9jakool:


So, the same God that cares about the plights of orphans and children with no homes doesn't want people to adopt?

People adopt children all the time in Nigeria so I don't know what you are talking about. Thinking like this just adds to the stigma that infertile people face.

I never said God did not want people to adopt.
Believe me when I say Nigerians are not open to adoption. Even the barrens Nigerians are looking unto God to give them children. I know what I am talking about.

Here is my previous answer
Nigerians are the most spiritually Godly believing nation on earth, so many of those who are in possition to adopt will seek help from God.

Likewise: Nigerians don't adopt because they dont buy the idea of adoption but there are still some who still do adopt not because of barreness but they do it for reasons known to them

Don't forget that the person who opens this thread is very much concern that Nigerians are not open to adoption. Why?

I repeat: Nigerians don't adopt because no one want to waste their effort on something that's not theirs

I repeat again: Nigerians don't adopt because they do not care

I repeat once more: The barrens Nigerians don't adopt because they believe in God. Even if their faith in God failed them, they will die childless

There are some who still go out to adopt and that is good thing.

PrimadonnaO:


Same reason many Nigerians don't bother about any form of insurance also.

Majority of Nigerians dont even know what they call insurance

Believe me when I say Nigerians are not open to adoption. Even the barrens Nigerians are looking unto God to give them children. I know what I am talking about.

Here is my previous answer
Nigerians are the most spiritually Godly believing nation on earth, so many of those barren women/men, who are in possition to adopt will seek help from God.

Likewise: Nigerians don't adopt because they dont buy the idea of adoption but there are still some who still do adopt not because of barreness but they do it for reasons known to them

I repeat: Nigerians don't adopt because no one want to waste their effort on something that's not theirs

I repeat again: Nigerians don't adopt because they do not care

I repeat once more: The barrens Nigerians don't adopt because they believe in God. Even if their trust in God failed them, they will die childless

There are some who still go out to adopt which is ok. But as for me, I can never adopt because that child can betray me and left me with pain and regret

I cant even marry a single mother.

PrimadonnaO:
Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?

Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?

Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.

But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?

I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?

Is it expensive, financially?

Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?

The problem are the men not the women

When a man knows he is impotent he hides it and still believe he can pregnant a woman and time will be passing

When the woman brings up the issue of adoption because of pride and ego he will turn it down

When he is now getting old he will marry a girl who already got pregnant and the family are now looking for where to push her into

By then it will be late for the woman to become pregnant and at last she doesn't have her own baby while the second wife will keep going out to get pregnant and impose it on the man of which his family knows but will keep blind eyes

But once a women suspects the fault is from her, she will try her best medically and if nothing comes out, she will suggest adopting a child most times the man turns it down because he can't imagine adopting a child when he has a functional dick

To me there is nothing wrong in adopting because you are giving life to an innocent child who deserves to live

Even God doesn't discriminate

Introducing bastard to the family, okay ooo!

bcs blood is thicker than water!bcs its unafrican!!

UNNECESSARY INCONVENCIENCES when one can biologically produced kids of ones own.

PrimadonnaO:
Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?

Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?

Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.

But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?

I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?

Is it expensive, financially?

Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?

I think part of the answer to your question here is found in your desire to have one child of your own as you explained here too.

We agree on the benefits of adopting a child but you still have the desire to have yours, which is totally fine. As someone with AS genotype, I've always wondered why I have to worry about a potential spouse's genotype when we could adopt all the way but I do understand that idea is not popular among many.

At the end, to a large extent, I think we're products of our cultures and the beliefs around us, regardless of how much we try to make ourselves believe we are unique and totally think for ourselves.

averageguy:


I think part of the answer to your question here is found in your desire to have one child of your own as you explained here too.

We agree on the benefits of adopting a child but you still have the desire to have yours, which is totally fine. As someone with AS genotype, I've always wondered why I have to worry about a potential spouse's genotype when we could adopt all the way but I do understand that idea is not popular among many.

At the end, to a large extent, I think we're products of our cultures and the beliefs around us, regardless of how much we try to make ourselves believe we are unique and totally think for ourselves.

Very true.

in Nigeria and Africa as whole we descrimnate alot, after 3yrs as marrieds why not adopt?! no need wasting time be of help to someone that will end up as yours! do it in a proper way by adopting not back door stealing, kidnapping it does not cost much even by government!

BE like I go give joy belle make we born put am for adoption,, this buhari time no be here.....make I call am first

Thanks to everyone who has contributed insightfully to this thread, I hope I didn't come too late to this honorable party...

So, this same thought has been on my head for a while and it was the question (why is adoption not common in Nigeria) that I typed on google that led me here.

First of all, I have taken time to generally study statistics and I can boldly say that, apart from the general economic and political problems that we have in Nigeria, we may not do well as a people because overpopulation will smother us beyond resuscitation.
China and India are learning their lesson the hard way and Nigeria is just a hair-diameter close to the brink of worse economic jeopardy, adding the fact that Nigeria is not a producing country like China (because this is part of what is helping them).

With our present population, we have fire in our bossom already, because according to various statistical sources, Nigeria has the highest homeless population in the whole world. (a whooping 13% of our country, more than 24M people literally liter streets)
Look at the present rate of unemployment...
Look at poverty level...
Look at crime rate...

Now, according to statistics again, by 2050, our population will double, meaning that people between 0 and 40 will make up at least 60% to 70% of our national population... The implication is that if nothing is done to curb this mayhem called overpopulation, no matter who become president, we will not survive what is to come.
If you look at all these stats and you still think that giving birth to 3 or 4 children is a form of achievement, please, think again!!!
If 4 children is your target, have one or two biologically (to prove to village people that they didn't succeed) and then adopt one or two more. Again, I can't tell you what to do since we don't share the same ideology. But, honestly, there are beautiful children out there who have the capacity to succeed, provided they have a nice meal each day, a loving family to live with and nothing-out-of-the-ordinary kind of education.
But our cultural and religious sentiments will not allow us see it!

Now, am I trying to heap the blame of our socioeconomic condition on people who believe that one of the things they are on earth to do is to populate the earth?
Absolutely not!
My whole point is that until we start seeing things from the broader perspective, rather than having a very myopic view of life, we will not get better as a people.

I challenge everyone to go and look at the population growth rate of countries that we call advanced, check when they became a country and now compare it with our 62-year old country. If we are not sitting on a time bomb, I wonder what else this is called.

NB: I am fully Yoruba, in case you want to cast aspersion.