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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by rawfact: 6:46pm On Jan 13
southniyikaye:
O GA o
Last year, I was so close to taking my life..
I think the thread is still here somewhere..
There is this particular nairalander in portharcourt that reached out to me.. Said he stocked his shop for December and everything got burnt or looted, I can't remember right now.. He promised he was gonna send me something to feed..
Like 2-4 people promised same.. It was those promises that I held on to even though it never came through but it delayed that suicide attempt..
When I look back today, I regret ever wanting to take my life looking at how bright and promising the future is...
I am happy I created that thread cos sincerely, I already tied a rope to the ceiling fan with a stool beneath it.
Something just told me"why don't you just tell nairalanders what you passing through?
Help came later from nairaland and places I least expected...
Depression kills when you let it overwhelm you..
LET'S ASSUME BEING DEPRESSED PEAKS AT 100%, WHEN YOU FEEL 1%, PLS TALK TO SOMEONE ASAP...

SEE AS FINE BOY JUST WASTE..

I'm glad you overcame. Please be more prayerful and very hopeful. "Suicidal Thought" is actually demonic bombardment of the mind. You oppose that negative spiritual atmosphere by immediately talking out, words of affirmation while renouncing every form of frustrations. At such a moment, call yourself by your most-cherished name and declare great things about your life and future in general even if you don't believe it. smiley

Endeavour to talk to someone with spiritual authority to pray for you. Also ensure you don't "carry" Nigeria's Problems or your personal issues on your head beyond what your mental health can handle.

Finally, look out for people you can give courage and hope, telling them what you are experiencing and still standing strong. And if you have overcome some challenges already, keep sharing them ephasising our God was on your side. You would actually be the main beneficiary of that gesture.

This statement just reminded me of how I couldn't believe I had a poor result (actually average) several years ago and was stupidly going to end my life so as not to show the result at home. God in His kindness, made another student (whom I'd never met nor spoken with before) to walk up to me and ask me why I was troubled. Unlike me, I revealed it to him. What he did drove that evil spirit of suicide off my head. He actually laughed so hard. Then he revealed to me that, on his part, he was actually asked to withdraw from the school because of his poor performance. It was an expensive school, and I wondered how he was that calm.

He then preached and prayed for me. But he didn't even need to pray because my head had already become "correct" after discovering the reason he laughed so hard. I discovered that I was simply ungrateful (very stupid) to God and my parents. In fact, that incidence is one of the things that have made me to conclude that being a complete "ajebo" is a bad thing. One should be able to brace through life challenges, which could even be another man's breakthrough prayer.

So, I thank God for you.

Say NO to Suicide! It is never an option. God help us all.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 6:46pm On Jan 13
toobusy:
"The noise got too loud,but now the noise can go
down"...... whatever gives people the impression that life on the other side is better than life here?......how sure was he that the noise was going to actually go down?........if you are among those battling depression,death should absolutely not be one of your options because of the following reasons.....
(1) you have no idea what those on the other sides is passing through,they may be ready to offer anything just to have a piece of that life that you think is not worth living

(2)...the stigma of suicide will always hurt your family for the rest of their lives as the entire society sees it as an abomination.etc

Do you know what people on the other side are facing
Stop ranting about the other side
We ll all go there someday, so let's talk about the reality in front of us "this life"


No matter what you say
Suicide occurs daily, even among the rich
So it's not about money all the time

But the reality we all see, if one is dead, you are dead
It's the books that are talking about the other side which seems not to exist cos no enough proof....
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 6:48pm On Jan 13
Those committing suicide are really bold
Many of us really wanted to
We lost courage...
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Alexgman1(m): 6:50pm On Jan 13
SweetCunt97:
What's d root source of the depression?
Mine is due to drug addiction. (medical drugs 4 asthma)
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by omojesu202(m): 6:57pm On Jan 13
NeoWanZaeed:
Where is the ig page screen grab? We all go through depression. Na NL a dey use cruise mine. . All is about m0ney. .all i nid is a smartph0ne and get an online job. Its always about m0ney. No am0unt of m0ney or w0man wahala worths my life . . Mo kuti . .if u want to help me out. Quote me please o

if someone helps you and you want to help someone inside too, just quote me.

