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Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 3:13pm On Apr 19, 2011
I will really want to know how many married men here would want their wife to work or start a business for her to become independent and not a liabilty? and will her independence increase ur love and respect for her and well as make ur marriage stronger?

Because i see so many men complain here this days about house wifes and liabilty.

Please men pour out ur heart here as this will help some of our women get some kind of independence and in the long run improve there marriage.
If really this is what most modern days married men prefer.

Thank you all.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Apr 19, 2011
Dont believe everything you read on nl.

Now having said that, most women still work regardless, so a lot of the threads and posts which are alarming you, were started by jealous and mischievious people with constant chips on their shoulders.

The majority of women pull their own weight in the home and for the few who are housewives, they might have their own reasons for being that- ranging from mutual agreement between them and their husbands, to the extremely tight job market in many areas, to whatever reason.

Not everyone is a housewife by choice, and even if they are, i fail to see how it concerns outsiders.

Not to mention what do you call a mistress who also doesnt work? Dont those ones exist as well.

after all a nler once boasted of how her married boyfriend was spending his working wife's income on her. I'm not aware she had a job, and neither did she receive any bashing from the anti-marriage brigade.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Nobody: 3:29pm On Apr 19, 2011
The question which nobody has thought to ask because most are busy concentrating on bashing their imaginary or real enemies, is what are the pros and cons of staying home for whatever period of time as a married woman.

Some professions actually dont even allow this anyway eg if you're a medical doctor or in a related profession, it will be extremely difficult for you to be a housewife.


The pros include less exposure to the stress of daily living while the cons include later entry into the job market, which isnt necessarily a good thing.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 9:46pm On Apr 19, 2011
tpiah, u have made a good point ,some men dont see it that way thats why i will like to hear what men think concerning this situation.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by mamagee3(f): 1:47am On Apr 20, 2011
Amost everyone on here doesn't wanna have a working wife because they want a wife they'll push around. . .

Please, any man that expects you to quit your job just because he's married to you doesn't deserve you.

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Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by obowunmi(m): 2:21am On Apr 20, 2011
Every wealthy women work, talkless of poor women who want to front as housewives, now the type of job my wife does matters -- I want her to get a "good" job, whatever that means.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by rubi(f): 3:18am On Apr 20, 2011
It is good for a woman to be gainfully employed. It eliminates some insults to a certain decree. Money answereth all things
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by OyinB69: 3:33am On Apr 20, 2011
As a woman, I would never willingly quit my job to stay at home. The only exception to that is to raise children. If that's the case, I will take a 5-7yr break from working to have all the children hubby and I both want. This way the oldest child is already in school and can play with the younger ones when I have to start working again.

In this day and age, sometimes the hubby will be the stay-at-home-parent because of one reason or the other (ie. the wife has a better job/career, hubby has poor health, etc etc).
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Blazay(m): 10:20am On Apr 20, 2011
Like the men have the choice.
Any man that does not have a working wife in this day and age will STARVE to death! grin
Any woman that does not have a job in this day and age, should be prepared to be an emotionally and physically BATTERED WIFE!

May God have mercy on that poor woman.
You can NEVER earn respect from an African man as a full-time house wife.
You will forever feel like an ijjiot! grin
God forbid.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Bawss1(m): 12:22pm On Apr 20, 2011
Who doesn't want a wife who can pay her own bills? cool
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 1:07pm On Apr 20, 2011
Mmmm very interesting its obvious the new generation men are all wanting a working wives ,that means house wives will be reduced in africa soon wink
This helps me stand even more firm about my independence grin but i am yet to see any men here who prefer a house wife or women that prefer being a house wife.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by jaybee3(m): 1:09pm On Apr 20, 2011
I'm all for a working wife tongue
I just can't see how i'm gonna be able to respect a full housewife
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by ifyalways(f): 1:25pm On Apr 20, 2011
Hausfrau

Me likey and interested in a househusband . . . seen One?Notify me!.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by dayokanu(m): 2:00pm On Apr 20, 2011
ifyalways:

Hausfrau

Me likey and interested in a househusband . . . seen One?Notify me!.

Meeeee

@Topic,

I want my wife to be financially independent
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 2:02pm On Apr 20, 2011
jay bee:

I'm all for a working wife tongue
I just can't see how i'm gonna be able to respect a full housewife

What do u mean not respecting a full housewife? what if she is taking care of your kids and home full time ,doesnt that earn her respect to u? cos its not easy taking care of kids and house chores plus school n doctors visits.

those of you men that want working wives should be ready to share the house chores,school activities,doctors visits 50-50 or i am wrong women ?
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by jaybee3(m): 2:05pm On Apr 20, 2011
Amiga4u:

What do u mean not respecting a full housewife? what if she is taking care of your kids and home full time ,doesnt that earn her respect to u? cos its not easy taking care of kids and house chores plus school n doctors visits.

those of you men that want working wives should be ready to share the house chores,school activities,doctors visits 50-50 or i am wrong women ?
silly excuse to be a housewife. Our kids not just mine so what gives?
Besides, house chores/cooking et al are shared dis days so ain't no need for any lazy bum to prefer housewife duties.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by dady2011(m): 2:08pm On Apr 20, 2011
It depends. If she decides to stay home full time and look after the children, her work is as important (if not more important in raising and influencing the children positively) than the man that work and hardly stay home to spend quality time with the children.

