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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 6:22pm On Feb 23
mercy87:



See your woman as your daughter? You try. No wonder the rest of the world has left Africa behind. Patriachy has corrupted una brain. Kwantinu

Okay Sir. What is the right way from your learned opinion?
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by OyinO: 6:23pm On Feb 23
Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.


Courtesy - Mikester

It is not all the time or every case you should forgive and forget. Sometimes you should learn to Revenge so that the other party will know how it feels to be hurt. Forgiveness is good but Revenge is Sweeter. Forgive your enemies but don't forget their names.

Sex is everything. It is sex that makes the world to go around by controlling money. It has value, profit and reward (good or bad).
You're a product of sex and you are valuable.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Vizconson(m): 6:26pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
only a simp becomes sorry for what they know not...

confused? you've been confused since 2000, few days before they buried ur umbilical cord.
Guy you are very stupi*d. Shut the fu*ck up if you have nothing to say.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by raystanley(m): 6:27pm On Feb 23
Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.


Courtesy - Mikester
Thanks...

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 6:29pm On Feb 23
OyinO:


It is not all the time or every case you should forgive and forget. Sometimes you should learn to Revenge so that the other party will know how it feels to be hurt. Forgiveness is good but Revenge is Sweeter. Forgive your enemies but don't forget their names.

Alright Sir. Like in what cases should we not forgive?


OyinO:
Sex is everything. It is sex that makes the world to go around by controlling money. It has value, profit and reward (good or bad).
You're a product of sex and you are valuable.

So we should center our lives and the lives of our children on sex Sir?
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by OyinO: 6:33pm On Feb 23
Mikester:


Alright Sir. Like in what cases should we not forgive?




So we should center our lives and the lives of our children on sex Sir?


I'm not the one to tell you what offenses you should forgive or not. Use your discretion or personal judgement. But what I'm saying is that it is not all offenses that are forgivable or should be forgiven except there's no way to retaliate or seek vengeance.

We shouldn't centre our lives on one thing alone because too much of one thing is good for nothing but the way you presented the case of sex was too condemning and out of place. Even food becomes poison when you gluttonously centre your life on it. Thanks Bro
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 6:39pm On Feb 23
OyinO:


I'm not the one to tell you what offenses you should forgive or not. Use your discretion or personal judgements.

My personal sense of judgement tells me that I shouldn't rent thoughts of hatred and bitterness in my head so I can find it easier to focus on the future ahead of me as filling my mind with negative thoughts will make me less productive not to speak of the fact that I might end up harming myself in the process of revenge.

OyinO:

We shouldn't centre our lives on one thing alone because too much of one thing is good for nothing but the way you presented the case of sex was too condemning and out of place. Even food becomes poison when you gluttonously centre your life on it. Thanks Bro

I never condemned sex, I only adviced against awakening sex at the wrong time or making it a priority. Sex isn't everything.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by LikeAking: 6:43pm On Feb 23
Karozy:

Then you have a problem, unforgiveness is the major cause of our problems today

U are wrong.

When Osama bombed d USA they did not forgive him?

I f they had forgiven Osama there will be no USA today.

There is peace in the USA because they delt with their enemies.

No let dem deceive you.

This world na up side down.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by OyinO: 6:43pm On Feb 23
Mikester:


My personal sense of judgement tells me that I shouldn't rent thoughts of hatred and bitterness in my head so I can find it easier to focus on the future ahead of me as filling my mind with negative thoughts will make me less productive not to speak of the fact that I might end up harming myself in the action of revenge.



I never condemned sex, I only adviced against awakening sex at the wrong time or making it a priority. Sex isn't everything.


Without sex, you won't be typing here. Don't focus only on the bad side of good things. Sex is good and has many benefits. You stated categorically that sex has no profit or reward. That's a bird's eye view and immature statement.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 6:48pm On Feb 23
OyinO:



Without sex, you won't be typing here. Don't focus only on the bad side of good things. Sex is good and has many benefits. You stated categorically that sex has no profit or reward. That's a bird's eye view and immature statement.

Maybe I chose the wrong word, maybe I did not, but sex shouldn't be a priority of a man with ambition just like I insinuated in my post. Sex is everything to those who have satisfied with where they are. You know this.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by OyinO: 6:55pm On Feb 23
Mikester:


Maybe I chose the wrong word, maybe I did not, but sex shouldn't be a priority of a man with ambition just like I insinuated in my post. Sex is everything to those who have satisfied with where they are. You know this.

Any other thing you're saying besides sex being unprofitable and having no reward is something I have already agreed with you. As for the aspect that sex has no profit and reward, you are sounding like religious fellows that always like to condemn and discourage sex and intimidate women.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 6:57pm On Feb 23
OyinO:


Any other thing you're saying besides sex being unprofitable and having no reward is something I have already agreed with you. As for the aspect that sex has no profit and reward, you are sounding like religious fellows that always like to condemn and discourage sex and intimidate women.

