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She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Adonis86(m): 6:38pm On Mar 11
As I was going through my phone this afternoon, a lady chatted me and I responded. She said she wants to ask me a question, that I shouldn't be angry with her. I assured her that I won't be hard on her. She asked me if I'm a gay. I responded No. She sent me a screenshot of a conversation I had months ago who I later learnt to be her husband. I asked her why she asked of my sexuality, she said she's suspecting her husband of three years to be a gay. It sounds so crazy to me but I suspect it's real due to the screenshot of the message, where the guy was demanding for sex from me. Now, I inquired more about their relationship as couple and found out he beats his wife often, even during her first pregnancy.

Now, the man confirmed to me that he beat the wife last night for going through his phone conversation and labelling him a gay, due to the kinda conversations he's been having with guys. But in a bid to deny it, he deleted the conversation and beat her up on false accusation. The lady has reported to their Reverend in church, but the Reverend discouraged her from going to Human rights commission or leaving the marriage.

Now, she's looking for more evidence to nail the husband. She wants me to send her the whole conversation I had with the husband, showing where the husband was begging me for sex and sending me his nude pictures. But I don't want to be that instrument she'll use to break up her young family. Though the annoying part is that the husband is very resentful and not even remorseful about his infidelity and domestic violence. The lady is not educated though wanted to learn a skill or go for further studies, but the husband refuses to send her to learn all those skills. According to her, he once accused her in his shop for stealing 45k, which was not true. He stopped her from coming out to his shop, whenever she comes out to stay with him in the shop, he'll be talking her down in the presence of his friends and customers. I was moved by her lamentations, that's why I had to take the pain to write this. I have contacted the husband on Facebook and inquired about the dispute and learnt the lady was saying the truth. Though I threatened the husband with military arrest if he ever touches the wife. But I'm still scared he might get home and pounce on the wife again for talking to me.

Please i need matured advice from people here on how matured to settle this young family dispute without the poor lady suffering further in the hand of this young man.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Kriss216: 6:41pm On Mar 11
I asked her why she asked of my sexuality, she said she's suspecting her husband of three years to be a gay. It sounds so crazy to me but I suspect it's real due to the screenshot of the message, where the guy was demanding for sex from me
The man is demanding sex from you and sending you his nudes and you dare say it sounds so crazy to you that he's gay?

Why should a gay be demanding sex from a straight guy? Hope it's not what I'm thinking

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Adonis86(m): 6:48pm On Mar 11
Kriss216:

The man is demanding sex from you and sending you his nudes and you dare say it sounds so crazy to you that he's gay?

Why should a gay be demanding sex from a straight guy? Hope it's not what I'm thinking
Ask any cute guy that's active on social media, they can relate well with the experience. It's a commonplace.
If you're very cute, both guys and girls will be on your neck.
Please, I made this post for only one reason: Matured Advice.
Please, save a sister whose marriage is crashing, because according to her, despite the husband's maltreatment and denial of right as a wife, no sex, no chance to get employment; she said she still loves him, but he is proving stubborn and all that. I've told them to me a marriage counselor, but I suspect that the one the husband has been suggesting all the while always counsels in favour of the man.

This is a true story burning right now. See some attached screenshot evidence

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by daddytime(m): 7:18pm On Mar 11
Dem dey come for you.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by DaddyRochie1642(f): 7:38pm On Mar 11
This story no sweet .... I have no advice to give grin grin

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by prince2pac(m): 7:54pm On Mar 11
got nothing to say

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Mide3367: 8:13pm On Mar 11
Na wa o.. I do pity some women who enter into wrong marriage and relationships but I sometimes look away because they won't like to date it marriage a man wey him head correct... I know saw the red flags before she married him.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Kobicove(m): 8:15pm On Mar 11
Adonis86:
As I was going through my phone this afternoon, a lady chatted me and I responded. She said she wants to ask me a question, that I shouldn't be angry with her. I assured her that I won't be hard on her. She asked me if I'm a gay. I responded No. She sent me a screenshot of a conversation I had months ago who I later learnt to be her husband. I asked her why she asked of my sexuality, she said she's suspecting her husband of three years to be a gay. It sounds so crazy to me but I suspect it's real due to the screenshot of the message, where the guy was demanding for sex from me. Now, I inquired more about their relationship as couple and found out he beats his wife often, even during her first pregnancy.

Now, she's looking for more evidence to nail the husband. She wants me to send her the whole conversation I had with the husband, showing where the husband was begging me for sex and sending me his nude pictures. But I don't want to be that...

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Why would a guy be sending you his nude pics in the first instance?

...and you still insist you're not gay?

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by dollytino4real(f): 8:52pm On Mar 11
dis Mata is a two way thing! stay and remove ur ears from his affairs or leave then let him pay for his sins

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by InfernoNig(m): 8:55pm On Mar 11
Don't be unfortunate.
Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Adonis86(m): 9:46pm On Mar 11
The matter don tire me. The guy denied knowing me, rather accuses the wife of having an extramarital affair with me. People I've never met in my life. She said at the initial stage he suggested they meet a man of God. When they met the man of God and told him about hee husband's sexuality, the Man of God advised her to play along, that if the husband likes asss more than pusssy, she should give it to him... That one off me.

I humbly advised her to involve her family and the husband's family for advise. But she's insisting on divorce against the Man of god's advice... I hereby wash my hands in innocence, that I may go about the Lord's supper.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by SmellySperm(m): 11:05pm On Mar 11
richmond500:
nairaland has the highest number of stupid people per square kilometer
how did you derive your formula?

