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Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by etcme(m): 11:54pm On Jun 07
This is a long post but please finish reading it before you like it or comment.

Please don't comment on what you have not experienced or understand. I have been in very intensive and hectic ministry for close to 25 years and I have been a doctor for 37 years.
I have been a personal physician to pastors for many years. I am passing through the same stress too.

I have read a lot about preachers from, A.A. Allen, Jack Coe, Smith Wigglesworth, Peter Marshall, Kathryn Khulman, Robert Murray McCheyne and several other ministers.

I have worked closely with many Pentecostal pastors within and outside Nigeria. I have also done a critical review of my personal life and I have come to realize that stress is the major killer of preachers and their wives.

You must have noticed that Pentecostal pastors loose their wives comparatively more than wives of Anglican, Baptist, Methodist and Presbyterian clergymen.

The wives of pentecostal pastors are under too much stress. They will breast feed babies, do night vigils, go to work, run women's fellowship meetings, take children to school, satisfy the sexual needs of their husbands, preach, stay like frozen statues in the alter with hundreds of eyes staring at them.

Pastors wives bear the burden of the financial pressures of their husbands. Forget those cars and the fine shoes and clothes most pastors wives are wearing, many of them are gifts, including the ones I wear.

Their husbands are under tough financial pressure. Infact the bigger the church, the more the financial challenges.

If you know how much goes in to pay bills and maintenance of church buildings,generators and workers salaries you will pity many pastors and their wives especially the very sincere ones.

There are times many of the big programs with big guest preachers leave big debts behind and the General Overseer will be under great pressure. That's why all gimmicks come into ministry from sales of handkerchiefs, anointing oil, stickers, almanacs, healing waters, mantles, healing swimming pool fees and different forms of fund raising.

We as preachers or pastors take on too many big projects at the same time. We are under too much comparative and competitive pressure.
Not all have commited partners even when they have the projects are too gigantic especially in Nigeria.

You might not understand what am saying because pastors are amongst the most jealous and comparative people on earth.

We are more interested in sizes, statistics and status than even worldly people.

Even as branch pastors your relevance in the headquarters is based on statistics and remittances instead of service and sincerity to humanity and God.

The struggle for relevance and recognition by other pastors, Government and other people is mostly responsible for the stress.

Pastors like to copy each other as if it's a business Community.

If one pastor buys a private jet others will want to copy. They don't know the cost of running a private jet, the cost of paying pilots and the cabin crew. Parking fees and maintainance fees alone can kill a man with a weak heart unless you lease them out to make money.

If one pastor starts doing 5 services the neighbor or friend will also start five services, from my personal observation a lot of the attendees would be the same, choristers, ushers and same members and only one pastor will preach in all the services.

To evaluate the stress check the amount of sweat that comes out of their bodies.

If one pastor builds a 30,000 capacity auditorium his friends want to build 40,000 and 60,000 capacity halls. All these put on pressure on them.

I do a radio broadcast if not for my sponsor I know how much stress it would have put me under and then imagine what others go through running TV broadcasts in several stations.

The cost of running a satellite station runs into millions of naira.

Pastors hardly take vacations, they do too many long night vigils and fasting programs.

How can you do 40 night vigils, after that you do another 30 days fast. A lot of these programs are to retain the members and sometimes to generate revenue.

Dry fasting without water destroys the kidneys. Another thing that destroys the kidneys is retention of urine by the senior pastor, he is not expected to leave his seat to go to the rest room. The backward flow of urine up the ureters to the kidneys is harmful.

Sleep deprivation for people above 40 years increases the chances of hypertension and then the various back to back invitations for people like me build up stress hormones that affect all organs of the body.

Every time you stand up to speak especially if you are known for miracles there is enormous release of stress hormones that wear out the body.

I know many young ministers who have drips fixed on them because of exhaustion. I have seen the ones who still went to do church stuff from hospital bed. I am telling you about what I have seen.

Most of these sudden deaths are from cardiac arrests and the consequences of executive fatigue syndrome and burnout syndromes.

Tragically pastors don't seek medical attention early because it would be seen as lack of faith because of our over exegeration of our anointing.

When I took covid vaccine religious echoes of their pastors were questioning my anointing and faith in Jesus for taking vaccines. Most of them are so ignorant of medical history, especially the half educated fanatics. They don't know that from the time of smallpox vaccine those who resisted vaccines suffered dire consequences.

The stress of our over packaging and the associated pressure of trying to prove that we have arrived makes the hollow in us cave in.

There was a day I was not feeling well I still went to preach because I did not want to disappoint the fellows. I became dizzy, I had to hold the pulpit rail. They taught it was style they did not know I was dying.

There was a time I traveled for missionary work in Cross River State close to the border with Cameroon, I fell sick, my guests did not know, I had to sit down to talk to them, they were still ready to listen.

Until you collapse they will be ready to hear from you.

Because of our pride we don't share our weaknesses with others until we collapse and die. That's why the deaths during or after preaching is common.

