Anonymos
Answered Saturday, September 22, 2018

I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school, looking forward to uni the following year... My then boyfriend who was way older than me and who probably knew infected me...

I could want to blame him for this, but I had a responsibility to make sure we either get tested before we have unprotected sex... But I didn't... And it cost me big time...

I could also try to justify the circumstances that led me to make such a decision to even date and older guy... Let alone give him my virginity... Before then I had only dated guys my age and we had not gone past the stolen kisses and occasional stolen moments of intimacy... Then I met this guy... Older guy... Exactly 24 years older than I am...

He seemed so mature and loving unlike the younger boys I had dated... He was even willing to help my sister move to his country to get a job... I think that's part of the reason why I thought he was worth giving my virginity... And boy was I wrong...

We did the deed a few times.... Now that I am older and wiser there wasn't really much to it... But to an 18year old experienced girl it was everything... Soon afterwards he became distant and I had a painful breakup... No reasons why and no closure... Just him distancing himself and that was it...

5 months later my high school results were out and I had passed so I could proceed to university to study law... I remember one day walking past the hiv counseling and testing center I decided to walk in and get tested... Not that I was ill.. Far from it... I just felt compeled to and I got the shock of my life... Imagine being 18 And hiv positive!

I went to my mom's work and cried my eyes out, we both did... Thereafter we called my late sister who had already migrated to the other country after this guy had helped her... We all cried and something prepared me and I immediately accepted my fate...

I would sometimes have moments of rage... I even questioned the existance of a God who would allow something like this to happen... I felt sorry for my mom who single handedly raised us after my dad passed on when I was 5...

This totally messed up whatever relationships I had thereafter.... How do you open up and tell someone... Talk about the stigma that surrounding this virus... I wondered if I would ever get married... Have kids... Lead a normal life.. Worse still my mom could not afford my university fees so I had to set aside dreams of ever becoming a lawyer and have to move to the other country where was sister was and look for menial jobs....

I eventually met my husband in 2011 who accepted me as I was although it hasn't been easy... My husband and both my kids are hiv negative.. All thanks to the ART treatment... My viral load is undetectable... I look after myself well and if I didn't tell you you'd never know... I take my meds religiously...

In the past I have had days when my husband would rub it in my face that I am high positive and he is not... The real circumstances that led me to this virus he doesn't know... It hurt so much at first... But now not as much and he has since stopped using that to hurt me... This year I'll be 31 and living positively for 13 years... I have also decided to go back to university and get that law degree

https://www.quora.com/How-did-you-get-HIV

I did a lot of research and I saw too many heart breaking stories of how lot of people got infected with HIV. I feel compelled to share this here because all of our youth no longer cares about HIV or fear AIDS anymore

With the extreme immoral society or heavily sexed women and men every where, fear dey grip me any time I think of sex

Wow

HIV is real. You can't be too careful enough.
Get a personal clipper ( cost just 6k to 7k), avoid sharing sharp objects. If you are the type that patronize those aboki cutting nails, buy a razor for them to use for your nail. It will cost you less than treating hiv

Avoid brothels and unprotected sex with random men/women. Stick to a single honest partner . It will cost you less than treating HIV

Peradventure you still contact HIV, it's not the end of life... We are just some steps away from finding a cure.. Do well not to infect others knowingly

Condom na my paddy untop fucck matter

if not for d normalisation of immoralities, including fornication/adultery, why would ppl be getting these evil diseases? Well I commend u for ur boldness, many l ladies are out there who dare not tell their parents their status and neither can they accept proposals from men

josh123:
Condom na my paddy untop fucck matter

fornication matters or all kinds of phuck both illicit n otherwise?

If I was hiv positive, I would have become a celebrity by helping and identifying with other positive victims too.

I know a few positive people who are still hiding their status after many years and others, married with kids.

HIV is not bad!

It's takes a little adjustment that's all.

The everyday pill is given by our government hospital for free.

God forbid...


I don't know why this word Don dey show days after I made out with a girl

Play safe and be free from STDs or don't play at all the better.
I have no such experience to share

Had a HIV scare last month. Slept with this call girl without condom after the first round.

Never will I go down with any lady if I don't know her sex history, HIV status and STD status. Infact, I jettisoned one invite last week because the lady hasn't done these tests.

Divoc19:
If I was hiv positive, I would have become a celebrity by helping and identifying with other positive victims too.

I know a few positive people who are still hiding their status after many years and others, married with kids.

HIV is not bad!

It's takes a little adjustment that's all.

The everyday pill is given by our government hospital for free.

@ bolded pure lie HIV is bad, flee from pre marital sex.
All this evil things are out there because human beings refuse to obey God.

CsRockefeller:
Had a HIV scare last month. Slept with this call girl without condom after the first round.

Never will I go down with any lady if I don't know her sex history, HIV status and STD status. Infact, I jettisoned one invite last week because the lady hasn't done these tests.

isn't it stress free to abstain n have peace of mind? What kind of rubbish evil desire pushes u guys to disorbey ur lord, even when u have not been bared from sex, but only forbidden from fornication/adultery and all illicit affairs only?

