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Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by OfeAchi: 4:47pm On May 01
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! cry cry Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by DaddyRochie1642(f): 4:52pm On May 01
Oga this your case is too strong

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Bola146(f): 4:52pm On May 01
Hummmm... Thinking she is the source is too bad! Did she begged you to marry her? Didn't you pray or see it before you married her? You better face your wahala squarely. Fast and pray together, let the love of God dwell in your thinking

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Righteousness2(m): 4:55pm On May 01
There are certain people that are Designed to take you to your Next level!( Not Pmb/Apc next level oo). If you don't come in contact with him/her , you will keep operating in Ordinary level.

I think your wife is one of such ,Designed to take you to ur Next level.
Your wife carries Favor! Make use of what she carries and Be happy.
She is your Deborah!

As long as she is not into any form of Diabolical stuffs! Guy Be Happy and Enjoy the Favor she carries.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by HONESTFACT101(m): 4:56pm On May 01
if your mind solely believes that the woman in your life brings you much luck to the extent of warning you when a business is bound to miscarry then I have one question for you.

Why are you bound on threading the paths of the unknown when what you seek is already before youundecided

I know it may make you feel less manly but it doesn't seem like she is the one bringing the business ideas and neither does she disapprove all your business plans......signing out

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Mutemenot(m): 4:57pm On May 01
If this is a true story, then she should be the one rejecting you for your ignorance ...

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Freestainworld(m): 4:58pm On May 01
fr the way you talk, you are a kind of person that is too full of himself, so your wife advising you is now a crime, those things that she advised you on, was it not this things that turn bad against you? you will never succeed in putting her in any emotional pains you are are planning, instead you will keep wallowing in disaster until you learn to behave like man, real men listen to their wives good advice, that is why they are your companion.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by id2019(m): 4:59pm On May 01
This is strong

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Almaigaa: 4:59pm On May 01
Hmmm, I'm even confused now.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Ynix: 4:59pm On May 01
I don't think she is, I have that type of Gift too but I am not ogbanje. It is just a gift to know the best decision for the future

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by mikeywise(m): 5:00pm On May 01
Seriously I think something is wrong with you, You are too blind to see what God has done for you.

I wish you what you wish yourself. Safe journey on your relocation.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by HONESTFACT101(m): 5:04pm On May 01
Ynix:
I don't think she is, I have that type of Gift too but I am not ogbanje. It is just a gift to know the best decision for the future
Abeg you fit predict if naija go bettergrin......signing out

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by DDDEnterprises: 5:06pm On May 01
Perhaps, there's nothing spiritual about this. Your wife simply has more wisdom than you to make the right choices and all what she was saying were decisions founded on the right path but you rejected them and the consequences dawned upon you.

..........
By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg. Thanks.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by BABYharder: 5:07pm On May 01
Op interestingly your good luck is your problem.


Why life no balance? angry

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Mariangeles: 5:11pm On May 01
From your story, your wife should be one leaving you and not you her.
It seems you're bad decision maker, and to make matters worse, you never listen. (Imagine a married man co-renting an apartment with a friend undecided)
The solution to your problems lie with you.
Just make up your mind to always work together with your wife as a team, then you'll see that things will begin to fall into pleasant places for you.
God is not man that He should lie.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by madridguy(m): 5:14pm On May 01
I don't see any ogbanje in her through your narration she's just a high thinker.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by poshestmina(f): 5:21pm On May 01
Since she's the Ogbanje and you are the OgbanJesus!!!
How about a joint business

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by olamide0147: 5:21pm On May 01
OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:
I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)
Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.
I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend? A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).
Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.
Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! cry cry Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.
I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?
Abeg pm me her number as u Don tire for her matter make I just take am from where u stop probably by the time they deport u and ur ex wife soon to be go Don build good life, why are guys so stupid you found a woman that leading u to the right path but u wan dey claim alpha that your stupidity kill u dereee

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Ynix: 5:26pm On May 01
HONESTFACT101:

Abeg you fit predict if naija go bettergrin......signing out
not now, not tomorrow or next

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Winneygirl(f): 5:27pm On May 01
I think you are the ogbanje.
All your bad decisions that end in you losing money affects her because that is less income to run the household.
You want to take a loan to buy a car. She said instead of taking a loan, save for a car for a year or two and buy the car. This is what you term bad advice.
You must be an ogbanje.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by SportsHD: 5:29pm On May 01
Mutemenot:
...Investing in crypto, etc 're useless decisions
disembark from that vertical cappins

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by MEGA4BILLION(m): 5:41pm On May 01
You are stubborn for no reason. TWO GOOD HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Amaso99(m): 5:42pm On May 01
SportsHD:

disembark from that vertical cappins
Obembe wida nah

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by SportsHD: 5:43pm On May 01
Amaso99:
Obembe wida nah
wu goes yu,

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Amaso99(m): 5:49pm On May 01
SportsHD:

wu goes yu,
wu goes me in public space with bsts everywhere, saily on

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by Stevenbright(m): 5:49pm On May 01
Read chapter 11 of "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill" and you will see where your problem is coming from. You can as well top it up with chapter 10 of the same book.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by EJanni(f): 5:51pm On May 01
Your problem is that you have this African men mentality that a woman is not supposed to tell a man what to do.

Sometimes I wonder what men want from women.

@op Live the innocent woman alone your bad decisions are affecting her life.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by OfeAchi: 5:57pm On May 01
Bola146:
Hummmm... Thinking she is the source is too bad! Did she begged you to marry her? Didn't you pray or see it before you married her? You better face your wahala squarely. Fast and pray together, let the love of God dwell in your thinking
The moment I prayed about her, I began to have doubts in me on why I shouldn't marry her. Besides a minister friend of mine told me that I'm not supposed to pray to God for a wife since I'm not a pastor/minister. He says we simply make our choice of wife and God blesses the marriage.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by JovialJune(f): 6:00pm On May 01
So it is actually an ego problem, that is why you're intentionally making bad decisions just to prove to your dull self that you're wise when you're actually foolish, and that taking decisions from your wife is wrong abi? I pray your next decision will lead only you to your doom, not your wife, nonsense.

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by OfeAchi: 6:01pm On May 01
HONESTFACT101:
if your mind solely believes that the woman in your life brings you much luck to the extent of warning you when a business is bound to miscarry then I have one question for you.

Why are you bound on threading the paths of the unknown when what you seek is already before youundecided

I know it may make you feel less manly but it doesn't seem like she is the one bringing the business ideas and neither does she disapprove all your business plans......signing out
A man must be in control of his life!
Before I found her, I was doing ok with my life.
She even suspects some of our neighbours as being diabolical and thus rejects any gifts/money from them. Even rejected money and drinks from them during my daughter's birthday!
Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by JovialJune(f): 6:04pm On May 01
OfeAchi:

The moment I prayed about her, I began to have doubts in me on why I shouldn't marry her. Besides a minister friend of mine told me that I'm not supposed to pray to God for a wife since I'm not a pastor/minister. He says we simply make our choice of wife and God blesses the marriage.


Which kain advice be this tori oloun undecided

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Re: Help! I Want To Leave My Wife by OfeAchi: 6:04pm On May 01
Mutemenot:
If this is a true story, then she should be the one rejecting you for your ignorance ...Investing in crypto, renting apartment with friend etc 're useless decisions
A friend of mine invested crypto same period and made X100 of his investment. He's a millionaire now. Besides, before I met her I lived in a shared apartment with friends.

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