The body is a slave to the anointing unless you use your brain to stop and rest the joy of ministry can kill you. We need people who can help us to restrain our selves. I told my lawyer I need one urgently.

Diabetes and other metabolic illnesses are common among pastors because if you are not careful, your members and your hosts would over feed you with red meat which is not healthy and stuff you with a lot of fruit juices with additives and other high energy food. To make matters worse you might take energy drinks with caffeine and lots of calories to pep you up.

The Seventh Day Adventist church members live longer than other christians in Canada and America because of their diet and the Sabbath rest.

Ministry can become a cage. I am writing from personal experience and deep observation of pastors and their wives. I am reminding myself of the dangers we face as preachers.

Please remember to pray for our pastors and their wives.

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Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by Kobojunkie: 12:01am On Jun 08
etcme:
Pastors wives bear the burden of the financial pressures of their husbands. Forget those cars and the fine shoes and clothes most pastors wives are wearing, many of them are gifts, including the ones I wear.

Their husbands are under tough financial pressure. Infact the bigger the church, the more the financial challenges.

If you know how much goes in to pay bills and maintenance of church buildings,generators and workers salaries you will pity many pastors and their wives especially the very sincere ones.

There are times many of the big programs with big guest preachers leave big debts behind and the General Overseer will be under great pressure. That's why all gimmicks come into ministry from sales of handkerchiefs, anointing oil, stickers, almanacs, healing waters, mantles, healing swimming pool fees and different forms of fund raising.

We as preachers or pastors take on too many big projects at the same time. We are under too much comparative and competitive pressure.
Not all have commited partners even when they have the projects are too gigantic especially in Nigeria.

You might not understand what am saying because pastors are amongst the most jealous and comparative people on earth.

We are more interested in sizes, statistics and status than even worldly people.

Even as branch pastors your relevance in the headquarters is based on statistics and remittances instead of service and sincerity to humanity and God.

The struggle for relevance and recognition by other pastors, Government and other people is mostly responsible for the stress.

Pastors like to copy each other as if it's a business Community.

If one pastor buys a private jet others will want to copy. They don't know the cost of running a private jet, the cost of paying pilots and the cabin crew. Parking fees and maintainance fees alone can kill a man with a weak heart unless you lease them out to make money.

If one pastor starts doing 5 services the neighbor or friend will also start five services, from my personal observation a lot of the attendees would be the same, choristers, ushers and same members and only one pastor will preach in all the services.

To evaluate the stress check the amount of sweat that comes out of their bodies.

If one pastor builds a 30,000 capacity auditorium his friends want to build 40,000 and 60,000 capacity halls. All these put on pressure on them.

I do a radio broadcast if not for my sponsor I know how much stress it would have put me under and then imagine what others go through running TV broadcasts in several stations.

The cost of running a satellite station runs into millions of naira.

Pastors hardly take vacations, they do too many long night vigils and fasting programs.

How can you do 40 night vigils, after that you do another 30 days fast. A lot of these programs are to retain the members and sometimes to generate revenue.

Dry fasting without water destroys the kidneys. Another thing that destroys the kidneys is retention of urine by the senior pastor, he is not expected to leave his seat to go to the rest room. The backward flow of urine up the ureters to the kidneys is harmful.

Sleep deprivation for people above 40 years increases the chances of hypertension and then the various back to back invitations for people like me build up stress hormones that affect all organs of the body.

Every time you stand up to speak especially if you are known for miracles there is enormous release of stress hormones that wear out the body.

I know many young ministers who have drips fixed on them because of exhaustion. I have seen the ones who still went to do church stuff from hospital bed. I am telling you about what I have seen.

Most of these sudden deaths are from cardiac arrests and the consequences of executive fatigue syndrome and burnout syndromes.

Tragically pastors don't seek medical attention early because it would be seen as lack of faith because of our over exegeration of our anointing.

When I took covid vaccine religious echoes of their pastors were questioning my anointing and faith in Jesus for taking vaccines. Most of them are so ignorant of medical history, especially the half educated fanatics. They don't know that from the time of smallpox vaccine those who resisted vaccines suffered dire consequences.

The stress of our over packaging and the associated pressure of trying to prove that we have arrived makes the hollow in us cave in.

There was a day I was not feeling well I still went to preach because I did not want to disappoint the fellows. I became dizzy, I had to hold the pulpit rail. They taught it was style they did not know I was dying.

There was a time I traveled for missionary work in Cross River State close to the border with Cameroon, I fell sick, my guests did not know, I had to sit down to talk to them, they were still ready to listen.

Until you collapse they will be ready to hear from you.

Because of our pride we don't share our weaknesses with others until we collapse and die. That's why the deaths during or after preaching is common.

The body is a slave to the anointing unless you use your brain to stop and rest the joy of ministry can kill you. We need people who can help us to restrain our selves. I told my lawyer I need one urgently.

Diabetes and other metabolic illnesses are common among pastors because if you are not careful, your members and your hosts would over feed you with red meat which is not healthy and stuff you with a lot of fruit juices with additives and other high energy food. To make matters worse you might take energy drinks with caffeine and lots of calories to pep you up.

