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|Do I remove This Baby? by tommie1: 9:46am On Mar 03, 2021|
I have an issue bugging me and I need some serious advise because I have been very indecisive so far.
There is a lady I'm seeing. She came to my place a few weeks ago and we had sex, first with condoms and later without condoms.
However, I gave her some money to get postinor when she left for her place the next morning.
That morning, I asked if she got the drug when she called to say she had arrived home and she said "yes".
I called her again that evening to ask if she had taken it and she said "yes".
A few weeks later, she called to say she is pregnant.
As I later found out, at least according to what she said, she took the drug the next day after arriving at her home and not on that day she told me she took it. She gave some flimsy excuse as to why she did it but it does not matter anymore at this point.
At this moment, we are considering removing the baby.
While I have been very indecisive, she has agreed to go with whatever decision I take and has spoken to a doctor who will do it this Friday.
However, I am unsure as of this moment if I want to go on with this because even though I am done with uni, I do not think I have gotten to that point where I can shoulder more responsibilities.
I am self employed and somewhat financially okay but not in a way that I can take care of three people, particularly a baby. I was okay as of 2019 until COVID came and turned my life upside down last year.
And believe me, I was really glad I was not married as of last year because I went through hell. Serious hell. The lockdown finished me.
I am slowly recovering (very slowly) and still trying to figure my way out through life and rebuilding what I lost but I am afraid that having the burden of a woman and baby at this point may derail me.
And I really do not know who to turn to when I am unable to provide for the both of them.
What do you guys think? Do I go on with this or just let the baby be?
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Valkan(m): 9:49am On Mar 03, 2021|
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Bola146(f): 9:49am On Mar 03, 2021|
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by aaaaabbbbbccccc: 9:50am On Mar 03, 2021|
The baby might not be yours. 1 week, lol. Don’t fall for that trap bro
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by tommie1: 9:54am On Mar 03, 2021|
It was not one week. It was a few weeks later. Over a month.
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Bisshop123(f): 10:00am On Mar 03, 2021|
Abeg no kill dat baby abeg....
As to y she no take d drug wen u told her, I no knw wetin 2 talk...
U just have 2 double ur effort and strive harder to take care of dem
And concerning wat dat guy said above me torr u gas confirm say na ur pikin ooo
And lastly no allow any body drag u enter wetin u no want because of d baby e.g marriage.
Anything I remember I go add
Abeg take heart e no easy oo
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by tommie1: 10:06am On Mar 03, 2021|
Lalasticlala please I need more advise on this. Could you help me move it to the front page?
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by tommie1: 10:11am On Mar 03, 2021|
Of course, I will confirm if the baby is mine because I really do not understand why she did what she did.
For now, I assume the baby is mine and I want to keep it that way.
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Gamer999: 12:17pm On Mar 03, 2021|
But you gave her money for postinor, she confirmed that she bought it, also confirmed that she took it. Final verdict; you can't be responsible for her pregnancy. Only 3 things could have happened. 1}she lied that she bought the drug whereas she use it to buy data. 2}another guy got her pregnant. 3} na immaculate conception
God bless Sony interactive entertainment ;God bless the United States ;God bless Nigeria ;God bless Kogi state; God bless the good people of Okene
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Timoleon(m): 12:17pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Yes Remove it. Try for a baby when you are ready.
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Righteousness2(m): 12:17pm On Mar 03, 2021|
No! Don't do it!
Fornication is already one Iniquity!
Don't add Murder to it!
Abortion is Murder!
You are Murderer if you do it.
Seek for GOD's Mercy for the sin committed and Joyfully take up your responsibility
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Bornsinner7: 12:17pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Toto be putting man in trouble since 1000BC
Abraham begat Isaac and Jacob.. jacob begat Judas.. Judas begat phares.. phares begat Esrom.. Esrom begat Aram.. aram begat aminabab.. aminabab begat naasson.. naasson begat salmon.. and so on
You are not just terminating a baby.. you are eradicating a generation
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by TeemahBeddings0: 12:18pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Very sensitive topic.
