Candidlady:



This verse killed me with laugh...

Remmybaby:
U may not be saying the truth here a woman on her right sences can never abuse her husband my experience my husband is the verbal abusive type and each time he does that I always remind him that one day I may be force to retariate I have advice him severally that I will prefer a man to hit me than to abuse me and when his insult has gotten beyond control even he do abuse me in church on the street without thinking who was there then I started retairiating because of that he started liaring to people that I don't have respect for him and that he want to divorce of which I am ready on which action he chooses because he fail to tell people the truth, it's only an irresponsible man that can abuse his wife even before his in law my case was worse than that , and my regret was when we started he never shown this sign because I would have prefer him being a drunk and I will still marry him than abusive husband, this man I married him when he had nothing but because he is making it now he feels he can treat me any
how so my brother be truthful u properly abuse her first and she might have warned u about it before she choose to be abusing u back thank u

Remmybaby:
U may not be saying the truth here a woman on her right sences can never abuse her husband my experience my husband is the verbal abusive type and each time he does that I always remind him that one day I may be force to retariate I have advice him severally that I will prefer a man to hit me than to abuse me and when his insult has gotten beyond control even he do abuse me in church on the street without thinking who was there then I started retairiating because of that he started liaring to people that I don't have respect for him and that he want to divorce of which I am ready on which action he chooses because he fail to tell people the truth, it's only an irresponsible man that can abuse his wife even before his in law my case was worse than that , and my regret was when we started he never shown this sign because I would have prefer him being a drunk and I will still marry him than abusive husband, this man I married him when he had nothing but because he is making it now he feels he can treat me any
how so my brother be truthful u properly abuse her first and she might have warned u about it before she choose to be abusing u back thank u

younglleo:
no father in a girl's child upbringing always leads to disaster

MansoryMX:



Respect for each other, self discipline, a state of peace of mind, understanding at difficult situations, ability to SIT AND TALK THINGS OUT are tools used by our parents. That’s why they have been married for so many years and still counting

crossfire47:

its a good thing you found a temporary solution to her madness. my late aunt used to advise us then that the best way to handle a woman when they get nasty is just to walk out of the house and go cool off outside. but there are some that have evolved and now go the extra mile to either cease your car keys or prevent you from leaving the house when they start their wahala, only very few men can tolerate this.

biggy26:

Well, all cases are different. We can’t generalize. Seen girls that loved their late dad’s wanting to treat their hubby’s same way.

akinade28:

I get you now. But people believe so called "Love" should encompass all the things you listed. I mean if you love someone one you should respect them, give them peace of mind, be understanding etc. Except when you mentioned love earlier you meant "emotional feelings" or "butterflies in the stomach" or "infatuation"

MansoryMX:


Lemme correct you there. In today’s world, Love is totally different from everything you and I listed. Humans have evolved and keeps evolving on daily basis. The mentality and average African man or woman has towards so 50 years ago is different from today’s world. But if there is one tools that keeps marriage, it isn’t love or money and offsprings but the many of few things I listed.

dacblogger:

What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Stupidquestions:

A Very idiotic comment

Savedday:
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attacked and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

Xxx123xxx:
Seconded bro..Many of us lack introspection thus we are solely responsible for our plight .
This women who is sniper tongued bitch now was once your girlfriend whom YOU made your wife.

Now lie to yourself that she hasn't been inflicting injuries on your ego with her tongue before marriage.

Or that you didn't know she was raised by a single mom.

You and only you are culpable for the fix you are in.

Your poor choice in women brought you thus far I would advice you seek counsel from people who have a pedigree in this matters moving forward before you make a bigger mess of things.

Romanoff:


I do. But one is a direct threat to life.

The other can be managed with therapy.

Pecoleee345:


I see......well am not expecting anything different from a woman....Go read the post again this time slower so u can stop asking me lame questions.

Chykes4micheal:


How can he notice it when he was blinded maybe by her beauty or backside. He did not tell us why his wife keeps abusing and cursing him. He is the Saint here, she is the villain. He had better told the truth than making silly excuses

younglleo:
Women raised by single mother are the worst!
Be very mindful to japa if you ever notice, and save ursef the stress nd trauma

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

akinade28:
I totally agree with you

Jman06:
Companionship that one can easily get from family, friends, fraternities, escorts, and even some oloshos?

This is the reason I think marriage has no use, if it's about so called companionship!

Bola146:
Marriage I don't know why I'm always shocked when I see this word. May we never be victim of bad spouse. If you marry the wrong person, na the end be that Lord, I don't pray for a bad man as husband please

victons:

Your last statement made sense though. But I've recently been with this girl that has a brother and both are currently being raised by their single mother.
Though she would tell me she's a feminist, I've tried to see her act awkward but she's gradually proving she's not the girl I'm expecting from her background.

akinade28:

So what other things will make marriage work? If love, sex and money isn't enough. I really wish to know, reading stories like this makes marriage scary for me oo