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My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Stainlesssteel: 6:55am On Mar 12, 2021
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by doggedfighter(f): 7:00am On Mar 12, 2021
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes me wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering all her responsibilities undecided

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice cry


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by malcom1X: 7:03am On Mar 12, 2021
You have given her wings, allow her to fly. She doesn't need you anymore.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by slawormiir: 7:05am On Mar 12, 2021
Damnnn niggarrrr

Isoright.....bros op don't know what he has put his hand into
Na now bros op dey know say our girls nor dey want disclose about their money......but they get excited to spend guys own

Even my baby sisters at home derive pleasure in spending my money.....
They will keep thiers for those their unreasonable things like plaiting different hair styles like chuku , Ghana weaving, dreadlocks, Bob Marley, twisting, kinky ball, fixing eye lash , wearing waist beads, piercing their nose or vaginal and fixing nails ( especially that glow in the dark)...mixing expensive creams
Funny enough.....money dey come into their account as if say them dey work for cbn.....if you doubt then synchronize the email link to their bank account to your device....you will be shocked to see 3k , 2k and 5k dey fly into their account non stop...
Then in the night....they will surround you like ogbanje and mami water to switch on your hotspot and deplete your data.....your room will be thier eating and playing ground

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by proff010: 7:06am On Mar 12, 2021
Ask her what she is using her salary for

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by donbachi(m): 7:09am On Mar 12, 2021
Na her type dey build house..and husband will be paying rent to her,unknowingly to him.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by DryMouth: 7:09am On Mar 12, 2021
doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?
as in ehn!
No be small married man

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Kobicove(m): 7:17am On Mar 12, 2021
Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.
I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume
Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.
Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now , I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise. Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

Just stop giving her money for transport fare!

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by MufasaLion: 7:20am On Mar 12, 2021
Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.
I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume
Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.
Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now , I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise. Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

You go soon wise

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by MufasaLion: 7:20am On Mar 12, 2021
donbachi:
Na her type dey build house..and husband will be paying rent to her,unknowingly to him.

Heartbreaking lipsrsealed

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Jeon(f): 7:24am On Mar 12, 2021
Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.
I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume
Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.
Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now , I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise. Why do you think she did that and what should I do?
Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Wittyglam(f): 7:25am On Mar 12, 2021
Have a round table discussion with her, I know most women believe it's the duty of a man to finance all their needs but their money is not his business which is wrong. She can contribute by buying little things but it all depends on your foundation, how did you start this relationship? Are you both completely honest with each other?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by doggedfighter(f): 7:43am On Mar 12, 2021
proff010:
Ask her what she is using her salary for

And how should that be his priority?

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by punisha: 7:49am On Mar 12, 2021
y don't u simply tell her u r expecting her to pay back everything u spend on her when she collects salary and that asking her to get a job was also so she could be helping ur broke ass....


Iranu.

i am also sure the salary u expect her to be presenting to u as lord and saviour would be one meagre amount that cant even buy a bottle of glenfiddich.

learn to help without wanting something back.
this is parasitism.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by JONSYN7154: 7:50am On Mar 12, 2021
Na their type mosdii dey referred to.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Nicepoker(m): 8:15am On Mar 12, 2021
And you call yourself stainless steel. You are as fragile as glass.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Godoverevery: 8:18am On Mar 12, 2021
punisha:
y don't u simply tell her u r expecting her to pay back everything u spend on her when she collects salary and that asking her to get a job was also so she could be helping ur broke ass....


Iranu.
we didnt see where u said u clothe her, buy her cream, toiletries, hair etc...abi she will use her puna to pay for those?
i am also sure the salary u expect her to be presenting to u as lord and saviour would be one meagre amount that cant even buy a bottle of glenfiddich.
if u marry na executive order u go dey pass for ur house so.

This the reason I warn guys never to help or spend on there gf......this what you will hear las las....... have been there a couple of times and they are ingrates.

Someone accommodated you, giving you money everyday and she decided to keep pretending there is no money despite collecting salary....is that a heartless woman who is a leech....I no you are like her.

back to you Op
my brother just end the relationship...if she loved you immediately she collected that salary you would have gotten a nice meal to celebrate you.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Bennysam: 8:43am On Mar 12, 2021
doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering her responsibilities undecided

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice cry


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

Indeed a disgrace, they're the people shouting SIMP up and down

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by kepstone: 8:49am On Mar 12, 2021
i dont know y guys keep making this same mistake over and over again. An adult with two hands a d u are footing her bills, you are not even married to her. Guy forget her, ask her to leave ur house. Forget love this same lady will dump you the moment benefits stops coming in. Have u not realized that Nigerian girls will only be with u as long as they are benefitting something from you. The moment that stops flowing it takes genuine love to continue. Many girls don't have love in their heart all na benefit. I will never spend on a girl i am not married to. Guyz be wise, understand what relationship is and dont date girls that will dump u. use ur money upgrade your life, you can do in this life without vagina.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by eveninnewspaper: 8:56am On Mar 12, 2021
No mod should move this to FP. We are tired and I'm sure I speak the minds of the majority here.