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Bitchiamjay(m): 6:58pm On Jan 13
Been hearing about suicides but when it happens to someone you know’ it’s devastating. I’m still trying so hard to get over Renua’s death. Depression is evil! It takes the special grace of lord to overcome it. RIP Deji.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mekysmart123: 7:01pm On Jan 13
NextD18:
"The noise got too loud, but now the noise can stop"

That statement was deep coming from him. To even think he battled depression for 7 years while carrying out his daily activities makes me believe depression got no particular symptom to get people's attention to you.

You can look and appear like the happiest person alive in the public, social media or gathering, whereas you are mentally struggling and battling a lot.

You can battle it for 10 years without even knowing you are battling depression because you'll have to nurture your system on how to cope and endure overthinking, unrest and no peace of mind. All these will be endured without speaking to anyone because you've gotten use to it and feel it's normal until it hits you to the point you can't endure anymore which normally leads to suicidal thoughts.

Please learn to speak up when you start loosing your sanity and peace of mind.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by ramatintin(m): 7:03pm On Jan 13
So sad.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by ottalo: 7:05pm On Jan 13
Suicide is not an option my brother there is nothing worst than insomnia I'm battling with insomnia since 2015 with constant depression. God has kept me

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mozona(m): 7:10pm On Jan 13
he just took what was not his....

when time reach God go ask am...

i cant even imagine committing suicide when i know if Jesus come now, na hell fire i dey go.

so me still alive, is a sign that there is hope for me to repent before Jesus come again.

so like this na double problem for who wey commit suicide
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by blazepascal(m): 7:12pm On Jan 13
just listen to this sing to stop any suicidal thought logic ft alessia , Khalid 18002 .... I swear u will change ur mind even devil will be powerless for that moment.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by doggedfighter(f): 7:13pm On Jan 13
Kingjay007:
Sad.

Suicide is never the answer.

The other side is not quiet and peaceful for everyone. It's a continuation of this one, always remember this. Actions on this side translate to the other side in death.

*I know this by books and tales from peoples visions and experiences over time.

Lies
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Babanah: 7:14pm On Jan 13
falopey:
The noise got too loud, but now the noise can stop"

Now that you have committed suicide. Little did you know the noise just started at the great beyond. Suicide is not an option. Stay away from suicide.

I battled depression for ten years. My mom would always tell me, “ anytime you feel like killing yourself, just know that it’s the devil talking to you “. She stood by me and encouraged me everyday.

Today I’m thankful. I have overcome through Christ Jesus.

My friend, the logic for those who are depressed and later commit suicide is - The uncertainty of what to experience in death offers a far better prospect than what they are currently experiencing while alive. Very difficult to imagine the pain, such magnitude of pain does exist to lead someone to take their own life.

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by doggedfighter(f): 7:18pm On Jan 13
omojesu202:


if someone helps you and you want to help someone inside too, just quote me.

This plan is very tight grin

Haba
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by johhnnie(m): 7:19pm On Jan 13
Zeinymira:
Depression is a terrible mental illness where it is almost impossible to think outside the fog. But the most deceiving phrase of all time is *RIP"
Who told you it is greener at the other side? Who told you, you'll find peace?
So don't be in a hurry to commit suicide, the number of years you'll spend in the grave is greater than the one you will spend on Earth. In life there are plenty trials and test, just be calm and wait for the ease.

Once you start considering suicide or you're having suicidal thoughts, speak up. There's no shame in talking to a psychiatrist

May Allah safeguard us all


It is easier to console.

Everyone has a breaking point.

A point of no return.

A point beyond the elastic limit .

Sleep on great guy.

I contemplated same lots of time.

The noise sometimes, is just too much.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by orgasticdance: 7:19pm On Jan 13
delishpot:
Even in death, he is still leaving his battle for others. Enslaving them in his mental jail. Tasking them to pray for him, for his soul as if his peace now depends on how well they pray.
why did he not ask for that otayer to overcome while alive?

