bukatyne:


Forget the feminist side; do you want to be held by Satan's standards?

Ngawnu, carry go.

Somebody is 'bad' so I join the person;

I wonder where you kept your light that was supposed to shine.

God is in heaven
Man is on Earth
He has his authority solely in heaven, and left men to take charge of the Earth
Feminist want to disrupt Man's authority which Almighty God allowed

Women should never seek political positions via Feminism, especially by manipulating the Scripture, which shows devilishness and subtlety which are all traits of Satan

BRATISLAVA:


Poor people will always put the money first before the issue.

So after 25 years of enduring the controlling man, she wants to live her life, and he won't let her. Why do you think this is so? Because he's a saint? She shouldn't because of "the amount on a regular basis"? Money may buy you, but not everyone else.

Did u read the story at all??

bukatyne:


You don vex ke?

Welcome to the new world.

People should do short-term marriages: renewable every two years.

And u claim Christianity
And you want to destroy the sacred institution of marriage
Smhhh

Sharjah is the polar opposite of Dubai...

bukatyne:


You don vex ke?

Welcome to the new world.

People should do short-term marriages: renewable every two years.

What would be the point of such a marriage. Men can just hire escorts part time. Or restore the concept of concubinage.

Hmmm this court would have freed her ooo! So that the innocent man can look for another love bcs his life is now in danger,you can for her now where many women are looking for such oportunity.

Beverlyjean:


Did u read the story at all??

Did you?

Is there a problem with her wanting her freedom?

JovialJune:
This thread is an eye opener on how loathsome men are, in their heart, they hate the freedom and voice women have these days and will love if it is completely cut off,

Just take a look at most comments of idiot males here and some stupid ass females supporting the Judge and husband, how the hell can one even think of not allowing someone who wants to be free and be at peace, do you fools know what she's been facing in the marriage? Yet most foolish comments centers mainly on the money he gives her,

Bunch of broke ass akuyas who'd sell their manhood cos of money, ye t they insult women that only go for rich men, they think everyone is hungry like them, schmucks.

Time and experience has tot me only broke people call others broke... or those that struggled out of poverty... when money has always been a part of ur lifestyle, u would nor refer others as broke ... I have never heard about obo or cuppy call people broke ...but wizkid , Tiwa, zlatan , marley are quick to call people broke cos they have experienced it and it makes them feel better when they try to think someone else is presently in a situation that they once experienced or are experiencing...

To the topic , I can bet u will curse a guy that dumps his gf of 10yrs to go marry another , even if she had a child for him ...if I should judge it based on ur belief, then he did no wrong cos he also wanted freedom... I'm sure u watched the Tyler perry's movie whr a very rich lawyer husband asked his wife of 18yrs to leave cos he dint want her again ...I'm sure u were amongst those that cursed him , but he also wanted his freedom to do whatever he wanted to please himself.... selfish people are the worst type of humans on earth ... being responsible comes first b4 freedom ...

i no gree for that kain sentiment. Woman wey no fit respect you for your own house, no worth am. Haba, you be man, you wan tell me say you no fit generate money again? Na only men wey no get respect for themselves and desperate men dey follow woman wey dey disrepect them walai.

BiggyB242:


Baba, e get the kind investment you don put for woman head to let go like that dey hard. Reason make commitment from both party be at least 60/40.

BRATISLAVA:


Did you?

Is there a problem with her wanting her freedom?

I hope ud b nappy if ur bf of many years that u love alot dumps u cos he wants his freedom ... even after rejecting suitors and mayb after 2 abortions or 1 kid ... afterall everyone has the right to b free to do whatever pleases them...its their right

TruthHurts1:
She's in her early 40s and was married 25 years ago. Do the math. That means she was between 15 and 17 when she got married. It was obviously a forced and arranged marriage. If she had enough after 25 years she should be allowed to leave.

They never mentioned early 40s ...u are the one that deceptively applied that... they said 40s , which could b 48 as well and the man 50s

Lolz lazy wife.

But Sharia court make sense sometimes oo
because if na this our new generation courts , they will tender him the divorce papers and still condition him on that cash he used to give her monthly, then share his properties with her.

Sharia court don't take shits oo

You even wander what took her into the marriage at first , after 25 years of marriage you wants to opt out.


