It's obvious you are still in a mourning stage and you love your wife dearly. Therefore you are not ready for relationships. Ofcourse when you spend such amount of years with someone, it's obvious you won't forget them easily.

Wayforward
Ofcourse the quickest solution is to tell the new woman to leave with her kids. But just before you do that, we have to be sure of her intentions. To do this you have to test her to know what she really want from you or if she is a good woman.

You never can tell if your wife wishes you move on or if you can get someone better.
So a simple test like feigning you are in trouble or in debt or you need money (or one of your child is sick) and watch how she trys to solve or profer solution goes a long way in showing she has you and your kids in mind.

After this, you have another hurdle to scale cause when you show love to your kids more than her own she will feel bad. So you have to take the role of a strict father to balance the scale.

For more advice, I have an advice running group so you can message me on WhatsApp +2348027024393 (Ortintin is my name)


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