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Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Burneracct: 9:46pm On Jul 21
I am a twenty eight year old man. I still live with my parents although I have a job that pays me just under a hundred thousand naira. I haven't had a relationship in a long while and I'm in the process of getting into a relationship but I feel like the fact that I stay with my parents would negatively affect my chances. I'm considering renting an apartment but then these things are quite expensive in lagos. My parents ahve been supportive thus far. Do you think it's a good idea to move out? What affordable housing options are available assuming I'm to move out?
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by madridguy(m): 9:49pm On Jul 21
Burneracct:
I'm in the process of getting into a relationship but I feel like the fact that I stay with my parents would negatively affect my chances.

My brother, you never get a good reason to get an apartment of your own.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by ecolime(m): 9:53pm On Jul 21
You can be engaged while still staying in your parents house.

Abi na fornication dey hungry you? Talk true grin

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by SportsHD: 9:55pm On Jul 21
There's nothing you can't do in your parents house.
You're not a teenager, you're 28 ffs.
If you want total freedom, you can move out.
Bye bye to all that free meals, not having to pay for basic things like light etc.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Bola146(f): 9:57pm On Jul 21
For this Nigeria economy, please stay till you gather some funds, since you are yet to get married. Renting another room outside might be costly. Just make sure you have enough savings and plan for your future. Good luck

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Daveambition(m): 10:00pm On Jul 21
If you are living under ur parent's roof and have a room of yours for privacy, then I'd suggest you stay put for the moment while yu gather more funds...
Once you are able to raise enough cash to get an apartment & acquire ur own properties, then you can move out...
No let the opposite gender/relationship push yu to go start race wey ur legs no go fit champion...

Las-Gidi houz rent alone be like akwaibomite brideprice, too expensive; couple with the harsh economy of the country...
Alaye use ur head pan o...

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Raymond0008(m): 10:02pm On Jul 21
What if you marry, will you and your wife stay in your parents house! My guy try to they settle things yourself early make e no choke when you start paying bills, like electricity, light even food atimes. I left home at 15yrs old and almost the same age with you.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Burneracct: 10:03pm On Jul 21
I must say I'm surprised at the comments I have received. I was thinking its silly to have stayed this long. The reason I stayed so far was because I've been saving up to relocate to a foreign country. Most of my friends have their apartments though. I just wanted to see if I was wrong for thinking differently.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Burneracct: 10:06pm On Jul 21
Raymond0008:
What if you marry, will you and your wife stay in your parents house! My guy try to they settle things yourself early make e no choke when you start paying bills, like electricity, light even food atimes. I left home at 15yrs old and in the same range with you.

Of course not. But then I can't get married on my current salary. I try to support with payment of bills around the house too.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by HONESTFACT101(m): 10:06pm On Jul 21
Burneracct:
I must say I'm surprised at the comments I have received. I was thinking its silly to have stayed this long. The reason I stayed so far was because I've been saving up to relocate to a foreign country. Most of my friends have their apartments though. I just wanted to see if I was wrong for thinking differently.
so far as they have not given you reason to pack out just stay put and avoid unnecessary expenses

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by mariahAngel: 10:18pm On Jul 21
While you’re living with them, I hope you’re helping out with the expenses though undecided

Shikini money wey you just start to dey make, you wan begin use am carry woman. Body don dey shack you abi? Better calm down!
After now you go begin give yeye excuse say money no dey your hand when your parents ask.


Stay for a little while longer, at least till you’re able to stand on your own.
It’ll also afford you to save up.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by illicit(m): 10:25pm On Jul 21
Relocate that's if u can afford it

A man is not a man while living under his father

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by doggedfighter(f): 10:59pm On Jul 21
Looks like relationship is the only reason you want to rent an apartment.





What of your relocation plan which is the bigger goal?


Is it on hold? If not,

Why the distraction?

Are you just horn.y or what?

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by drightguy(m): 11:00pm On Jul 21
Why not just stay put till PMB leaves office. Wahala dey sleep, yanga wan wake am. tongue
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by chieni(f): 11:03pm On Jul 21
well nothing stops you from being in a relationship while you are in your parents house. In my opinion as long as you have a space of your own in your parents house, its fine staying with them. But if you don't, and you know you are someone who likes his space, then you can save up and take a step.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Burneracct: 11:29pm On Jul 21
doggedfighter:
Looks like relationship is the only reason you want to rent an apartment.





What of your relocation plan which is the bigger goal?


Is it on hold? If not,

Why the distraction?

Are you just horn.y or what?



The relocation plan is still in progress. I'm trying to be settled before I leave the country. I think having my apartment would show that I'm responsible.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by doggedfighter(f): 11:32pm On Jul 21
Burneracct:


The relocation plan is still in progress. I'm trying to be settled before I leave the country. I think having my apartment would show that I'm responsible.

Show who that you are responsible?

Your parents?
Or the woman you are eyeing?


Let me ask, you want to marry?

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Burneracct: 11:40pm On Jul 21
doggedfighter:


Show who that you are responsible?

Your parents?
Or the woman you are eyeing?


Let me ask, you want to marry?

The woman. And yes I want to get married that's the intent behind my dating.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Elporo: 11:43pm On Jul 21
Burneracct:


The relocation plan is still in progress. I'm trying to be settled before I leave the country. I think having my apartment would show that I'm responsible.

Guy get the apartment. It will let take bigger decisions and you will much more confident.

Your probably depressed right now and you dont know.

And yes the apartment will make responsible either in looks or actions.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by 1F30M4(f): 11:58pm On Jul 21
Not silly at all, good you've been saving up cos it will sure do you a great deal.. Yeah, most guys around same age as you move out of their parents house and move right into their own apartment orr shared apartments.. But then it shouldn't be just cos you're putting yourself back into the dating pool and being unsure about your chances.. How about if it is very far from where you work? So much traffic that you often get home late & exhausted? Is the environment toxic for you?

