“And they Twain shall become one”

So what happened to after they become one??

I got wedded late last year and am barely 6months into it. Well these days I feel like I could go back to being single.

My wife is a nice woman, wonderful with the family and everybody loves her... she isn’t the problem


But I always miss that autonomy or doing things on my own, my way. Wake up this morning and just travel. The joys of being unpredictable.

There the fun of whoring tho but that isn’t an item. There’s more sanity in the freedom of bachelorhood than I can currently comprehend

Let’s share our experiences .. is it just me or does it cut across board

If yes, is there hope or shall this misery continue unending?

PS I was very comfortable before I got married. Not like I just struck gold.

I'm here to learn !

What's happening with you is just transition. You transitioning from one phase of your life to another.
You might not like the feeling now, but you'll gradually get used to marriage and family life and would never wish you were single again.
Just enjoy and appreciate every moment.

mariahAngel:
What's happening with you is just transition. You transitioning from one phase of your life to another.
You might not like the feeling now, but you'll gradually get used to marriage and family life and would never wish you were single again.
Just enjoy and appreciate every moment.

Sometimes it’s like a dream that I wish to wake up from... but only end up slipping deeper... scary like losing control...

The reality of responsibility... being fully responsible for another human soon to be human(s)... having to make every decision after careful thought...

I term it maturity... it’s like growing a tooth... hurts like hell at first but soon the joys of chewing suya and dry fish can’t be underscored...

In marriage, there's a joint-identity that occurs (but if it doesn't or hasn't, you can create it), which means doing things your own way or doing whatever you want like a single man/bachelor that you no longer are, is a no-no. Nonetheless, maintaining your own individuality too, is healthy. You need not lose yourself (e.g. don't discard the hobbies you enjoy doing or the goals you still want to achieve for yourself). Inasmuch as it doesn't affect your marriage negatively, individuality is still important. Finding the balance between that joint-identity and individuality is key.

Married people may God epp us!

aroundtheearth:
In marriage, there's a joint-identity that occurs (but if it doesn't or hasn't, you can create it), which means doing things your own way or doing whatever you want like a single man/bachelor that you no longer are, is a no-no. Nonetheless, maintaining your own individuality too, is healthy. You need not lose yourself (e.g. don't discard the hobbies you enjoy doing or the goals you still want to achieve for yourself). Inasmuch as it doesn't affect your marriage negatively, individuality is still important. Finding the balance between that joint-identity and individuality is key.

This is like a motivational quote...

Believe in your dreams, you will achieve them...

Thanks for the piece

But it’s not easy... it takes an emotional toll... funny enough women find it easier... I presume it comes with the social status and acceptance... and soon they grow into it


I envy my wife sometimes when I see how easily she gets along with it

ahnie:
Married people may God epp us!

Lol

You could share some...maybe we will learn something...

EkelediliBuhari:

Lol
You could share some...maybe we will learn something...

my dear .....i ve absolutely nada to share.

What a melancholy.

Were you forced into marriage? Hmm.... This simply shows you were not psychologically ready for marriage.

EkelediliBuhari:


This is like a motivational quote...

Believe in your dreams, you will achieve them...

Thanks for the piece

But it’s not easy... it takes an emotional toll... funny enough women find it easier... I presume it comes with the social status and acceptance... and soon they grow into it


I envy my wife sometimes when I see how easily she gets along with it

It seems you weren't psychologically-ready for marriage, which could be one reason you're missing bachelor life. Take it one day at a time and stop brooding too much. You're a newlywed; enjoy this time with your wife and start forming that joint-identity now because it's going to reduce your missing being a single man. Your time of bachelorhood is a thing of the past; let it go, and accept your new reality.

EkelediliBuhari:
“And they Twain shall become one”

So what happened to after they become one??

I got wedded late last year and am barely 6months into it. Well these days I feel like I could go back to being single.

My wife is a nice woman, wonderful with the family and everybody loves her... she isn’t the problem


But I always miss that autonomy or doing things on my own, my way. Wake up this morning and just travel. The joys of being unpredictable.

There the fun of whoring tho but that isn’t an item. There’s more sanity in the freedom of bachelorhood than I can currently comprehend

Let’s share our experiences .. is it just me or does it cut across board

If yes, is there hope or shall this misery continue unending?

PS I was very comfortable before I got married. Not like I just struck gold.

Why don't you travel together? Why can't you be spontaneous/unpredictable together?

aroundtheearth:
It seems you weren't psychologically-ready for marriage, which could be one reason you're missing bachelor life. Take it one day at a time and stop brooding too much. You're a newlywed; enjoy this time with your wife and start forming that joint-identity now because it's going to reduce your missing being a single man. Your time of bachelorhood is a thing of the past; let it go, and accept your new reality.

It’s easy to point out an issue
Truth is many newly weds face this same issue... psychological adjustment to marriage

They are thinking it and am saying it... nobody is perfect but we try our best

One day at a time is the key I presume... that’s my take home

EkelediliBuhari:
“And they Twain shall become one”

So what happened to after they become one??

I got wedded late last year and am barely 6months into it. Well these days I feel like I could go back to being single.

My wife is a nice woman, wonderful with the family and everybody loves her... she isn’t the problem


But I always miss that autonomy or doing things on my own, my way. Wake up this morning and just travel. The joys of being unpredictable.

There the fun of whoring tho but that isn’t an item. There’s more sanity in the freedom of bachelorhood than I can currently comprehend

Let’s share our experiences .. is it just me or does it cut across board

If yes, is there hope or shall this misery continue unending?

PS I was very comfortable before I got married. Not like I just struck gold.

lol marriage is a boring responsibility u have not seen anything yet wait until u are 7years in it n u will understand.

it requires self discipline, sacrifice n commitment, single life is way more exciting.

u will get used to it soon

legacystore:


lol marriage is a boring responsibility u have not seen anything yet wait until u are 7years in it n u will understand.

it requires self discipline, sacrifice n commitment, single life is way more exciting.

u will get used to it soon

I pray so with Godspeed