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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by mightyhaze: 10:23pm On May 23, 2021
Rossiminku:


TYPICAL NARCISSIST RESPONSE.

NARCISSISTS NEVER ACCEPT THEY ARE NARCISSISTS.

THEY BELIEVE THEY ARE PERFECT, AND SUPERIOR TO 'NORMAL PEOPLE'.
well if one lagoon can't hold u,jump into two

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by mightyhaze: 10:28pm On May 23, 2021
PeaceforNigeria:


ENJOY THIS LITTLE BOY !!! shocked


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajclnOnHc0s
Egwu a di uto

Negodu lyrics
Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Almaigaa: 10:30pm On May 23, 2021
ThEGodFaThEr102:

Better than awon Òmò Wobe, Awon Òmò Olobo council, awon Òmò bend down low, awon Òmò tribal mark Ologbo Iya Aliu.

This woman fine pass all those over bleached ladies from the LaND OF THE RISING SUN. With their hairy yam legs with, bear bear for Chest and bear bear for Face. cheesy cheesy grin grin grin grin

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Masterclass32: 10:35pm On May 23, 2021
Igbo n'ato ka sugar cane.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 10:36pm On May 23, 2021
Rossiminku:


Typical narcissistic response.

4 Narcissistic features exhibited in this post:

- An overwhelming sense of victimization (''short end of the stick in Nigeria'')

- Deliberate misrepresentation of the identifier of narcissism (''hate-induced rant'').

- Brazen lack of empathy - (''Kill yaself'')

- Grandioisty - (''our glorious reply'')


grin

A classic bigot response. You tick all the boxes of the main traits of a bigot.

1. Intorelant Prejudice
: Waving off genuine concern of a group numbering more than 40 million as "overwhelming sense of victimization"

2. Opinionatedness: Holding tightly to your wrong views and dismissing that of others even when you have been called out that it is hate filled.

3.Fanatic intorelance: Devoting several hours of ones time, questioning why a group of 40 million people love themselves too much.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by nothingspoil70: 10:38pm On May 23, 2021
What is the purpose of this thread now? If not for dick measurement? With all the problems we're all facing in this country at the moment this is what is so important to this op? Sad. Very sad.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 10:39pm On May 23, 2021
gwafaeziokwu:



grin

I have small time today, let's go there. What you have displayed so far in this thread and others is a classic display of bigotry.



Bigotry :intolerance of different views, beliefs


A bigot is a person who is intolerant of opinions, lifestyles, or identities that are different from their own. Mostly, the person's opinions are based on prejudice. For example, an outspoken member of a political party who blocks those with opposing views, would be a prime example of a ‘’bigot’’.

The origin of the word bigot in English dates back to at least 1598, via French. It started with the sense of "religious hypocrite", especially a woman.

The word bigot is often used as a pejorative term against a person who is obstinately devoted to negative prejudices, even when those prejudices are proven to be false.

Forms of bigotry may have a related ideology.


People who are ''intolerant'' of the view that Igbos are a special, chosen, highly blessed, superior, and extra- intelligent ethnic group are ''bigots'' in your view.

There is something wrong with US for not accepting that YOU are ''special''.

TYPICAL NARCISSISTIC REPSONSE.

With every post you make, you NARCISSISTS confirm my assertions.

Keep talking, while I keep diagnosing you.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 10:45pm On May 23, 2021
Rossiminku:


People who are ''intolerant'' of the view that Igbos are a special, chosen, highly blessed, superior, and extra- intelligent ethnic group are ''bigots'' in your view.

There is something wrong with US for not accepting that YOU are ''special''.

TYPICAL NARCISSISTIC REPSONSE.

With every post, you NARCISSISTS confirm my assertions.


People who are intorelant of the view that igbos have the full God given right to blow their freaking trumpet as loud as they want to are full fledged bigots.


Reason, Igbos singing their own praise does not detonate any bomb anywhere. It does not lead to degradation of ozone layer, neither does it increase the rate of terrorism in the north and else where in the world.

Therefore it begs the question, WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM WITH SELF LOVE?

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by hunter21(m): 10:57pm On May 23, 2021
ThEGodFaThEr102:
I am not Igbo and I regret not being one.

Igbos are wonderful species from God. They are intelligent, industrious and very creative. Their penchant for success knows no bounds.