I think one bobo dey somewhere they finger her.

angelfallz:
i no gree for that kain sentiment. Woman wey no fit respect you for your own house, no worth am. Haba, you be man, you wan tell me say you no fit generate money again? Na only men wey no get respect for themselves and desperate men dey follow woman wey dey disrepect them walai.

When you invest in a long term relationship that wasn't bad and the other party wants out, it is very very painful.

The husband in the OP has his plans, he is used to a routine, has probably finished paying school fees, his kids are preparing to leave his house and he wants to balance to enjoy life part 2 with his wife.

Is it in his 50s he wants to start another family or another support system?

Or imagine it is a wife: she has a routine, has smoothened the edges of the relationship, probably thinks she have gotten to stage she can focus more on her career/business because she has built a working system and support system?

It is not easy.

When people ask 'where will I start from, no be moimoi.

Time is a resource you can't recover.

RisenPhoenix1:


What would be the point of such a marriage. Men can just hire escorts part time. Or restore the concept of concubinage.

What can we say na.

People want to be free to walk out of marriages at will;

If there was something wrong in that marriage, the wife would have mentioned it.

This is not the West where people divorce for 'freedom' or 'growth'.

She needed to state a reason why she was leaving: to come up with what she said means there is nothing wrong.

Even affairs last more than marriages today.

Cc: Beverlyjean

LordKO:
Her action is typical of a self-absorbing and or opportunistic woman (or man); to her type, it's always about her happiness first instead of what's right. Anyway, her husband was partly an enabler of her unhealthy attitude before she metamorphosed and have the boldness to seek to divorce him unjustly through the condoning of nonsense from her; reward unconscientious acts with goodness at your peril.

You cant say this for sure, to say her husband is an enabler from the information available is wrong.

bukatyne:


What can we say na.

People want to be free to walk out of marriages at will;

If there was something wrong in that marriage, the wife would have mentioned it.

This is not the West where people divorce for 'freedom' or 'growth'.

She needed to state a reason why she was leaving: to come up with what she said means there is nothing wrong.

Even affairs last more than marriages today.

Cc: Beverlyjean

If men start to toe that part...we women will still complain and start to tag men irresponsible and will then start to quote the same bible some overlook ... western culture is killing the institute of marriage... people would say arrangee marriage that our fore fathers practiced is bad and archaic... but the love marriage that we have accepted dont even last as well ... infact arangee marriages last longer than I hv found love marriages ... it simply shows that both marriages need something in common , and thats tolerance , understanding, sacrifice , responsibility and commitment ...but these days its turned to a competition between man and woman

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Just imagine how stupid this sounds.

my sister, you can't force anybody to stay with you, you can't force anybody to love you. i agree it is painful. But the man would be compounding his pains if he chooses to continue living with a woman that wants out.

bukatyne:


When you invest in a long term relationship that wasn't bad and the other party wants out, it is very very painful.

The husband in the OP has his plans, he is used to a routine, has probably finished paying school fees, his kids are preparing to leave his house and he wants to balance to enjoy life part 2 with his wife.

Is it in his 50s he wants to start another family or another support system?

Or imagine it is a wife: she has a routine, has smoothened the edges of the relationship, probably thinks she have gotten to stage she can focus more on her career/business because she has built a working system and support system?

It is not easy.

When people ask 'where will I start from, no be moimoi.

Time is a resource you can't recover.

fireprince14:
_{I was thinking along these lines when I first started reading the post. But from the little I know about Sharia law, if the husband was abusive, she would have been granted a divorce. If he had been abusive, she would have mentioned it in court and brought witnesses. Her reasons for wanting to leave are really annoying. I've always said that as much as I like the idea of "love", I'm more interested in loyalty. How do you say you want to leave a 25 year marriage to be free and party with your friends? Funniest part is, she probably doesn't have a job or business which means the guy will still be expected to fund her lifestyle after leaving him. I'm assuming she entered into the marriage of her own volition though we all know how archaic they can be over there. Whatever the case, you don't leave a 25 year old commitment just cos you want to party. How would she feel if she was in the husband's shoes? No wonder the judge asked him to reduce her allowance. Abeg, it's fashionable to be woke but some things are just not right.}

wisely spoken sir. what you forget is, in a country where women were just granted right to drive cars, one doesn't expect the law to favor the woman. They may be other reasons she may have been scared to mention, after all- even the sharia law has more regards for men than they do for women and has never favored women. Women seeking divorce under Islam religion are seldom granted.