If a relationship is so much work for you lots, go to Covent. Toor!

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by pansophist(m): 8:57am On Mar 12, 2021
The issue with most men is that they really have not experienced "true love" from a woman, hence, they don't know how it feels like, and will just accept any subpar treatments from a woman just because she accepted to date him. For privacy reasons, I won't be attaching snapshots here, but if a woman loves you, you won't even complain about this at all. She will not bother you with bills and help you save money.

Which begs the question, "why are you with a woman that doesn't love you"? Accepting any woman just to not feel lonely and/or having an unrestricted access to sex is like selling your birthright, it doesnt go well. You'll feel pitied, inferior, and powerless. The fact that you're asking online is a proof to that. You should be discussing it with her not us. And the cure is still and will always be the same, which is, develop yourself and get quality, better woman.

A woman that loves you won't stress you. You'll be elevated through her, women are supporters, and you'll feel that pristine supports that only a woman can give, if she desires you. Next time, never assume financial responsibilities to a woman you're not married to, it doesn't ends well. Let her go, and fix yourself first, then you'll command better women that will make your life richer. Be wise

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Nobody: 9:11am On Mar 12, 2021
Wittyglam:
Have a round table discussion with her, I know most women believe it's the duty of a man to finance all their needs but their money is not his business which is wrong. She can contribute by buying little things but it all depends on your foundation, how did you start this relationship? Are you both completely honest with each other?
no be only round table, square table nkor? grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Hamachi(f): 9:38am On Mar 12, 2021
Guy, do not qualify a woman by the size of her boobs or *ss.
Qualify her by the content of her character, by her brilliance and by the size of her dream.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Slynation(m): 9:45am On Mar 12, 2021
The kinda guys the society are breeding this days ehh means their is trouble in paradise...The FTC has already done justice to this post so no need of staying anything.....

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by phenzy(m): 9:56am On Mar 12, 2021
If this story is real then I am sorry to say this to you op “you are a big fool”

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Callertunez: 9:59am On Mar 12, 2021
thought I saw my girlfriend is hiding her fiancee from me cheesy

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by The5DME(m): 10:02am On Mar 12, 2021
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by The5DME(m): 10:03am On Mar 12, 2021
pansophist:
The issue with most men is that they really have not experienced "true love" from a woman, hence, they don't know how it feels like, and will just accept any subpar treatments from a woman just because she accepted to date him. For privacy reasons, I won't be attaching snapshots here, but if a woman loves you, you won't even complain about this at all. She will not bother you with bills and help you save money.

Which begs the question, "why are you with a woman that doesn't love you"? Accepting any woman just to not feel lonely and/or having an unrestricted access to sex is like selling your birthright, it doesnt go well. You'll feel pitied, inferior, and powerless. The fact that you're asking online is a proof to that. You should be discussing it with her not us. And the cure is still and will always be the same, which is, develop yourself and get quality, better woman.

A woman that loves you won't stress you. You'll be elevated through her, women are supporters, and you'll feel that pristine supports that only a woman can give, if she desires you. Next time, never assume financial responsibilities to a woman you're not married to, it doesn't ends well. Let her go, and fix yourself first, then you'll command better women that will make your life richer. Be wise
you just got a new folower.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Nobody: 10:06am On Mar 12, 2021
Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.
I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume
Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.
Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now , I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise. Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

Her finances are none of your business just as your finances are none of hers. This status persists even after marriage. After marriage, beyond home expenses which you are fully responsible for, none of you should have any say over the other's income or expenses provided that they do not infringe on your marital rights. Separate finances make for a much happier home, believe me.

You have no right to be either confused or angry. You kept her posted and spent on her of your own free will. You cannot force her to reciprocate because that is not of her own free will. Be a man, leave her money alone.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:16am On Mar 12, 2021
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv



You are angry ?? for what ??
my friend will you go and wash her panties, serve her breakfast in bed, and always give her money..
Make sure you go totally bankrupt while pleasing her.. That is how REAL men do...
don't ever raise your voice to question her finances, you don't deserve to know.. she did you a favour by accepting to date you..
be a REAL man and treaty her with total respect irrespective of how she treats you..
imp.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Hiding Her Finance From Me by Wickedfacts: 10:23am On Mar 12, 2021
Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.
I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume
Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.
Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now , I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise. Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

You don't know what to do?
This your foolishness, is that how you were born or you acquired it?

Stop giving her money for transportation, her job should be able to take care of that. If she asks, remind her that she is now working.

If you want to give a woman money, give her as a gift and not an obligation. Is she your mother or did she join you to hustle for your money?

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