Because of the too many farm tool out there that ain't loyal.

Vickym1:

Lol

Contact me on WhatsApp
Zero nine zero three zero zero eight three one four seven

i really don't understand this thread because every Saturday event centres are choked with weddings.

Vickym1:

I dey hail oo

I kaka-kant kum ed kee mysef

mezico96:


I kaka-kant kum ed kee mysef

Warripikine:
Is it just lack of money or is it a case of no virtuous women out there?
You people should tell me ooo, cos ayam not understanding today's men anymore..
Is Marriage now a death sentence or what?

It's both

badonkadonk:


It's both

ok sire

Another day another lamentation thread by an NL dood

In Psychology, B=F(S).
Behaviour is a function of situational factors.


The economic situation is a huge factor. The financial state of many young men in Nigeria is terribly appalling. Nothing more!

Sixfeetbelle:


How do men expect to find genuine women when they themselves can't learn to stay with one woman in a relationship?

So not true

Though money is inclusive. But ladies are making search difficult for guys .

pocohantas:
Definitely a Nairaland problem. A romance section problem to be very specific, which makes it dismissible as the boys in this age group are not even the target for any reasonable woman who wants to settle down.

I have contributed towards 4 weddings in my team from Jan till date. With two newborns from last year’s wedding. We are even begging them to chill, make them pay next month before anybody drops another one. Right now in my hand bag, there is an IV from my hairdresser.

Men and women that want to get married, get married and every week too. If you like, let them be deceiving you online. When they are ready, they’ll quietly marry and shut up when topics like this come up.

pocochant my person. your confident is out of the world

Liposure:
Becos the number of wife materials is unproportional to the number of suitors.

True talk!

But there are still wife materials out there.

Except the op can't spot them.

Once men are ready for marriage you will have them go through series of screening to find your wifey.

Don't have the notion of " No better woman out there ", Guys they are out there.

Work on yourself intellectually and financially you will no they exist.

The ultimate is to be in charge of your home financially.

vickydevoka:


they only Women that can tell me money is not de problem, are Women that already have money or are employed

Vickym1:

Your future husband is waiting for you on WhatsApp

Great thread

Sixfeetbelle:


Pass me with that archaic, misogynistic thinking, will you?

It hurts, the truth really hurts. But you have to except it nevertheless.

Warripikine:
Is it just lack of money or is it a case of no virtuous women out there?
You people should tell me ooo, cos ayam not understanding today's men anymore..
Is Marriage now a death sentence or what?

The number 1 reason many guys (in Nigeria) are kind of marrying late or losing interest in getting married unlike before is financial difficulty due to mass graduate and non-graduate unemployment and underemployment.


Followed by:
- civilisation; which has made life all about seeking for fun and perfection in the opposite sex, which leaves many guys feeling lonely and unlucky because they are searching for what does not exist lol.


- feminism; this is supposed to be an advantage, but in Nigeria, its creating a conflict between the Nigerian culture and the western culture - which way to go......the ladies want feminism when they need favor and don't want feminism when family/financial responsibilities come, this has created a serious conflict between the opposite sex in Nigeria.

- Social Media and Internet Technology - this ought to be an advantage but it has made people, especially the females to develop unrealistic expectations of who a supposed or qualified partner/spouse should be like and what he should worth materially, causing many ladies to look down and turn down guys within their league while daydreaming to click guys above their league via the internet, and this leads to delay and having unrealistic expectations.

The downside of this is that it has discouraged many guys from settling down as they struggle to become that man most ladies have unrealistically set their greedy-materialistic eyes on.....causing the men to marry late or even shun it completely

Because the modern woman is now the man

BadRadio:
marriage is not for Africans... even the op confirmed it using two white lovely birds

Go and hide

Marriage, in today's world, does not hold the appeal it used to.

Religion and our old conservative tradition is what still hold that institution and this will likely change in the coming years.

People still marry and quite a lot but the drive appeal and interest is diminished.

The need for kids though has not quite diminished at the same rate as marriage so you see a lot of people marry for the sake of kids and when kids are already there, they don't bother getting married anymore.

Marriage ceremony happens every weekend.

If they are the best fit is another discussion.

cococandy:
Another day another lamentation thread by an NL dood

I don’t know why they are the ones always crying about lacking interest. Whereas na them monitor single ladies and divorcees pass.

Feels like a heavy notice-me-syndrome.

FrankAkowe:



The reasons why men are not keen about settling down include the following:

1. To avoid heavy financial burden

2. It appears convenient not to settle down.

3. Nigerian ladies and in-laws' wahala can send a man to his early grave.

4. Globally, this is the trend.

5. Ladies' feminist tendencies are discouraging factor

6. What is the assurance that after all the expenses, the woman will be faithful and loyal?

Oil dey your head.. since my journey into settling my home, no woman has helped me in the journey.

All the girls I invited to come see my empty kitchen and tell me what what I need to put to make dem feel at home, they all refused to come.

9months down the line and I am glad at the progress I am making and have made in my apartment (inclusive of the kitchen I invited them to).

A woman will taunt you for the slightest of things, 1 taunted me that at the time, I didn't have TV in my room, talkless Dstv.. Another said before I borrow money from her I must date her..

My advise to all men out there, don't let any woman pressure you into doing what your power cannot carry. Hold your God tight, He never fails..

Why are women too materialistic these days? You can decipher the reason from that question

Warripikine:
Is it just lack of money or is it a case of no virtuous women out there?
You people should tell me ooo, cos ayam not understanding today's men anymore..
Is Marriage now a death sentence or what?

D Bad Economy Is Not Helping Matters.

warripikin , u knw say girls in this our generation most of them nal bitch , even your sister you know

It has always been the society.


When a drop of a yellow liquid enters a glass of water,either the taste changes or the color of the water.



Same thing happened to people. We all have been influenced by what morally wrong people had to say.

So much that no one cares about their well being anymore.

Warripikine:
Is it just lack of money or is it a case of no virtuous women out there?
You people should tell me ooo, cos ayam not understanding today's men anymore..
Is Marriage now a death sentence or what?

Smart single men are learning from the bad experience that a lot of older men have been through in the name of marriage and they don't want to end up losing all like these older men did.

Moreover, a Nigerian woman's love does not last past the time she has 2 kids for you after which she loses interest in the man and the man might as well be a bachelor again.

Having a wife or girlfriend is a zero sum game for the man. Sooner or later he will see that he has lost so much financially and in other ways especially in the lack of LASTING peace of mind a Nigerian woman causes in the mans life.

The burden of proof is now on the few good Nigerian women (if any still exist) to prove to a man they are dating that they are a permanently good woman.

ThatFairGuy:

Your name irritates anytime I see it on NL. Can you deactivate your account please

smh, learn to mind your business sometimes,it's gives you high sperm count

Nobody dey lose interest na means of livelihood no dey or e no do.