My prayer is to have an Igbo wife so that my children can also tap into these success and entrepreneurial genes of Igbo people just like the governor of Ondo state Akeredolu.

Chai Igbo Amaka
Same here

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by ThEGodFaThEr102: 10:59pm On May 23, 2021
Almaigaa:


This woman fine pass all those over bleached ladies from the LaND OF THE RISING SUN. With their hairy yam legs with, bear bear for Chest and bear bear for Face. cheesy cheesy grin grin grin grin
Hairy body is normal,okay and understandable, even women from middle East and Asia are hairy but not with Yoruba women that have sacrificial tribal marks like something used in appeasing Sango. Apart from these cat like tribal marks, it's only a Yoruba woman that will do bend down low for about 5 agberos and still be shouting "Eti po to" "Elo po si wa".

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 11:01pm On May 23, 2021
Rossiminku:


People who are ''intolerant'' of the view that Igbos are a special, chosen, highly blessed, superior, and extra- intelligent ethnic group are ''bigots'' in your view.

There is something wrong with US for not accepting that YOU are ''special''.

TYPICAL NARCISSISTIC REPSONSE.

With every post you make, you NARCISSISTS confirm my assertions.

Keep talking, while I keep diagnosing you.


grin

You are a poor physician. Your own diagnosis is done and dusted.


Bigotry

Bigotry is the state of mind of a bigot: someone who, as a result of their prejudices, treats other people with hatred, contempt, and intolerance on the basis of a person's ethnicity, religion, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, disability, socioeconomic status, or other characteristics. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. described bigotry in the following quotation: "The mind of a bigot is like the pupil of the eye; the more light you pour upon it, the more it will contract."



When you spend something close to an hour dishing out intorelant opinions about a large group of people and trying hard to justify it. Your reason; they praise themselves too much. Very childish!

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:06pm On May 23, 2021
gwafaeziokwu:



People who are intorelant of the view that igbos have the full God given right to blow their freaking trumpet as loud as they want to are full fledged bigots.


Reason, Igbos singing their own praise does not detonate any bomb anywhere. It does not lead to degradation of ozone layer, neither does it increase the rate of terrorism in the north and else where in the world.

Therefore it begs the question, WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM WITH SELF LOVE?

Narcissism is not an ''explosive or a bomb''.

That is typical narcissist deflection and avoidance.

Narcissism is toxic behaviour that poisons the social environment and destroys relationships.

Narcissism is very different from ''self-love''.

Here is how experts differentiate the 2 concepts:

Need for Recognition

Self Love: Those who have high self-esteem and practice self love don’t need recognition or congratulations for their accomplishments. They are well aware of their efforts and their success, and that knowledge is more than enough to feel adequate.

Narcissism: If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? If a narcissist accomplishes success and no one is around to witness it, is it truly a success? The answer in this case is no. Without recognition and praise, they may as well not have accomplished anything at all. It makes the win feel empty, because they only receive satisfaction from the admiration of others.


Identifying flaws within one's self

Self Love: Everyone has flaws and idiosyncrasies that makes them an individual. Those who love themselves accept their flaws, and work to improve them if need be. They understand that those quirky little bits of themselves are what make them unique.

Narcissism: They act as if they do not posses any flaws. Everything they do, they do it better than anyone. Everything they have is better than what you have. If someone notices that they exhibit a flaw, it must be a misconception, because there is no way that any aspect of themselves could be anything less than perfect.


Knowing who you are-and being comfortable with it

Self Love: In lieu of self acceptance, these individuals are totally comfortable being themselves, and appreciate who they are and what they offer. They do not feel that they need to make any vast changes to themselves or their lives in order to achieve happiness, because they already are.


Narcissism: They are never happy with who they are and what they have. They often find themselves fantasizing about a more ideal lifestyle, job, or appearance. They never truly feel satisfied with any aspect of their life. They think that they deserve better, but put no effort forth to achieve their desires.


Humility is a virtue

Self Love: They have a strong sense of empathy and humility. They support and encourage others to do better, and are proud of their successes.

Narcissism: They can’t handle seeing others doing well. They cannot help but feel jealous, and will find a way to undermine their success in order to feel that they still have the upper hand. The common phrase, “misery loves company,” is all too appropriate in this circumstance.


