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High Cost Of Marriage Ceremonies In Ogoniland And It’s Consequences by Ctorch: 7:41am On May 04, 2021
So it’s becoming worrisome the manner at which Bride Price for our ladies is increasing such that young men are finding it difficult to marry because of the cost and unnecessary attachments in marriage list in Ogoniland.

I recently embarked on a mini research on the cost of Bride price in Ogoniland and discovered that, the amount charged by parents isn’t only suspicious but, also very alarming and calls for concern.

In times past, marriage wasn’t like it is today. It was based on “mutual understanding” between the parents of the groom and bride. One can recall how most of our fathers got married with little cash available provided you have the strength and ability to keep a woman as wife and cater for the children.

You will noticed our fathers married at the tender age of 19-25 years and by the time they got to 40 years, they are done with children. Some even married many wives without stress.

All of us are aware that, marriage wasn’t for sale and as such, a woman can decide to divorce and even pay back the dowries paid on her head though, it required some traditional rituals known as “Aa be dam” or “Le a maa bu”(A ritual performed by women to return back to their family members safely).

Now, take a critical look at the situation today where negotiations for marriage is taken as an opportunity to make money.
You see all the elders and uncles who never bought a pen or pant for the girl coming to claim “Korkoi pee” and “Akopee pee”.


They will add salt and pepper and by the time you’re done, you will be left with nothing to even start life with your new wife. One is wondering about the contents of marriage list these days in our local communities. Someone whispered to me that some families now add phones, lady bikes and sometimes foam inside marriage list.

I know some people will still come here to argue against the fact that today, a young man of 30-35 years of age is yet to marry and if you ask him, he will tell you “bros, no cash(Kpughi naa le)”.

How much that is supposed to be paid wouldn’t have been determined by parents alone because some parents are greedy and this is also affecting the ladies.

I think it’s high time the Ogoni Council of Chiefs and Elders sat over this or expect more bachelors and spinsters in our society and this aggravates crime.

Recently, the Okpata people did their own and now, with little cash you can marry.

If you go to some parts of the world where people are reasonable, you will find out that with N50,000, marriage is completed no matter the degree the lady acquired.

What happened to our people (Ogoni) that bride price is now on the increase?

The degree of crimes may also reduce if some people get married and turn from evil because marriage can change the mindsets of young people.

Think Ogoni!


Nwibakpo Golden

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Re: High Cost Of Marriage Ceremonies In Ogoniland And It’s Consequences by Edimakan(m): 8:47am On May 04, 2021
angry sad
Re: High Cost Of Marriage Ceremonies In Ogoniland And It’s Consequences by Casham: 10:00am On May 04, 2021
True talk. In fact, for me, this 'brideprice' of a thing should even be stopped completely. We are always quick to shout 'tradition', 'culture' when it comes to such stuff but there is nothing 'traditional' about us. We still mess anyhow before marriage. Men are been exploited in the name of 'culture'. You should only pay for what you are buying; our ladies are not for sale. Marriage is a mutual arrangement. Besides, our ladies are now shouting "EQUALITY!" So both parties should contribute to build the new home.
Re: High Cost Of Marriage Ceremonies In Ogoniland And It’s Consequences by Illuminatiship(m): 10:12am On May 04, 2021
ok
Re: High Cost Of Marriage Ceremonies In Ogoniland And It’s Consequences by helinues: 10:14am On May 04, 2021
That's really worrisome
Re: High Cost Of Marriage Ceremonies In Ogoniland And It’s Consequences by budusky05(m): 11:59am On May 04, 2021
Ungreatful people

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