However, unless the man is extremely wealthy/rich materially and can provide a solid financial security, I think it is ok for a woman to also work (if she want to and best if the job is less demanding) to keep her professional skills and trainning current, gain some level of financial security/independence and provide a financial fall back support for her family if anything happens to her husband.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by dayokanu(m): 2:10pm On Apr 20, 2011
Amiga4u:

What do u mean not respecting a full housewife? what if she is taking care of your kids and home full time ,doesnt that earn her respect to u? cos its not easy taking care of kids and house chores plus school n doctors visits.

those of you men that want working wives should be ready to share the house chores,school activities,doctors visits 50-50 or i am wrong women ?

That excuse of being an housewife is illogical. What does she do when the kids are in school? Between 7am and 3pm? What is at home that needs to be taken care of for 8hrs everyday? which laundry, plates and cleaning needs 8hrs a day

Unless the household has 100ppl living in it and she has 150plates and clothes to wash with her hand per day or na everyday she dey go market?.

BTW nowadays what are dishwashers and laundry for? Let her leave the plates and clothes, when I come back from work I would load them into the dish washer and washing machine. What other excuse does she want to make for being a bum sitting at home?
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Nobody: 2:12pm On Apr 20, 2011
I hate staying at home and doing nothing. Even on my days off sef na war to just sit at home  undecided And like I said before, the fact that I am working should not even make a man to begin to think that he can ''take'' from my account whenever he likes. My money is mine. So you better work hard and provide for me.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by dayokanu(m): 2:13pm On Apr 20, 2011
dady2011:

It depends. If she decides to stay home full time and look after the children, her work is as important (if not more important in raising and influencing the children positively) than the man that work and hardly stay home to spend quality time with the children.

Are the children home schooled or what looking after is she doing when the kids are in school?

Most of us were raised by mothers who work 8am to 3pm and still performed their duties at home. So whats the excuse unless you are saying the women of nowadays are not as strong as those of yesteryears
jennykadry:

I hate staying at home and doing nothing. Even on my days off sef na war to just sit at home  undecided And like I said before, the fact that I am working should not even make a man to begin to think that he can ''take'' from my account whenever he likes. My money is mine. So you better work hard and provide for me.

Why should he provide for you when you can provide for yourself? Your money provides for you, his money provides for him, Household provision 50-50. Simple.
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 2:13pm On Apr 20, 2011
dady2011:

It depends. If she decides to stay home full time and look after the children, her work is as important (if not more important in raising and influencing the children positively) than the man that work and hardly stay home to spend quality time with the children.

However, unless the man is extremely wealthy/rich materially and can provide a solid financial security, I think it is ok for a woman to also work (if she want to and best if the job is less demanding) to keep her professional skills and trainning current, gain some level of financial security/independence and provide a financial fall back support for her family if anything happens to her husband.



abeg tell them,infact teach them , u will make a good husband and father if your a man or vice versa if your a woman as some people dont reason this way grin
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by dayokanu(m): 2:16pm On Apr 20, 2011
Amiga4u:

abeg tell them,infact teach them , u will make a good husband and father if your a man or vice versa if your a woman as some people dont reason this way grin

Simply tell us you prefer to stay at home and monitor the daily activities of Genevieve and Ramsey Noah on Africa Magic.

I wonder why someone who bother to get an education, pay to get a Bachelors would now want to sit at home

You could have used the money you spent getting an education for something better
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 2:20pm On Apr 20, 2011
jennykadry:

I hate staying at home and doing nothing. Even on my days off sef na war to just sit at home  undecided And like I said before, the fact that I am working should not even make a man to begin to think that he can ''take'' from my account whenever he likes. My money is mine. So you better work hard and provide for me.

u don kill me with laugh grin cos im almost like u though smiley my hubby takes care of all bills but i take care of my basic needs but still see my money as ours not just mine even though i hardly spend it.

my hubby always tells me that he want me to be independent but still dependent of him grin and i think thats so sweet. wink
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by jaybee3(m): 2:22pm On Apr 20, 2011
I ask what's the pride in having and always asking for more?
Not like he ain't providing roof over your head already.

hmmmmmm maybe marriage is just not for me afterall angry angry angry
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Nobody: 2:25pm On Apr 20, 2011
Dayo I have told you to use that your 50-50 on feminists. I am not for 50-50. I grew up in a family where my dad catered for everybody's needs. I need a man and not some dude that reckons my money is enough to pay off a mortgage. I work, I get paid, I show you my paycheck, do not expect me to give you out of ''duty'' I give when I want to and not because I have to.

