ofiko123:
Don't worry he is going to outgrow it..

alright thanks

He is improving

Please leave that baby alone

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

I understand your point. It's very complicated though, I think you let him spend more time with tougher guys or maybe enroll him in any of the voluntary organisations(Boys scout, boys brigade, taekwondo).
Beating only hardens kids heart which makes them all grumpy when they grow up. It is a big license to disobedience.
Also boarding school is another option but quite discouraging. Don't take him there until he is tougher and stronger enough to blend in.
I wish you goodluck

Thank you everyone. The thread has been helpful. God bless you all