Jack005:
This guy is a very responsible guy from all what the Op has said.. But I thought we have always been encouraged to date our friends? What else do women want? Nawa

Ginaz:
We have known each other for 6yrs. he’s a very smart , highly intelligent dude, Very playful and deep minded .

We have spent both good and bad times together and he’s the one I run to when I have deep stuff on my mind but I just want him as a friend cos I have never envisioned more than friendship with him.

He came to town , took me on a lovely trip and he confessed his feelings for me which came as a shock to me. He’s a perfect guy , very caring and hardworking. He knows me so well, my imperfections and introverted self. He’s the only morafucker that can call me in the morning , say shittt and just end call without me being angry . Lolz

Since the revelation he hasn’t called me, he said he doesn’t want me in his life for friendship and he needs some space . I am missing him terribly.

I don’t want to lose him, this friendship we have . I’m in a dilemma. He hasn’t been online , I don’t even know what’s going on with him. Should I leave him alone ? Pls advice me.

I don’t want a relationship! This has made things awkward for us , I don’t even know what to do anymore. We haven’t been the same since that day!

Ginaz:


He’s not a cookie type of guy.

Hashabiah:
Send him a good old fashion text message. And stop being anxious about him. Sooner or later he'll pipe down and see reasons with you. But one question : have you ever considered a relationship with him before?

I888:
It does not always work. If you stay longer before opening up, you will end up losing.

The young man needs someone better to be candid. women love mystery... not someone they have "see finish".

Jeon:


And I don't know why I respect and like those who are not the cookies type.


But they're rare nowadays.

bigpicture001:
Foolish girls everywhere.... U cooked down described a perfect companionship with this great guy, but you don't want.. What you want is a money bag who is opposite and who you wit come here and complain about...

Money no go kee girls

Ginaz:


He’s got money , he’s not broke !!!
And Money isn’t the foundation of our friendship!

Ginaz:


Back off and stay off my thread ! Thanks ! *Roll eyes*

Ginaz:


Ok. I just feel thing may not be the way it used to between us.

cayorday89:

You are the confused one here, it's advisable you get married to your best friend due to so many positive reasons and you have known him for quite a while.. My question is what are you scared of, what will go wrong if you both consolidate the friendship with dating having marriage in view? The friendship has been flawless as you stated above taking it to the next level will make you guys to be able to communicate and trash things out in a friendly manner as it's expected in case of any flaws which is inevitable in every relationship, either friendly, communal,workplace, religious or dating and other forms of relationship.
Give him a chance and it's gonna be the best decision of your life with all the qualities you stated about him.
Except probably you are in a relationship with someone else which you already stated is complicated, try disentangle any complications, think through it all and make the decision which is best for you.
NOTE: You are already scared of losing him if you agree to date him which is like 20% lose, but the fact is if you refuse to date him, there is high chance of losing him 100%..

cayorday89:

You are the confused one here, it's advisable you get married to your best friend due to so many positive reasons and you have known him for quite a while.. My question is what are you scared of, what will go wrong if you both consolidate the friendship with dating having marriage in view? The friendship has been flawless as you stated above taking it to the next level will make you guys to be able to communicate and trash things out in a friendly manner as it's expected in case of any flaws which is inevitable in every relationship, either friendly, communal,workplace, religious or dating and other forms of relationship.
Give him a chance and it's gonna be the best decision of your life with all the qualities you stated about him.
Except probably you are in a relationship with someone else which you already stated is complicated, try disentangle any complications, think through it all and make the decision which is best for you.
NOTE: You are already scared of losing him if you agree to date him which is like 20% lose, but the fact is if you refuse to date him, there is high chance of losing him 100%..

I888:
lol.. you really think it works that way for most women?

She won't listen until another girl that knows his worth snatch him off. Those kind guys wey HARD to find.

Ginaz:


Hahahaha, I will tell him about you.

yes do that. Jeon, you can't take him away from me

Jeon:


Ur stress.

Please add gay. But because of Lollittaa I'm straight.

straight ko, bending ni

Jeon:



Don't take my love away please.

Lollittaa

Get lost

Ginaz:


He asked me what I was afraid of and I couldn’t say anything. Truth is, I’ve been to his family house , just normal visit as you would visit a friend till his bro told me I’m only girl he has brought to the house . We have a connection but how do you love with a heart that is unresponsive? Everything takes me time ! I’m not the “I wanna be in a relationship and fall inlove “ kinda person and he knows it. Not that I don’t care about him, fact is I do.