When I wanna eat out I pinch 30 dolars from his wallet for lunch meal. If I want something and I know he can afford without shaking I lay my demand. Infact CC has actually made me want a new car myself now and I am definitely not spending a dime on it, ok well I can pay for the insurance or registration when it expires cool

If you love me and wanna marry me then you better take care of me. My body is not good for sex alone neither is it only a baby making machine, my skin needs to me nourished daily with good tidings. You phock me, I phock you well(diff styles)to provide for me cool grin cheesy
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 2:25pm On Apr 20, 2011
dayokanu:

Simply tell us you prefer to stay at home and monitor the daily activities of Genevieve and Ramsey Noah on Africa Magic.

I wonder why someone who bother to get an education, pay to get a Bachelors would now want to sit at home

You could have used the money you spent getting an education for something better

i dey work oo wink  infact i work and still take care of our new born and house chores ,i have been a house wife before and dont want to repeat that again but im just curious what men think about working wife and house wife. wink
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Nobody: 2:31pm On Apr 20, 2011
jay bee:

I ask what's the pride in having and always asking for more?
Not like he ain't providing roof over your head already.

hmmmmmm maybe marriage is just not for me afterall angry angry angry

Why you dey vex? Infact the most annoying thing is when guys sleep with prostitutes why don't you tell her you want 50-50? shag eachother and go. Nope you don't, alot of you are willing to spend your monthly pay check on her arse and at the same time book for hotel room, buy condom, wear expensive bowtie and nice moccasin. Untop of the whole thing you buy champagne. Tell me is all the money not enough to buy me a new gaddamn car angry angry angry
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 2:33pm On Apr 20, 2011
jennykadry:

Dayo I have told you to use that your 50-50 on feminists. I am not for 50-50. I grew up in a family where my dad catered for everybody's needs. I need a man and not some dude that reckons my money is enough to pay off a mortgage. I work, I get paid, I show you my paycheck, do not expect me to give you out of ''duty'' I give when I want to and not because I have to.

When I wanna eat out I pinch 30 dolars from his wallet for lunch meal. If I want something and I know he can afford without shaking I lay my demand. Infact CC has actually made me want a new car myself now and I am definitely not spending a dime on it, ok well I can pay for the insurance or registration when it expires cool

If you love me and wanna marry me then you better take care of me. My body is not good for sex alone neither is it only a baby making machine, my skin needs to me nourished daily with good tidings. You phock me, I phock you well(diff styles)to provide for me cool grin cheesy

i think we both have the same view in marriage, as its important to me that my hubby can fullfill my basic needs even if i decide not to work and not having to struggle on those important basic needs of a woman,kids n home.

I work not cos i have to but cos i want to,30-70 is the best balance 30% for the woman and 70% for the man . grin
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Nobody: 2:35pm On Apr 20, 2011
Amiga4u:

I work not cos i have to but cos i want to,30-70 is the best balance 30% for the woman and 70% for the man . grin

You are toooooo generous. It is a 90-10 for me. 90 for the men and 10 for me. Hey he better not complain lest I change it 92-8 grin grin grin grin
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by Amiga4u(f): 2:37pm On Apr 20, 2011
jay bee:

I ask what's the pride in having and always asking for more?
Not like he ain't providing roof over your head already.

hmmmmmm maybe marriage is just not for me afterall angry angry angry

ewoo no vex abeg but i will advance u that if ur not financially stable enough to provide basic needs to ur wife n kids  lipsrsealed lipsrsealed pls dont marriage oo
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by jaybee3(m): 2:37pm On Apr 20, 2011
Love peddler => Short term business proposition
Wife = > long term business proposition
Anything common? Probably yes cos it's all a business deal at the end of the day so no party should cheat either. Equality rules mehn.

How can you even expect a woman that doesn't contribute to open her mouth and fight for equality?
God knows I'd be a dictator if my wife prefers to look pretty for herself instead of contributing financially or what-not to the family.

I am not a man that demands standards from a wife but i wholeheartedly support equality.
Infact i champion it sef
Re: Married Men ,how Many Of You Would Want A Working Wife ? by spikedcylinder: 2:39pm On Apr 20, 2011
jennykadry:

Dayo I have told you to use that your 50-50 on feminists. I am not for 50-50. I grew up in a family where my dad catered for everybody's needs. I need a man and not some dude that reckons my money is enough to pay off a mortgage. I work, I get paid, I show you my paycheck, do not expect me to give you out of ''duty'' I give when I want to and not because I have to.

When I wanna eat out I pinch 30 dolars from his wallet for lunch meal. If I want something and I know he can afford without shaking I lay my demand. Infact CC has actually made me want a new car myself now and I am definitely not spending a dime on it, ok well I can pay for the insurance or registration when it expires cool

If you love me and wanna marry me then you better take care of me. My body is not good for sex alone neither is it only a baby making machine, my skin needs to me nourished daily with good tidings. You phock me, I phock you well(diff styles)to provide for me cool grin cheesy


Ahahahahahahaha! Agbaya ni e! grin grin grin grin cheesy I can't stop laughing. cheesy

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