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Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. / My Marriage Is At The Brink Of Collapse Help Me / My Marriage Has Finally Ended (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Tillatalk: 10:35am On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka:bro no lie my aunt's husband loves people around him that always gives him joy there was a time he was feeding 12people in the same house I love him he gives Money to people without thinking twice I pray to be like him if I have enough money . |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Adewunmibaba(m): 10:38am On Jun 14, 2021 |
airminem:I’m fine.... can I PM you? |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by GGirll: 10:40am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Hassanmaye: lamentation lol 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by airminem(f): 10:42am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Adewunmibaba:Yea okay. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by MummyD2020(f): 10:42am On Jun 14, 2021 |
flokii: You people don't know that relocation takes planning. You think its just to pack bags and leave. How about their sources of income? They should carry it along abi it will be waiting for them there? 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Adewunmibaba(m): 10:44am On Jun 14, 2021 |
airminem:Thank you |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by MummyD2020(f): 10:58am On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka: I must say that you are wise and patient. But you see that it might not have turned out good for everyone. You are lucky |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Bbbwings: 11:04am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Tokz2002:I can not can |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by vincentjk(m): 11:22am On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka: There are a lot to learn from this thread. The guy went to far by saying that to his cousin I think. Only God knows tomorrow. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 11:36am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw: That's where the problem started from...a man marrying from a family that has more than four children. Can never be me. @OP: I'm sure you have gotten enough advices. Pick the best but realistic ones. Best wishes! 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by vikgreen01(m): 11:37am On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka: Hi sir!! This write up really got me laughing and ur comment got my attention. Pls leave poverty aside I’m sure ur in-laws is/are not up to about that numbers the op said even if u get the money can u be feeding in-laws of about 9 in number year in year out bros one day u go squeeze face... |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Omanze: 11:39am On Jun 14, 2021 |
You are right to be upset by unbudgeted expenditures that becomes recurrent. You are a prudent man that have financial independence as a goal, but that is being threatened by these kind of expenditures. You are however facing a dilemma in this issue. WHEN YOU GET MARRIED, YOU MAY SUCCEED IN GETTING GOOD WIFE BAD INLAWS OR BAD WIFE GOOD INLAWS. ITS RARE FOR A MAN TO GET BOTH, QUITE RARE. Now, from your own words, you have gotten a good wife, and did not get best of inlaws. You should thank God that you got good wife. This problem you are facing is temporal. The young persons eating up your food will later get something doing and will begin feeling remorse for depleting your food reserve this way. HELP THEM IN ANY WAY YOU CAN TO HAVE THEM FIXED IN SOURCES OF INCOME FOR EACH INDIVIDUAL THERE WHO CAN WORK. THAT WAY, YOUR BURDEN WILL BE LESSENED AND THEY WILL BE GRATEFUL FOREVER. DON'T HURT YOUR GOOS WIFE. HER INTEREST AND HER PRIDE IN HER PARENTS HOME IS YOURS TO SAFEGUARD, AND THAT UNDERSCORES YOUR KINDNESS TO THAT FAMILY THUS FAR. DONT RELENT NOW. IF YOU QUIT YOUR MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF THIS, YOU WILL REGRET. IF YOU PERSEVERE, YOU WILL REAP THE REWARD LATER ON. ANOTHER WIFE, if that is what you are contemplating, may be the opposite of what you have now. Imagine having bad wife and best of in laws. i.e you will be sleeping and waking up from the same room with the opposite of your current wife. Thank God your current inlaws are not stealing from you, nor your wife stealing from you and giving to her family behind you... That is what happens in many families, and many of them are still enduring it. Lastly: your marriage is still relatively young. Two yrs only. Every family faces challenges at early stage. Naturally, those problems fissle away as years go by. REMAIN A GOOD MAN. YOUR PROBLEMS WILL ALSO PASS WITH TIME. IF YOU HAVE A BIBLE, READ PSALMS 34:19 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 11:44am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Asquare84: It's because you are the only male in your household while OP's WIFE is the first daughter among NINE children 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by DonroxyII: 11:46am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:This thing is not difficult ... when you married a first daughter , you should know what you are expecting.... the pros is that she will use the first daughter experience to take good care of you and your home as she is already experienced and trained on shouldering responsibilities.... The cons is that her entire siblings will rely on her and her life thus destroying her life and your life and your children's life in the process ... My advice : Never condemn her family before her , let her come to you to complain then take it from there and tell her the evil ahead if she didn't apply wisdom and add caveat at the end that you are just watching out for her and not pitching her against her families.... You should find a one room apartment or self contain rent for somewhere as your guest house , if you are buoyant, rent a flat and move there when they are around and shuttle between there and your house .... Just drop money for your wife as weekly or monthly feeding allowance and stock up your Guest House ... If your wife is an understanding type, bring her in into the secret lodge if not hide it from her till her family bore her out and which is very soon ..... You need to step away because they day you will be filled up and clash with them, you can lose your home (your wife) ..... 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by DonroxyII: 11:51am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Bola146:How can able bodied folks feast on other people wealth ... why can't they go out there and eat from there own handiwork.... God forbid even as buoyant as I am ... I don't like third party in my matrimonial home .... I already promised myself if my wife mama should visit and stay more than 3 days, I will move to my guest house remote from my house .... My Guest House is the secret get away and strictly for me and my Nuclear family , strictly ... The day I see a trespasser, I will abandon there and find somewhere else ... I don't leach and I detest leaches !!... Of course I can help but not till the extent that you now turn my house to your mecca of a kind where you stay ... Go to your house and use your brain with the money and advise I would have given to you !! 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 11:51am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Elvisgolden: It's like you don't know that food items have had their prices shot up in recent months Do you know how he was coping during the early stages of marriage? This is how you people breed poverty through emotional abuse. 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Chinny024(f): 11:53am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Relocate to a distant place that would take a bus or two to get to your destination. By the time they think of how to board two buses to your house, they will use the transportation fee to feed themselves!!! Alternatively, relocate to another state by transfer of work if possible. It works like magic 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Raxxye(m): 11:57am On Jun 14, 2021 |
