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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hassanmaye(m): 11:21pm On Jan 17
Ilekokonit:
Most black women lose interest in sex after 2 kids.

It could be because some were circumcised and so do not have the most sensitive part of their Instruments intact anymore. Their clitoris may have been chopped off. The clitoris is meant to be like a mini penis that gets engorged with blood when aroused and it has a cap like the penis and so just like a man whose penile cap has been chopped off may never reach orgasm, likewise a woman whose entire clitoris has been hacked off may never achieve orgasm ans so sex to such damaged women is like a chore as they don't enjoy it and only engage in it to trap a man for marriage and kids.

Also, one of the major causes why black women lose interest in sex after 2 kids is because after each child birth, black women damage the lining of their vaginas by steaming it with boiling water when they sit on potties filled with boiling water, herbs and Dettol all in the name of healing the insides of their reproductive tract. This has the effect of cooking the insides of their vagina to a point where they no longer have much feeling in their vagina as the sensitive nerves in their vagina has been damaged beyond repair and because they can not feel anything in their vagina (barring a horse dick), they shy away from sex which they no longer enjoy because they have with their own hands damaged their own vagina.

This is before factoring in that after 2 kids, their vaginas has been stretched / widened and at times torn by a difficult child birth and so with them now boiling their vaginas by sitting of a potty filled with boiling water, the result is that their vaginas are no longer fit for purpose as they can no longer feel their husbands dick and they then start using sex as a weapon by denying the man sex and so the man has no choice and decides to satisfy his natural urges outside with a woman who gives him sexual healing and also treats him better than his wife who by now is only interested in the kids and loves neglecting her husbands needs.
What do you mean by a horse D
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:21pm On Jan 17
mariahAngel:


Don't mind him.

Polygamy will lead you to an early grave because of sex. No go do pass yourself o!

Lies

Polygamy never killed our forefathers...


Better sit up or I will marry 2 wives after you
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hndrrxxx(m): 11:21pm On Jan 17
Bro use your head and you dy blow grammar upandan like a Prof. grin ;DWhat dude is saying is that once the woman get married to you she lose all the will to compete so she doesnt use sex to entice you anymore but with polygamy other girls to compete with they start the competition and sex offering among themselves
bizme:
I really enjoyed your exposition although I disagree with your prescription of polygamy as the solution. If your premise is correct it means everyone of the polygamously acquired wife will eventually lose taste for sex. So the cycle continues... How many wives would a man then need to keep to sustain his sexual desires?

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by omoyankee3(m): 11:22pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


With polygamy, there would be rivalry. Each woman would double up on her efforts to keep more of their mutual husband's attention. There will also always be a nagging feeling that another wife is getting more sex than her, and this will trigger the wife to try to get even more from the husband (keeping a greater share of the market so to speak). Finally, a woman always finds a man infinitely more attractive when he is not readily available to her beck and call; and it also triggers their possessiveness when other available females find him attractive. All these complexities will work in his favour.

A woman in a female herd does not think the same way as a woman with exclusive attention to a man. Polygamy is a woman leveller and destroys all their transactional techniques; that is why women hate it. It is like the difference between a customer's options in a monopoly and in a free market; the man being the customer in this case.

Spoken so eloquently. Broken down so succinctly.

I usually wonder how polygamy became a crime in western society. There must have been intense lobbying from wives/girlfriends of those politicians to outlaw it.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hassanmaye(m): 11:23pm On Jan 17
Hathor5:
Not so much after marriage as after pregnancy/child birth. The woman sacrifices her body to bring a child into this world. During pregnancy, even if there are no complications, the body is not fully hers. After delivery she needs to recover. Her hormones are out of balance, there are injuries down there. She is also breast feeding. Imagine someone sucking on your nipples several times a day. She also needs to carry the baby around, cuddle it, put up with the babies saliva and vomit. Every day, for months. Then another child is born and the two of them are all over her all day long. In the evening the husband wants to claim her body too. It's not easy.

Many women love sex too. Don't be deceived by people on this forum who want to tell you that women are all in it for the money. Our clitoris is much more sensitive than the penis. We can have multiple orgasms. We are capable of enjoying sex and a man's strong arms and shoulders can take us to heaven but nursing a baby and having toddlers all over us takes a toll.

If you want to be polygamous, find women who agree to it and go for it but if you do it to manipulate your wives and have them compete over you, know that you are creating a toxic family.