The Seventh Day Adventist church members live longer than other christians in Canada and America because of their diet and the Sabbath rest.

Ministry can become a cage. I am writing from personal experience and deep observation of pastors and their wives. I am reminding myself of the dangers we face as preachers.

Please remember to pray for our pastors and their wives. [/b]
Rubbish claim! Abeg, if you no get autopsy report to show as proof of your opening claim, spare us the ridiculous! undecided
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by etcme(m): 12:05am On Jun 08
Kobojunkie:
Rubbish claim! Abeg, if you no get autopsy report to show as proof of your opening claim, spare us the ridiculous! undecided

Calm down Oga.
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by Kobojunkie: 12:09am On Jun 08
etcme:
Calm down Oga.
Why should I when you dey here dey try claim say your Mog stress pass stress of other baujess men out here. What nonsense be that one? Even medical doctors wey dey do residency , work more than 80 hours a week, no even make that kin rubbish claim. undecided

Tell us instead how to access autopsy reports on pastors so we can ascertain what really killed who. undecided
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by etcme(m): 12:11am On Jun 08
Kobojunkie:
Why should I when you dey here dey try claim say your Mog stress pass stress of other baujess men out here. What nonsense be that one? Even medical doctors wey dey do residency , work more than 80 hours a week, no even make that kin rubbish claim. undecided

Still, Oga calm down.
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by Kobojunkie: 12:12am On Jun 08
etcme:

Still, Oga calm down.
Rather than tell us what to believe, reveal instead autopsy reports to support the medical claim you've made here. undecided
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by etcme(m): 12:17am On Jun 08
Kobojunkie:
Rather than tell us what to believe, reveal instead autopsy reports to support the medical claim you've made here. undecided

Simple read, you no go read. You just dey claim galadima. I tell you say na me write am. Can't you see it's someone's opinion?

You just dey shout autopsy up and down. E be like say you learnt that word today.

Oga calm down mbok

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Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by otokx(m): 12:18am On Jun 08
Stress is a major killer of some Nigerians, we just don't know how to decline attendance. They will say neglect not the gathering but one begins to wonder to which end? The heat at night these days is becoming something else by the way.
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by Kobojunkie: 12:20am On Jun 08
etcme:

Simple read, you no go read. You just dey claim galadima. I tell you say na me write am. Can't you see it's someone's opinion?

You just dey shout autopsy up and down. E be like say you learnt that word today.

Oga calm down mbok
Regardless of whose opinion it is...
Kobojunkie:
Rubbish claim! Abeg, if you no get autopsy report to show as proof of your opening claim, spare us the ridiculous! undecided
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by etcme(m): 12:31am On Jun 08
Kobojunkie:
Regardless of whose opinion it is...

lipsrsealed
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by Kingosytex(m): 12:34am On Jun 08
This is lengthy but certainly insightful.
For those who couldn't read through, here are the extracts;

1. A pastor shouldn't put himself under undue pressure simply because he wants to measure up with other pastors...Una no dey do competition.
2. The cost of running a mega church is highly exorbitant...Pastors also invest, no be only chop them dey chop.
3. From women meeting to prayer, to house chores, taking care of the kids and taking care of oga in 'za oza room'...To be pastor's wife no easy.

4. Everyday fasting, 40 days, 50 days, 30 days...Pastors should learn to relax, too much fasting dey damage the liver. U and 'Bros JAY' de do competition ni?

5. Pastors should endeavour to seek medical care while they are sick...No leave everything to God, doctors get their own part to play.

6. Pastors should endeavour to be going on periodical vacations and breaks to enable them ease their mind, soul and body...All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

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Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by ejighikemeuwa: 12:49am On Jun 08
Kobojunkie:
Rubbish claim! Abeg, if you no get autopsy report to show as proof of your opening claim, spare us the ridiculous! undecided
If you don't know what to say you close your mouth, this man is a medical doctor, l know him in person when he was living in Abia state, he is talking from his personal experience, don't challenge what you don't know

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Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by Kobojunkie: 12:52am On Jun 08
ejighikemeuwa:

If you don't know what to say you close your mouth, this man is a medical doctor, l know him in person when he was living in Abia state, he is talking from his personal experience, don't challenge what you don't know
Good then. Tell him to back up his claim with actual autopsy reports to verify the claim that stress is the killer here. undecided
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by bodejohn(m): 1:20am On Jun 08
Pastor or not, stress is a silent killer...
Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by tillaman(m): 1:26am On Jun 08
Interesting read
He made some very good points, it’s a common tradition with pastors to hold programs after rounding up a lengthy one
Most of them never take a break/vacation

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Re: Stress: The Major Killer Of Gospel Ministers And Their Wives by softtouch2(m): 1:14pm On Jun 11
Stress is a killer as a result of unnecessary worries and loads man created for himself.

"If you know how much goes in to pay bills and maintenance of church buildings, generators and workers salaries you will pity many pastors and their wives especially the very sincere ones."

Please stop mentioning extract above, because Jesus did not command you with mission of erecting buildings and killing yourselves with maintenance.

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