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I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Iamconfused: 11:47am On Apr 06
Hello guys. Good morning.
I'm in a state of confusion now, please don't judge me. Last year, I met this girl, we got talking and along the line, we fell in love with each other. She was a virgin and one thing led to another, I took her virginity(my mistake). This girl loves me so much, I cannot explain it, she has introduced me to her mom and I know almost everything about her and her family, pls note, I'm a medical student and I'm not even ready for marriage or anything of such in the nearest future, she will be graduating early next year. She has always been reminding me never to break her heart, she wants to marry me, she wants this and that. Now, the problem I have with this girl is that she has never assisted me once since we started dating, very dependent on me, always I love you, I'm here for u and those nonsense that won't add value to my life. She's so dramatic too and very emotional, it has made me lose a lot of interest in her lately, but I know for sure she loves me very much.

Why this?
So not long ago, I stumbled on this lady, we also got talking but it was on purely on friendship grounds but this girl started having feelings for me cos I was always there for her and comforted her when she needed it. I don't know what happened but I asked her out and now we're dating. Few months into dating this lady, this girl has impacted so well in my life, she gets me stuff(I'm not concerned about this but guys will understand the value a lady gets when you're not the only one giving) and she's now even teaching me how to make money online by legitimate means. This girl loves me like mad, she says if I break her heart, she's going to hurt herself and all that. I won't lie, I've feelings for her too cos I see her as someone who can make a good family and help a man stand, she's also very independent, she hardly requests for anything and according to her, "she wants just my love"

Now my problem is, how do I even let one of them go?. How do I let the former or the latter go?. I broke the former's virginity and I'm scared she'd be so hurt if I break her heart like that cos she really loves me. Now this, I really want her cos she has value, a whole lot of value and of course I also love her.

How do I even go about this?. I'm very confused. I don't want to hurt anyone. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. I wish I can just let the two of them go and get a new life.

What do u guys suggest I do?.This is no fiction, I get really worried anytime I think about the whole thing.
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by DaudaTheSexyGuy(m): 11:48am On Apr 06
You're keeping two girlfriends at the same time and you say you're a medical student...how are you even able to find the time to do that?

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Isokoson1: 11:55am On Apr 06
Mehn,op this mata tie wrapper...bros op u go just sit down ehn,reason dia mata..which one u think say e go best for u....the earlier the better u ...just man up and tell the one way u no like say make she go...abi u wan marry two wife ?
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Iamconfused: 11:56am On Apr 06
DaudaTheSexyGuy:
You're keeping two girlfriends at the same time and you say you're a medical student...how are you even able to find the time to do that?
I don't joke with my studies, plus I'm not the one that is really deep in love now, I'm just stuck, if not, I'd have left both relationships, dunno how to.
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by danietohbadt(m): 12:06pm On Apr 06
You're a very wicked and bad person.

Didn't you see all the flaws in the first girl before you took her virginity? Cos I wonder how you're able to see her flaws only after you deflowered her.

That wasn't even enough, while dating her, you still went ahead, you created time, stood and supported another lady, then eventually fall in love with her while you're still dating someone else.

Where lies your conscience?

If another girl comes tomorrow, and she seem better than this new girl, I'm sure you'll definitely leave her again citing one excuse or the other.

See, let me tell you the truth.

You'll ruin your own life if you continue this nonsense you're doing.

Na premium tears go end am.

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by nappy760(m): 12:06pm On Apr 06
This one na lab tech student grin grin grin
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Wittyglam(f): 12:14pm On Apr 06
You're the one cheating, hoping to get something and still a student. Have you ever spoke to her about starting something up or does she have the fund to give you those things you want? You're obviously looking for an excuse to leave the relationship. I don't know why these days everything have to be tight to money and give and take. Have a conversation with her and about the virginity stuff it's not your fault she wanted it too that is why she had sex with you or didn't get her consent?
Iamconfused:
Hello guys. Good morning.
I'm in a state of confusion now, please don't judge me. Last year, I met this girl, we got talking and along the line, we fell in love with each other. She was a virgin and one thing led to another, I took her virginity(my mistake). This girl loves me so much, I cannot explain it, she has introduced me to her mom and I know almost everything about her and her family, pls note, I'm a medical student and I'm not even ready for marriage or anything of such in the nearest future, she will be graduating early next year. She has always been reminding me never to break her heart, she wants to marry me, she wants this and that. Now, the problem I have with this girl is that she has never assisted me once since we started dating, very dependent on me, always I love you, I'm here for u and those nonsense that won't add value to my life. She's so dramatic too and very emotional, it has made me lose a lot of interest in her lately, but I know for sure she loves me very much.