I can like someone today and just get up tomorrow and don’t wanna have anything to do with you. I don’t want to treat him that way. I just feel a lot would change and I would lose this friendship I value so much. Like being free and happy with a human who is deep minded like you. I don’t know how to explain myself again sef , I’m tired! I will let him be, I’d be fine.

First time in 6yrs I would text him and he didn’t message me back . I felt it .

Lollittaa:

Get lost

cayorday89:

And one thing she fails to realize is that, for the guy she is his go to lady, whom he trusts, very free with and someone he can confide in reason why after breaking up with his ex, he must have searched his life and come to the conclusion of dating her rather than looking for what is not lost.. If she had said 3 or 4 negative things about him now, it's a different case but it's all positivity.We could have concluded that he finally wants to reap all that he has sown so far.
@Ginaz,if at all you want to give him a chance it's best you ask pertinent question as to his commitments if it's gonna lead to marriage if you are in for that now or in the near future. You know him best than we all do, it's in your court.

cayorday89:

A very dicey situation, my question now is how do you intend solving your like today and not like tomorrow issue when it comes to dating? As dating will one day become inevitable for you unless you have made up your mind not to tow that path.

Ginaz:


He asked me what I was afraid of and I couldn’t say anything. Truth is, I’ve been to his family house , just normal visit as you would visit a friend till his bro told me I’m only girl he has brought to the house . We have a connection but how do you love with a heart that is unresponsive? Everything takes me time ! I’m not the “I wanna be in a relationship and fall inlove “ kinda person and he knows it. Not that I don’t care about him, fact is I do.

I can like someone today and just get up tomorrow and don’t wanna have anything to do with you. I don’t want to treat him that way. I just feel a lot would change and I would lose this friendship I value so much. Like being free and happy with a human who is deep minded like you. I don’t know how to explain myself again sef , I’m tired! I will let him be, I’d be fine.

First time in 6yrs I would text him and he didn’t message me back . I felt it .

I888:
I get but our worlds are different, I mean men and women. From experience, a girl in a platonic relationship can look so good in your eyes that you would think she would make a good partner, then you push your luck and you will see a stark opposite...

The reason is because women are wired different and this one might not be an exception.

Ginaz:
We have known each other for 6yrs. he’s a very smart , highly intelligent dude, Very playful and deep minded .

We have spent both good and bad times together and he’s the one I run to when I have deep stuff on my mind but I just want him as a friend cos I have never envisioned more than friendship with him.

He came to town , took me on a lovely trip and he confessed his feelings for me which came as a shock to me. He’s a perfect guy , very caring and hardworking. He knows me so well, my imperfections and introverted self. He’s the only morafucker that can call me in the morning , say shittt and just end call without me being angry . Lolz

Since the revelation he hasn’t called me, he said he doesn’t want me in his life for friendship and he needs some space . I am missing him terribly.

I don’t want to lose him, this friendship we have . I’m in a dilemma. He hasn’t been online , I don’t even know what’s going on with him. Should I leave him alone ? Pls advice me.

I don’t want a relationship! This has made things awkward for us , I don’t even know what to do anymore. We haven’t been the same since that day!

Ginaz:


Don’t even know . God knows best .

cayorday89:

Yeah but you know better. Pay him a visit if he is not replying you at least to know his state of mind, very necessary..

Remijuice:


I understand you now.

Ladies like you are good for friendship. They can have your back any day any time. Spend for you.
But the only thing is that no cuchie for you.
For relationship with this type of ladies, just let them be.

They might value friendship with their bestie more than that relationship. You might even think she is cheating on you.

PLEASE guys, always know the type of women that should be left alone.

But know when to swing to nackin, before it gets obvious in the bestie of a thing.
She said there was a time she had the thought of relationship with him but later talked herself out of it. That was the time nigga suppose to strike. But he did not and lost it all.

molybdenum0012:


You got a point. He was supposed to have struck long time ago, but he dull.

I888:
I get but our worlds are different, I mean men and women. From experience, a girl in a platonic relationship can look so good in your eyes that you would think she would make a good partner, then you push your luck and you will see a stark opposite...

The reason is because women are wired different and this one might not be an exception.