Nwoba Chika Nwoba
I want to say this for the repeated time: if your hand is not strong, don't place them on the steering of the vehicle of marriage. Our fathers and forebears did it and the outcome is what so many are suffering from today. In the event that you should, please, don't give birth to many children. You mustn't award namesakes to everyone known to you. Many people consider this and go on to reproduce children like documents. Never you listen to people who say you don't marry with money. If you don't marry a woman with money, is it palm fronds that you'll use in paying her bride price, dowry, build house and feed the family? Or are you going to stay with her in the forest and feed her with Indian bamboo leaves?

I don't know what a 25 year old boy who has nothing to his name is looking for in marriage.Something that comes with enormous challenges and responsibilities. The notion that one wants to grow together with his children has impoverished many perpetually. It's better to marry late and have a happy home than to marry early and have a home that'll produce abandoned children. Nobody is owing you a debt of assistance. You didn't start a business for that person, moreover if that person is not your father or mother. The only stingy person is the one you are expecting undue assistance from. I am moreover passing this message to the people of my own part of the world. Natural misdemeanor is different from the misfortune one attracts to self.

It's not bad to have three children one will be able to cater for. Shocking is the reality that it's the acutely poor amongst us that find interest in marrying a bevy of women and giving birth to a deluge of children. Most rich men who have the resources to take care of a community of children instead give birth to three or five. In the event that a rich man marries many women and give birth to a colony of children, when he dies the family is thrown into a raging inferno of crisis. Only an infinitesimal number can have their families sustained after exit to the great beyond.

Everyone should preach this message. We don't have government in Nigeria in case anyone will be thinking that government is there to look their direction. Gone, days training of women was a futile adventure. Give the best of trainings to your female children. It's painful to have one's sister or daughter still depending on her parents to feed while in her matrimonial home. A well-taken-care -of daughter will not be greeted by this kind of circumstance, unless there's an unforeseen disaster.
It's not bad to marry at 35 as a man. It's not bad as well marrying at 25 if the grease with which to lubricate the union is there. It's not all about money anyway; the connubial maturity has to be there. It'll not be bad after taking care your few children you extend a hand of assistance to victims of disasters. But if you have a litany of children, before you'll be able to give them care, you have broken down.

Many first sons in families cannot feed own families today because of the liability of large number of children their parents left behind. I don't know what a man who gives birth to 10 to 30 children or above is looking for in this world. What manner of farmer is he? Little time he's dead; the first child if only he has something doing faces the excruciating responsibility of raising the others. When the frustration is high, innocent uncles are alleged to have hands in the misfortune of the brothers' children brought into the world to suffer. No child deserves to suffer too much. Stop marrying and giving birth indiscriminately. You are not doing the children any good, neither are you helping the society.

NCN.

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There's more to marriage than materialism.

LordIsaac:
There's more to marriage than materialism.

Can you explain more on this?

A 25years old is not a boy please.

edogu:

Can you explain more on this?

Yes please. Your article places undue emphasis on finance. Although it is necessary for BOTH parties to be able to take care of themselves, but true marriage is based on love.... And with true love, every other thing will fall into place.

edogu:

Can you explain more on this?

Plus, there are many people today who went into marriage with "strong" arms and the "strongness" only led them to divorce lawyers in the end. And research has it that marriages of people of the lower class last longer than those of the upper class. So, we wouldn't say "strong hand" is the operating variable for the success of a marriage.

LordIsaac:

Yes please. Your article places undue emphasis on finance. Although it is necessary for BOTH parties to be able to take care of themselves, but true marriage is based on love.... And with true love, every other thing will fall into place.

But it was clearly stated in the article when the author said "It's not bad to marry at 35 as a man. It's not bad as well marrying at 25 if the grease with which to lubricate the union is there. It's not all about money anyway; the connubial maturity has to be there. It'll not be bad after taking care your few children you extend a hand of assistance to victims of disasters. But if you have a litany of children, before you'll be able to give them care, you have broken down".