Pls my people, succide dose not solve jack.
You cross over to another raealm. Your body will be silent here but what makes you; you still carries rhe burden. You cross over to feel pain and regrets at the waste of opportunity of not fighting till the natural end. Yes, take it from me. Its the fact.
Horse.shit which you have no proof for lipsrsealed
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by sisisioge: 7:20pm On Jan 13
It is well...please always fond someone to talk too or invest in a therapist. It is well.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Canberra55: 7:21pm On Jan 13
Depression is a slow poison. It doesn't strike until it's finally convinced you that you alone got the KEYS ...

if you're in depression mode , please #SoroSoke
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Ishilove(f): 7:21pm On Jan 13
Wow... 7years battling depression...
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Hassanmaye(m): 7:25pm On Jan 13
BadRadio:
The only way out of depression is to stop masturbation and gambling investing on bitcoin.

Also leave woman matter... No go carry woman matter for head !!!


Shekinah!!!
If only men will take this advice serious
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Hotbutt(f): 7:25pm On Jan 13
LongNipple:
Chai....people are really going through things.

Be Kind. For Everyone You Meet Is Fighting A Battle You Know Nothing About.

I think I'm weird. For sometime now, I will just be on my own and my spirit will be disturbing to either reach out to a friend or at least pray for them.
I don't know why undecided
That's was how I was on my own sometime last year. One spirit kept on disturbing me to reach out to some persons. I didn't know why? Sometimes I will pray for them othertimes I would be giving excusing saying "Why Me?"

That was how my heart kept disturbing me to reach out to one my friends. It's was so intense. I couldn't becos for no reason this guy stopped speaking to me. We've been friends since childhood.
Everyday, the spirit would be disturbing me to ateast pray for him or reach out but I couldn't becos he ignores me when I speak to him.
Until one evening I heard that he died the previous day. According to people, they said he kinda had some Mental issh.
My heart broke.

Some weeks later, it kept on disturbing me again. This time to reach out to someone on my Facebook friend list. We don't even speak. I kept on fighting the spirit saying "Why Me"?..."Why"

Then one day, i remembered what happened to my friend and so I just sent this person a text message to know how things were with him.
I wasn't even expecting a reply becos we have only chatted just once in life and it lasted just 2mins.

To my surprise...this person replied me saying he had a Mental Breakdown and is currently on Medications. I was so shocked.
He thank me for reaching out and even tried calling me via Facebook Call so we could chat more.

Where am I going with this story. Maybe I'm Weird. Maybe I'm Strange with a spirit that tells me things about those in my circle but as humans let's try to reach out to people once a while. I know we all are busy and all but just try. A simple text message of "How Far"? goes a long way in preventing suicide.

Some people just need people to talk to. Others just need friends. Some people are going through things in their head that you can NEVER imagine in this world. Let's learn to reach out to people or at least pray for those in our circle.
There are other experiences I have had but time won't permit me to narrate. In all, always remember.

Be Kind. For Everyone You Meet Is Fighting A Battle You know Nothing About.

You are right. A simple text message can actually save a life. It is similar to a story I read last week on a blog of how just a text message saved a man's life. I had to go look for it to post here. Here below.

https://giftchinemerem.blogspot.com/2020/12/how-text-message-stopped-me-from_27.html?m=1
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by gomojam: 7:29pm On Jan 13
Zeinymira:
Depression is a terrible mental illness where it is almost impossible to think outside the fog. But the most deceiving phrase of all time is *RIP"
Who told you it is greener at the other side? Who told you, you'll find peace?
So don't be in a hurry to commit suicide, the number of years you'll spend in the grave is greater than the one you will spend on Earth. In life there are plenty trials and test, just be calm and wait for the ease.

Once you start considering suicide or you're having suicidal thoughts, speak up. There's no shame in talking to a psychiatrist

May Allah safeguard us all
Thanks.

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by HandsomeD: 7:30pm On Jan 13
Suicide is not the best option. It only takes the courage mind to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Kayberg(m): 7:30pm On Jan 13
CoolJul:
Please whatever you do don't give up. Talk to someone, u can talk to me. All challenges are summountable.

Well, thanks for showing concern, but no one cares about anyone in this world.
Everyone have always been selfish and only love to say nice words about the dead.

