Dear All,

Am a christian and my boyfriend is a moslem he wants us to get married and am so scared what do you all think should i accept his proposal am so confused.
He wants me to remain a christain while he practices his religion and we should be happy in the house without problems. i love this guy so much i need you candid opinion everyone i would appreciate a good response. thanks

i dont see the issue

I won't take it so easy.
Check his family and be sure he will not be pressed to ask you to convert, if you don't want it.

No dot marry him,
he will kill u wheñ crisis start in d north.

@ inked_nerd ; The problem is i dont know if to marry him and i love him and the question is what do you think about the issue.
@ MMM ; he isnt from the north he is from EDO STATE AUCHI precisely

Thats what they always say you will be free to practice your religion. If you want to marry  him then you have to  keep an open mind because after the honeymoon phase there is a possibilty that he will pressure you to change. And also you have to discuss with him the religion your children will practice. I f you are okay with your whatever both of you agree on, then u can marry him.

@inked_nerd ; my mum in question believes in ur love and am old enuf to make my decisions and on one hand she is not particularly happy.
as for his family too some of his siblings are christains they are not biased. truth is am particular about my kids that is what is making me go crazy dont know what to do.

You need to ask yourself if you are happy around him. My candid advice is to follow ur heart. I think religious difference should not be a barrier. So far you are happy with him, which is more important he's your man.

You need to ask yourself if you are happy around him. My candid advice is to follow ur heart. I think religious difference should not be a barrier. So far you are happy with him, which is more important he's your man.

Wee .I think deres a portion of the bible dat says do not be unequalled yoked with believers,if ur really born again n not some church goer,I wld counsel u not to accept dis man.u may think dat ur in love but some things in life are better than a man lik ur relationship wit God.ur man destined for u is meant to pray with u and help u in ur walk of faith.if u marry dis man,know dat u ll be drainin urself cos u ll be d man n woman prayin to God.wld have loved to call u but I don't have ur no.mines on my posts,or send a mail to didiwog@gmail.com

Used 2 tink i could but their repeated acts of violence esp up North made me change my mind.Its a resounding NO!

no, because i want my children to be christians.

OP.
I see nothing wrong there . . .At the same time you both need to think well.
I'm muslim and currently dating a christian and so far things are getting cool and will continue to be because we talked it off and agreed on manythings.

I am a yoruba muslim and my wife is a born-again christian ( not a church goer) and I am very sure that we are happier than most couples of same religion. Please note that we muslims are not begging to marry you christians because there is no statistics that shows that christians make better wives. I know that even when you meet a christian, you will say that he does not attend your denomination. One of my friend's wife was suspended from her church because she married from another denomination.

For you those of you that say that the bible says that you should not dwell with unbelievers please state the chapter and verse that says that muslims are unbelievers. An unbeliever is someone who believes that there is no GOD, if you have any other opinion about this please state explicitly. Pastors Chris Okotie's former wife was and is still a christian, but today, they are divorced. Many couples of same religion have divorced over the years. Meanwhile, if a muslim offers you a good job with good pay you will not reget it and say that the bible says that you should not dwell with unbelievers.

Talking about your children, what of if you bring them up as christians and they become adults and convert to islam or ethiests, what will you do? GOD is in control of our lives and destiny, HE knows our end from our beginning. Hand over everything to GOD.

Do you ever wonder how GOD feels seeing HIS children divided over religion? It is the same way you will feel seeing your children fighting over what ought to unit them.

GOODLUCK

@simpleseyi:thanks everyone i really appreciate all that you have all said i never expected all these responses but am so glad. God bless

Pls do not marry him as problems might arise in future such as he's entitled 2 marrying more dan a wife, wen u give birth,d child's dedication'll be done in a muslim way,& so on. The best thing's for u 2 marry a man wit d same tribe 2 prevent future problems. Besides, d family praying 2geda wont be so effective as u'll pray differently 4rm his religion & vice versa. Just give a good reasoning b4 deciding weda 2 go ahead or not as i have a cousin goin through dis same trauma.

Just to reverse the question a bit. Would a Muslim woman ever marry a Christian guy? I've not seen this happen very often.

Yes.

My Somali Muslim cousin is married to a Christian Nigerian man!!!! And they are gonna raise the kids Muslims.

african1:

My Somali Muslim cousin is married to a Christian Nigerian man!!!! And they are gonna raise the kids Muslims.

haha

That is pretty cool. I guess the family must have extracted that promise before letting her marry?

Marry who believes what u believe,marry whom both of u can think alike,if u are aiming high dont marry who is aiming low, finally marry who can pray with u.

african1:

My Somali Muslim cousin is married to a Christian Nigerian man!!!! And they are gonna raise the kids Muslims.

, walal waa ku salamy , but isn't That xaraam , and how you be sure that The children gonna turn Muslim?

I advocate tolerance but I personally would never cross the religious line! I can live in peace with others but will never marry a muslim. I will not even advice anyone to do so either. To me, that is the deal breaker. IMO, marriage involves sharing EVERYTHING. I can conveniently cross the tribal or racial line but religion is a different ball game.

Can two walk together except they agree? You need to ask youself the question. If you can not agree on your faith now, which i think is the foundation of happy union, you may not agree on so many things in marriage. You need to agree. My candid advice is for you to quit the relationship except if you know that, you won't mind becoming a Muslim in future.

No ,because i am a Christian and i would not want religion to
divide my family into two different part.

my advise to you,look before you leap,
meaning think twice,you might want to listen to your mum,
although sometimes mum are not always right,but trust me,
mum are right most of the time.
You should also pray about it,so that the spirit of God will lead you to the right part.

Yes i can. All I need do is to Christianize her. But for u-Do u want him to be ur bf forever? don't u think 1 day u guys ar gonna marry? i dey laugh o