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|4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by binarymachine(m): 7:29am On Aug 01, 2021|
In all reality and honesty, not a single thing is wrong with the females. Females are about the most amazing, angelic and awesome beings on earth. However, it is pointless to try to ignore an established rule. Also, it will be a great disservice to us if we shy aware from reality because of how sensitive this issue is.
Whatever the case, the reality remains that many parents, especially those of African descent do not have much prospect for the female child. It might look like such an absurd thing to do especially in this contemporary society, but that is the reality.
Thus, we are going to look at the possible reasons why less ambition and prospects is directed at the girl child. Many parents who place all their hopes on their male kids with very little or nothing on the females do so on perceived justified grounds.
If we want to conduct analyses based on their theories and conceptions, we may be tempted to adopt their stance. However, before we try to promote or reject their claims, I will love to highlight what their reasons are.
1. The Natural Duty To Work And Make Ends Meet Is On The Man
From both biological studies to theology, it is seen that men are the ones given the duty to be enterprising and to exert energy to sustain their homes and families. In Christianity, you can see that in the garden of eden, it was the man that was cursed to spend his sweat before finding food. He was to till the soil and be pierced by thorns in the Field. Here, we see that working to earn a living is made a man’s thing. Still in the same scene, the woman is relegated to the tasks of child birthing, raising her home and tending it. As such, many people use this view in their regard of women.
2. Women Are Naturally Less Suited For Struggle
We have seen in many instances and from facts that women are built naturally less sturdy than the men. From studies in biology, it is a fact that girls have far lesser bones than the boys even those of same age. In fact younger boys even have more bones and accumulate more masses than older girls. With this, in terms of exerting power and force for some tasks, you see that the boys have an upper hand naturally. Some religious people do even joke that a woman was made of a singular rib bone of a man. Imagine the comparison!
3. Women Have Their Lives Tied To Men
I am well aware that a lot of us would want to debate this proposition. Still, to a significant extent, the girls sometimes do not really have a life of their own. Once they are of age, they get attached to a man and then begin another life. A man can plan out his life, marking out the things he wishes to do for himself, when he will get married and all. In contrast, a woman only has the power to reject or accept a man when he comes. Yet, the time when the man comes is totally not hers to decide whereas a man can pin down at what point he will approach a lady. For this reason, a woman is not expected to do much than prepare and wait. Her life’s path to a large extent will be influenced and determined by her marriage decisions. Concurrently, a girl on getting married in some societies will have to drop and forgo her maiden name. She disowns her fathers name to take up another man’s name. This is a critical point influencing parent’s views and opinions.
4. Domestic Duties And Keeping Of The Home Usually Confine The Women
Though the debate will still rage on, the responsibility of tending the home, rearing and raising the family lies more on the girl child than the boys. Even if we try to share every other duties, that of conception, delivery and nursing babies in the home cannot be delegated to the man. It is a woman’s tasks. Of all tasks, this particular task is so much demanding in attention and time.
For this reason, the woman has little extra time to pursue other stuff. In the light of the above reasons, it is not difficult to see why the girl child is not entrusted with as much responsibilities and expectations as the male folk.
Not as though she is despised or unloved but because she does not have the capabilities (physically but not mentally) to handle them as good as the male folk do.
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by Kriss216: 7:31am On Aug 01, 2021|
Any day my wife gives birth to a Girl child, I'll weep like person wey motor jam em foot.
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by Nuelito: 7:37am On Aug 01, 2021|
E bi things
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by Pauldollars(m): 8:00am On Aug 01, 2021|
No girl or woman is a liability.
If God made women out of men and said men should treat women as the weaker sex, then let's leave things the way God designed it.
Marriages and homes are in chaos today because a lot women do not want to follow the way God designed marriage and relationships to be.
Man remains the head of woman. You can never be more intelligent than God who made things that way. Feminists and people who support feminism are doing themselves and society a great disservice
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by 99thEnemy(m): 8:03am On Aug 01, 2021|
Na your type the come get 7 children, all girls
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by Norano: 8:07am On Aug 01, 2021|
Kriss216:It would even make more sense if you have no children at all, saves them from a dysfunctional father.
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by mardis: 12:46pm On Aug 01, 2021|
What if they person that is to give birth to your wife or mother say this? Shey you'll see wife marry or will you have been given bith to?
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by mardis: 1:07pm On Aug 01, 2021|
Gone were those days when this perception was held among ignorant set of people. Nowadays you see alot of women making waves both within and overseas. Making their parent and loved ones proud.
One should be careful what he/she pray for in life. I want male, i want male, God knows female would have been blessing to you, but no you fasted and prayed, when to different mountain yop until God leave you to your fate and you eventually gave birth to a male child. Later he becomes a pain in your arss, committing terrible crimes, not giving you any rest of mind, then you turn back to God again for help, will He even listen to you, knowing fully well you're the architect of your problems.
|Re: 4 Reasons Why Some African Parents Consider The Girl Child As A Liability by Nobody: 3:59pm On Aug 01, 2021|
This guy just keeps recycling his content thinking he's making sense.
No b you I blame, na d people wey dey push your contents go FP
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