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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by MiVida(m): 1:56pm On Jun 10
E dey pain to imagine, I know....


To imagine the shooking, how big the thing be, whether e big pass your own, how deep the thing go inside your woman, how the man take enjoy your property... chai e dey pain! angry


Take heart bro. cry

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by sylve11: 1:56pm On Jun 10
TheUndercover:
The fact that you asked her about it and she denied is a slap to your face. She's waving a big red flag right in front of you.


That's where the pain lies. Denying it initially and later accepted. I don't want to put myself in the op's spot, because, i son't know if will still be acting like he's acting now. cool

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by GeneralPula: 1:57pm On Jun 10
Seems you’ve mistakenly got married to a Hoe, the sad thing for you is that hoes don’t retire..

This is what you get when you form a mature boyfriend by not running the necessary checks on your woman..

My advice is toxic. Don’t let me give it..

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Mutemenot(m): 1:58pm On Jun 10
Don't ask questions that you can't stand the answers ... sometimes it's better to be a suspect, than a victim .. now you have found the answers to your question, what benefit is it to you ?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by tydi(m): 1:58pm On Jun 10
My ex wife told me she had a gangb@ng before we met . I saw past it and still went ahead and married her. Also b@nged my cousin too. Lol.. let love lead

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by MOBBDEEP: 1:59pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.


A lot of red flags brother
Too sad you got something good in the whole potpourri.........your potential mother-in-law
A reasonable MIL is not that common if you ask me

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 2:02pm On Jun 10
MOBBDEEP:



A lot of red flags brother
Too sad you got something good in the whole potpourri.........your potential mother-in-law
A reasonable MIL is not that common if you ask me
She's the reason we re still together, she had got real life experiences and don't want her daughter thread that path. Even, when I don't want to turn up for introduction, she was advised by a guy to be calm and she's been good since then.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Iykenuwa(m): 2:04pm On Jun 10
The past is past, let it go.

this is the reason spouses find it hard to share secrets. so long as it was before she met you and she is no longer doing it, then it doesn't matter.

You are acting like a child, by the way. are you sure you are up to 25 years of age?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by stupidmod3: 2:04pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
Bleep someone else n call it one one
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by MOBBDEEP: 2:04pm On Jun 10
tydi:
My ex wife told me she had a Group Intimacy before we met . I saw past it and still went ahead and married her. Let love lead
It is not the act or the event Bro
It is the attitude here Sir
She has gotten poor sense of judgement, lacks discretion, too entitled and unremorseful
Perfect recipe for disaster in marriage Sir
She may make a great lover or girlfriend no doubt
But the odds are stacked high against her pulling a good non-issue marriage
My ten cents

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by marshmonii: 2:05pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.



Already you have seen signs that there will be issues, marry who loves you dearly, treats you like a king, and above all let her be your friend, follow my advice from experience, whoever you gonna get married too ensure she is intelligent, I repeat intelligent and industrious

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ceede2: 2:05pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
she's till have a lot of secret in her closet, she will tell you after the 2nd born.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by tydi(m): 2:06pm On Jun 10
MOBBDEEP:

It is not the act or the event Bro
It is the attitude here Sir
She has gotten poor sense of judgement, lacks discretion, too entitled and unremorseful
Perfect recipe for disaster in marriage Sir
She may make a great lover or girlfriend no doubt
But the odds are stacked high against her pulling a good non-issue marriage
My ten cents

More like 100 cents to get a grip of what you trying to say. She is ex now though.. life goes on!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by robosky02(m): 2:07pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single



1 she had a relationship with the guy in the past and he is married to another

Simply seat her down and let her know that she HAVE to move on because if she was good enough for him he would have married her.

So to be going back to him as a married man makes her unwise because he will only sweet talk her and use her


And will NEVER marry her because he has a wife


2 it will be difficult YES but its time she move and shut the door behind her and think of building a new life with you


3. Otherwise......
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Orelafintun: 2:07pm On Jun 10
My man, please get it quickly out of you mind and love your wife. You are feeling like that because you know about it. Others outside there might even slept with demons not to talk of older men. Your wife may even be better than others. Therefore, love her the more. In fact, remembering how she was being bleeped might set you on and you then cane her well. That is jokingly. Pls love her

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ceede2: 2:08pm On Jun 10
tydi:
My ex wife told me she had a gangb@ng before we met . I saw past it and still went ahead and married her. Also b@nged my cousin too. Lol.. let love lead
...and you are happy to say this.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by MOBBDEEP: 2:10pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

She's the reason we re still together, she had got real life experiences and don't want her daughter thread that path. Even, when I don't want to turn up for introduction, she was advised by a guy to be calm and she's been good since then.

