Hello everyone,

Something happened today, that got me really thinking...all of a sudden, my kid did something really terrible today that i wanted to spank him a little bit but i remember say na overseas i dey lol

Nigerians in diaspora definitely do pass through these tough times with their kids because u cant even touch a kid abroad even though we were brought up in very strict disciplinary settings in 9ja...

Put simply "u spare the rod and u spoil the child"

I would like to know how other Nigerians in diaspora fare in this aspect and how u handle your kids cases most times abroad...

In foreign movies we normally see parents control their children by telling them that they are grounded for a period as a punishment . Grounded could be denying they of some the like doing or playing with.

Bvlgari:
Hello everyone,

Something happened today, that got me really thinking...all of a sudden, my kid did something really terrible today that i wanted to spank him a little bit but i remember say na overseas i dey lol

Nigerians in diaspora definitely do pass through these tough times with their kids because u cant even touch a kid abroad even though we were brought up in very strict disciplinary settings in 9ja...

Put simply "u spare the rod and u spoil the child"

I would like to know how other Nigerians in diaspora fare in this aspect and how u handle your kids cases most times abroad...

kid= baby goat

I believe when you study psychology you will understand your child(NOT KID) better.

For example, CUTTING OFF A PROMISE OR A PLEASURE POINT for your children because of a bad behavior will help them learn consequences.

Giving them extra chores as punishment will also help them learn.

Detention too, locking them up in a room with no internet device, will simulate the prison experience for them and correct their folly.

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Bvlgari:
Hello everyone,

Something happened today, that got me really thinking...all of a sudden, my kid did something really terrible today that i wanted to spank him a little bit but i remember say na overseas i dey lol

Nigerians in diaspora definitely do pass through these tough times with their kids because u cant even touch a kid abroad even though we were brought up in very strict disciplinary settings in 9ja...

Put simply "u spare the rod and u spoil the child"

I would like to know how other Nigerians in diaspora fare in this aspect and how u handle your kids cases most times abroad...

Oga na you no wan Beat jare.....Full blooded Black Americans do get flogged by their Parents yet NYPD no show. my sis teaches her kids Yoruba and punish/flog them if they do wrong yet nothing happened neither was there anytime she was questioned by their cops. Just Beat and don't make it a brutalising one. Simple

In North America, you can spank just make sure there are no marks on the body. Most importantly, oga, show them love and flog in love when necessary but biko, no over do ooo.

Overall, I think understanding each child is the necessary thing needed in raising and disciplining a child.

Kandeed:


Oga na you no wan Beat jare.....Full blooded Black Americans do get flogged by their Parents yet NYPD no show. my sis teaches her kids Yoruba and punish/flog them if they do wrong yet nothing happened neither was there anytime she was questioned by their cops. Just Beat and don't make it a brutalising one. Simple

Guy...hmnnn,the day when police go show, your sister no go believe am...e fit be neighbor sef or teacher for school when go report her

GboyegaD:
In North America, you can spank just make sure there are no marks on the body. Most importantly, oga, show them love and flog in love when necessary but biko, no over do ooo.

Overall, I think understanding each child is the necessary thing needed in raising and disciplining a child.

I totally get it...u have to understand your child as each child has his or her own character

tripplephi:


kid= baby goat

I believe when you study psychology you will understand your child(NOT KID) better.

For example, CUTTING OFF A PROMISE OR A PLEASURE POINT for your children because of a bad behavior will help them learn consequences.

Giving them extra chores as punishment will also help them learn.

Detention too, locking them up in a room with no internet device, will simulate the prison experience for them and correct their folly.

My brother its easier said than done...infact, i can state cartegorically that when u cut off those stuffs u are also putting them through thinking (indirect depression) and hardship because definitely they are used to those things already

It might work in 9ja but grounding a kid overseas is easier said than done...only in the movies bro

tripplephi:


kid= baby goat

I believe when you study psychology you will understand your child(NOT KID) better.

For example, CUTTING OFF A PROMISE OR A PLEASURE POINT for your children because of a bad behavior will help them learn consequences.

Giving them extra chores as punishment will also help them learn.

Detention too, locking them up in a room with no internet device, will simulate the prison experience for them and correct their folly.