While it's good to help with chores, shopping and what not, having someone (family, nannies, daycare) free us from the little terrorists is a great relief.
Terrorist?
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:23pm On Jan 17
SeriouslySense:
I guess there is a School of bedmatic cheesy cheesy cheesy

Google should do.grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by ogianyo(m): 11:23pm On Jan 17
Wow. This is the reason I joined nairaland many years ago. In the last few years the influx of very young persons into the forum led to a reduction in the quality of discussion. I ve enjoyed reading through the arguments. Non of you is wrong just as non of you can be absolutely right. Polygamy does not necessarily mean access to more sex. If it did most polygamists would not still need to keep mistresses when they can afford it. So I think trying to solve the problem by taking on more wives is not likely to work. The issue of a sexual balance between couples is a special blessing because nothing warns either of you as to how things will turn out in that dept after kids come. The lady that submitted that the rigours of running the home with children and probably holding down a job leads to physical exhaustion which takes its toll on libido is probably closer to the truth. Also it must be added that child birth takes a heavy toll on the physical condition of a woman's sexuality. It takes understanding and serious skills on the part of a husband to help a woman not feel very unsexy and with attendant toll on libido.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by kayzeesoft(m): 11:26pm On Jan 17
They'll use sex to starve you in order to make you beg for it. It makes them feel superior especially when they see you really love them and you're not a cheating type.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by thinkmoney(m): 11:26pm On Jan 17
bizme:
I am aware this might not be the experience of every couple but the many couple I have interacted with, the story is pretty much the same: the wife losing interest in sex once she gets married to the man and especially once children start coming.

For certain couples it isn't as obvious as that, the wife simply approaches sex as a mechanical function that she needs to get over with and perhaps do something else.

Why do you think this is so? Can one say it's because once married the woman feels socially secured and doesn't need to put in any effort to win the man? Or does it have anything to do with changing biology?
You many at times will observe that your urge for sex is not usually in it's highest after an hectic day. This is same reason why child rearing and house chores takes a toll on women's urge. STRESS IS WHY THEY APPEAR TO LOOSE INTEREST IN SEX

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:26pm On Jan 17
Bubblewitch:
this is the best answer... most men make sex a chore

So y'all were blind when he dated you abi? grin

Weren't y'all screaming that he is so fuqin good in bed, immediately after crediting ya accounts?

Since you want to eat ya cake and have it, here is what you end up getting.

See lame excuses everywhere


CalliDora1....pack well abeg. Only you dey complain of house chores and again, na husband bedmatic skills. The way una tire wrapper with bulging tummy and flappy breasts around the house is enough to kill a virile libido. That he still wants you sexually is testimony material. cheesy

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by ogianyo(m): 11:27pm On Jan 17
ogianyo:
Wow. This is the reason I joined nairaland many years ago. In the last few years the influx of very young persons into the forum led to a reduction in the quality of discussion. I ve enjoyed reading through the arguments. Non of you is wrong just as non of you can be absolutely right. Polygamy does not necessarily mean access to more sex. If it did most polygamists would not still need to keep mistresses when they can afford it. So I think trying to solve the problem by taking on more wives is not likely to work. The issue of a sexual balance between couples is a special blessing because nothing warns either of you as to how things will turn out in that dept after kids come. The lady that submitted that the rigours of running the home with children and probably holding down a job leads to physical exhaustion which takes its toll on libido is probably closer to the truth. Also it must be added that child birth takes a heavy toll on the physical condition of a woman's sexuality. It takes understanding and serious skills on the part of a husband to help a woman not feel very unsexy and with attendant toll on libido.
I believe that lots of communication can help couples get to where the issues are and what solutions will work. A lots of things work together to make a woman sexually pliant.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by catherine1998: 11:28pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


Thank you. I love well thought out responses like this, instead of knee jerk reactions. To date, I have never seen a reasoned argument against polygamy. They all bring the same old, Hollywood/Nollywood induced clichés about 'true love' and 'real men' etc. And I have nothing against those who avoid polygamy because of their principle or belief system. It is those who start making so called 'logical' arguments straight out of Telemundo that I can't stand.
Bros I have followed all your thread in this topic, to be honest, you are too much, keep it up.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by SeriouslySense(m): 11:29pm On Jan 17
cheesy cheesy sure all the theories of bedmatics, the discoveries, and current research
CalliDora1:


Google should do.grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:30pm On Jan 17
thinkmoney:

You many at times will observe that your urge for sex is not usually in it's highest after an hectic day. This is same reason why child rearing and house chores takes a toll on women's urge. STRESS IS WHY THEY APPEAR TO LOOSE INTEREST IN SEX
Lies....


