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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Nobody: 12:12am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Which ego? The reason most men don't want to date or marry single moms is because they expect men to take responsibility for their kid(s). If single moms take care of their child(s) bills by themselves and stop trying to shift the responsibility of those kid(s) to men, I believe men will start embracing them. 12 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by tiswell(m): 12:12am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Ruthymoon:oya go back to sleep 10 Likes
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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 12:13am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: I’m not a harsh person. At least I don’t think I am. But I have seen the sentiment I described up there happen before my eyes. The man was not harsh, rather on the contrary, he left the discipline of the boy largely to his wife, but she accused him of being aloof because the kid was not his. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I’d rather not be in that situation. And this is just one of the couple of situations I want to avoid that are peculiar to marrying a single mother. There’s still the issue of the boy’s graduation or wedding and what roles his father would play in any of these. 13 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Nobody: 12:14am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight:manipulation how? It is evident you lack the understanding of what I'm writing about 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 12:15am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Lollittaa: Actually you lack the understanding of what you are writing about. You are so conceited you cannot see the nonsense you’re saying. 3 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:16am On Sep 10, 2021 |
madridsta007: and so what? the love a mother has for her child is different than the love she has for you? are you saying that your needs will be equal to that of a child (regarding this woman)?! are you saying that you would want to compete with this child for his mother's attention?! 2. There will always be a third party in the marriage or relationship. there is ALWAYS a 3rd party in any union, whether it be her mother, her friend, her ex, her siblings or her family. get with the program... 3. She can exit your life any given time. She has built herself to be independent and she can revert to that whenever she suspects you.... and so what? do you expect a woman to be depending on you, so that you can manipulate her like a remote toy? any woman in your life can exit at any given time (whether a virgin or single mother), unless you tie her to the bedpost every morning as you leave for work. 4. And yes, she will always suspect you. ... suspect you of what exactly?!?!? 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:22am On Sep 10, 2021 |
3minssex: how difficult is it to tell a single mother that you DONT EVER want to take care of her childs need?! is that so hard?! AfroKnight: again, such children should know from the get go who is there father (who abandoned them).... you are just there as the dude who fukcs his mum and help around the house. no dulling! if you've separated yourself emotionally from that child, you would have no issues whatsoever dealing with his graduation/wedding...you are a step dad at best, nothing more nothing less. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by princewarri1985: 12:23am On Sep 10, 2021 |
SyrusdeHansome:Then be ready to share your wife with her baby daddy, she cant stop sleeping with her baby daddy, you are not smart, single ladies full everywhere 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Freelane33(m): 12:31am On Sep 10, 2021 |
BRO SINGLE MOTHER IS SINGLE MOTHER , DONT JUSTIFY WHAT IS NOT JUSTIFY ABLE AND DONT DARE TO MARRY ONE , I BEG YOU WITH THE NAME OF GOD THE EXPERIENCE IS NOT ALWAYS FINE SyrusdeHansome: 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Hardebaryor(m): 12:35am On Sep 10, 2021 |
bukatyne:Then don't have sex. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by RexTramadol1: 12:38am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Well, I wrote within the context of what the OP is saying, on the society demonizing a man for what he decides for himself I don’t have any entanglement with a single mom so to speak, and it’s a decision I’m unapologetic about. 9 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by NaijirianKing: 12:43am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Don't blame shift. She gave herself away, cheaply, to irresponsible men who didn't see the need to marry her first. These are merely the consequences of her poor decisions in life. Every action has consequences, try as we may, we can't escape them. She is to blame for her poor behavior and choices. MrBrownJay1: 6 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by NaijirianKing: 12:46am On Sep 10, 2021 |
It's not a must to engage in fornication. 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by lordaltruist(m): 12:46am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Davash222: I confirmate this comment. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by suffering: 12:46am On Sep 10, 2021 |
The worst people to get advice from are unrelated females. OP, don’t commit such sin later in life. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by NaijirianKing: 12:47am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Mem who value themselves and their commitment don't commit to single mothers. Terrier99: 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by NaijirianKing: 12:48am On Sep 10, 2021 |