Its not op's fault,they use kid for their younger ones over there

GboyegaD:
In North America, you can spank just make sure there are no marks on the body. Most importantly, oga, show them love and flog in love when necessary but biko, no over do ooo.

Overall, I think understanding each child is the necessary thing needed in raising and disciplining a child.

You really have a way with words man... I have never heard that Oxymoron before

Richy4:


You really have a way with words man... I have never heard that Oxymoron before

It is taking out time to discuss the offense, not flogging the first 2 to 3 attempts, and using the cane to help the child remember.

You could say something like "we have discussed this a few times and you tend to forget. Hopefully, this few strokes will help you remember the consequences of this act when next you want to."

GboyegaD:


It is taking out time to discuss the offense, not flogging the first 2 to 3 attempts, and using the cane to help the child remember.

You could say something like "we have discussed this a few times and you tend to forget. Hopefully, this few strokes will help you remember the consequences of this act when next you want to."

Yo bro the day u even mistakingly give your pikin one single stroke of the cane, u no go believe how your life go change forever because of that

Lovecars501:
Its not op's fault,they use kid for their younger ones over there

Thanks for telling him o...i didnt reply that his "kid" part because for my mind, i say this one no know how far yet as regards overseas

Bvlgari:


Yo bro the day u even mistakingly give your pikin one single stroke of the cane, u no go believe how your life go change forever because of that

What are you saying? I've visited a Nigerian man and in my presence, his wife slapped their last son of about 7years.

I've also seen a Nigerian woman pinch her daughter who was being naughty inside a Target store. The little girl increased her ring tone and as I looked sharply, I caught the woman pinching her. The woman's face as she dey do am like our Nigerian mothers was what gave her away.

Dey there dey follow oyibo dey talk mek your child turn to akata finish.

JeffreyJunior:
What are you saying? I've visited a Nigerian man and in my presence, his wife slapped their last son of about 7years.

I've also seen a Nigerian woman pinch her daughter who was being naughty inside a Target store. The little girl increased her ring tone and as I looked sharply, I caught the woman pinching her. The woman's face as she dey do am like our Nigerian mothers was what gave her away.

Dey there dey follow oyibo dey talk mek your child turn to akata finish.

My brother, all these times u have mentioned are one offs...by that i mean, the parents do this on rare occassions when the kid has really f*cked up and na mostly once

And u know the funniest thing, it could backfire almost immediately....imagine it was the cops who saw when that woman did that to her kid like u saw it, e don be for her be that because u going to be explaining all that to the cops and your reason for doing that...and trust me, dont even say to them that that is how it is done in your country Nigeria...if u too misbehave, dem go carry your kids from you under child protection and even lock your ass up and u aint saying shit lol...forget all this your talk...

Bvlgari:


Yo bro the day u even mistakingly give your pikin one single stroke of the cane, u no go believe how your life go change forever because of that

I don't think so though because he would know why he's getting the strokes.

GboyegaD:


I don't think so though because he would know why he's getting the strokes.

Hmnnn bro...well that is if its in 9ja when the kid knows probably everything, goodies etc even his next meals will be withheld...

Abroad menhh, the pikin no really send and u could tell from his countenance...this era of smart phones and stuffs, plus been born and bred overseas sometimes knowingly and unknowingly enter these kids head...

Dem no see the kind thing when we see growing up for 9ja when even one better konk go reset u back to factory settings hahaha

Bvlgari:


My brother, all these times u have mentioned are one offs...by that i mean, the parents do this on rare occassions when the kid has really f*cked up and na mostly once

And u know the funniest thing, it could backfire almost immediately....imagine it was the cops who saw when that woman did that to her kid like u saw it, e don be for her be that because u going to be explaining all that to the cops and your reason for doing that...and trust me, dont even say to them that that is how it is done in your country Nigeria...if u too misbehave, dem go carry your kids from you under child protection and even lock your ass up and u aint saying shit lol...forget all this your talk...

Bro, tell this to Spanish abuelitas and abuelitos.

Even black grand mommas still whoop the ass of their grandkids and white grandmas spank their grandkids till date.

Policemen will hardly arrest you for whopping the ass of your erring kid except when the ass whopping has abuse written clearly all over it.

I repeat, no let your kid turn to akata. You'll have yourself to blame.

