jantman:
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Lostchild:
I am a person that I love to talk about myself and encourage others to talk about them self instead of them to gossip about others.

I have a female married neighbor who is very pushy and controlling. She began to assert her authoritative and controlling attitude towards me. I told her to stop, knowing that she will continue in her foolishness if I dont stop her.

She is the type that controls everything and every one around her, including her hubby. I told her one day; you can cantrol your family, but if you try this to my domain, I will deal with you if you don't back off from me.

She miss judge my words and started shouting holy ghost fire on me. I kept quiet and allowed her to finish her display in shouting holy ghost fire. I silently said to myself, if the fire of God will kill anyone here, it will be you because I am living a life style where I always mind my business and don't like trouble makers

She kept her manipulation and tried to involve the landlady, thinking that I will yield to their demands, but she was supprised that I resist and sternly warn the land-lady, the very person she respect so much and both she and the landlady back off.

About my female neighbor; she is a nice person but her problem is that she act before she thinks, her wrong deed has has been done already

After some time, she began to see that I am a person that is well discipline and she realize she has handled me in a wrong way and tried her very best to reconcile and make peace with me. I ghost her off completely and gave her the silent treatment.

In the past I have suffered many betrayals, many abuse, many injustice without retaliation, all I do is to forgive and forget. I just know how to forgive and see beyond the action of men.

I remember when I help a friend to make millions and I exalt him, after making money he went all about and started telling people that I was jealous that he has made money. I confront him and asked him; I heard you have been telling people that I was jealous of you over money I help you to make? he acknowledge and told me.he has done me wrong. I forgive him and help him more, guess what? He was also the one that put me in trouble and almost sent to jail cell.

I remember a very close that we use to live in the same apartment, he made the attempt and tried to fv'c'k my girlfriend when I was not at home, the babe had to struggle her way out and flee from the apartment. When the babe told me, I asked her, have you told anyone apart from me? she said NO, I told her, please keep this a secret and promise me not to tell anyone because we dont know the future. I still shared my food with that friend and didnt let him know that I know what he tried to do, Guess what? that same friend tried to assassinate me in the future (past) it was God that intetcept and saved me from him.

READERS: Forgiveness is not possible without genuine repentance and it is only God that knows those who genuinely repent.

Then I said, enough is enough. I told God that I can't continue like this, I just can not continue to forgive and over look because I may die before my time. God, you have protected me all my life and now it is time I need to try and protect myself.

I remember I told my elder brother that he has allowed bitterness and hatred into his heart because he told me he no longer forgive people because humans have hurt him so much. He told me that when he gives a person an opportunity, if they mess up, he just let them go. Looking back now I can see that my elder brother was (is) right

I have become like my elder brother by applying his rules to my life.

I respect men a lot and if a man offends me, what I do is to emotionally and physically withdraw a bit and apply more wisdom when dealing with him next time, I will greet him always but I can never trust my life to him in any meaningful way. Every aspect of my life is in now in safe mode

I flag off wrong people completely because of my life unpleasant experience.

Tomorrow if I have a wife I will play safe mode by giving her silent treatment so that she will not heavily violate my gentleness. As for my children, I always caution and warn them but still allow them to suffer the consequences of their wrong choice.

This world is not for the Nice Guys

irijuola:
Just hope you get a good wife cos you said you'll give your wife silent treatment if she misbehaves. Silent treatment ruins communication and destroys marriage. Personally, I view silent treatment as immature. I believe in speaking out and expressing myself whether the recipient likes it or not. It prevents bottling of emotions that can spark anytime.
Relationship with people, especially blacks, require calculation and wisdom.