mastermaestro:Let's discuss this elsewhere! |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by DonroxyII: 11:59am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Twoclans:Forget that, even during your papa time ... not everybody can afford to feed everyone..... and now adays, many people can still feed many people ... don't you see beggars and many beggars in Nigeria, if it ain't lucrative , Nigerians won't join Almajiri begging .... The Op is not financially buoyant to be feeding 9 adults ... 9 , do you know what it feels to finish a cartoon of indomie in 3days .... Forget about money or no money .... I hate when in laws visit me over long period .... don't you have job and responsibilities to go back to ... I prefer to even rent house for any close family in my city or book hotel for some than for them to visit my home .... i no get time oo ... i go change am for everyone now now now ... |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by DonroxyII: 12:01pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Slimdan360:Mad man, he should give what he doesn't have abi ... |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by DonroxyII: 12:02pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
flokii:Guy, I laugh sotey I choke on my food ... |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by MrMcJay(m): 12:21pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
GGirll: God will fight his battle for him. How God will do it, I don't know, but victory is sure. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 12:38pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
generalwo: That you can do it (which I wonder how with such meagre salary) doesn't mean others can and should do same. Everyone isn't built the same way. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Arsenate(m): 12:50pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Funkybabee:Oh my gosh, so someone decided to give birth to 9 children he has no plans of taking care of but you feel it is the duty of another young man to take care of a battalion simply because he married into a family. Chai, you dull no be small. Also, lol at people waiting to fill in the place. Good luck in getting men stupid enough to put up with entitled creatures like you. 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Arsenate(m): 12:53pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka:A beautifully written nonsense and it got the most likes. Nigerians are easily swayed by emotions and sentiments. Little wonder they regularly vote in dumbassses as their leaders. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by BoosBae(f): 12:57pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
seanwilliam:Yes, she's been feeding her family and the Op's family who visit once in a while with her funds, at least she earns and isn't stingy with her funds. Yes he's a poor man because he wants both his money and wife's money to himself, he said it himself or didn't you read that? The op has poverty mentality and is a selfish being. So the woman shouldn't take care of her loved ones who she's known all her life because of one poor man. Who knows tomorrow? These same people may be the ones to help that family tomorrow. For the records, don't think every lady is like the ones in your life. Some of us are very responsible financially. Not crayfish, Maggi or onions women like you know. End of story. 3 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by BoosBae(f): 1:01pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Funkybabee:I tire o, a man that will be putting his eyes in the small money you're making... Is that one a real man? He's just a selfish being. 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by GGirll: 1:04pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
MrMcJay: You are the funniest of all responses I read here....same happened to my sis who just put to bed, in laws comprising of one old woman they hired, 2 old ladies ages 29 n 39, stormed her house in d name of helping out, they cook, give her little n eat up d rest until her hubby started complaining that how come stuffs are finishing like these, she started cooking herself to control things n dishing their food only for d 39 year old one to complain that shes stingy n that where she was squatting, d woman gives her plenty food, her Hubby's elder sis of about 45 years too comes n enters d kitchen to pack food for herself, each of these ladies are divorcees n unmarried with annoying character flaws n very rude while uneducated. But my sis is a doctorate student while hubby is a business man, n all they do is go to marker, cook, steal, cause trouble between her n hubby, clean d house twice a week, d mama only baths d baby n press her tommy, while my sis washes her n Hubby's clothes, baby's clothes, cooks, breast feeds n cuddles d baby even at night n one day she just woke up n ordered her hubby to choose between her n them,she practically told them off today they have their peace. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by rollyfemmy: 1:39pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
First of all you knew she was a first born before you married her. Am sure her family were depending on her before she got married to you. Even If you marry a first born, the family will not stop looking up to her for many things. My advise is to sit your wife down and you guys can plan a specific amount of money to give to them monthly for their food and their welafare. And that they can visit maybe one time in a month or one time in two months because you need a space for you guys to enjoy your marriage or family life. And it is okay for her to visit them whenever she want in their family house. Please note this, when you feed people who dont have or people who are in need, there is a big blessing in that. So speak to your wife and organize your home.. May God be with you and your household. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Nobody: 1:43pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ikpongiton: Ideally, the parents of these in-laws have failed as they have allowed outsiders take over their natural responsibility. This right here is a good example of why most people never stop struggling financially. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by skj1377(m): 2:14pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Pray for more blessings the hand that gives is always greater than the hand that receives. Dont be tired of your marriage because you are pressured to give what you have in your case it's food. The money you will use to buy car and build houses will be provided by God in ways you Dont expect. It is never the food money you will save to buy a car or build a house so keep giving and pray for more blessings so you can give more and keep some for your self. God answers those kinds of prayer fast. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Funkybabee(f): 2:32pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Arsenate: dumb guy will always sound dumb, there's no how they can package themselves |
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