JeffreyJunior:
Bro, tell this to Spanish abuelitas and abuelitos.

Even black grand mommas still whoop the ass of their grandkids and white grandmas spank their grandkids till date.

Policemen will hardly arrest you for whopping the ass of your erring kid except when the ass whopping has abuse written clearly all over it.

I repeat, no let your kid turn to akata. You'll have yourself to blame.

Funny enough i totally get u...but make u sef personally no make mistake hit your pikin and one yeye person when get your time, see u...u go understand better that day

Bvlgari:


Hmnnn bro...well that is if its in 9ja when the kid knows probably everything, goodies etc even his next meals will be withheld...

Abroad menhh, the pikin no really send and u could tell from his countenance...this era of smart phones and stuffs, plus been born and bred overseas sometimes knowingly and unknowingly enter these kids head...

Dem no see the kind thing when we see growing up for 9ja when even one better konk go reset u back to factory settings hahaha

Oga, do not leave them in the hands of fate. Do what you need to do. Ground them when they break rules. Spank when necessary. The society will blame you if you fail.

Are the bolded, you are the one giving them such thoughts in my opinion.

Bvlgari:


Thanks for telling him o...i didnt reply that his "kid" part because for my mind, i say this one no know how far yet as regards overseas

Him never explore countries pass naija

My friend abroad spanks her kids if they err, I was on a video call with her and her daughter was misbehaving, she warned her severally but the girl wasn't listening until she spanked her lightly.. I asked if it is allowed over there, she said it is not allowed but she does it subtly to correct the child.

GboyegaD:


Oga, do not leave them in the hands of fate. Do what you need to do. Ground them when they break rules. Spank when necessary. The society will blame you if you fail.

Are the bolded, you are the one giving them such thoughts in my opinion.

No the society will blame the kid if he or she fails, thats why its called a civilised world out here..its only in 9ja that when your kids fail, they would blame the parents forgetting that probably this child already had the tendency to destroy him or herself no matter what was done to help the kid

And i must confess, u can see the boldness in these overseas nigerian kids eyes that u just think that when they are certain age, u just have to send them to nigeria to learn and have sense for at least 2years then bring them back here again hahaha...

Fortunately for my kid, i dont want a situation whereby he would actually have to pass through all that going to 9ja stuffs...no matter what, my pikin will never suffer the kind suffer when i see for nigeria

Bvlgari:


No the society will blame the kid if he or she fails, thats why its called a civilised world out here..its only in 9ja that when your kids fail, they would blame the parents forgetting that probably this child already had the tendency to destroy him or herself no matter what was done to help the kid

And i must confess, u can see the boldness in these overseas nigerian kids eyes that u just think that when they are certain age, u just have to send them to nigeria to learn and have sense for at least 2years then bring them back here again hahaha...

Fortunately for my kid, i dont want a situation whereby he would actually have to pass through all that going to 9ja stuffs...no matter what, my pikin will never suffer the kind suffer when i see for nigeria

Until the kids gets to that age, the society has a way of rubbing it in.

GboyegaD:


Until the kids gets to that age, the society has a way of rubbing it in.

I am happy u totally understand how it goes now

Bvlgari:


I am happy u totally understand how it goes now

Not sure I get this.

Just give the pikin better konk for head wey go give am shock waves for brain .
My konk better pass beat because my nuckles hard pass coconut.

AmuAwusa:
Just give the pikin better konk for head wey go give am shock waves for brain .
My konk better pass beat because my nuckles hard pass coconut.

Hahaha u know how many times i don reason to konk am but i go rest? Lol...abeg o...make e no go be say because of konk i come go dey get unnecesary wahala with the authorities

If na 9ja, na sinceeeeeee i for don konk am to reset am back to factory settings lmao

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Hahaha u know how many times i don reason to konk am but i go rest? Lol...abeg o...make e no go be say because of konk i come go dey get unnecesary wahala with the authorities

If na 9ja, na sinceeeeeee i for don konk am to reset am back to factory settings lmao[/quo


Konk is more covert.
Carry am enter bathroom give am better konk. When him dey cry finish you open the door, carry ice cream give am.

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Lmao bad guy...something like that sha...

But as long as mark no show and e no complain of headache especially for school then come say na u hit am for head na e headache start because e go still be for u that time

But i totally get u