Lollittaa:

see mu.mu o. So because someone is hor.ny then she's not a virgin. Did you enter "the place" only to discover that someone has been there before you? What's your obsession with the V card

Munzy14:

That your last statement is deep!..


I av noticed their is a threat of arrogance and pride when some women feel they have achieved financial stability...You will notice this when you date some professional or career ladies.


Yet, there are very comfortable ladies humble, cool and humane..with womanly care...

In all this, you just pray you meet the woman for you...Even in the long run most trusted partners can be influenced by a lot....Friends, what they read, hear or see etc..

When a man is ready to settle, e dey involve prayer o..

If not you may repeat marriage.

Pecoleee345:

She is single now.....I can forward you her number... seems you know the best way to handle her and how things should be done. This is a confirmation that you are very impatient. Bros my present wife did worst, an Ikwere girl who'll tell you to your face how stinking your mouth is. In our first year of marriage she bursted my car tyres with knife cos of phone call. There are others I can't bring up here, thanks to my mom, who kept reminding me that there's no perfect woman. Today that same woman calls me Lord, encourages me in my weaknesses, buys my wears and that of my 4 kids even when I can do all that without her. Your own 2 years you dong dey burrow money from wify. You are toxic yourself. God knows y belle no gree stand make you no suffer the woman. Learn to be a man, cos you are not yet one. The next one you'll marry will be worst if you don't change.

cescky:


You could easily have made your points.. But you had to show how uncouth and local you are

Munzy14:

That your last statement is deep!..


I av noticed their is a threat of arrogance and pride when some women feel they have achieved financial stability...You will notice this when you date some professional or career ladies.


Yet, there are very comfortable ladies humble, cool and humane..with womanly care...

In all this, you just pray you meet the woman for you...Even in the long run most trusted partners can be influenced by a lot....Friends, what they read, hear or see etc..

When a man is ready to settle, e dey involve prayer o..

If not you may repeat marriage.

NoToPile:
The vibes I am getting from posts on this thread is that men no longer want to be providers.

djon78:



Why should I drop the mentality

I am the captain in my relationship

My woman understands that fact and accedes to it wholly

Maybe you can tell that to the men that believe otherwise

Pecoleee345:
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Yea.....i messed up in that aspect..... Especially the background check and way of life.

The worst one was the medical check it was two years into marriage I found out she had weak womb due to abortion....

cRobo:


Invite him

He need helps seriously from the shackles of the bleeding hoes

Mutemenot:


d nigga is very confused, he probably want to die like a fly that followed corpse to the grave.

ObaKlaz:
They were providers and in charge of their homes by, say 75%. But then came the generation of females like you who want men to remain providers while they whittle down his leadership of his own home yet wanting to remain just [b] 'care-givers' . [/b]
We are providers & should be the leaders of the home - you will all cry, "Patriarchy! Gender equality!!".
OK, let's share responsiblities - " Go & learn from your forefathers!
Since y'all new generation females are so confused, wanting to eat your cakes & still have it whole, then maybe y'all need to go learn for your maternal predecessors too.

Pecoleee345:

She is single now.....I can forward you her number... seems you know the best way to handle her and how things should be done.

SimplyFacts:
For compatibility, a lady once told me that she needed to get confirmation from her two Pastors & her mom's?

3 Pastors Mo ya look away. Before she gave a feedback, I told her my Pastor said (na lie o) he saw death ahead of us .

I can't lay the foundation of my marriage or live my life on the beliefs of other people she called Pastors.

concho:
As in eh , my current gf is being raised by her mum. Babe is a definition of humility and we are 3 years into the relationship. I have not seen a single disadvantage of being with her .

