delex004:
My uncle is saying it has a deeper meaning in Yoruba

He asked me to go and throw it away immediately the woman left

delex004:
Please don't mind my write up
My uncle and his wife was suppose to attend a wedding, but a week before the wedding he was sick so he was unable to attend the wedding. So today the mother of the person wedding decided to come and come and drop their gift ooo.
The gift consist of tray, umbrella, jotter and so on... But the one that amaze me is that she pack coconut, cucumber, salt and what Yoruba call Adun. Please who knows the meaning ?

sisisioge:
Na wa....its so hard being benevolent to most extended family members.

All she did was to bring your uncle's share of the dowry package as well as the souvenirs. I once got a tuber of yam and sugarcane from my cousins wedding as my share of the dowry. Didnt question their motive fa

sisisioge:
Na wa....its so hard being benevolent to most extended family members.

All she did was to bring your uncle's share of the dowry package as well as the souvenirs. I once got a tuber of yam and sugarcane from my cousins wedding as my share of the dowry. Didnt question their motive fa

sisisioge:
Na wa....its so hard being benevolent to most extended family members.

All she did was to bring your uncle's share of the dowry package as well as the souvenirs. I once got a tuber of yam and sugarcane from my cousins wedding as my share of the dowry. Didnt question their motive fa

delex004:
My uncle is saying it has a deeper meaning in Yoruba

He asked me to go and throw it away immediately the woman left

CalliDora1:
Who shares such as sourveneir? Too fetish.

Since you guys have trashed it, I don't think there's any need bothering about what it means. It is better to let sleeping dogs lie. Don't you think?

MufasaLion:
This country and superstitious mentality. It will take centuries before Nigeria develop

CalliDora1:
Who shares such as sourveneir? Too fetish.

Since you guys have trashed it, I don't think there's any need bothering about what it means. It is better to let sleeping dogs lie. Don't you think?

CalliDora1:
Who shares such as sourveneir? Too fetish.

Since you guys have trashed it, I don't think there's any need bothering about what it means. It is better to let sleeping dogs lie. Don't you think?

NoToPile:



Its his uncles share of the items the groom came with to marry the bride, where I come from everything is shared.

The tray jotter and umbrella is the souvenir.

The salt , fruits and Adun is part of the traditional requirement grooms family packaged to marry the girl. I believe the uncle is from the brides family.

Where I come from everything is shared into 2 between the brides maternal and paternal side of the bride and then reshared among themselves.

They share it to the last, some even use tin milk/ derica to share bag of rice into small nylons it must go round ,, sachets of salts, sugar, fruits yams everything even the kids get the sweets

Those that didn't make the wedding theirs will be packaged and sent to them. Most elders will get something from the package no matter how small.

The Uncle knows this. He's Yoruba naaw . There's nothing fetissh about it, its what is required by tradition .If you guys now decide not to use/ eat them its another matter entirely

Cc:delex004

CalliDora1:
Who shares such as sourveneir? Too fetish.

Since you guys have trashed it, I don't think there's any need bothering about what it means. It is better to let sleeping dogs lie. Don't you think?

CalliDora1:



They are not related. He's just a friend to them and that is why everyone, (including me) is wondering why they had to give such a thing to an outsider. Or I didn't read right? They are not families.

It's ok if it's the traditional rite but I feel it should stay within the family. If you give me such things, I won't collect since I don't understand.

NoToPile:


They simply see him as family, he must be very close to them to be given a share of the marriage items. My alaga was given a tuber of yam by my mum, shes a family friend.

NoToPile:

CalliDora1:


Why then are they questioning the gift? You don't get it. Your mum gave out yam which is ok but giving those tiny things to a full grown man who can't relate with them? ? [/b] I mean it's somehow. There things you don't give out.

ThatPetiteChic:

You don't need to keep explaining to her. She's probably not a Yoruba lady so it will be difficult for her to understand.

To the Op:
I don't see anything fetish in what was gifted to the uncle. Adun is a local snack and I love eating it just like eko(agidi). It's also part of the marriage list. Some people may read unnecessary meaning to it but I'm sure the woman gave your uncle with a clear mind. I hope your uncle won't change his attitude towards her and start thinking she's an enemy of progress because na so e dey start. Brewing discord and hatred where there is none.

NoToPile:



Its his uncles share of the items the groom came with to marry the bride, where I come from everything is shared.

The tray jotter and umbrella is the souvenir.

The salt , fruits and Adun is part of the traditional requirement grooms family packaged to marry the girl. I believe the uncle is from the brides family.

Where I come from everything is shared into 2 between the brides maternal and paternal side of the bride and then reshared among themselves.

They share it to the last, some even use tin milk/ derica to share bag of rice into small nylons it must go round ,, sachets of salts, sugar, fruits yams everything even the kids get the sweets

Those that didn't make the wedding theirs will be packaged and sent to them. Most elders will get something from the package no matter how small.

The Uncle knows this. He's Yoruba naaw . There's nothing fetissh about it, its what is required by tradition .If you guys now decide not to use/ eat them its another matter entirely

Cc:delex004