Perception of other's emotions

Self Love: These individuals are receptive to others emotions, and can level with their struggles and pain. They will offer advice and assistance if they can, and genuinely care about the outcome of their struggling friends situation.

Narcissism: Although they may fake concern, they genuinely do not care about others struggles. In fact, they feed off of it. That’s one less person who is doing well in this world, and that makes them feel better about themselves.


Perception of others as individuals

Self Love: Appreciation of others is a strong attribute of those who have high self esteem. They see other individuals as valuable, and celebrate their existence. These people tend to be good friends, because they are incredibly supportive and understand that it takes all sorts of people to make a fully functioning world.

Narcissism: They do not view others as valuable. The only value they see in others is an opportunity to use them for their own benefit. Narcissists tend to surround themselves with other narcissists. The “special” people. The “elite.” No one else is worthy of their time. Gag.


Competition with peers

Self Love: With high self esteem, it is easy to view others as your equals. Each person is just that, another person trying to make it in this world and try to achieve happiness.

Narcissism: Narcissists always need to be doing better than their peers, or at least give off the illusion that they are. They thrive off of dominance and manipulation. They are not truly happy unless they feel that they are in complete control. They need for all of their efforts to be celebrated, and for themselves and people to be worshiped. Typically, narcissists will gravitate towards careers and hobbies that exhibit themselves as the center of attention.

Narcissists spend most of their time alone, because most people can identify their toxic behavior.
Signs of narcissistic behaviour tend to rear their ugly heads in the early years of adulthood; typically in men. 50-70% of those who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder are male. The cause of this is unknown. Perhaps it is a combination of chemical composition, upbringing, and experiences during childhood.

Narcissism is incredibly toxic behaviour, and will repel anyone from your life who can identify these disturbing features. That’s why people with this disorder tend to have few friends, and spend the majority of their time alone. They distort this rejection from others as their own personal rejection. Because they are better than everyone else, and no one is worthy of their precious time.

Find a happy medium. It’s okay to love yourself, but don’t let it turn into obsession.
With the introduction of social media, it is easier to spot narcissists because they showcase themselves daily. You know that girl or guy who posts multiple selfies a day, and is constantly changing their profile pictures? They are doing this for the recognition. They want people to see them, and to celebrate their beauty. The likes and comments they receive feed their innate need for worship. Outlets such as Instagram and Facebook has made it alarmingly normal to constantly demand attention from peers and strangers alike.

Unless those who suffer from NPD seek therapy, it is unlikely that they can amend their behaviour, because they are oblivious to the fact that they suffer from this disorder. That kind of reflection would prove that they are imperfect; something that does not compute in the mind of a narcissist.

https://www.lifehack.org/596475/how-we-are-confusing-self-love-with-narcissism-in-this-generation

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:12pm On May 23, 2021
gwafaeziokwu:



grin

You are a poor physician. Your own diagnosis is done and dusted.


Bigotry

Bigotry is the state of mind of a bigot: someone who, as a result of their prejudices, treats other people with hatred, contempt, and intolerance on the basis of a person's ethnicity, religion, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, disability, socioeconomic status, or other characteristics. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. described bigotry in the following quotation: "The mind of a bigot is like the pupil of the eye; the more light you pour upon it, the more it will contract."



When you spend something close to an hour dishing out intorelant opinions about a large group of people and trying hard to justify it. Your reason; they praise themselves too much. Very childish!

I don't argue with, or debate narcissists, for the simple reason that narcissists NEVER accept they are narcissists, and will find every way to subvert their diagnosis.

I only diagnose narcissists. I don't debate them.

My posts are for those NON-narcissists who are tryIng to make sense of YOU LOT.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:19pm On May 23, 2021
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Narcissists are NEVER wrong

A trademark of a narcissistic personality disorder or even a person with a high number of narcissistic traits is this strange problem with accountability. Not only do narcissists lack the ability to give and truly mean empathy, but they consistently blame others for their own mistakes and feelings and have an uncanny way of turning things around and making it someone else’s problem. You are the crazy one, not them. You are at fault, not them. If you show them clear evidence of something they have done, they will deny it or say they don’t remember it. They will say you took it wrong and will rewrite the narrative of what they meant. In this process, they are not owning anything about it. You just got it wrong.