Lies



Lies....


A sexual woman won't count all that nonsense. Men that hustle at alaba, bodija and Co nko? Dem no dey stressed? Have you ever seen these labourers work before at a construction site? Or a carwatchman along the busy lagos-ibadan expressway? These mudafuckers always are stressed and still come home to fuq. So what's your point?

If stress is the problem,why is my friend complaining that his wife's stress disappears once he credits her account? grin

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by holocron: 11:30pm On Jan 17
bizme:
I really enjoyed your exposition although I disagree with your prescription of polygamy as the solution. If your premise is correct it means everyone of the polygamously acquired wife will eventually lose taste for sex. So the cycle continues... How many wives would a man then need to keep to sustain his sexual desires?


Approximately One every 10 - 15 years of his life span because It will take that long for the novelty of sex to wear off for each successive wife. Let's say a man starts at 30 or 35, then one after 10 years. The 4th one at 60 just like Trump or Ned, can then stay to the end.

Note: Oyibos are already practicing this.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jan 17
luminouz:


So y'all were blind when he dated you abi? grin

Weren't y'all screaming that he is so fuqin good in bed, immediately after crediting ya accounts?

Since you want to eat ya cake and have it, here is what you end up getting.

See lame excuses everywhere


CalliDora1....pack well abeg. Only you dey complain of house chores and again, na husband bedmatic skills. The way una tire wrapper with bulging tummy and flappy breasts around the house is enough to kill a virile libido. That he still wants you sexually is testimony material. cheesy


Don't be mentioning me for rubbish. Ok? I'm not your mate.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:31pm On Jan 17
holocron:


Approximately One every 10 - 15 years of his life span because It will take that long for the novelty of sex to wear off for each successive wife. Let's say a man starts at 30 or 35, then one after 10 years. The 4th one at 60 just like Trump or Ned, can then stay to the end.

Note: Oyibos are already practicing this.

Sounds like a bright idea smiley
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:32pm On Jan 17
CalliDora1:



Don't be mentioning me for rubbish. Ok? I'm not your mate.

grin grin grin grin grin


Check my moniker and date of registration...then kneel down and close ya eyes...


Smallie undecided undecided lipsrsealed

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by SimplyFacts: 11:33pm On Jan 17
eeetuk:
SimplyFacts:

"I'm still doubting the gender of the two below 

Ishilove, Olumercy56"


Oh, for real?
I know when deal with Nigerians, you need trust, but verify.
Amen!

Looks like Ishilove is she indeed
Sir,,,, is giving some torches

Buh she's one in a million,,,

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:34pm On Jan 17
luminouz:


grin grin grin grin grin


Check my moniker and date of registration...then kneel down and close ya eyes...


Smallie undecided undecided lipsrsealed


Lol.. grandpa nairaland and you'll be behaving like omo ikoko. Huh.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by nathanomochi(m): 11:35pm On Jan 17
What about with virgins?is it same ?cos it is not as if they use sex to catch the man in the first instance. So an objective answer may seem strange sha or that's should be an exception
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by blackmaine: 11:38pm On Jan 17
mariahAngel:


Don't mind him.

Polygamy will lead you to an early grave because of sex. No go do pass yourself o!
brother ever since white people wey carry one man one wife ideology come Men begin dey die before 70, and part of it na family wey dey do am with wife as the head , brother if you want leave long for this life marry like five wives if you fit carter for them but one man one wife, bro that woman go just put you for pocket

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by picklighthouse: 11:39pm On Jan 17
bizme:
I am aware this might not be the experience of every couple but the many couple I have interacted with, the story is pretty much the same: the wife losing interest in sex once she gets married to the man and especially once children start coming.

For certain couples it isn't as obvious as that, the wife simply approaches sex as a mechanical function that she needs to get over with and perhaps do something else.

Why do you think this is so? Can one say it's because once married the woman feels socially secured and doesn't need to put in any effort to win the man? Or does it have anything to do with changing biology?

