Sup fellows,
Just wanted to bring this topic out today, l hear most guys say l can date a lady but when it's time to marry, can't marry her or ladies say he's just there for now but when it's time to marry, can't marry him. So share ur opinions.

Sure, why not. Before I got married, I dated, most of them I knew I couldnt marry cause they were muslims. But they were nice guys and I liked them then and Ive learnt from all those relationships. Its no big deal when youre young. Its when you reach a particular age you start the, cant date if he's not a propective husband material thingy.

The word Date now has rainbow meaning. But if u mean date as in intimate relationship.

I wouldnt

I know date has now been clasiffied into 2.

Hiajj - sexual relationships in which 1 or both parties is/are aware that its leading nowhere

courtship - where they plan to marry themselves.

Most relationships mid way tend to be more of the Hiajj type.

I obviously can engage in the first. Ladies dont have time on their side so its shere wickedness leading her on.

I can only Date a lady i see a prospect of a lasting union and marital bliss. Sure I dont know the future but i know my feelings and purpose. Thats enough.

no one can tell if a date would lead to marriage. you take a plunge and it happens cos love is something you grow. that means you have to plant, most times we do not knowing

Yeah, i can date a man i know i will never marry.

no cos i think i'll be waisting my time and if he proposes i'll have to break his heart which i wont like to do

At my present age? Hell yea! most of d relationships i've had in d past didn't end up in us gettin married, twas just for d fun of it , but not to d point of marriage.

clarissa:

no because i think i'll be waisting my time and if he proposes i'll have to break his heart which i wont like to do

what makes u think he even has a heart, to now talk of the heart breaking. The guy might just want someone to be by him for the while till he feels its time for him to marry. The guy now goes for his "Dream girl". It also applies to the females.

The moment I realise that I can't possibly marry a particular girl, the tendency is for me to draw away from her:
I think most young ladies don't have much to offer along the lines of helping a male friend to achieve his dreams, nor do they have interesting dreams that one can help them to achieve, so once the romance/marriage aspect is ruled out there is nothing else that one can discuss with them!

I dont understand you guys.

Im dating you doesn't mean i should be able to marry you, or I will marry you. Maybe it's because of my age though. But seriously...?

I think it all depends on the person, some guys like to have someone they call a "keeper" just to avoid being lonely. Most guys don' t have a heart so they dont' care who ends up getting hurt in the process but its kinda sad cos those girls don't take it easy. They end up hurting the innocent bride the guy wants to marry and thats why most guys end up marrying and wife having no child. Its kinda sad.

o yeah i already dating someone i know i'm not going to marry one day, there is not big deal with that. people should date as many as they want to date still he or she find the right one.

I don't have time to waste with the wrong chic,

if I know that she is not the one then I will be lying to her if we are still in a relationship,

I have had a lot of relationships and the longest

lasted 4 months. The moment i discover that I can't marry you girl it is over.

I am looking for my wife to date, no need wasting time with the wrong girl,

Imagine if my wife just crossed my path looked my way and says he is engaged

just because am with another chic.

Another thing you ladies have to realise is that while dating is a lot of fun for a woman, it is a lot of work for a man. Except for the sex part. So if a man is dating a woman he doesn't intend to marry it will be for sex only. This is a just a hypothesis.

Truth be told most of these boys dont know what marriage entails... Maybe they need to seek advice from a more matured mind eg. their folks or somebody much more older...Why in this earth would you leave the one you've been dating for so long to get married to a stranger ? or dont ya know why we court before marriage!!

When I'm dating someone, I start dreaming of us getting married! I even play and scribble my name and his surname with different handwritings like Mrs N*** M******. It's exciting!

yo,
thats so stacked up on u man.
are u kiddin' me?
gadgum it,thats so ill.
want a prescription?
holla at me.

What's this one talking about?

:laughing out loud:

@iah haha haha

IAH:

What's this one talking about?

I wonder, steph must be residing in a higher zone . Seun, abeg help us find automatic Ebonics to English translator oooo.

umm...yea. everyone always dates n doesnt get married. they are called boyfriends/girlfriends. i dont get this question??

IAH:

What's this one talking about?

same thing i said in my mind. Seriously... i used the exact same words. And when i saw wat u said.. i laughed in chinese! Im still laughing in chinese.

IAH:
I even play and scribble my name and his surname with different handwritings like Mrs N*** M******. It's exciting!

I do that too.. just for the fun of it.. not because i wanna marry the person. it's kinda fun to do that.

I would like to just date people for the fun of it but what use is dating someone that you cannot picture yourself in the future with. Its kinda like going into a relationship thats doomed to fail! Who does that? Well, i dated this guy for a year but knew from day one that it was just for the "fun of it" but when i ended it, he was so broken physically and mentally that i vowed never to get myself into anything for the fun of it! I will only date people that have the qualities i would like in a husband.......................not saying that i would wanna get married to him......................he just has to have the potential!

it is more interesting dating someone u cant marry. with that, there aint any need to pretend, no unnecessary pressure... and no strings attached. (cream and go)

My answer would be no! In the past i have dated someone who i knew i couldn't possibly get married to, but i've learnt to see things differentlly now so i wouldn't date someone who i do not  have the least desire to get married to eventually. It saves me a lot of trauma,coz that "dating with no strings attached" thing, just dosen't work for me.

Not every r/ship must lead to marriage.
And its not everytime i set my eyes on a date that i should think of marriage.

When i was much younger i dated guys that were party and good time freaks but in my heart of hearts i knew i wld never get married to them.

So i guess i can date someone i know i can never marry

What's the point of goin on if there's no plan 4 the future? You'd end up wasting time investing in smthg that wnt bring anythg.

sure i can date someone and not marry him, dating is all about learning, but i can't date him for too long

dejiolowe:

it is more interesting dating someone u can't marry. with that, there aint any need to pretend, no unnecessary pressure... and no strings attached. (cream and go)

Okay deji how intresting? When u get ready to settle down you will now run into " those who are having fun dating those they can't settle down with having no need to pretend and under no unecessary pressure .... with no string attached" and u will understand whay you have put some people through if you look back sincerely

Same goes for you La_viva.

I thought the whole point of relationships was getting to know your partner and then eventually deciding to marry or not.

Stereotype!