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Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Cindy222(f): 12:15am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Skyfornia: I really don't know why o....Is it fear? Or lack of trust? I don't even know the reason. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Skyfornia(m): 6:20am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Cindy222: Or probably greediness... What about you, are you faithful to your boyfriend? |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by obaaderemi: 6:25am On Aug 24, 2021 |
bigcee:And fear of what people will say. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by obaaderemi: 6:29am On Aug 24, 2021 |
khadupsie:What if the guy decides to take the children away from you? You know some guys are like that. That's one of the things tying some women down in bad marriages. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by khadupsie(f): 7:35am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Who takes minor away from their mother Not possible! Even the court wont grant that... obaaderemi: |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by obaaderemi: 8:22am On Aug 24, 2021 |
khadupsie:Men do. Especially here in Africa, the man can easily take his children away from you if he really wants to punish you. And his family will back him. Even in America, women are largely disadvantaged these days when it comes to child custody. Look at these stories:https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/aug/14/courts-fail-mothers-children-abuse |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by khadupsie(f): 9:06am On Aug 24, 2021 |
Lmaooo.. Takeless! obaaderemi: |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by obaaderemi: 10:29am On Aug 24, 2021 |
khadupsie:It's happening. The women went to court and still lost. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Cindy222(f): 4:28pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Skyfornia: I have never cheated in any of my relationships. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Skyfornia(m): 8:50pm On Aug 25, 2021 |
Cindy222: I believe you...same with me 1 Like |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 2:01am On Aug 26, 2021 |
They form a trauma bond. They become addicted to the abusive partner |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 2:11am On Aug 26, 2021 |
bigcee: I think low self esteem is the main one -- it ties everything together. It's ultimately the cause of identity crisis, trauma bonding, fear of being alone and poverty. People may be born into poverty but their low self esteem keeps them there |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 2:14am On Aug 26, 2021 |
MufasaLion: Actually, it's trauma bonding that makes them go back. Hope for change as well but trauma bond is really hard to break. It's like a drug addiction |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 2:15am On Aug 26, 2021 |
Monogamy: True, people who truly love themselves will never tolerate abuse of any kind |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 2:20am On Aug 26, 2021 |
Sonnobax15: It's actually because they grew up in dysfunctional homes. They don't know what healthy relationships are like. Toxic relationships are the only thing that they know -- it feels familiar to them |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 2:22am On Aug 26, 2021 |
khadupsie: It's trauma bonding. The typical punishment–reward cycle |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Monogamy: 5:13am On Aug 26, 2021 |
bepositive11: Exactly, both victims and the accusers are not consciously aware of what a toxic or abusive relationship mean same as healthy relationship |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Cindy222(f): 9:21am On Aug 26, 2021 |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by pansophist(m): 9:44am On Aug 26, 2021 |
It all boils down to insecurity that stem from not developing oneself. The fear of having no options, fear of loosing dependence, fear of a better choice out there, fear of being alone, lack of self-respect, to name a few. To keep a partner and demand they treat you right, you must reserve the need to walk away, to the same degree that if you want peace, you prepare for war. And to be able to negotiate on this level, you must have developed yourself to a point where you have options, does not solely depends on anyone, and of course, treat your partner the exact way you want them to treat you. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Brunosamel(m): 10:05am On Aug 26, 2021 |
Monogamy:Cuz there brain is wired that they will change the person or the person will change which is irrational |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by bepositive11: 10:31am On Aug 26, 2021 |
Monogamy: Very true |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Demigod22: 9:52pm On Aug 26, 2021 |
Toxic and abusive relationship is like the story of the slave girl. The slave girl is so much in love with the slave master. Human being, most of us are conditioned to love and admire our oppressor, and that's why people still love and defend Buhari. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:40pm On Aug 28, 2021 |
Cindy222: Fornication itself is cheating on your future partner. I wonder how this generation normalize wrong doings. Immortality is now everyone's lifestyle. |
Re: How Do People Manage To Stay In A Toxic Or Abusive Relationship? by debbydams(f): 9:11pm On Aug 28, 2021 |
Monogamy:my own point is, the reason why some people are in a toxic marriage is (for a lady) I don't want to go back to my fathers house I can't stand the Shame Who will take care of my kid? How will I survive? Where do I start from after 2 or 3 kids ? Forgetting that when there's life there hope.. In relationship Some stay in toxic relationship because of love, someone will say I can't do without him,he's the best man No self value. I was once in one, when we started the love was very sweet,very sweet,I was in 200l, he was In his final nd he's a medical student..we were very cool, I went back to school,things started changing,meanwhile He has hot tempered nd when he's angry,one insult is enof to spoil my week..I stayed because I love him not the money part tho..he went for his service everything was good.. So where whala take start,I was posted to his place(hospital) for my practical, i told him I can't because I did my first practical der I changed it even when he told me not to,,after a month we didnt see nd we used to see every 2 weeks..we were given easter break I went home, I came back and I spent 2days with him before going back to my practical base. My friend has his num tho And I don't have issues with that,after a month we didnt see babe has gotten another gf where he serves..after the whole practical I went back t school he came to my school without seeing him nd he told my friend..I confronted him, he got angry nd started insulting me,,I was even trying to beg. I decided to visit him maybe if he sees me his anger will go off, unfortunately he really got pissed, I Cant even near his door because I don't want he will do,his neighbor gave me a spare room,so around 11pm I knocked his door he opened,lo and behold I got the beating of my life,it was his neighbors that rescue me,he shut his door immediately so the next morning I carry my bag he came and tried to apologize for beating me,I left nd everything went off..I was Even begging despite the beatings oo..love is stupid tho,,he blocked me,for more than a year I couldn't love any guy.I moved on he came back we became friends till now we used to talk and we are cool as friends..it was last year I find out my friend went to his place nd she's even behind everything..I confronted her she started insulting me,,I just let it slide.. |
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