Why do they do this? Narcissists, although covering up with grandiosity, actually are self-loathing, fragile people who do not have a solid sense of self to rely on. They are already walking on tentative shaky ground. Where for most of us admitting to a mistake and taking ownership to make something better actually feels good, the narcissist is not that grounded and self-secure to do so. If they can project the feeling or mistake onto someone else, it keeps them feeling more secure. If caught in their mistakes and there is no way out of it, the narcissist can’t handle the vulnerability it causes. This is where we see something called “narcissistic rage.”

The anger and rage are intended to back you off and cause you to stop accusing them. The purpose is to make you doubt yourself. It’s a power and control move to make you afraid to confront them again. This is why many people who deal with narcissists in their lives use the phrase, “It’s like walking on eggshells all the time.” Dealing with a narcissist is dealing with a bully. They strike back hard to try to save their own self or credibility. They use name-calling, making fun of people, putting others down, judging and being critical as a natural defense. The narcissist is just too insecure to do otherwise.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201901/lack-accountability-in-narcissists

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 11:21pm On May 23, 2021
Rossiminku:


Narcissism is not an ''explosive or a bomb''.

That is typical narcissist deflection and avoidance.

Narcissism is toxic behaviour that poisons the social environment and destroys relationships.

Narcissism is very different from ''self-love''.

Here is how experts differentiate the 2 concepts:

Need for Recognition

Self Love: Those who have high self-esteem and practice self love don’t need recognition or congratulations for their accomplishments. They are well aware of their efforts and their success, and that knowledge is more than enough to feel adequate.

Narcissism: If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? If a narcissist accomplishes success and no one is around to witness it, is it truly a success? The answer in this case is no. Without recognition and praise, they may as well not have accomplished anything at all. It makes the win feel empty, because they only receive satisfaction from the admiration of others.


Identifying flaws within one's self

Self Love: Everyone has flaws and idiosyncrasies that makes them an individual. Those who love themselves accept their flaws, and work to improve them if need be. They understand that those quirky little bits of themselves are what make them unique.

Narcissism: They act as if they do not posses any flaws. Everything they do, they do it better than anyone. Everything they have is better than what you have. If someone notices that they exhibit a flaw, it must be a misconception, because there is no way that any aspect of themselves could be anything less than perfect.


Knowing who you are-and being comfortable with it

Self Love: In lieu of self acceptance, these individuals are totally comfortable being themselves, and appreciate who they are and what they offer. They do not feel that they need to make any vast changes to themselves or their lives in order to achieve happiness, because they already are.


Narcissism: They are never happy with who they are and what they have. They often find themselves fantasizing about a more ideal lifestyle, job, or appearance. They never truly feel satisfied with any aspect of their life. They think that they deserve better, but put no effort forth to achieve their desires.


Humility is a virtue

Self Love: They have a strong sense of empathy and humility. They support and encourage others to do better, and are proud of their successes.

Narcissism: They can’t handle seeing others doing well. They cannot help but feel jealous, and will find a way to undermine their success in order to feel that they still have the upper hand. The common phrase, “misery loves company,” is all too appropriate in this circumstance.


Perception of other's emotions

Self Love: These individuals are receptive to others emotions, and can level with their struggles and pain. They will offer advice and assistance if they can, and genuinely care about the outcome of their struggling friends situation.

Narcissism: Although they may fake concern, they genuinely do not care about others struggles. In fact, they feed off of it. That’s one less person who is doing well in this world, and that makes them feel better about themselves.


Perception of others as individuals

Self Love: Appreciation of others is a strong attribute of those who have high self esteem. They see other individuals as valuable, and celebrate their existence. These people tend to be good friends, because they are incredibly supportive and understand that it takes all sorts of people to make a fully functioning world.

Narcissism: They do not view others as valuable. The only value they see in others is an opportunity to use them for their own benefit. Narcissists tend to surround themselves with other narcissists. The “special” people. The “elite.” No one else is worthy of their time. Gag.


Competition with peers

Self Love: With high self esteem, it is easy to view others as your equals. Each person is just that, another person trying to make it in this world and try to achieve happiness.

