femi4:
Which theory is that

Nobody goes into marriage without a form of finance

You're shifting goal post

Can you really trust an African man. Can an African women really trust their husbands with what is happening in the society. An African man can wake up tomorrow morning and he will say he wants a second wife nothing will happen. I don't blame the women because it's part of our culture to have freedom. Let me use my grandma as a case study, she and her husband made thousands in Zaria back in the days through combined business built two house in the southeast of the country when they relocated back east. Suddenly my grandfather went for a second wife who started dragging those properties my granny work for just imagine. In this part of the world our culture don't give women value, they can be kickout anyday and nothing will happen. Just watch people that divorce already. people learn from other peoples mistake. Don't blame Nigerian women blame the culture. Use Fani Kayode as a case study, if that man is in the USA he will be broke from series of divorce

Reex12:
pls lets remove sentiment and answer this question, IS IT A MANS JOB TO DO CHORES?
how selfish can u be, so a man will work morning-evening(mosttimes late in the night) and still come bck and do the chores so what is your work in the house then? to sit dwn and wtch zeeworld from morning till night and open ur legs like a lovepeddler

If that is so why do you want women to do the same?

Do not marry any woman with such mentality

Terribly wicked statement

Seriously, I don't blame these ladies. It's the men I've got to blame as they lured these ladies with material wealth so, they feel entitled.

ednut1:
Do not marry any woman with such mentality

Unfortunately, 85% of women reek of such mentality

I see the female folks becoming repentant after reading this post.
This I have seen.

fear anything that bleed 3-5 days without dying

Kebbiprince:
In the marriage setting the two have become one and therefore should partake in doing things together, chores, finances etc

Its shocking how some women feel its ok to earn almost the same money as their men and feel zero obligation to contribute to anything in the family. Not just that, they now selfishly insist on spending their partners money. Who is raising these girls to think like that?
I have a colleague whose wife works very much like him yet she contributed nothing to the home but instead sends her own money to her family as if the man has no family too to send money to. This selfish act must stop!

Lazy nigger. Stop depending on your women for money. The role of the man is to provide. That's what our forefathers did. Its this kind of thinking that brought about this toxic feminism when women don see us finish.

Where did that useless saying come from sef? Rubbish

Jaqenhghar:

Lazy nigger. Stop depending on your women for money. The role of the man is to provide. That's what our forefathers did. Its this kind of thinking that brought about this toxic feminism when women don see us finish.

I don't expect a toddler been spoon-fed by his parents to have an opinion over what he doesn't know. Is for mature men please, hard working toddler

Jaqenhghar:

Lazy nigger. Stop depending on your women for money. The role of the man is to provide. That's what our forefathers did. Its this kind of thinking that brought about this toxic feminism when women don see us finish.

Simp

Elton.

Belafonte:


This mentality isn't unique to Nigerian women

Mostly black ladies...

SanctifiedSista:
Call for a meeting with family member and pastor she respects and let them talk sense into her. If she doesn't change, pray abt her attitude..she will come to her senses.Holy Spirit know how to deal with her

pray ke! is either a man doesn't make d mistake of marrying such a woman or correct that mistake by kicking such a woman out of ur life, cus at d end of d day d guy becomes d fool , she might even ve a sugarboy who she il be spending her money on but d man's money is for her n d kids.

Jaqenhghar:

Lazy nigger. Stop depending on your women for money. The role of the man is to provide. That's what our forefathers did. Its this kind of thinking that brought about this toxic feminism when women don see us finish.

Simpleton with various mental challenges!

Stockquality:
They re all useless girls. I have spent for a lady,sent for a lady,cooked,done every but still she remained adamant,like 3 diff girls o. They are all wired to be promiscuous,lazy,greedy,arrogant and fromnpoor background. I dated the rich,that one was super arrogant, money conscious ad social media freak. Its been 7months now I never sex any gal. My ex who realised I loved her in 2015 suddenly started calling me and said she even bought gifts forme during val. On the D day I off my phone,can't go back to my vomit. During their prime,they won't use their head and study life,its from one guy to the other,Then by age 30,lady already looking like 45,desperate to settle down,by age 35,no hope. I hate majority of naja ladies and I wish ritualsts ca reduce ther numbers. They are ungrateful and would mock u in disguise.

LOL. You go date rich girl hahaha. The problem with you guys is you think because someone is rich, that automatically makes the person mother Theresa. People dont become wealthy by being generous. Even your pastor who preaches giving will rather buy private jet and travel in luxury than give a penny to the hungry among his flock

YorubaLord:


Simpleton with various mental challenges!

You are the simpleton. Lazy fool. They say he who pays the piper dictates the tune. You can never be collecting money from a woman and yet demand respect.

Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

Sorry ma, which house chores do modern wives do? Better still, which house chores are they capable of doing?

EvilNeedle:


Simp

Elton.

Is that the best you can come up with? Olodo. I wonder when men became this shameless. You become the woman in a relationship waiting for handouts tomorrow you will say you are alpha. No he only alpha na alfa for mosque

it's very hard to change most Nigerian girls from this mindset of selfishness and entitlement. Most especially those that came from a poor background, stay far away from them. i have dated several girls and I can tell, but if you eventually see someone that loves you, she's going to love you with everything she has...

Work Hard ,Find a Surrogate mother ,Sign an agreement to carry baby/ Babies for you at least two ,Further your contract with her to take care of them till 2 to 3 years ,when they have started Schools ,Work hard to build a good home ,Hire a house Help and a good cook ,U can pay a good school with good environment to have them in the school till you close .Later move them to boarding school .Enjoy your life and stay away from Wife/ Woman Palava

Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

AND THERE WON'T EVER BE A HOUSE HELP IN MY HOUSE. ITS OBVIOUS SHE IS SHINING HER BOBOS WITH HER MONEY . I WILL ONLY KEEP QUIET IF HER SO CALLED MONEY IS SAVED FOR THE FUTURE WELL BEING OF OUR KIDS

Kebbiprince:

I don't expect a toddler been spoon-fed by his parents to have an opinion over what he doesn't know. Is for mature men please, hard working toddler

Mature man indeed. A mature man that looks for women to wipe his ass. If you father was as stupid as you. He wouldnt be able to afford a wife talk more of send you to school

Nazgul:
I've said this severally and I'll keep saying it, any girl you're dating and claim to love, who can't bring out her money to buy you gifts or grant you urgent financial relief whenever called upon.

If you love your destiny as a man, stay away from such girls, cos if you marry them claiming love, you'll spend every penny of your life feeding, clothing and housing them, without her reciprocating your efforts. And as if that's not enough, you'll suffer miserably once your finances goes south, cos she'll mock you and call you unprintable degrading names.

I've witnessed such incident (my late uncle who died last year during the lock down) so I know exactly what I'm saying. If your girlfriend doesn't spend her money on you, or you can't point out a single gift she used her money to purchase for you, please don't marry her. It's for your own good.

And people like Skales will kneels down to beg such girls to marry them

Kebbiprince:
In the marriage setting the two have become one and therefore should partake in doing things together, chores, finances etc

Its shocking how some women feel its ok to earn almost the same money as their men and feel zero obligation to contribute to anything in the family. Not just that, they now selfishly insist on spending their partners money. Who is raising these girls to think like that?
I have a colleague whose wife works very much like him yet she contributed nothing to the home but instead sends her own money to her family as if the man has no family too to send money to. This selfish act must stop!

It’s not just selfish it is very dumb. I think the problem here is people, women compare their marriages with others forgetting all hand are not equal and everybody has their own timing.

That controversial statement u made only works when the man is super comfortable bt not every marriage is at that stage so u can’t apply that logic until ur situation and comfort level gets to that point or stage. Bt some ladies don’t think properly. They are in a hurry nowhere. They cause more problems in their homes than solutions.

And she supposed to be a helpmate?

chiommy123:
She is saving it for the raining day na

IF THAT'S THE TRUTH, THEN AM OKAY BY IT.

Amb1045:
Can you really trust an African man. Can an African women really trust their husbands with what is happening in the society. An African man can wake up tomorrow morning and he will say he wants a second wife nothing will happen. I don't blame the women because it's part of our culture to have freedom. Let me use my grandma as a case study, she and her husband made thousands in Zaria back in the days through combined business buit two house in the southeast of the country when they relocated back east. Suddenly my grandfather went for a second wife who started dragging those properties my granny work for just imagine. In this part of the world our culture don't give women value, they can be kickout anyday and nothing will happen. Just watch people that divorce already. people learn from other peoples mistake. Don't blame Nigerian women blame the culture. Use Fani Kayode as a case study. if that man is in USA he will broke from series of divorce

Your granny's case is different. At least the men bring home the goods. Fani Kayode nakes his money. I am talking of these so called men who will be waiting for their women to go and hustle then bring food for them to eat. Then they want to Lord it over such women. How is that possible?

Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

do you know what a traditional man is? My grandfather was the Peak of traditional male, he married 12 wives and had multiple concubines outside. If I'm to foot every of your bill (which is nothing as far as I'm concerned) all you are allowed to do when I bring in second and third wives is to tell her welcome and go straight to your room

Trait of an unregenerated soul,don’t mind the fact that she has a title in the church. It’s wickedness of a higher order. Jesus Jesus to the rescue.