I've always said that as much as I like the idea of "love", I'm more interested in loyalty

At what expense? your happiness? your life's sense of purpose?

No wonder the judge asked him to reduce her allowance. Abeg, it's fashionable to be woke but some things are just not right

It was a patriarchal move. If you want to create a slave from a sane man, you must first destroy that which gives him strength,sense of pride, self esteem, etc.

I'm afraid, in a religious system like islam where arranged marriage is still practiced and enforced, i am prejudiced to support the woman even though her argument was insufficient to free herself from the boundary(as she sees it).

moreso, this is why men should listen to ubunja. This story has showed that money cannot buy a woman's happiness forever, it seems money may have been the tool used by the man to hook the woman in the first place. The woman is realizing that her purpose in life cannot be fulfilled by money alone( touche on her). If the man really loves her, then he should make some way to help her fulfil her dreams because "God" knows the reason i avoid getting into relationship now is because i still feel there is alot for me to see before i get tied down to the cycle of work-house to house-work.

Marriage should foster happiness to both parties involved, that is what we have evolved to know as a characteristic of a righteous marriage.

Beverlyjean:

[s]Please don't ever go into marriage...remain single all ur life and don't ever allow any man commit to u cos its certain that u have a selfish , greedy and wicked personality... [/s]25000 d is 2.5 million naira monthly, luxury car and even gave her freedom , and now she repays him after 25yrs with divorce on the grounds that she wants total freedom to flex...

Incase you are unaware, Money is what we relentlessly work for in order to acquire freedom. Freedom to eat what you like, marry whom you want, and mostly live the life you want.

cos money is now in her wallet to live however she wishes... if the man was giving her only 1000 d monthly, she would not hv gone to court ...u see we women are the cause of most problems in marriages due to greed and selfishness

If you read the text you would see where the man says sometimes the lady visit friends without his knowledge. I am forced to suspect that this dream of hers to travel the world was shared with the man but he must have refused to assist her with such en devours. If your husband has a certain goal he has set his mind to fulfill wouldn't you support him? if the lady wants to tour the world why cant he help her.
I used to work at a resort- which means i've seen people come from all walks of life traveling for thousands of miles to feast their eyes on things in a world other than theirs. My point is, it is not an insane request by the woman.

u think marriage is relationship... the man should even seize her passport cos she will wanna run away from the country... freedom is good but giving absolute freedom can destroy

Pardon me, but relationship as society has brought me up to understand entails compromising in one way or the other to meet up with expectations of the spouse and vice versa. Its a contract that was signed with the inks of love on a paper of commitment.
Does she have freedom to dress the way she wants, to be-friend who she wants, to get an education, to get a job?

i, once switching through channels sometime ago and stumbled upon a "men and women conference" taking place in Saudi Arabia. Apart form not understanding the Arabic, you know what else i didn't understand? why the hell did a "men and women" conference didn't have women inside but rather where represented by male family members? where all the women on antenatal or what?

In this case, there is definitely more to it than that which meets the eye.

SegFault:
She was obviously married off na, you de look those people way like terrorism.

I wouldn't say they like terrorism but i do agree with you that "she was obviously married off na".

kkins25:


wisely spoken sir. what you forget is, in a country where women were just granted right to drive cars, one doesn't expect the law to favor the woman. They may be other reasons she may have been scared to mention, after all- even the sharia law has more regards for men than they do for women and has never favored women. Women seeking divorce under Islam religion are seldom granted.


At what expense? your happiness? your life's sense of purpose?


It was a patriarchal move. If you want to create a slave from a sane man, you must first destroy that which gives him strength,sense of pride, self esteem, etc.

I'm afraid, in a religious system like islam where arranged marriage is still practiced and enforced, i am prejudiced to support the woman even though her argument was insufficient to free herself from the boundary(as she sees it).

moreso, this is why men should listen to ubunja. This story has showed that money cannot buy a woman's happiness forever, it seems money may have been the tool used by the man to hook the woman in the first place. The woman is realizing that her purpose in life cannot be fulfilled by money alone( touche on her). If the man really loves her, then he should make some way to help her fulfil her dreams because "God" knows the reason i avoid getting into relationship now is because i still feel there is alot for me to see before i get tied down to the cycle of work-house to house-work.