Narcissism: Narcissists always need to be doing better than their peers, or at least give off the illusion that they are. They thrive off of dominance and manipulation. They are not truly happy unless they feel that they are in complete control. They need for all of their efforts to be celebrated, and for themselves and people to be worshiped. Typically, narcissists will gravitate towards careers and hobbies that exhibit themselves as the center of attention.

Narcissists spend most of their time alone, because most people can identify their toxic behavior.
Signs of narcissistic behaviour tend to rear their ugly heads in the early years of adulthood; typically in men. 50-70% of those who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder are male. The cause of this is unknown. Perhaps it is a combination of chemical composition, upbringing, and experiences during childhood.

Narcissism is incredibly toxic behaviour, and will repel anyone from your life who can identify these disturbing features. That’s why people with this disorder tend to have few friends, and spend the majority of their time alone. They distort this rejection from others as their own personal rejection. Because they are better than everyone else, and no one is worthy of their precious time.

Find a happy medium. It’s okay to love yourself, but don’t let it turn into obsession.
With the introduction of social media, it is easier to spot narcissists because they showcase themselves daily. You know that girl or guy who posts multiple selfies a day, and is constantly changing their profile pictures? They are doing this for the recognition. They want people to see them, and to celebrate their beauty. The likes and comments they receive feed their innate need for worship. Outlets such as Instagram and Facebook has made it alarmingly normal to constantly demand attention from peers and strangers alike.

Unless those who suffer from NPD seek therapy, it is unlikely that they can amend their behaviour, because they are oblivious to the fact that they suffer from this disorder. That kind of reflection would prove that they are imperfect; something that does not compute in the mind of a narcissist.

https://www.lifehack.org/596475/how-we-are-confusing-self-love-with-narcissism-in-this-generation


grin

The more I probe the more shocking diagnosis I make. Wow.
You really had to devote such time preparing a thesis on a race that careless about your existence.

OBSESSION ​‌

UNCOUNTABLE an emotional state in which someone or something is so important to you that you are always thinking about them, in a way that seems extreme to other people




COUNTABLE someone or something that is so important to you that you are always thinking about them, in a way that seems extreme to other people
Food has become an obsession for many people.



Wow! Just wow!!!
Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:27pm On May 23, 2021


Essentially, all narcissists tell on themselves.

Projection is the process through which they reveal who they are and what they’re doing.

Through projection, they call you what they are. They accuse you of doing what they’re doing or planning on doing. They throw all the uncomfortable feelings onto you because they don’t want to deal with them. They throw their shame on you so they don’t have to deal with it.

They make you feel guilty for who they are and what they’re doing because they’re unable to feel that guilt themselves.
So, essentially projection is an unconscious way of denying the existence of something inside oneself and attributing it to others, externalizing it.
This could be unacceptable or unwanted characteristic, flaws, thoughts, emotions, actions, feelings.

It’s a defense mechanism.

https://medium.com/@OwnYourReality/projection-the-narcissists-weapon-that-can-be-used-against-them-7ebb63848998

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Tastemoney(m): 11:36pm On May 23, 2021
I love my igboship

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 11:38pm On May 23, 2021
Rossiminku:


I don't argue with, or debate narcissists, for the simple reason that narcissists NEVER accept they are narcissists, and will find every way to subvert their diagnosis.

I only diagnose narcissists. I don't debate them.

My posts are for those NON-narcissists who are tryIng to make sense of YOU LOT.

Of course your post is not for sensible people who can see through your bigotry and veiled hate. You have enough customers in Nairaland who feeds on Igbophobia. They were actually the OP target when he opened this thread because he knew that you guys must show up.

A tribe called themselves the most sophisticated tribe in Nigeria without being sent to golgotha. For years some claimed to be the most educated while others are mere spare parts dealers, until recent statistics and realities start to rein in misinformation.

Some other groups also claimed that they were born with political skill that no one can dislodge. They called others politically naive to their faces without heaven falling.

Let me loud it, We Are Igbos, We are unique,We are too good. Oya use that suicide rope.
Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:42pm On May 23, 2021
^^^^^^^^

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:45pm On May 23, 2021
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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 11:56pm On May 23, 2021
Tastemoney:
I love my igboship

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 12:00am On May 24, 2021
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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 12:04am On May 24, 2021
Rossiminku:


Essentially, all narcissists tell on themselves.

Projection is the process through which they reveal who they are and what they’re doing.