Your parents have been supportive, well I think that's a good one esp in these crazy times when there's high rate of inflation everywhere and people are struggling to settle bills here bills there more bills miscellanous bills & not-so distant future bills.. Lasgidi sef with im own stress, keep saving up o bros, everywhere go stewww soonest.. Ehennn so you wan japa leave us for UAR bah, issoraiit lol.. All the best.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by NoToPile: 5:51am On Jul 22
I don't really get what the issue is with young men rushing to move out, shuu.

Gain some financial stability naa
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by doggedfighter(f): 8:00am On Jul 22
Burneracct:


The woman. And yes I want to get married that's the intent behind my dating.

If you will relocate shortly after marriage.

Stay in your parent's house.

Discuss with your partner about this arrangement.

Some abroad husbands who have SANE parents that live in spacious houses go for this arrangement.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by VTJN(m): 8:29am On Jul 22
Burneracct:
I must say I'm surprised at the comments I have received. I was thinking its silly to have stayed this long. The reason I stayed so far was because I've been saving up to relocate to a foreign country. Most of my friends have their apartments though. I just wanted to see if I was wrong for thinking differently.
you are not wrong

Please don't allow peer pressure to influence you

Try to be financially prudent and be supportive in the house

Pursue your dream and never settle for less

All the best

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Burneracct: 6:46pm On Jul 22
I'd like to thank everyone for their contribution. This has been insightful.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by mariahAngel: 6:55pm On Jul 22
NoToPile:
I don't really get what the issue is with young men rushing to move out, shuu.

Gain some financial stability naa

As in!

It’s not like there’s pressure or anything to be ashamed of, since everyone knows the situation of the country.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by waywardpikin: 7:01pm On Jul 22
Burneracct:
I must say I'm surprised at the comments I have received. I was thinking its silly to have stayed this long. The reason I stayed so far was because I've been saving up to relocate to a foreign country. Most of my friends have their apartments though. I just wanted to see if I was wrong for thinking differently.

Bruv, I moved out after my service year. At that point I was 27. It was a no-brainer for me even though my parents really wanted me to stay. They acted liked they wondered why I was so eager to leave, but I knew that if I stayed:

1. I'd become lazier

2. I'd be more prone to follow the vision they had for my life instead of the one I have for myself

And most importantly:

3. Because they would have frustrated my life

Today, I dare say I'm better for it. I'm not where I want to be but I'm a very long way from where I used to be.

Whether people say you want to fornicate or not, move out! You are old enough now, too old maybe, and you need to begin the process of living on your own and gathering properties. You can't escape this as a man.


Friendly warning: Tins cost oooo

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by chieni(f): 7:30pm On Jul 22
waywardpikin:


Bruv, I moved out after my service year. At that point I was 27. It was a no-brainer for me even though my parents really wanted me to stay. They acted liked they wondered why I was so eager to leave, but I knew that if I stayed:

1. I'd become lazier

2. I'd be more prone to follow the vision they had for my life instead of the one I have for myself

And most importantly:

3. Because they would have frustrated my life

Today, I dare say I'm better for it. I'm not where I want to be but I'm a very long way from where I used to be.

Whether people say you want to fornicate or not, move out! You are old enough now, too old maybe, and you need to begin the process of living on your own and gathering properties. You can't escape this as a man.


Friendly warning: Tins cost oooo

Exactly! This is the case for most hustlers and people who are ambitious and do not want distraction. Everything has its Advantages and disadvantages. on your part, just ensure its the right reasons not necessarily to go wild.
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Rubbiish(m): 7:34pm On Jul 22
Burneracct:
I must say I'm surprised at the comments I have received. I was thinking its silly to have stayed this long. The reason I stayed so far was because I've been saving up to relocate to a foreign country. Most of my friends have their apartments though. I just wanted to see if I was wrong for thinking differently.
U want to leave your parents house because of relationship?? You should be talking about leaving when u want to marry. Once u move out, just know u won't be able to save as u are doing now. So I would advice u remain in your parents house, unless their body language suggest u leave, but if they are accommodating, please stay. Only leave when u have a valid reason to, for now, I don't see why u should leave.

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Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Evolutionlove: 7:53pm On Jul 22
Raymond0008:
What if you marry, will you and your wife stay in your parents house! My guy try to they settle things yourself early make e no choke when you start paying bills, like electricity, light even food atimes. I left home at 15yrs old and almost the same age with you.

Lol na dem, Awon "One Room Apartment" No "Loving Caring Well To Do Sane Parents" would want their offsprings leave home at the age of 25years not to talk of I5years of Age. Domestic Violence home, I sabi una wella. If them check you well, E fit be say na 5 Wives your Irresponsible poor he-goat marry like that.....grin
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by SteveOfu: 7:53pm On Jul 22
Yes
Abroad, you move on when you are done with school (perhaps at the age of 22 or thereabout) in my country, parents will call you to come back home to live at 30 years and over.
different folks!!
Re: Should I Move Out Of My Parent's House by Raymond0008(m): 8:36pm On Jul 22
Evolutionlove:


Lol na dem, Awon "One Room Apartment" No "Loving Caring Well To Do Sane Parents" would want their offsprings leave home at the age of 25years not to talk of I5years of Age. Domestic Violence home, I sabi una wella. If them check you well, E fit be say na 5 Wives your Irresponsible poor he-goat marry like that.....grin
You are kid, learn to better your future first before you quote me.

I won’t reply your mention again Ire ooo

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