Why this?
So not long ago, I stumbled on this lady, we also got talking but it was on purely on friendship grounds but this girl started having feelings for me cos I was always there for her and comforted her when she needed it. I don't know what happened but I asked her out and now we're dating. Few months into dating this lady, this girl has impacted so well in my life, she gets me stuff(I'm not concerned about this but guys will understand the value a lady gets when you're not the only one giving) and she's now even teaching me how to make money online by legitimate means. This girl loves me like mad, she says if I break her heart, she's going to hurt herself and all that. I won't lie, I've feelings for her too cos I see her as someone who can make a good family and help a man stand, she's also very independent, she hardly requests for anything and according to her, "she wants just my love"

Now my problem is, how do I even let one of them go?. How do I let the former or the latter go?. I broke the former's virginity and I'm scared she'd be so hurt if I break her heart like that cos she really loves me. Now this, I really want her cos she has value, a whole lot of value and of course I also love her.

How do I even go about this?. I'm very confused. I don't want to hurt anyone. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. I wish I can just let the two of them go and get a new life.

What do u guys suggest I do?.This is no fiction, I get really worried anytime I think about the whole thing.

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Iamconfused: 12:15pm On Apr 06
danietohbadt:


You're a very wicked and bad person.

Didn't you see all the flaws in the first girl before you took her virginity? Cos I wonder how you're able to see her flaws only after you deflowered her.

That wasn't even enough, while dating her, you still went ahead, you created time, stood and supported another lady, then eventually fall in love with her while you're still dating someone else.

Where lies your conscience?

If another girl comes tomorrow, and she seem better than this new girl, I'm sure you'll definitely leave her again citing one excuse or the other.

See, let me tell you the truth.

You'll ruin your own life if you continue this nonsense you're doing.

Na premium tears go end am.
Bro, U can judge me, it's fine. I did break up with her at a point but she came begging and playing the emotional card, we came back together, then I had not deflowered her already. She's obsessed with me and it's really not my fault.

As for the other lady, I didn't create time for her, she was depressed and was always complaining about committing suicide so the best I could do was always check up on her and call her to know how she was fairing, according to her, I gave her what she needed the most at that point and she doesn't ever want to leave me again.

I've a conscience, that's why I don't want to hurt anyone. I just need the easiest way out of this mess, cos I see it as a mess, I wonder how guys break ladies heart without even considering their feelings.

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Iamconfused: 12:17pm On Apr 06
nappy760:
This one na lab tech student grin grin grin
I'm a medicine and surgery student. It doesn't matter here anyways. I only said it to explain the fact I am not ready for marriage yet
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by FalseProphet1(m): 12:17pm On Apr 06
Marry both of them, of your church refuses it I will gladly wed you both in my church. Case closed

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Iamconfused: 12:17pm On Apr 06
Isokoson1:
Mehn,op this mata tie wrapper...bros op u go just sit down ehn,reason dia mata..which one u think say e go best for u....the earlier the better u ...just man up and tell the one way u no like say make she go...abi u wan marry two wife ?
Thanks bro
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Kondomatic(m): 12:19pm On Apr 06
Iamconfused:
I don't joke with my studies, plus I'm not the one that is really deep in love now, I'm just stuck, if not, I'd have left both relationships, dunno how to.
You didn't answer his question.





How are you able to do that?
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by danietohbadt(m): 12:21pm On Apr 06
Iamconfused:
Bro, U can judge me, it's fine. I did break up with her at a point but she came begging and playing the emotional card, we came back together, then I had not deflowered her already. She's obsessed with me and it's really not my fault.

As for the other lady, I didn't create time for her, she was depressed and was always complaining about committing suicide so the best I could do was always check up on her and call her to know how she was fairing, according to her, I gave her what she needed the most at that point and she doesn't ever want to leave me again.

I've a conscience, that's why I don't want to hurt anyone. I just need the easiest way out of this mess, cos I see it as a mess, I wonder how guys break ladies heart without even considering their feelings.


I'm not judging you. I'm only stating the obvious.

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Iamconfused: 12:21pm On Apr 06
Kondomatic:
You didn't answer his question.





How are you able to do that?
What's there?. Like I said, I'm really not in love so it's easy for me. I'm just doing my thing, call when I'm supposed to, I'm not too emotionally attached to either of them.
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by DaddyRochie1642(f): 12:36pm On Apr 06
Love still dey shack three of you.

I will only say this,

From your write-up you're still a student,
Don't worry, when you're really ready to settle down and start a Family then you'll be able to see very clearly and choose Wisely grin grin
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Cindy222(f): 12:37pm On Apr 06
DaudaTheSexyGuy:
You're keeping two girlfriends at the same time and you say you're a medical student...how are you even able to find the time to do that?