Ignorance is at the heart of the problem. Whether its the man or the woman that shys away from his/her marital responsibility as it relates to sex, the problem is nothing but sheer ignorance. And I strongly advice people to learn. Learn the purpose of sex in your relationship. Learn the temptation you expose your spouse to when he/she is denied sex.

And please forget about polygamy as a solution. That's a joke. You want to solve a problem by creating several others? Spare yourself that avoidable problem. You don't want it in your life believe me.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Yoighaman(m): 11:39pm On Jan 17
mariahAngel:


Let's say we go with it:

The question is can most men of nowadays do what the men of old did?
Can they do what their grandfathers and great grandfathers did?
Can they cater for a polygamous family? Heck! They're even barely able to cater for a monogamous family, talk more of...

Na by talk?

So your own issue is the catering part? Once that is resolved, you support RisenPhoenix1's assertions?
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by ehinmowo: 11:40pm On Jan 17
Liposure:
A number of married women have low libido which can be very frustrating for a sexually active husband. Ever wondered why most men cheat on their wives. Husbands are tired of constant rejection in bed and can't wait to seek help outside

No be low libido. Na see finish dey cause am. Once a woman gets married, she felt no need for many things. Once she has kids, she has little or no need for the hubby.

Only a woman that is kept on her toe by the 'presence ' of other females (colleagues, old friends etc. No overdo am sha) will always be on her toes tp always want to satisfy you. Once a woman is certain that she has secured your commitment and 'lock' your emotions where she wants it, forget it.

Someone was talking about polygamy. While i don't support polygamy, the very knowledge that you are not against polygamy, will make a woman to strive to ensure that will not happen. That's why many women want to tangle you withe their Pastors. Because by revering a mutual clergy, she can be certain that you don't stray in certain direction.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by WelcomeToBiafra: 11:44pm On Jan 17
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Please no girl is a Nigerian.
Nigeria does not have any girl, but only terrorists government agencies and officials.

We must protect our innocent girls/female at all costs from every sexual harassment by Nigeria terrorist system of governance.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Olakunleyakub(m): 11:44pm On Jan 17
A god fearing woman will always try to balance her sexual life with her husband in respective of the situation knowing fully well that sex is one of those things that hold marriage together unless if the woman is a cheat or does not love the husband again.


The solutions is for the man to marry another wife if the woman can't continue to satisfy him slcexually but this might not work for everyone!

I think the point here is for both of them to see a counselor .

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by mariahAngel: 11:48pm On Jan 17
Kuns84:



Thought it was my nigga crackhaus too until I saw the moniker cheesy

Thank God I'm not alone on that one cheesy

...but crack dey learn work where that Risen guy dey sha
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Kuns84(m): 11:50pm On Jan 17
mariahAngel:


Thank God I'm not alone on that one cheesy

...but crack dey learn work where that Risen guy dey sha

Nah, the reverse is the case girl, crackhaus is king.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by tarantino1: 11:50pm On Jan 17
Hotbutt:
The reality is this.
For most women, their husbands become very Ugly and unattractive in their eyes.
The husbands sef would not help matters. Most of them will now develop one kind big "Beer" Belly all in the name of "Enjoying good life". They won't workout or go to do the gym.
They will now be as fat as what I can't say.
If I'm lying, look at your daddy and tell me how he looks.

Do u know what it means to keep seeing just one particular face everyday all the days of their lives it's not easy. You will just get bored.

As for the Sex part, they are already exhausted and tired of the Sex sef. They can even stay one full year without craving for it especially when kids have started coming.

Everything just changes.

Assignment:
1) Look at your Daddy. Then ask your mummy when last she had good SEX with your Daddy.
You would be shocked at her response. I know what I'm saying.

Majority of the women also gain unnecessary fat everywhere as well. They have no right to demand fit men.

Look at your mummy and see if I'm lying

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Molahnelson(m): 11:51pm On Jan 17
Women will not agree about polygamy because they hate competition

but I'm sorry to say this, the solution is for you to married just 2 wife only if you're not a pastor or a minister of God

This is just my opinion I'm saying this based on the happening in the society, because after some years of marriage a one wife will treat you with disdain, but if you have them two the competition will not allow her messed up with you.

I advice men you can marry two wife if you have money to cater for them , rather than going about committing adultery, in the name of mistress

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hahjascho(m): 11:53pm On Jan 17
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.
Your conclusion ruined it all... polygamous lives have always led to butting more than what one can chew.

Premium tears.

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