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

bisqit:
I am a dunce

lordally:


The last girl I dated for 1yrs and 3 months is a first class graduate from Afe Babalola university. She studied petroleum engineering. Her fees used to be 1.3M although in finals her fees was 900K. She was respectful and adores me too I do take her out now I saw a red flag the day she took me out. We were having a discussion and she said once she gets married it's only going to be here and her family with no other person! She wasn't just saying it she was acting it. Such girls would allow their mum to visit but you never allow yours and I won't have non of that. She was also non sacrificial. I was broke then to even buy Airtime to call her Omo to her it was my duty to call and I just had to look for a way she didn't care! I made out time to go for her convocation in university she didn't know I was to come cos I wanted to surprise her! When I showed up she was happy took me to her family house but also said it was unnecessary to come that I shouldn't feel bad if she doesn't come to my own that it was stress. I knew we wouldn't last cos I can't be with someone who can't sacrifice comfort to out smile in my face! And while I was being foolish I had a girl( My current GF ) Who was studying BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION who I felt wasn't a professional course, who was always doing the calling always wanting to hear from me always wanting to make me happy! But I didn't even give her chance it was my dad that sole sense into my Bald head! He said "" they there make pant dey wear you! You have a girl who values and sees the potential in you while you're running after the one wey no even send you"

Omo that was the day I focused on the new girl and we've been together for 4yrs now once I have my one leg in Nigeria and One leg abroad then I go wife her. The thing is my ex was dark in complexion get nice height studied PETROLEUM ENGINEERING get better front and better back wey dey Make me go mental! But my current babe is fair in complexion and is more beautiful but doesn't have the front and back my ex had and she studied BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION I had to choose between peace of mind and Breast and yansh! I went for the Former abeg so I go fit live long.

There are still ladies who are in this so called profession that a wife materials bro! Baba see I swear Irrespective of the profession wether Man or woman A GOOD PERSON IS A GOOD PERSON.

cococandy:


They’ve never wanted to be. Why do you think all those disgusting nicknames for women who actually let them provide exist?

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.
They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.
They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.
I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.
The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

bummyla:
I can feel your pain Bros! Everything you said is valid! Am currently separated from Madam, because of most of the things you listed, you were going through in your marriage. The only different is that my wife grew up in a normal family setting, Papa, Mama and Siblings (though they are orphans now). But her elder sister who does not want to marry and whom they all fear ruined my home with the support of Madam. Madam doesn't shout and use foul language on me. But most of her friends and siblings insult me to my face, while she enjoys every show put up by them. Forgetting I paid her siblings house rent, for 3 years going with I just stopped now she is gone. Got jobs for 3 of the boys at different times. Training the two brothers I love from secondary school, now one is in university. Doing that because I love those two.

Love is not enough in marriage! Dont demand from your husband what your father could not provide for you, his entire life. If you want it, go and get them for yourself. Women are now Nigerian Banks CEOs

adedayourt:


OP, let me first empathize with you as this must be that very phase of your life you wish not to arrive at.

Exactly what you stated up their is what I go through, but mine is happening while we still dating and we already have a wedding date. Introduction is supposed to be in few weeks from now.


But this lady is raised by partially her mum, partially her dad. She does most of the things you stated up there to the extend that when I step out of the house to buy stuff, she tails me and locks around behind (I have caught her doing this).



Now she has gone to my family to speak a whole lot and currently I am the worst guy on earth before my folks while she walks like an angel. Presently I called off everything with her and cancelling the wedding even though everybody is insisting I cannot take such decision.


I am only glad I am not married to her yet.

seangy4konji:
They will still come and beg you that she will change...

I will not waste RIP if you take her back....I cancelled marriage with a lady after 5 years of the same character...

Always able to shout and rain curses but inside and in public over trival issues....Once came to the louge to slap me and cause nuisance because i wasnt picking my phones...

I had to let go....Forget beauty and all...

Worst mistake for a man is no marry the wrong one..No peace..God give you the strenght to leave while you still can ooo

I am happy for you.

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said a lot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.

Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.

Lollittaa:

Rozcol:
Op is a liar, most Nigerian men are liars and manipulators.You all will be surprised if you hear the wife's side.