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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by easzypeaszy(m): 10:19pm On Jan 17
Lies...pls if u r not married dnt comment just listen...women loves sex more Dan men after marriage.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Midas01: 10:20pm On Jan 17
Like your mother?
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Benwallt(m): 10:21pm On Jan 17
They have seen it all b4 marriage. Reality hits after marriage. They realised that I they can't spend their entire life dicked from sissy to the grave. They saw hell

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by soojar: 10:21pm On Jan 17
bizme:
I am aware this might not be the experience of every couple but the many couple I have interacted with, the story is pretty much the same: the wife losing interest in sex once she gets married to the man and especially once children start coming.

For certain couples it isn't as obvious as that, the wife simply approaches sex as a mechanical function that she needs to get over with and perhaps do something else.

Why do you think this is so? Can one say it's because once married the woman feels socially secured and doesn't need to put in any effort to win the man? Or does it have anything to do with changing biology?

You have a wrong observation actually.

It's the other way round, most women actually become sex maniacs after marriage especially from age 30 upwards.

Your observation should have been that many married women start losing interest in sex with their partners after marriage, the reasons for that is a totally huge topic on its own.

If things are going well sexually between the 2 that's when all is well. If not, that's when the women steps out, can go marathon with the guy outside with different explorations but can hardly tolerate 5mins with the husband and start doing sex timetable for him.

Again, I repeat 85% of married women are sex machines

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by meobizy(f): 10:21pm On Jan 17
To me the solution is going on vacations from time to time. A lot of people are ignorant of this remedy. When food is provided and the worries of life are behind you, na kpenshing una two go use fill time. Then again, one can't have sex for five years straight without getting bored. Nairalanders will comment to the contrary, lying to themselves as usual. One thing I remember very well was anytime a married couple stayed over in our place, they never stopped going at it like rabbits until they left. Once in their abode, the fights started all over again. What does one work hard for if not to spend their money touring the world? Material possessions lose value with time, experiences don't.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Akasammyoka(m): 10:21pm On Jan 17
from my little observation women are competitive organism, only trend well when they have an oppornent. Once they feel you have only them as your source of happiness they become cool,

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Aliii(m): 10:21pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.
oga you are messing with economics.. It has eating you up so bad

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by solonubinho(m): 10:22pm On Jan 17
esthel:
I think you should contribute intelligently and logically. This post isn't for people like you. Mind you "All of them" includes your mother, sisters, aunties,female friends" etc so you need to watch your words.

Did he tell you his mother, sisters and friends are Nigerians? Think about it.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by bizhop01(m): 10:23pm On Jan 17
Nigeria women are not good in bed cool

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by A305: 10:24pm On Jan 17
cococandy:
All talk and stories.

When most men get a woman who loves to have sex and do it often, they don’t know what to do with her. Insecurities come flooding.

If it weren’t so, slut-shaming women wouldn’t be a thing.
Nice point from another angle but not usually the case as most women suddenly develops low libido after second child birth.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Eriokanmi: 10:25pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.
lies...it's your opinion which doesn't count anyway

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by mu2sa2: 10:25pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.
Full of wisdom. Btw, i understand there's no divine scripture that categorically prohibits polygamy

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by DaRuud(m): 10:26pm On Jan 17
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
Including your sisters , aunties and your female friends

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Splitmind: 10:27pm On Jan 17
cococandy:
All talk and stories.

When most men get a woman who loves to have sex and do it often, they don’t know what to do with her. Insecurities come flooding.

If it weren’t so, slut-shaming women wouldn’t be a thing.

Men like that woman as long as she isn't doing it often with the whole local government while in a relationship.

Also slut shaming arises from a period of religious opposition to sex outside marriage for both genders and a need to keep women's marriage value up by being pregnancy and STD free in a time where basic medical knowledge was nonexistent.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by jaxxy(m): 10:29pm On Jan 17
bizme:
I am aware this might not be the experience of every couple but the many couple I have interacted with, the story is pretty much the same: the wife losing interest in sex once she gets married to the man and especially once children start coming.

For certain couples it isn't as obvious as that, the wife simply approaches sex as a mechanical function that she needs to get over with and perhaps do something else.

