I got married March this year, am a graduate, my hubby is a realtor who sells lands and properties. I got a Federal job offer in Abuja which my hubby is in support for me to go for the job. And his job is big hit once in a while not like monthly earning like that.
We both leave in Ibadan where I manage my sewing business at home and do home and office deliveries.
Am happy I got the job and and also sad and scared that I will leave my hubby back in Ibadan to Abuja for a job.
My parents are Abuja based.
My question is should I go or not?
Pls I need advice on this

I personally detest distant marriages, you said you have a business, except the salary is what would sustain your family, I do not subscribe to it. You want to grow together not apart

Hmm, you asking whether to go or not means your intentions was plain. Some women would have accepted it without thinking twice or considering her husband's decision on it. Now back to the question;

Since you asked your husband and he gave you the go ahead, then I don't think any outsider's opinions still matter much. But do you guys have kids yet, or how long would the duration of the job take you? Distance is also part of relationship because at some point, there might be a reason for the couple to be apart but the dangers of it and determination of the couple to still make it work is what matters most.

The probability that you taking this job will affect you guys is also high especially when you begin to get more comfortable without him over there, if taking the job is going to greatly affect you guy's relationship and you can also cope with the current job you're doing, I would suggest you stay with him. But if you can withstand the pros and cons of it, then no problem. Pick your poison carefully.

why apply for a job in Abuja, if you dont plan on taking the job? shouldnt you have thought about the above question BEFORE applying for that said job?

ola92:
I got married March this year, am a graduate, my hubby is a realtor who sells lands and properties. I got a Federal job offer in Abuja which my hubby is in support for me to go for the job. And his job is big hit once in a while not like monthly earning like that.
We both leave in Ibadan where I manage my sewing business at home and do home and office deliveries.
Am happy I got the job and and also sad and scared that I will leave my hubby back in Ibadan to Abuja for a job.
My parents are Abuja based.
My question is should I go or not?
Pls I need advice on this

Why are you scared, is it that your husband will go for another woman in your absence, he may have been doing that in your presence, while you live with him, meaning that a man that wants to follow women will definitely do so

Do you want to remain a seamstress, meaning you don't want a paid Job where you will rise, if that's the case, don't cry latter

Discuss with your husband if he supports the job, go for it and keep visiting him as often as you can

With time, you take a transfer to be with your husband since its a federal Job

She should stay with her husband. You can always plan something around your husband. Her leaving may expose him to temptations. Who will cook for him? Who will take care of the home? House help?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zbWo8nsRLeI&t=65s

frozen70:


Why are you scared, if is that your husband will go for another woman in your absence, he may have been doing that in your presence, while you live with him, meaning that a man that wants to follow women will definitely do do

Do you want to remain a seamstress, meaning you don't want a paid Job where you will rise, if that's the case, don't cry latter

Discuss with your husband if he supports the job, go for it and keep visiting him as often as you can

With time, you take a transfer to be with husband since its a federal Job

frozen70:


Why are you scared, if is that your husband will go for another woman in your absence, he may have been doing that in your presence, while you live with him, meaning that a man that wants to follow women will definitely do do

Do you want to remain a seamstress, meaning you don't want a paid Job where you will rise, if that's the case, don't cry latter

Discuss with your husband if he supports the job, go for it and keep visiting him as often as you can

With time, you take a transfer to be with husband since its a federal Job

madam no vex, your write up dey scratch my eyes. I no say to write english hard, na the reason why our fathers invent pidgin.

Exmilitant:
madam no vex, your write up dey scratch my eyes. I no say to write english hard, na the reason why our fathers invent pidgin.

There are more polite ways of correcting people or drawing people's attention to typo errors, not just being nasty
You should know is night and the eyes can get blued

AmeLonRo:
She should stay with her husband. You can always plan something around your husband. Her leaving may expose him to temptations. Who will cook for him? Who will take care of the home? House help?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zbWo8nsRLeI&t=65s

You are right anyway, am just looking at the economic situation and her being independent with a job

MrBrownJay1:
why apply for a job in Abuja, if you dont plan on taking the job? shouldnt you have thought about the above question BEFORE applying for that said job?

I didn't apply for the job.
I just got the slot

MrBrownJay1:
why apply for a job in Abuja, if you dont plan on taking the job? shouldnt you have thought about the above question BEFORE applying for that said job?

I did not apply for the Job I was given an offer/slot