CsRockefeller:
Had a HIV scare last month. Slept with this call girl without condom after the first round.

Never will I go down with any lady if I don't know her sex history, HIV status and STD status. Infact, I jettisoned one invite last week because the lady hasn't done these tests.

Is it not better to abandon such life style which has this type of risk! HIV is just one of the consequences of premarital sex, there are others

CsRockefeller:
Had a HIV scare last month. Slept with this call girl without condom after the first round.

Never will I go down with any lady if I don't know her sex history, HIV status and STD status. Infact, I jettisoned one invite last week because the lady hasn't done these tests.

Skin to skin will not kill you. Call girl? You are your problem my brother.

ImaIma1:


Skin to skin will not kill you. Call girl? You are your problem my brother.

Perhaps I used the wrong word. She's just a normal average Nigerian lady learning a skill or in school that decided to trade something for something which many ladies do, same ladies who are in relationships, some are even well respected at church or work.

My dear, whether I call her call girl or my girlfriend, it doesn't make any difference.

Quality20:
isn't it stress free to abstain n have peace of mind? What kind of rubbish evil desire pushes u guys to disorbey ur lord, even when u have not been bared from sex, but only forbidden from fornication/adultery and all illicit affairs only?

What lifestyle? That you've found a way to control your raving hormones doesn't make you the standard. I'm not a womaniser and I don't go about having sex with different people, but like any other biological need it came and I did what an average person would do though, I'm not proud of my action, but I will not be vilified either.

livingchrist:
Is it not better to abandon such life style which has this type of risk! HIV is just one of the consequences of premarital sex, there are others

It's not a lifestyle to me. It happened and I have taken steps to avoid a reoccurrence. Nevertheless, should my body decide to act funny again, I am well armed with knowledge on what to do.

CsRockefeller:


Perhaps I used the wrong word. She's just a normal average Nigerian lady learning a skill or in school that decided to trade something for something which many ladies do, same ladies who are in relationships, some are even well respected at church or work.

My dear, whether I call her call girl or my girlfriend, it doesn't make any difference.

Exactly! Call girl or good girl, protect yourself.

Aswear,go to naimr around that yaba axis early in the mornings....or FMCs then U will be shocked at the population carriers

Divoc19:
If I was hiv positive, I would have become a celebrity by helping and identifying with other positive victims too.

I know a few positive people who are still hiding their status after many years and others, married with kids.

HIV is not bad!

It's takes a little adjustment that's all.

The everyday pill is given by our government hospital for free.

Easier said, get it first then you will know how far

We have more deadly diseases...HIV is so hyped because it has to do with the art of making

CursedNsukka:

Easier said, get it first then you will know how far

Hmmmm
Thankfully I'm not infected but I'm still very careful with myself. My mom always advise me against unprotected sex, she will say
"If you get pregnant, you'll give birth to the baby but if you get infected with any sexual disease especially HIV then you'll have to live with it all of your life".

I've only been with just one man, and I'm always careful with him and the way he interact with girls.

I'm a scared baby....

Men are fools sha..
How did your husband got married to you when he knows you are HIV positive?

A woman wouldn't do that if reverse was the case.
My gender tho!

Divoc19:
We have more deadly diseases...HIV is so hyped because it has to do with the art of making

Like I said get it first then we can talk about what you're saying

Vyzz:



God forbid...


I don't know why this word Don dey show days after I made out with a girl

Na call to repentance

[s]That's why I can't be an activist for them. Because they and people like you will sound me off .[/s]

Ok then. I wait. But if it's not God's plan

CursedNsukka:

Like I said get it first then we can talk about what you're saying

Divoc19:
[s]That's why I can't be an activist for them. Because they and people like you will sound me off .[/s]

Ok then. I wait. But if it's not God's plan

It will be his plan for u to get it

This guy ehn

Forget science. Let science breath sometimes.
Some people have stronger immune system.

CursedNsukka:

It will be his plan for u to get it

Divoc19:

This guy ehn

Forget science. Let science breath sometimes.
Some people have stronger immune system.

Lol, the only way you can prove it to us is by getting it first

SIN IS VERY EXPENSIVE. BEST BELIEVE

Ombudsman1:
SIN IS VERY EXPENSIVE. BEST BELIEVE

Nonsense. What about people that get it from sharp objects. Not everything is about sin. Your brain is filled with sawdust.

YungMillionaire:


Nonsense. What about people that get it from sharp objects. Not everything is about sin. Your brain is filled with sawdust.

The work your lousy father, mother, aunties , uncle's, relatives, grandfather, grandmother etc failed to do when you were a toddler is the very reason you've turned out this way; bitter, resentful and a piece of crap. For you, hope exists NOT!

But now, here's your one chance to set right what they all failed to do. A Glock 9, placed firmly on your temple with the trigger pressed briskly should put you out of this life-long misery. Take my word for it son.

Your father committed a SIN, an expensive one. YOU.