Why do you think this is so? Can one say it's because once married the woman feels socially secured and doesn't need to put in any effort to win the man? Or does it have anything to do with changing biology?

Some of not most people male bt mostly female loose guArd after marriage or child bearing. The man is less romantic yet will blame the woman for loosing interest, u know u caught ur wife with money and after u marry u don’t drop that money and u want good sex? How na Lol

Women loose shape become unattractive for the man to even pursue like what is he pursuing?? See finish done enter. Lol

Married People generally must learn to take care of themselves selves and their personal needs and not get too carried away or worked up with the family runnings. It kills the vibe.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by hybridblood07(m): 10:31pm On Jan 17
Including your sister
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by A305: 10:31pm On Jan 17
Hathor5:
Not so much after marriage as after pregnancy/child birth. The woman sacrifices her body to bring a child into this world. During pregnancy, even if there are no complications, the body is not fully hers. After delivery she needs to recover. Her hormones are out of balance, there are injuries down there. She is also breast feeding. Imagine someone sucking on your nipples several times a day. She also needs to carry the baby around, cuddle it, put up with the babies saliva and vomit. Every day, for months. Then another child is born and the two of them are all over her all day long. In the evening the husband wants to claim her body too. It's not easy.

Many women love sex too. Don't be deceived by people on this forum who want to tell you that women are all in it for the money. Our clitoris is much more sensitive than the penis. We can have multiple orgasms. We are capable of enjoying sex and a man's strong arms and shoulders can take us to heaven but nursing a baby and having toddlers all over us takes a toll.

If you want to be polygamous, find women who agree to it and go for it but if you do it to manipulate your wives and have them compete over you, know that you are creating a toxic family.

While it's good to help with chores, shopping and what not, having someone (family, nannies, daycare) free us from the little terrorists is a great relief.
Bravo! You couldn't have said it any better. Good points.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by AuroraB(f): 10:32pm On Jan 17
Mindlog:


Just know that Nymphomania is a mental disorder.
cheesy you dey mind nwaofeke grin lipsrsealed
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by ibkonekt(m): 10:32pm On Jan 17
Because the man is a simp. Her mission was accomplished, now she can do alpah fucck and beta bucks easily

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by DaRuud(m): 10:32pm On Jan 17
Olunmercy56:
Some married women said most of their husbands are not romantic enough, some husbands concentrate more on work than their family. Etc grin grin
If men don't concentrate more on the work to provide money who will pay
School fees
House rent
Food stuff
Electricity bill
Water bill
Maintenance bill
Provisions
Security bills
Wife's wardrobe
Children's wardrobe
Fuel in generators
Birthday gifts for wife
Birthday gifts for children
Xmas / Sallah food and meat
Wife's pocket money
Children's pocket money
Money for Milo , milk , sugar , corn flakes , custard
Indomie , egg , slippers
Shoes
Wife's underwear
Children's clothes
.
.
.
.
.
.
.

The man hasn't bought anything for himself ooooh

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by eeetuk(m): 10:32pm On Jan 17
[1] Ishilove --F
[2] Harthor5 --F
[3] Olummercy56 --F
[4] teleprompter---F
[5] CalliDora1 --F
[6] Bukatyne ---F


Didn't know nairaland has these many females in. the forum. Now I know what kind of topics that interest them!

Love it!
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by DestroyEvil: 10:33pm On Jan 17
You don't have more serious things to use your brain to think and your time to do for Humanity.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by nineone(m): 10:34pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.
your first claim is completely incorrect. Would have been true if men enjoy or love sex more than women but it's entirely not so.

And this post made a completely false claim which the opposite is even correct.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Kuns84(m): 10:35pm On Jan 17
mariahAngel:


This has crackhaus written all over it!
RisenPhoenix1:


If it does, then crackhaus is right. This is readily observable fact.

Thought it was my nigga crackhaus too until I saw the moniker cheesy

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Komu1048(m): 10:35pm On Jan 17
Splitmind:


Back then women didn't work, are you OK with staying at home as well as convincing your sisters to collectively leave the workforce so there will be more spaces for jobs and money going to men's pockets to sustain a polygamous relationship?

Are you fine with living under the same roof as another woman with no jealousy or rancor?