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Judybash93(m): 12:23am On Mar 12
It's just gay not a gay

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by CheedyJ(m): 12:29am On Mar 12
Op , I think you have gay tendencies too.. how man go send you nudes and you didn’t delete it the second it dropped in fact , you are a suspect...

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by CheedyJ(m): 12:33am On Mar 12
Kriss216:

The man is demanding sex from you and sending you his nudes and you dare say it sounds so crazy to you that he's gay?

Why should a gay be demanding sex from a straight guy? Hope it's not what I'm thinking
It’s what you are thinking bro.. op na gay.. the guy dey ‘toast am, he didn’t block him to d point of him begging for sex & sending nudes of himself and d idiot still no block am, abegi....he’s gay as bleep

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by femi4: 6:45am On Mar 12
You better mind your business
Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Wittyglam(f): 7:04am On Mar 12
My major problem is with the Reverend father, did he call the husband to order? He is stopping her from protecting herself and she keeps receiving beating.
Companionship is great when you're with someone that appreciate you, the goal is to be happily married, no marriage is perfect but the goal is not to die. That encourage violence, help her. This is very sad.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkuvPyOQQA8

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by maureensylvia(f): 7:35am On Mar 12
Ur posts reads gay all-over you... But that's by the way. cool

If u really want to help the lady, you know what to do. This is domestic violence for heaven sake.

I wonder why you didn't mention cautioning the dude on the gayish part but you were only interested on the wife beating undecided

For the Reverend fr, in as much as he's trying to prevent divorce, he should know when to call it a limit.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by punisha: 7:43am On Mar 12
may u never find help when u need it most in this life . So be it till u die.
Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Nobody: 10:56am On Mar 12
maureensylvia:
Ur posts reads gay all-over you... But that's by the way. cool

If u really want to help the lady, you know what to do. This is domestic violence for heaven sake.

I wonder why you didn't mention cautioning the dude on the gayish part but you were only interested on the wife beating undecided

For the Reverend fr, in as much as he's trying to prevent divorce, he should know when to call it a limit.
Beating your wife is a million times worse than homosexuality.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Divoc19(f): 11:07am On Mar 12
Please! LEAVE them ALONE.

Na them know where them meet themselves marry.

They have family members.

Adonis86:
The matter don tire me. The guy denied knowing me, rather accuses the wife of having an extramarital affair with me. People I've never met in my life. She said at the initial stage he suggested they meet a man of God. When they met the man of God and told him about hee husband's sexuality, the Man of God advised her to play along, that if the husband likes asss more than pusssy, she should give it to him... That one off me.

I humbly advised her to involve her family and the husband's family for advise. But she's insisting on divorce against the Man of god's advice... I hereby wash my hands in innocence, that I may go about the Lord's supper.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Bonnyegg: 11:34am On Mar 12
grin oga easy.
A gay man will start sending nudes to a straight guy?
Not that you want to eat his money that's why you are keeping him around o
You just like the cruise?
Don't believe
Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Udodiri01: 11:55am On Mar 12
Divorce him and have him pay you alimony for the upkeep of your kids
Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Casham: 11:56am On Mar 12
If this is true, the only reasonable thing you should do is to help that woman to divorce him. There is nothing to settle there. The man is freaking gay and an abuser and you are asking her to involve his family. What family? For what?

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by mrdharkchild(m): 4:18pm On Mar 12
I think the story ain't complete.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by TotoGame(m): 5:36pm On Mar 12
strictly Afonja gays affairs

I'm out of here !!!!

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by godwinkessi: 12:57pm On Mar 13
Gonna
Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Mikelarteta(m): 12:57pm On Mar 13
Nothing you can do about his sexuality, if you can’t cope with that I beg you peacefully leave the marriage. Na wah for some guys sha, as kpekus sweet reach chai.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by SouthNigerian: 12:57pm On Mar 13
The Lady needs help, if you fail to help her, you've failed to save a soul from torment.

The Lady represent spare tire in that Marriage, she haven't even told you how her husband seldom have sex with her. He probably married her so she can give him children or maybe pressure from his family.

Marriage is not a do or die affair, if it doesn't work, exit. In this marriage, the lady is being groomed as a slave. He purposefully married someone without education or skills. He further pressed her, so she doesn't become better... those are signs. The Lady's family are obviously of low class, poor & less powerful. He battered her everyday like goat because he knew no one would come for her rescue. That Marriage is Hell for her. She can't make her own money, she can't relate with people, she doesn't enjoy her sexual life, she's deprived of development and growth. She's Stucked.

Help that lady exit that Marriage, you are the Rescue God sent to her, report the case to Human Right Organization, the Police and other necessary Authorities. Be sure to stand by her until she's rescued from that pit of a Marriage. If you fail to Rescue her, she'll remain in Hell and you'll be the reason she remains there.

Marriage is Not a Do or Die Affair. If you're loosing more than you're gaining, it's best to walk away.

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Re: She Discovered Her Husband Is A Gay, Now This Is Happening by Abigirlsuen: 12:57pm On Mar 13
If she's your sister what would you do?

Advise her to remain in marriage with a man who is gay?

D you understaand that this is a permanent problem with no end?

Do you think his sexuality will change eventually?

For your information, this is no marriage and I hate maltreating a womans feeling in such a gruesome manner. Cut her loose and let her go. I will BOMB that marriage if i have one slight evidence to. If you cannot, please share the message with me and tell the wife to contact me - I will glad share the message with her and represent you in hell if thats the price i will pay for saving an innocent woman from the hands of a fool in the name of marriage.

I dont understand what women marry these days

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