasons.

For me the difference between marriages now and then is the level of morality and sense of responsibility.

The marriages of the past had a man of high morality and a woman of high morality.

Both the man and woman understood their different roles and responsibilities in the marriages and went about them with joy and without complaint.
Compare that to what we have now, women see cooking for their husbands as slavery, men see providing for their families as unimportant and would rather spend on Jennifer.

Am yet to see a man who sees providing for his family as unimportant.
Men may still provide for jennifa but still yet cant stand to see his family hungry.
Unless na mental man or a drunk one.

kenny1313:
Everybody feels they are expose and wise.
Everybody get options
Everybody get sense
Everybody don't want to be controlled
And lastly everybody gets tired.

This is the correct reason for the increasing number of divorce.

bukatyne:

Is the idea to make marriages last or make them healthy?
You need to compare the terrain and/ belief system back then and now.
Then you are compare apples for apples

Nice point...

Unlike today when women can escape abusive marriages...the forefathers and parents didn't have such opportunities...it's not enough to be in a marriage for long years, but to be in a marriage filled with happiness and joy and love is very important.

Many marriages these days is economy minded and such can't stand test of time.
2- Many marriages then we're guarded by traditional.
3 women were submissive unlike now.
4 Materialism was not much then.
5 Parents never wanted to hear anything like divorce unlike today's parents that are not parents enough.
6 Religion was constructive then unlike now

Marriage are done this dayz based on different factors, not just for love but to meet ends meet unlike before that things are done based on love

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

Today's marriages are under a lot of spiritual attack by the devil. No other time in history has marriages come under demonic attack like now.

Secondly, the sharp rise of sexual immorality has seriously undermined marriage. So many young men are thinking: "why would I stick to one person, when I can sleep with many as possible?"

The over availability of porn and illicit sexual relationships has made marriage look like a joke.