How you people arrive at. Women in the past don’t work beats my imagination. Women that wakes up as early as 4 am sweeps the compound before the husband even wake up n cook for the family.

Then follow their husband to the farm, produce oil, weed, harvest and cook for the workers. Get firewood and harvests, carry it on their head home(most of the distance are minimum 5km) and yet do all the house cleaning and arrangement and wash cloths.


Last last, as the husband sleeps, she wakes and watch over the kid and husband at intervals to ensure they are fine. Don't even compare women of old days with women of this generation. God won't even forgive you if you do

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Tulsaguy: 10:35pm On Jan 17
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them


Your mama was a girl ohh....and your sisters are girls.

Are they all useless? grin grin oponu akinrada. Boda ode

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by BreconHills: 10:35pm On Jan 17
Olunmercy56:
Some married women said most of their husbands are not romantic enough, some husbands concentrate more on work than their family. Etc grin grin

What you've described is a symptom not a cause. It really goes to the way our brains work. When something is new or highly desired our brains work in "slow" deliberate mode. High concentration for high reward. This accounts for why people in love can seem to want to outdo each other with acts of generosity and thoughtfulness. Their actions are intentional because they are learning and progress is a reward in itself. Rather like learning to drive.

After a while though, as the subject matter becomes more familiar, the brain for reasons of efficiency moves into "fast" subconscious mode - call it automatic response. Rather like the way, we brush our teeth or put on our shoes. We do it without thinking. This creeps into conversations, time together and even sex. One party begins to feel cheated, retaliation may follow. Sometimes one party tries to reason, argue or even tease the other out of this state with mixed results. But even with the greatest effort, with nothing new to learn, no rewards from progress, effort subsides into average. Eventually both parties figure that this as good as it gets and they make peace with it.

There is a way out, a very simple way of convincing the brain to put in more effort but the op didn't ask for it and it would make this too long.

Oh and there is a symptomatic expression for all this long grammar. Its called " taking each other for granted"

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by naijadrivablog: 10:35pm On Jan 17
Someone on front page "Risenphoenix" has said it.

But one thing you all should know is that most women are MORE INTERESTED to marry than their husbands.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Yankee101: 10:37pm On Jan 17
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

And you think oyinbo women don't lose interest in sex after marriage?

Grow older

Travel more

Then come back and rewrite your comments

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by NairaMaster1(m): 10:37pm On Jan 17
Olunmercy56:
Some married women said most of their husbands are not romantic enough, some husbands concentrate more on work than their family. Etc grin grin

Daily but boring sex is also scientifically parts of it.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Blackdisciple(m): 10:37pm On Jan 17
Woman....!

Nothing more than another man is doing what the husband should be doing so they loose interest in sex with their husband is another man is there.


It's just a simple maths

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Blueelf: 10:38pm On Jan 17
Hathor5:
Not so much after marriage as after pregnancy/child birth. The woman sacrifices her body to bring a child into this world. During pregnancy, even if there are no complications, the body is not fully hers. After delivery she needs to recover. Her hormones are out of balance, there are injuries down there. She is also breast feeding. Imagine someone sucking on your nipples several times a day. She also needs to carry the baby around, cuddle it, put up with the babies saliva and vomit. Every day, for months. Then another child is born and the two of them are all over her all day long. In the evening the husband wants to claim her body too. It's not easy.

Many women love sex too. Don't be deceived by people on this forum who want to tell you that women are all in it for the money. Our clitoris is much more sensitive than the penis. We can have multiple orgasms. We are capable of enjoying sex and a man's strong arms and shoulders can take us to heaven but nursing a baby and having toddlers all over us takes a toll.

If you want to be polygamous, find women who agree to it and go for it but if you do it to manipulate your wives and have them compete over you, know that you are creating a toxic family.

While it's good to help with chores, shopping and what not, having someone (family, nannies, daycare) free us from the little terrorists is a great relief.

This is the most beautiful, logical comment I have come across on Nairaland and trust me, I have been here a while.

Devoid of toxicity, filled with love and common-sense.

Ma, If I know where you stay, I'll buy you your favorite perfume this Night

Such an amazing write-ip. Kudos

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