Or should I say cheating recovery,
I met my husband during our service year and we got married 4 years after.
We have 2 children together.he is loving and caring and that was what attracted me.he used to tell me about his past,how he is now a one way man.l believed him and give him all my life to him.
He is the first man l HV ever loved and HV any sexual relationship with so not experienced at all.
Keeping myself for my husband was my policy growing up,doing right is d way I'm wired.
After our wedding he got a job outside Lagos and that is how cheating game started without my knowledge.
After my first baby,it was infection v infection and l wasn't even suspecting him and it went on like that till l had an ectopic pregnancy tryin for thethird baby.
I nearly lost mylife but God saved,

How l found out?
Hmm the first time .l collected his phone to do something,l now saw msg from one girl when l confronted him he denied for months.that was in 2009 he even showed one his friends and they said that msg doesn't mean anything after months of serious dragging,l forgot about everything thing.

Fast forward to 2020 Sept 6th my whole life changed.l don't go through his phone in suspicion since l married him and that was my greatest undoing.l check what l want to check and drop it but that evening l don't know how l was directed to his inbx.

l could not believe my eyes.l nearly quench through out d night my body changed.l could not eat for 3 day straight.if l didn't see all that l would not believe he could do all that.

The same girl he denied having anything doing with is the woman he is having sex with @ least twice in a week and sometimes 3* in a week.
U may ask how? He comes home wkends so from mon- Saturday night.so the woman enjoy him and the have more time without interference because his wife is naive.

I have been having dream about dragging him with women but he kept denying.until his cup got filled up big time.

He was and still remorseful and had swore with everything in this life but that doesn't stop me from freaking out most time.

I find it hard to truly move on bc the betrayal was just too much( don't want to go deep)
Contemplated leaving but my sister and others are begging me.

I believe he is not cheating remorselessly again at least 50% sure.

_Before he can never come within the week if l beg him he will complain of hold up but now he comes Wednesdays.
_ He goes extra mile to make me happy
_ Now l ask for anything l want - no pity
_since he stopped all those nonsense life My God blessed him with a good job.

Believe this at your own peril

A man is created to be naturally polygamous, the sooner you accept that fact, the better. As long as he's carrying out and discharging his responsibilities in the family.

Is very bad to be cheating on ur spouse especially loving,loyal ones.
He said he was just having fun.( Really?)

The woman is 31 years old and l asked is a 31 years old woman Neva reach to be a wife and mother instead of being a side chick?.

Sleeping with a married man might prevent and distract you from getting ur own.
Pity urself naw.

Jashub:
Believe this at your own peril

are u kidding?
I learnt a lot from people story here that is y l posted mine..

DaddyRochie1642:
A man is created to be naturally polygamous, the sooner you accept that fact, the better. As long as he's carrying out and discharging his responsibilities in the family.

The mode of some cheating is heartbreaking.
Y was he denying if it's a good thing?

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from 2009-2020 ....trash.... nonsense



try another stanza let me see if I can believe you..


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I felt bad hearing this, but madam! Man are polygamy’s in nature, as far he’s doing the right thing at home just chill, he will soon broke up with the lady.

It hurts so bad when the one you love dearly cheats on you.
It causes system disorder and emotional purging.


Chai I remember the night I discovered that my Idoma babe dey cheat on me that year, I was restless.

Love Mumu Sha






Your husband is remorseful and sometimes u get angry for the betrayal pls forgive him wholeheartedly.

Don't turn the opportunity of demanding for what you like to blackmail.
"Now l ask for anything l want - no pity" sounds like blackmail.

The truth is you can never forget even though you forgive a cheating partner, the psychological effect last for a life time.

ndidigood:


_ Now l ask for anything l want - no pity

_since he stopped all those nonsense life My God blessed him with a good job.

If you spend all he makes recklessness, you will suffer more when the chips are down.

Your God blessed him with a good job, please note that God is not from your village, your husband stopped sinning and God blessed him with a good job. If this God you are talking about is just for you, HE would have blessed you with a good job instead, abi you are not destined to make money ni? My friend stop that nonsense, the fact that you hate someone does not mean that God will not bless him because God is not from your village.

But that cheating guy messed up, thank God he has repented after being caught. I pray he does not go back to sinning again.

Well done madam, for keeping your home despite the betrayer, God will compensate you for your forgiveness. Marriage is hard work, do not mind what these so called Preachers say, they too are fighting big battles in theri marriages.

Cheating cheating cheating...the story never ends. What is cheating?

Human Beings are just too insatiable.

Raymond0008:
I felt bad hearing this, but madam! Man are polygamy’s in nature, as far he’s doing the right thing at home just chill, he will soon broke up with the lady.

Why not marry more than one wife!