No, a woman should respect herself and not give her body to every man who wants a sample. bukatyne: 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by NaijirianKing: 12:52am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Men of this generation are too wise and can't fall for such sob stories. There's a reason why 74.8% of singe mothers in America die without ever being walked down the aisle. Women can get together and tell themselves anything they want, but men control commitment and who gets married, it is what the men say that matters. And men have already spoken on the matter. Karlovych: 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:52am On Sep 10, 2021 |
NaijirianKing: you are absolutely right and i am in no way trying to take away the blame from anyone... but again, we are not here to point fingers at who's to blame for single motherhood here, but instead to UNDERSTAND why a brotha would look down on such life status. 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:55am On Sep 10, 2021 |
RexTramadol1: ...and you have all the right to do so, but i sincerely hope that your reason for thinking that way has more to do than what people may say about you bla bla bla. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Terrier99: 12:56am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Ruthymoon: This one is not even intelligent. You eat meat, why don't you carry the cow home? 14 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Terrier99: 12:58am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Romanoff: Stop asking mumu questions. There is Postinor 2. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 1:02am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Which is the more reason I don’t want to be in that situation. Having to separate myself emotionally from a child living in my house. Being cautious and conscious of how I instill discipline in the home because I don’t want to offend the sensibilities of my wife… I don’t want that. And I think it’s time for society to stop frowning at men who don’t want all these peculiarities. The decision by men like me to avoid dating single mothers is valid. Women should stop demonising us for having that preference. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Toks2008(m): 1:03am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight: Single mums are sweet to be with cos they have seen it all and most of them are compelled to calm down to reality. The problem is that they are their own issues. I created a thread years back about single mums so that is my stand view. https://www.nairaland.com/2532999/8-words-advice-unmarried-single 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by geemd434: 1:08am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Davash222:You just made a profound statement. Wisdom will never leave you 9 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 1:11am On Sep 10, 2021 |
RexTramadol1: Bro you have spoken well. 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:25am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight: the above is called BEING IN A R/SHIP WITH SOMEONE... you dont want to offend the sensibility of your wife/gf with everything you do in your union, regardless of a child being involved or not. And I think it’s time for society to stop frowning at men who don’t want all these peculiarities. The decision by men like me to avoid dating single mothers is valid. Women should stop demonising us for having that preference. society doesnt frown upon men like you, its single mothers who do because you judge them for their single mother status. are you saying that its RIGHT for you to frown upon these single mothers but WRONG if these same single mothers frown upon men who think like you doi?!?!?!?!? 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:32am On Sep 10, 2021 |
the hypocrisy on this subject is that the majority who look down on these women will gladly date/marry Genevieve/Linda or the ex wives of Uncle Jeff (Bezos) and/or baba Bill (Gates) 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Karlovych: 1:35am On Sep 10, 2021 |
NaijirianKing:Exactly, some of these delusional females don't understand how the world works, especially the American ones 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 1:42am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Do not take it out of context please. I was talking about offending her sensibilities because of the child in question and certainly not in the general sense. She expects inclusion from you on everything except when it’s time to correct children, then she places you under scrutiny. That’s an unnecessary awkwardness I certainly do not want. It is different from just any relationship. It doesn’t make her a bad person, but it is what it is. And I’d rather avoid such situations if I can help it. society doesnt frown upon men like you, its single mothers who do because you judge them for their single mother status. are you saying that its RIGHT for you to frown upon these single mothers but WRONG if these same single mothers frown upon men who think like you doi?!?!?!?!? Don’t misunderstand me. I do not frown upon them. I just don’t prefer them. I don’t treat them any less than other humans. But my decision not to date them is seen as offensive by women. Why? It should not be so. Plus I particularly dislike the fact that some of them withhold the information that they are single mothers until they feel you are committed to the relationship. They should tell me upfront so I can move on to the next person instead of wasting time. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 1:46am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Davash222:Wrong wrong wrong! No be only 100% access, who in their right mind would open themselves to someone who abandoned them? Ohoo |
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