https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/my-wife-offered-to-loan-me-money-when-i-was-having-financial-trouble-now-i-make-six-figures-%e2%80%94-and-she-refuses-to-pay-any-bills/ar-BB1fCZK7?li=BBnb7Kz


THE MONEYIST

Dear Quentin,

I’m wondering if I am paranoid, or if I have reason to feel used.

My wife and I have two kids and own a home. We have had rocky moments throughout our marriage, but we are hanging in there. In 2019, I took a sales job thinking it would lead to more pay. I was wrong. It took a while for me to get my sales up and running, along with my commissions.

I had to start dipping into my savings to pay my part of the bills, which is usually a little more than half of what we spend. My wife, coincidentally, started making lots more money with her job, and made more than I did during 2019. It was about 60/40.

She knew I was short and dipping into my savings, and offered to “loan” me money to pay back. I declined her offer and chose to borrow money from my company, which they called a “draw.” I was shocked and upset that she was treating our marriage like a business transaction.

‘She claims she shouldn’t have to pay any bills because she is now home with the kids during COVID, and I make six figures.’ —
Fast forward to 2020: Fortunes changed. She received a $200,000 inheritance, plus $40,000 from her job as severance after she was let go in March. The difficult sales job I had taken actually led to me landing a new job paying me well over six figures.

As I started my new job and my wife received her money, she used part of her $200,000 inheritance to go on a spending spree: a $50,000 truck and a $20,000 camping trailer. Amazon packages arrive every other day, and the rest of the money is tucked in a savings account.

Here’s the thing. She won’t pay any bills anymore. She says she doesn’t have income coming in, except $3,200 from unemployment. She claims she shouldn’t have to pay any bills because she is now home with the kids during COVID, and I make six figures.

She also insists on “budgeting,” so she can account for every dollar I spend and make sure I put as much extra money after bills into our mortgage to pay the house off quicker. This feels like I’m being hustled, but I can’t force her to pay bills.

Am I a sucker?


Yes you are a sucker
Yes you are being used--- is there a better word that being "used"
She think you are a dumb ass too
She think she put the pussy on you so she call the shot
Please go away------Oh boy all your writing was nonsense
You should have file for divorce
Go pay child support
Let her use her finger's to Bleep herself
You come there to tell us you are being used by your wife
You have a choice to make --keep on going with your foolishness'
or Stop the foolishness

Your money na my money

Yes you are a sucker
Yes you are being used--- is there a better word that being "used"
She think you are a dumb ass too
She think she put the pussy on you so she call the shot
Please go away------Oh boy all your writing was nonsense
You should have file for divorce
Go pay child support
Let her use her finger's to Bleep herself
You come there to tell us you are being used by your wife
You have a choice to make --keep on going with your foolishness'
or Stop the foolishness


Go see a lawyer see what your child support will be monthly--- be a man
She think she can control you because you will be scared to pay child support
Stand up to that dumb BI sorry I used the word BI
She is acting like one