I guess God would understand his committing adultery and putting the lives of his wife and children at risk because he fulfills his financial obligations at home, therefore his lack of self control and fidelity to his marriage can be excused.

greenie77:


Why not marry more than one wife!

I guess God would understand his committing adultery and putting the lives of his wife and children at risk because he fulfills his financial obligations at home, therefore his lack of self control and fidelity to his marriage can be excused.

Your comment sounds like a female comment.

When you marry, if you face the same issues, change man asap.

Raymond0008:
Your comment sounds like a female comment.

When you marry, if you face the same issues, change man asap.

Irrespective of gender, infidelity can never be rationalized. " Thou shall not commit adultery" is never open to personal interpretation as it is what it is. There is nothing that justifies adultery be it by a woman or a man as we all struggle against the inclinations of corrupt nature.

You are a man, be bold enough to marry your side chicks, it is not as if your wife can beat you up for that. With marrying your side chicks, you can own your polygamous nature with full chest.

A cheating man will never stop even when caught, he'd only become more discrete with it and decieve you with fake love, promises and gifts.

MufasaLion:
A cheating man will never stop even when caught, he'd only become more discrete with it and decieve you with fake love, promises and gifts.

Even at the risk of destroying his family?
Isn’t failure one of man’s biggest fear?

mariahAngel:


Even at the risk of destroying his family?
Isn’t failure one of man’s biggest fear?

Cheating is more difficult to stop especially when a man has got the resources to do so.

MufasaLion:


Cheating is more difficult to stop especially when a man has got the resources to do so.

Sigh!

mariahAngel:


Sigh!

So unfortunate, right?

Text me, let’s cheat on him back . 50 50.

MufasaLion:


So unfortunate, right?

Disturbingly so.

I assumed myself in op’s position, wondering what my next move would be if I were betrayed that way...
I’m still wondering...

If you were op’s husband, are you likely to repeat the same mistake again if you were forgiven the first time?

eazzzy1:
Text me, let’s cheat on him back . 50 50.

You wan die?

mariahAngel:


Disturbingly so.

I assumed myself in op’s position wondering what my next move would be if I were betrayed that way...
I’m still wondering...

If you were op’s husband, are you likely to repeat the same mistake again if you were forgiven the first time?

I really can't say because that woman's husband can never change. He's enjoying that lifestyle. It's like it's encoded in his DNA already. Now, he's gonna be smarter with it.

However, I doubt if the woman would be smart enough to suspect anything henceforth because she might get carried away with the fake love and the gifts. She seem to like the new development, yes, she deserve it but it's all ruse.

That dude will keep on cheating!

MufasaLion:


I really can't say because that woman's husband can never change. He's enjoying that lifestyle. It's like it's encoded in his DNA already. Now, he's gonna be smarter with it.

However, I doubt if the woman would be smart enough to suspect anything henceforth because she might get carried away with the fake love and the gifts. She seem to like the new development, yes, she deserve it but it's all ruse.

That dude will keep on cheating!

It might just be that she doesn’t care that much anymore, so why don’t I just make the most of the situation?

Would it still be considered cheating if the other party no longer cares? Like Do whatever you want with your life!
It is one thing to cheat, it is another thing to feel cheated.

mariahAngel:


It might just be that she doesn’t care that much anymore, so why don’t I just make the most of the situation?

Would it still be considered cheating if the other party no longer cares? Like Do whatever you want with your life!
It is one thing to cheat, it is another thing to feel cheated.

Yes, it's still cheating as long as they are still legally in a union even if she doesn't care anymore. And also, she still gonna feel hurt and broken, knowing fully well that her man is cheating and continuously lying to her face.

A cheating wife is more worse and deadly than a cheating husband. Women hardly leave a trace.

mariahAngel:


You wan die?

The husband and the side chick never die na . I like to help out where I can. I’m doing the Lord’s work.

eazzzy1:


The husband and the side chick never die na . I like to help out where I can. I’m doing the Lord’s work.

Na satanic work be that! Ise esu!

MufasaLion:


Yes, it's still cheating as long as they are still legally in a union even if she doesn't care anymore. And also, she still gonna feel hurt and broken, knowing fully well that her man is cheating and continuously lying to her face.

A cheating wife is more worse and deadly than a cheating husband. Women hardly leave a trace.

A cheating wife is equally as deadly as a cheating husband, as their unsuspecting partners are left vulnerable to deadly diseases.
As in the case of the op.

mariahAngel:


A cheating wife is equally as deadly as a cheating husband, as their unsuspecting partners are left vulnerable to deadly diseases.
As in the case of the op.

But at least men do slip when they cheat but women hardly does except they want you to know or just got unlucky. Cheating is bad irrespective of the gender especially those in marriage.

I'm not married so I wouldn't know and wouldn't want to imagine it.

Jashub:
Believe this at your own peril

You funny.
Someone who is a registered member since 2017 will come here and fool herself by lieing?