Even me I am surprised
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by sulorog(m): 12:37pm On Apr 06
guy wicked after taking the virginity of the first girl u want leave am run. God is watching you

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by DaddyRochie1642(f): 12:44pm On Apr 06
FalseProphet1:
Marry both of them, of your church refuses it I will gladly wed you both in my church. Case closed



Oga Falseprophet, you forgot to tell us the "Vision" you've seen concerning this case, tell us what the Holy Spirit showed you concerning this case, Or didn't the Holy Spirit show you vision about this case, tell us what you've "Seen" concerning this case , your Elder brother Righteousness2 is already on his way to this thread to drop a Bible Verse and some quotes from the scriptures for this man's case, just watch and see grin grin grin
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by nitoriolohun(m): 1:20pm On Apr 06
Honestly you are not a sincere fellow...

So u need a woman to add value to your life before you can start making meaning out of your life? Wait you mean buying Milo and milk with boxers are the values you are talking about?

You are an impatient fellow and I blame the girl for her stupidity (disflowered).. you mentioned she's still an undergraduate abi and oga have you added value to her life too abi depositing your akamu is your own value?

If you have sense you will know the nylon bag item the babe is giving you is a set up...most girls dnt give free tins and are like devil... They give you naira n collect dollar from you

I forget make I tell you say relationship dey sweet if he just start... U go soon learn but this is my advise !!!

Stop making comparison btw two people it sucks..learn to love unconditionally and express any displeasure to your woman because some people are jst ignorant of somethings

And again concentrate on your studies be successful and make money so many things about women will become unimportant to you... Peace !!!

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by FalseProphet1(m): 1:22pm On Apr 06
DaddyRochie1642:




Oga Falseprophet, you forgot to tell us the "Vision" you've seen concerning this case, tell us what the Holy Spirit showed you concerning this case, Or didn't the Holy Spirit show you vision about this case, tell us what you've "Seen" concerning this case , your Elder brother Righteousness2 is already on his way to this thread to drop a Bible Verse for this man's case, just watch and see grin grin grin
He won't marry either of them, he's a player looking for more pússies to bang, I see him contacting HIV and other STDs as a result of his lifestyle. This I have seen.

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by DaddyRochie1642(f): 1:24pm On Apr 06
FalseProphet1:

He won't marry either of them, he's a player looking for more pússies to bang, I see him contacting HIV and other STDs as a result of his lifestyle. This I have seen.



grin grin

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by aroundtheearth: 1:37pm On Apr 06
Smdh.
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by ThiagoKid(m): 1:43pm On Apr 06
Continue dating both of them.
Especially the one impacting something meaningful, as you've said.

Don't break up with any one of them!
Play your cards right, play the game.
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Khd95(m): 2:02pm On Apr 06
you didnt notice all these before you fell in lust, took her virginity and cum to your satisfy

now that ur konji has been cured, your eyes don clear, your body don calm, you are now seeing her flaws, ny brother carry your cross, shey be u said you love her.

the same way u are seeing the new girl now, was the same way u saw the first girl, once you have cummed inside this new girl now, u eyes go clear again, and you will realize she has flaws too, maybe the way shes too freindly with other guys, she smiles when she sleeps, shes too clingy etc etc



nexxxxxxxxtttt sad

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by 1F30M4(f): 2:30pm On Apr 06
Young man, can you listen to yourself at all? Shorii you're not confused nnkankan, I feel sey na ment

So you know hell hath no fury like a woman scorned but na still you wey go carry Bazooka fire am for your leg, med oo cheesy
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Christie06(f): 2:32pm On Apr 06
If you really love the first girl, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second girl..

The reasons you gave are enough for you to leave her.. But i must say, she can not offer what she doesn't have..

According to you, the second girl supports you and add value to your life which is fine but you could have done the same to the first girl but you chose to leave her.

You know what is best for you. I wish you luck.
Peace!

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Bighenzzy(m): 2:59pm On Apr 06
Bruv just test both of em then you pick the one that passes the test
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Yusufisraelj(m): 3:14pm On Apr 06
@Iamconfused

You started on a second relationship while in one, that's a faulty set-up and you have to guard against that.

Great relationships are made, anything that works is being worked at.

I guess you settle with the second lady bkos if you had wanted things to work out you wouldn't have a second option.

Learn to work at your relationship as far as both of you are committed to each other, and what's this idea of dating without marriage in view?
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by missimelda01(f): 4:37pm On Apr 06
Everything is a mistake to you, take responsibility for your actions with your full chest and face the consequences.

Oh and grow up before jumping into the next relationship(cos it seems like that’s what you do for a living).
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by kalu61(m): 4:51pm On Apr 06
Concentrate on your studies and leave women alone. When you are ready to marry, you make better decisions.

Abi you want get carry overs. Forgive yourself and move on. Pick anyone and ghost the other. It's a dilemma.
Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by Bashnigga(m): 4:56pm On Apr 06
This matter wear canvas, tie wrapper come put gele ontop... My advice, face ur studies

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Re: I Am Confused. Need Advise! by baralatie(m): 4:56pm On Apr 06
DaudaTheSexyGuy:
You're keeping two girlfriends at the same time and you say you're a medical student...how are you even able to find the time to do that?

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