Marriage should foster happiness to both parties involved, that is what we have evolved to know as a characteristic of a righteous marriage.



Incase you are unaware, Money is what we relentlessly work for in order to acquire freedom. Freedom to eat what you like, marry whom you want, and mostly live the life you want.



If you read the text you would see where the man says sometimes the lady visit friends without his knowledge. I am forced to suspect that this dream of hers to travel the world was shared with the man but he must have refused to assist her with such en devours. If your husband has a certain goal he has set his mind to fulfill wouldn't you support him? if the lady wants to tour the world why cant he help her.
I used to work at a resort- which means i've seen people come from all walks of life traveling for thousands of miles to feast their eyes on things in a world other than theirs. My point is, it is not an insane request by the woman.




Pardon me, but relationship as society has brought me up to understand entails compromising in one way or the other to meet up with expectations of the spouse and vice versa. Its a contract that was signed with the inks of love on a paper of commitment.
Does she have freedom to dress the way she wants, to be-friend who she wants, to get an education, to get a job?

i, once switching through channels sometime ago and stumbled upon a "men and women conference" taking place in Saudi Arabia. Apart form not understanding the Arabic, you know what else i didn't understand? why the hell did a "men and women" conference didn't have women inside but rather where represented by male family members? where all the women on antenatal or what?

In this case, there is definitely more to it than that which meets the eye.

I wouldn't say they like terrorism but i do agree with you that "she was obviously married off na".

Someone finally that sounds sane here.

glowingflame7:


source

She has a right to walk out of her marriage!

a lot of people are blaming the lady without understanding her plight. she is 40 now, meaning she was married off at 15, deprived of proper childhood and teenage experiences. now she's a full blown woman who just wants to assert herself, it's not just about the money and don't be quick to use your Nigerian poverty stricken to judge her, there might not be any side cock anywhere, every human being desire and deserved to be free

it is shocking to see Nigerians who come online everyday to talk about Yorexit, Biafrexit etc which is simply a demand for freedom from a forced marriage coming here to judge without thinking deeply.

TruthHurts1:
This is actually Shariah law that you're justifying.

It's a good law. If a law is responsible, nothing bad with it. Marriage is not working in a company or entering a shopping mall.

JovialJune:
This thread is an eye opener on how loathsome men are, in their heart, they hate the freedom and voice women have these days and will love if it is completely cut off,

Just take a look at most comments of idiot males here and some stupid ass females supporting the Judge and husband, how the hell can one even think of not allowing someone who wants to be free and be at peace, do you fools know what she's been facing in the marriage? Yet most foolish comments centers mainly on the money he gives her,

Bunch of broke ass akuyas who'd sell their manhood cos of money, ye t they insult women that only go for rich men, they think everyone is hungry like them, schmucks.

That's why you can't marry

nini007:
She has a right to walk out of her marriage!

Not in UAE. She signed up for marriage not sim card.

Pendragon001:
a lot of people are blaming the lady without understanding her plight. she is 40 now, meaning she was married off at 15, deprived of proper childhood and teenage experiences. now she's a full blown woman who just wants to assert herself, it's not just about the money and don't be quick to use your Nigerian poverty stricken to judge her, there might not be any side cock anywhere, every human being desire and deserved to be free

it is shocking to see Nigerians who come online everyday to talk about Yorexit, Biafrexit etc which is simply a demand for freedom from a forced marriage coming here to judge without thinking deeply.

ShesS in her forties not 40
She can be 48yrs old
Now do your calculations again


No one said that the marriage is forced

Freedom fighter

kodix:
Hmmm this court would have freed her ooo! So that the innocent man can look for another love bcs his life is now in danger,you can for her now where many women are looking for such oportunity.

Perhaps, she wants to go to the real prison then. Marriage relationships are workable. It's also an Arab marriage too, so put the culture and the family in context, not just the woman.

nini007:
She has a right to walk out of her marriage!

A married woman can't give this comment