I have a niece( whose both parent are dead) staying with me since October, 2020. But when I lost my job in December 2020, I asked her to go stay with my cousin brother pending when I have money or job. She went but my wife kept on disturbing me to bring her back, she disturbed me to the extend that it became a serious issue for us. I told her to consider our present condition, Sometimes feeding is even a problem. I told her I can't because i don't have the means. It became an issue. So i finally agreed to bring her back since January 25th 2021 till date. But since she came sometimes we beg one friend or the other just to feed, I've even begged those that I'm never ever suppose to beg from. Today i decided that she goes to stay with my brother again for some time but my wife has started another issue because of that. I want you guys to take note of the following.

1. I'm the last born of the family, I have almost eight elder siblings whom are just not ready to take her reason because she has stayed with some of them and she doesn't want discipline or correction. Else she will just run and leave the house.

2. She lies a lot, steals, every stubborn, gossip a lot just to make two siblings fight. etc, I thought they were lying about her when I heard of all these but I confirmed it every since she starter staying with me.

3. The money that my son was suppose to have started school with is what I used for us to be feeding till it got exhausted.

4. My other siblings and cousins have no responsiblilty like me and have jobs.

Pls guys what should I do?

You honestly cannot keep her with you in your present financial state.If there is someone who can take her in,then the reasonable thing is that she goes there.

Your wife can keep disturbing you but you have to be practical.

Ur wife wanted her back,so she can help her do house chores..no other reason.my question for u,is;if she is to be ur daughter,will u chase her away?try and see how u can help her become a more better person in future.nobody knows 2moro.i wish u GODspeed and for lines to fall for u in pleasant places.

donbachi:
Ur wife wanted her back,so she can help her do house chores..no other reason.my question for u,is;if she is to be ur daughter,will u chase her away?try and see how u can help her become a more better person in future.nobody knows 2moro.i wish u GODspeed and for lines to fall for u in pleasant places.

I swear sometimes I starve just for them to eat and be satisfied. Right now house rent is at the corner, I don't know what to do. I have more than five major responsibilitiee waiting for me right now. Sincerely I've tried so much and sacrificed a lot. but I right now I can't anymore.

Why don't you ask your siblings for financial help.
That would relieve you and she can stay with you.

Since your wife wants her around so badly, she should be in charge of your niece's feeding.

If she cannot feed her, then it's your way.

Meanwhile, learn how to put your feet down. Being a man doesn't mean that you take the brunt of other people's decisions. They make it, they deal with the consequences too.

how old is she? am looking for a personal assistant.

mutter:
Why don't you ask your siblings for financial help.
That would relieve you and she can stay with you.

The won't just help at all... they always have same complain "no money"

Annwrites:
Since your wife wants her around so badly, she should be in charge of your niece's feeding.

If she cannot feed her, then it's your way.

Meanwhile, learn how to put your feet down. Being a man doesn't that you take the brunt of other people's decisions. They make it, they deal with the consequences too.

You're so right. Do you know that there was a times we had issues with my wife and she would tell me that she is going back to her mother's place but she isn't going with my niece. she told me that like twice.

Austine567:
how old is she? am looking for a personal assistant.

15

Does your wife work?
Does she contribute financially at home?
If not, then she has no right forcing responsibilities on you just because of her laziness in doing her house chores.

pozehnani:
Does your wife work?
Does she contribute financially at home?
If not, then she has no right forcing responsibilities on you just because of her laziness in doing her house chores.

You've hit the nail on the head... you've said it all

You did not tell us the reason that your wife insisted that you brought her back

Why do you say that your sibling don't have responsibility like you do? Do you have too many children?

You must be able to justify bringing the girl into your care. She may have all those bad qualities because of her unsteady upbringing.

This matter is so simple. If your wife insists that the girl comes back then she should be responsible for her feeding. Is it not that simple?

In fact, that is the one reason that your wife should entice you with.

Teleprompter:
You did not tell us the reason that your wife insisted that you brought her back

Thank you very much

Besides daily, basic necessities like food, the girl needs proper guidance in order to stop those bad habits. If your wife insists she stays, then she needs to contribute financially to her care and to her emotional upbringing, else she should stay with one of your siblings who can do right by her.

The worst is that I stay in a single room self contain. imagine how it is like.