The dead guy's friends can't say they have no idea of what he had been going through, but nothing will be done as well until he went missing and later found dead.

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Farukshy: 7:30pm On Jan 13
After seeing this post and reading comments,i just laugh. Yes people pass through slot can imaging depressed for 7yr, and he has made an attempt 4times but the thought of his mummy. .i understand full. I have been depressed since 2011 till date am still passing through it, some times I develop chest pain bcoz of think, it drains me, but still people look at me a feels that am OK bcoz e no dry show for body, I keep trying to make thinks work but is like the more I try the more things get bad, but still I give my self hope,i thank God for making me strong,most suicider take there life not bcoz they are weak is just bcoz they have been to strong for so long
RIP bro

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by izibili44: 7:30pm On Jan 13
Wrong move. Only if you know what most of us are passing through. Yet we act as if nothing is happening. Wrong move rest in peace
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by adespy(m): 7:31pm On Jan 13
To think this is also my note to a girl that just left me,I never believed in depression until 4th of this month till date,I never thought I'd be left alone in my love life cause I was faithful and kind but lack of money and education made her dump me for someone better and loaded... depression is real and knocks on people's door daily,we are only strong to fight it but for how long...reach out to people and check on them,you can save a life
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by psalmistkakah(m): 7:33pm On Jan 13
Depression hit me last year, I was not enjoying anything, nothing seems funny to me, music and movies zero. Evil thinking was all over my mind. My brain was giving me wrong me signal, then anxiety came, HBP follow and I cannot think felt like my brain will go blank.. if not for the fact that am married, when I think of my son and wife, I will hold on.. I open up to my wife, prayers.. then I started keeping of from alcohol, I wasn't a drunk, although I do 2-3 bottles for everyday for like six months, but now ones a week and just a bottle or two.. then I started getting myself HBP almost normal, anxiety reduces, and now I enjoy doing activities.. Depression use to come with a voice telling you to commit suicide.. very strong voice, you will feel like you a trap in this world.. Ur body will become a prison to you.. u will be looking for a way to excape.. Is a bad thing.. never pray it happen to anyone

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by winnerr(m): 7:35pm On Jan 13
I feel this guy on a whole different level. I feel you, my brother. I hope you find the peace you’re looking for. most of us are on the crossroads like these and I don’t even know what keeps us goin, but we keep going. I feel you, dele. I do.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Hassanmaye(m): 7:36pm On Jan 13
byinks:


Not true many of these people you mention above also commit suicide.
Many psychiatrists who treat the depressed also end up in psychiatric wards too.
How is that possible my friend you scared me
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by PenName55: 7:39pm On Jan 13
Godpikin4real:
Blood of Jesus. This handsome guy just wasted his life just like dat?
Truly, depression is real. Let's always try 2 reach out 2 friends and loved ones. Who knows, u might be touch a depressed soul.
RIP.
U can't cure depression by killing itself.

Many of the people they reach out to don't care until it's too late.

Some won't.pick his call.
"It's him again. Oooooh this guy leave me"

When they hear he is gone, "chai and this guy dey call yesterday night o. Why I no pick im call?"

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Kayberg(m): 7:40pm On Jan 13
Farukshy:
After seeing this post and reading comments,i just laugh. Yes people pass through slot can imaging depressed for 7yr, and he has made an attempt 4times but the thought of his mummy. .i understand full. I have been depressed since 2011 till date am still passing through it, some times I develop chest pain bcoz of think, it drains me, but still people look at me a feels that am OK bcoz e no dry show for body, I keep trying to make thinks work but is like the more I try the more things get bad, but still I give my self hope,i thank God for making me strong,most suicider take there life not bcoz they are weak is just bcoz they have been to strong for so long
RIP bro

I understand this on a 100% scale.
At times, when it gets the better part of me, I just resort to sitting on the floor behind the door.

Some(I won't say of my relationship with them) who would see me would laugh, mock and say, "You have come here again."

This is just how I know people are selfish.
I'm not happy with what I'm going through but I know I've benin hanging on for too long.

I just keep praying for GOD to heal my heart.
I want that smart, agile, vibrant and intelligent me back again. I really missed my old self.

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