Glad we have a mutual understanding

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by OyinO: 7:04pm On Feb 23
Mikester:


Glad we have a mutual understanding

Lolz, but don't ever maintain the stand or stance that sex has no profit or reward.
Without sex there's no procreation. And we know the benefits of procreation which comes naturally by sex, pregnancy and birth of offsprings. Besides, reproduction is one of the characteristics of all living things, and it comes by sex. However, to centre one's energies on sex may be wrong but we all have something we centre our energies on. One man may love sex and still be doing well in his endeavours. We even have people who are sex workers. Does that mean you and I are better than they are? Or that they are failures? Hell NO!
One man's meat or food is another man's poison. The bottom line is that, Sex is not bad.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 7:09pm On Feb 23
Vizconson:

Guy you are very stupi*d. Shut the fu*ck up if you have nothing to say.
lol... attention seeking leechgrin
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 7:17pm On Feb 23
OyinO:


Lolz, but don't ever maintain the stand or stance that sex has no profit or reward.
Without sex there's no procreation. And we know the benefits of procreation which comes naturally by sex, pregnancy and birth of offsprings. Besides, reproduction is one of the characteristics of all living things, and it comes by sex. However, to centre one's energies on sex may be wrong but we all have something we centre our energies on. One man may love sex and still be doing well in his endeavours. We even have people who are sex workers. Does that mean you and I are better than they are? Or that they are failures? Hell NO!
One man's meat or food is another man's poison. The bottom line is that, Sex is not bad.

Ok sir but permit the question - how many men or women do you know who centred their energy on sex consistently having a successful life and how many men or women do you know that consistently centred their energy on crucial aspects that ended up unsuccessful in life?
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by evioke(m): 7:17pm On Feb 23
SureDan001:
What then can you say about a naturally gentle and nice person who's living with his benefactor?


I believe bad things happen to people who are too nice and gullible. In this selfish world, people take advantage of very nice people but there is good news.

You can be nice and have a good heart and still say no. Setting standards is what makes you less likely to be controlled by people from my perspective

Self love is key. [/size][/color][/b]


I love this
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by fablani(m): 7:18pm On Feb 23
Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.


Courtesy - Mikester



Good one

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 7:29pm On Feb 23
Escabado:
The is the best topic I have read this 2021. You are great guy and may God bless for this wonderful words of advice and wisdom.
You are relishing a message from a messenger whose life is bent like that of a shrimp, lobster or crayfish !!!grin
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 7:30pm On Feb 23
DSC7:
On point mikester...

More Wisdom bro......


BadRadio u take style get badmouth oooo....
No mind the Op, the guy no dey try at all
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by coolatlantic: 7:32pm On Feb 23
Good one

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 7:34pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
No mind the Op, the guy no dey try at all

I thought you were in a bad mood earlier but it has been a while now and you're still upset about being pointless. Well, I guess that's who you are - a pointless fellow
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 7:39pm On Feb 23
Mikester:


I thought you were in a bad mood earlier but it has been a while now and you're still upset about being pointless. Well, I guess that's who you are - a pointless fellow

Enjoy ur Fp while it last... send your Aza let me wire u before hunger tear ur belle
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 7:40pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
Enjoy ur Fp while it last... send your Aza let me wire u


Here - 2218771949
Zenith bank

Don't be long
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 7:41pm On Feb 23
Mikester:

Here - 2218771949 Zenith bank
Don't be long

Nice one...
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 7:45pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
Nice one...

Just as I thought, it is pointless wasting my time conversing with you
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by linkin8k(m): 7:48pm On Feb 23
Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.


Courtesy - Mikester

Good for anyone irrespective of the age
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 7:51pm On Feb 23
linkin8k:

Good for anyone irrespective of the age
Glad you see it my way
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by assinozick042(m): 8:19pm On Feb 23
Life no get particular rules to follow, itz beyond your thinking little man.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 8:25pm On Feb 23
assinozick042:
Life no get particular rules to follow, itz beyond your thinking little man.

I'm sorry if you think I said that post applied to everyone in life but don't worry, the advice will sure be of help to you
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 8:26pm On Feb 23
assinozick042:
Life no get particular rules to follow, itz beyond your thinking little man.

I'm sorry if you think I said that post applied to everyone in life but don't worry, the advice will sure be of help to you
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by iRepNaija1: 8:51pm On Feb 23
Agreed with mostly everything until I got to number 14. Just like men don't want to be treated like children by their wives, wives do not want to be treated like children by their husbands. We as a people really need to step away from this fixation with having wives "who look up" to their husbands or husbands needing to "correct" wives when they make mistakes. The language is off-putting and it's weird infantilization.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by gabe1234(m): 8:51pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
shameless. how can a boy of 21 know a thing about life @ 31
If you continue with this mentality I have three words for you “I pity you”

You’re 54 doesn’t make you wiser or more experienced than someone who’s 21.wisdom doesn’t come with age.

Please change that mentality and learn from everyone around you...even from little one’s
You’ll be surprised how your life and your way of thinking will change

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