Through projection, they call you what they are. They accuse you of doing what they’re doing or planning on doing. They throw all the uncomfortable feelings onto you because they don’t want to deal with them. They throw their shame on you so they don’t have to deal with it.

They make you feel guilty for who they are and what they’re doing because they’re unable to feel that guilt themselves.
So, essentially projection is an unconscious way of denying the existence of something inside oneself and attributing it to others, externalizing it.
This could be unacceptable or unwanted characteristic, flaws, thoughts, emotions, actions, feelings.

It’s a defense mechanism.

https://medium.com/@OwnYourReality/projection-the-narcissists-weapon-that-can-be-used-against-them-7ebb63848998

grin


Narcissists are not identified in a vacuum; the person you label a narcissist is usually someone who’s close to you, or a member of a tribe that you have been culturally encouraged or professionally incentivized to dislike. Millennials seem narcissistic to baby-boomer social scientists; men and women looking for love seem narcissistic to each other; analysis-resistant patients seemed narcissistic to Freud.

https://www.newyorker.com/culture/jia-tolentino/what-happens-when-we-decide-everyone-else-is-a-narcissist


When you have been culturally incentivized to dislike a group, anything they do appear narcissist to you.
Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 12:10am On May 24, 2021
Self-Love and What It Means

What is self-love?

Before a person is able to practice it, first we need to understand what it means.

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.


Self-love can mean something different for each person because we all have many different ways to take care of ourselves. Figuring out what self-love looks like for you as an individual is an important part of your mental health.

What does self-love mean to you?

For starters, it can mean:

Talking to and about yourself with love
Prioritizing yourself
Giving yourself a break from self-judgement
Trusting yourself
Being true to yourself
Being nice to yourself
Setting healthy boundaries
Forgiving yourself when you aren’t being true or nice to yourself
For many people, self-love is another way to say self-care. To practice self-care, we often need to go back to the basics and

Listen to our bodies
Take breaks from work and move/stretch.
Put the phone down and connect to yourself or others, or do something creative.
Eating healthily, but sometimes indulge in your favorite foods.
Self-love means accepting yourself as you are in this very moment for everything that you are. It means accepting your emotions for what they are and putting your physical, emotional and mental well-being first.

How and Why to Practice Self Love

So now we know that self-love motivates you to make healthy choices in life. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you're more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well. These things may be in the form of eating healthy, exercising or having healthy relationships.

Ways to practice self-love include:

Becoming mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want.
Taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Practicing good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
Making room for healthy habits. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because you “have to,” but because you care about you.
Finally, to practice self-love, start by being kind, patient, gentle and compassionate to yourself, the way you would with someone else that you care about.
Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 12:12am On May 24, 2021
gwafaeziokwu:


grin


Narcissists are not identified in a vacuum; the person you label a narcissist is usually someone who’s close to you, or a member of a tribe that you have been culturally encouraged or professionally incentivized to dislike. Millennials seem narcissistic to baby-boomer social scientists; men and women looking for love seem narcissistic to each other; analysis-resistant patients seemed narcissistic to Freud.

https://www.newyorker.com/culture/jia-tolentino/what-happens-when-we-decide-everyone-else-is-a-narcissist


When you have been culturally incentivized to dislike a group, anything they do appear narcissist to you.

With this argument, ALL narcissists can simply claim that those who have identified their behaviour as narcissistic have been ''culturally incentivised to dislike them''.

Again, it is never the narcissist's fault.

My diagnosis of your narcissism is based on your actions which have been diagnosed as narcissistic by mental health experts.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 12:25am On May 24, 2021
gwafaeziokwu:
Self-Love and What It Means

What is self-love?

Before a person is able to practice it, first we need to understand what it means.

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.


Self-love can mean something different for each person because we all have many different ways to take care of ourselves. Figuring out what self-love looks like for you as an individual is an important part of your mental health.

What does self-love mean to you?

For starters, it can mean:

Talking to and about yourself with love
Prioritizing yourself
Giving yourself a break from self-judgement
Trusting yourself
Being true to yourself
Being nice to yourself
Setting healthy boundaries
Forgiving yourself when you aren’t being true or nice to yourself
For many people, self-love is another way to say self-care. To practice self-care, we often need to go back to the basics and

Listen to our bodies
Take breaks from work and move/stretch.
Put the phone down and connect to yourself or others, or do something creative.
Eating healthily, but sometimes indulge in your favorite foods.
Self-love means accepting yourself as you are in this very moment for everything that you are. It means accepting your emotions for what they are and putting your physical, emotional and mental well-being first.