I gave her credence & credit. She is rare to come by.
But, then, you won't marry her
And there is a limit or extent to which you can involve her if you eventually get on with the marriage
Somewhere in my head, I'm sure the influence of this woman on her daughter is little
Your gal is not likely to have much respect nor obedience to the woman sef
Pls, don't take me too serious here ohhh
I am far wary of playing god!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by guass: 2:12pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
Mr Kenoyad
The truth is bitter. 98% of Nigerian ladies are like that. She was going out with an old man she knew wud not be able to marry while at the same time looking for a young lad to settle down with.
Back in the RELATIONSHIP, u were fooled, thinking that u were catching fun while she was busy looking for pregnancy to cage u.
Unfortunately, u are now a victim of circumstances.
IF U LET HER GO WITH OR WITHOUT THE BABY, U LOOSE AND IF U CONTINUE WITH HER U WILL LOOSE MORE BECAUSE THE TAUGHT OF KEEPING AN OVER-DRILLED HOE IN THE PAST WILL CONTINUE TO TORMENT U.
MOST DAMSELS ABOVE 20 YEARS HAVE HOES OVER DRILLED.
THE LITTLE GIRLS I CATCH I MAKE SURE I SHIFT THEIR WU.. BEFORE LETTING THEM GO, U CANNOT COME AND EAT MY MONEY AND GO FREE

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Martinez39s(m): 2:12pm On Jun 10
The red pill could have saved you from this. What will her mother tell you before? That you should divorce her?
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by tydi(m): 2:14pm On Jun 10
ceede2:
...and you are happy to say this.
What should had made me more happier??
Remember I said exxxxxx
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by gabicon: 2:14pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

The question is "what can she do to make you feel better?", do you need her to be remorseful? or you want her to beg you? whatever it is that you want communicate it to her and stop drowning in sorrow. If you really want to get this out of your mind STOP THINKING ABOUT IT AND STOP TALKING ABOUT IT and you will forget about it. start thinking about the future you hope to have together, start making plans for that future, remember you too have things in your past you are not proud about too but that didn't stand in the way of progress and happiness.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Floreate: 2:18pm On Jun 10
So sorry about your experience.

Pls have you paid the bride price yet?
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by CapodeCapouti(m): 2:19pm On Jun 10
Op, if she slept with the elderly man before you guys started dating and is no longer sleeping with him, no problem. However, if it was while dating and she denied, that means she cheated on you and sleeping with such an elderly man shows "aristo runs" tendency in her, because money and benefits are most likely the reasons for sleeping with him.

If the answer is the second one above and the man in question is someone you tend to see or can easily see around, for your sanity it's better you break up with her.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by sircrabo: 2:20pm On Jun 10
Everyone has a past, there is no need to dig into people's past to judge them. Most of the Pastors we see today, if they tell you about their pasts, you will Marvell. Some were cultists, murderers, rapists.....

What about you, did you marry as a virgin ? If most married women tell their husbands what they did when they were single, their husbands will regret getting married to them. Judge people from the time you met them, that's what I believe.

Remember things you did in secondary school, university..... I know men can be jealous. the thought of seeing your wife or GF under a man moaning is enough to make one lose trust; even if it happened before they married. My pastor's wife used to tell us about the life she lived before meeting Christ and getting married to a pastor. She wouldn't say everything, but some of us can imagine the extent she had gone.

Take heart, you are not alone

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by cutedharmee: 2:20pm On Jun 10
This one bad u comot am, that one bad u comot am which then would you have to hold on to. Abeg nobody holy pass bro. Just find a place to forgive her and if u feel you can't maybe you should allow her go then.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by zelnababa(m): 2:22pm On Jun 10
bros anywoman that is not a virgin before marriage just forget about her past sex life and move on, if not you re writing letter to hypertension.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kwasoly(m): 2:23pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

Boy how old are you?
Marriage is not for everyone, she told you about her past and you are using it to judge her boy you never reach to settle down.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Dujardin(m): 2:26pm On Jun 10
This OP is still a boy. Marriage is for men.

Your wife slept with someone when she was in her youthful age and you are still brooding over it? Like for real If she has to be remorseful, it is to God not you. Besides from your post she didn't say she'd do it again.

Man you may be a virgin before you met her, but don't expect her to be. In this age if you wanna marry a virgin you may have to beg God for clay to mould your own wife.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Judgesledge(m): 2:26pm On Jun 10
My guess is , you never slept with any one prior to meeting your wife. Single or married guy, act is basically the same. Is she a committed wife now, if yes, come down from your moral high horse and be a husband.Dwelling so much in the past is surely gonna wreck your future

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by iamL(f): 2:32pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

Abeg go drink sniper!

Cos ur wife cheated and u are so bitter-unforgiven does not mean other women are like that, there are so many happy married men out there.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:32pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.
you are not serious

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