Pregnancy to some people is so easy...one sex like this pregnant is on ground.
While to some, even after nacking for everyday apart from when the lady is menstruating. It won't show.
I pray God almighty answer all those who are seeking the fruits of the womb cos that two weeks, especially for those married after ovulation, is a very long and frustrating waiting.
I hope you don't look for pikin when you marry
P.s: Only TTC females can understand my post
Please patronise me o. I haven't sold anything this week
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by slawormiir: 12:18pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Ogbeni op don't know what he is about to put his hand into
Bros Ogbeni remove am shaperly o
If you know you are not emotionally and financially buoyant....especially that financial buoyancy
That is how you will now bring innocent child into this gadmnnn world to be eating the food formation 0:0:1
As in no food in the morning, no food in the afternoon. Only dinner
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by NwaNimo1(m): 12:18pm On Mar 03, 2021|
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by SeasonedMEMBER(m): 12:19pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Be sure she is actually pregnant.... some girls will notice that you are scared of them getting pregnant, then use that opportunity to want to get some money from u.
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Neddstark: 12:19pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Let me tell you a true story. There is this female colleague friend I have. She got pregnant for her then boyfriend whom she never wanted to marry. Travelled from Lagos to a coded hospital in Ibadan to remove the pregnancy without the boyfriend's consent. The doctor there instead of helping her asked her if she saw the patients in the reception, when she affirmed, he told her that they were all there for fertility treatments and begged her not to remove the child. She eventually agreed, delivered the child and agreed to marry her boyfriend. The marriage has been 15 years since and they have not had another child despite trying. This boy just got accepted into a top football academy in the UK.
I will not advise you but I really hope you get the moral of the story.
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Authoreety: 12:19pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Especially if she's a good girl
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by cchub: 12:19pm On Mar 03, 2021|
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by buygala(m): 12:19pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Confirm she is pregnant first before giving her abortion money..
Invite her over...go to any chemist and buy a pregnancy test strip (100 naira) and let her test her urine right in front of you...if it shows two red lines, then she is truly pregnant...if not, kindly tell her to fvck off...
If she is truly pregnant, whether the baby is yours or not is immaterial at this point...You sha poured inside her recently..so it's likely the baby is yours...Get her to a safe facility and take care of it...discharging a pregnancy below a month is real safe and low risk as long as stipulated procedure is followed...
If you actually know what you 're doing, it's something you can do to her by yourself...two tablet inserted in her vagina within a few hours of each other will take care of it..
Cheers if you decide to keep the baby though...Children are a blessing from God
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Sultty(m): 12:20pm On Mar 03, 2021|
op u funny o, u have made up ur mind and u are here asking for advice. I'll advice u keep d child u don't know what might be ur saving grace in future
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by rabiudon: 12:20pm On Mar 03, 2021|
tommie1:She is not pregnant. She just needs some dough jare
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Iruobean(m): 12:20pm On Mar 03, 2021|
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by AfroKnight: 12:20pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Latest daddy in town.
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Teaser4(m): 12:21pm On Mar 03, 2021|
nah twins she go born
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by BlackPantherxXx: 12:21pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Don't abort. There are consequences.
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Wickedfacts: 12:21pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Double your effort and strive harder when he obviously is not ready.
That is how you people tumble into poverty because you employ emotions where logic is required.
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|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Nobody: 12:21pm On Mar 03, 2021|
Another girl's FUTURE you're about to ruin so.
Men are scum. You knew what you were getting into. I'm quite sure you brought the idea of no condom. Man up and carry your cross. You
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by sirblend: 12:22pm On Mar 03, 2021|
The lady need some cash. You are her ATM for now.
|Re: Do I remove This Baby? by Margy(f): 12:22pm On Mar 03, 2021|
If you remove it, you are a father of a dead child..if they are twins then father of dead children.
both of you!!
tufia this generation
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