How and Why to Practice Self Love

So now we know that self-love motivates you to make healthy choices in life. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you're more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well. These things may be in the form of eating healthy, exercising or having healthy relationships.

Ways to practice self-love include:

Becoming mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want.
Taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Practicing good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
Making room for healthy habits. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because you “have to,” but because you care about you.
Finally, to practice self-love, start by being kind, patient, gentle and compassionate to yourself, the way you would with someone else that you care about.

How to Tell Healthy Self-Esteem from Narcissism

Try this: Go to the person who reeks of self-esteem and ask, "In what ways do you think you need to grow or change?" If the person is psychologically healthy, the list will be as long as your leg. That's because real self-esteem is based on finding areas where we can improve ourselves and honestly working to overcome problems. Healthy people know that they are always a work in progress. Narcissists, on the other hand, will tell you they have nothing to change. They're unwilling to acknowledge their unfinished nature, because admitting imperfection is intolerable for them. This means they never correct mistakes or broaden their horizons, and whatever pain they feel festers indefinitely. Narcissists often live in anguish while refusing to accept that their own behavior has anything to do with their discontent.

Read more: https://www.oprah.com/omagazine/martha-beck-self-esteem-or-narcissism#ixzz6vjXIdtJu

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by gwafaeziokwu: 12:30am On May 24, 2021
Rossiminku:


With this argument, ALL narcissists can simply claim that those who have identified their behaviour as narcissistic have been ''culturally incentivised to dislike them''.

Again, it is never the narcissist's fault.

My diagnosis of your narcissism is based on your actions which have been diagnosed as narcissistic by mental health experts.









Smart chap you are! That is the koko. You were brainwashed from young age to dislike an ethnic group and as you grow up you seek out only that which will make them be seen in negative light.

Secondly, your obsession with the word narcissists as a blanket description for a group in excess of 40 million is a reflection of your deep low self esteem. You sound like one whose "shine" is being hijacked by a guy who was supposed not to compete in the first place.

Your overall post scream loudly "Shut up and stop making me feel inferior". This can only happen to one whose success is hinged on the failure of others.

Quit making a fool of yourself. Stop sweating over someone's love for himself. Ogini?

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by QuotaSystem: 12:30am On May 24, 2021
Rossiminku:


People who are ''intolerant'' of the view that Igbos are a special, chosen, highly blessed, superior, and extra- intelligent ethnic group are ''bigots'' in your view.

There is something wrong with US for not accepting that YOU are ''special''.

TYPICAL NARCISSISTIC REPSONSE.

With every post you make, you NARCISSISTS confirm my assertions.

Keep talking, while I keep diagnosing you.

cheesy

This your psychoanalysis of Ndigbo couldn't be more accurate.

Damn grin

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 12:47am On May 24, 2021
gwafaeziokwu:




Smart chap you are! That is the koko. You were brainwashed from young age to dislike an ethnic group and as you grow up you seek out only that which will make them be seen in negative light.

Secondly, your obsession with the word narcissists as a blanket description for a group in excess of 40 million is a reflection of your deep low self esteem. You sound like one whose "shine" is being hijacked by a guy who was supposed not to compete in the first place.

Your overall post scream loudly "Shut up and stop making me feel inferior". This can only happen to one whose success is hinged on the failure of others.

Quit making a fool of yourself. Stop sweating over someone's love for himself. Ogini?


I don't debate or argue with narcissists.

It is fruitless.

I only diagnose you.

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Re: The Joy Of Being Igbo by Rossiminku: 12:47am On May 24, 2021
QuotaSystem:


cheesy

This your psychoanalysis of Ndigbo couldn't be more accurate.

Damn grin



Thanks bro.

I've studied narcissism for years, both individual narcissism, and group/collective narcissism.

My summations here are based on empirical observations, and verifiable behaviours on this forum and elsewhere, of members of this ethnicity.

This is not to say that all Igbos are narcissists of course. Many are level-headed and introspective.

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