cybertruss:
My wife no longer egg me. She always insults me, snub me and heal their land.

Why do they believe it is wrong to re marry?

cybertruss:
Thank you everyone. I would divorce her and then think before I leap.

cybertruss:


No I ran from her as my family advice me I was told that she is capable of killing me. I am always in contact with my children. All the drama happened before them.

So she is in the building we built together. I ran for my life. I am in constant contact with my children.

Vision101:
@Innovia
Shallow thinking pastors. I have one question for you, If she doesn't change, can you continue with such for the next say 3, 5, 10 years. There lies your answer



@me
Yeah...if the scriptures must be followed, you are not allowed to put away. That's why one of hardest prayers a person must pray is for God to give him/her the true bone of his/her bone and the flesh of his/her flesh.

We warn that marriage must only be consummated within the bounds of true Christianity. Fleshly desires and considerations must not be the influence.

I must confess that even in the church today so many marriages didn't follow this rule and they are in trouble. Pastors are overburdened with challenges in even old marriages.

cybertruss:
My wife no longer loves me. She always insults me, snub me and has no respect for me. I will confess I am not very rich but I work extremely hard. I noticed that my wife attends political meetings and they have overpowered me as she has no atom of respect for me.

In fact a time I sent 90% of my total monthly earning she told me real men send their wives 500,000 naira monthly but you send me this rubbish and call it money. The time I wanted to pack my things to the house we built together she told me that I cannot bring it in because it is her house.

It is a very shameful thing for me to mention that she gives me blow sometimes when I ask for sex. The day I got angry and revolted the whole world went against me that I went against the rights and dignity of a woman. I was accused of trying to rape my wife.

The last day I kissed a woman was on my wedding day when they said I can kiss her. Till today I have never kissed a woman. I take a lot of pains but cannot take that anymore. She seems to have carry on with her life in her political group in Ogun State. As she is mingling well with politicians there.

The problem is why are pastors telling me that I cannot carry on with my life.

Why is it called sin if I go for another woman. Didn't God himself say it is not good for man to be alone. I blame myself, I might have married a wrong lady. But didn't God himself say that if his people repent he will heal their land.

Why do they believe it is wrong to re marry?

OkuFaba:
If she has no children yet for you, divorce her ASAP, else you're heading to uelr early grave

Imustnottalk:
Op since you said you love your wife you guys can talk about it and make your marriage open . that's why oyinbo lifestyle no hard

Kobojunkie:
So in your mind, the idea of open marriage is practiced only by the oyinbos wey you dey claim?

ruggedtimi:
this statement weakened me, are you a man ?? You sound so weak.

cybertruss:
Someone gave me an answer, that if she divorces me in her disobedience then I am free from her and can remarry. It is not a sin provided I was not the one that initiated it. That spiritual freedom is what I seek. As she is proud I know what I will do that might make her divorce me. Trust me it is not against both the law of God and man. Thanks everyone for your time

Anyway, I want to say that I have fault as well. For instance, I failed to listen to some 3 unknown Yoruba elders who tried to stop me from marrying her.

I was so open and soft as one of my friend told me that I am not hard. I have tried to be hard but that is not my nature. I am trying

cybertruss:
Someone gave me an answer, that if she divorces me in her disobedience then I am free from her and can remarry. It is not a sin provided I was not the one that initiated it. That spiritual freedom is what I seek. As she is proud I know what I will do that might make her divorce me. Trust me it is not against both the law of God and man. Thanks everyone for your time

Anyway, I want to say that I have fault as well. For instance, I failed to listen to some 3 unknown Yoruba elders who tried to stop me from marrying her.

I was so open and soft as one of my friend told me that I am not hard. I have tried to be hard but that is not my nature. I am trying

Kobojunkie:
The person who told you such thing is wrong.

As far as the divorce as sin, it is explained in Matthew 5 sv 27 - 32 and in Matthew 19 vs 1 - 11 by Jesus Christ Himself.

If you don't even care to take time to study and learn these things on your own, why do you bother claiming to be a Christian?

DaddyRochie1642:
May my Sons never Marry a Woman that will make them to be Weeping and gnashing their teeth in agony and despair like this man.... Amen.

cybertruss:
Some might also say posting this online is bad. I know. When you are really alone and lost the best part of yourself have pondering issues with No one to talk to you will understand.

Some might go and drink their life away at beer parlours. Some might kill themselves. Some might track the politicians, shoot them dead, shoot the wife and shoot themself. Some might start sleeping with all women breaking their heart in retaliation of what their wife did. Two wrongs cannot make right. These things are the current thing happening in our society. The court needs to simplify the divorce processes.

I gave everything a deep thought. I know Nairaland is a community of all types of people but I also believed I will also meet few great spiritual leaders in the same place. It Is just for to study what they said, pray and follow the best route. Everyones opinion is good, both spiritual leaders and non spiritual leaders because they can shed light on the issues in another perspective.

I am truly depressed, alone, feel dejected. I am trying to bounce back.

All the same I thank everyone. You are all great

BikoMERCYme:
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Fool.....
Is nedu wife dat got impregnated by another.......even when she still married to her husband also a Yoruba Woman........

cybertruss:

I know that part of the scriptures as well.

1. However I believed that since God also said that it is not good for a man to be alone when he instituted the marriage it is not good for me to be alone. No doubt, i disobeyed, married a wrong woman if I come back in repentance I will be forgiven.

2. God exempted some people from his rules. For instance, God was not angry with David for eating the Holy bread.(this has nothing to do with marriage). God was not angry with Queen Esther for being a second wife after the king divorced Queen Vasti. Angel Gabriel answered Mary lightly but punished Zechariah when they asked the same questions (this has nothing to do with marriage). Even Job married a new wife after the former wife left him to curse God and die.

Blessed is anyone that God decides not to remember his wrong doing.

I just want to key inside these mercies so that I will enjoy the things God wanted me to enjoy in marriage with a new wife.

Kobojunkie:
The person who told you such thing is wrong.

As far as the divorce as sin, it is explained in Matthew 5 sv 27 - 32 and in Matthew 19 vs 1 - 11 by Jesus Christ Himself.

If you don't even care to take time to study and learn these things on your own, why do you bother claiming to be a Christian?

Kobojunkie:
1. The only man that was ever alone in the Bible as Adam and Adam was the man that God said that of in Genesis 2. So, no, God was not talking about you but about the man named Adam who was the only man that existed on earth at the time of His creation.

Since Adam, God went on to create some men Eunuchs, allowed some to be made Eunuchs in life and others to decide to become Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom. Jesus Christ reiterated this in Matthew 19 vs 1 - 11 when He taught that marriage is not a mandate but a choice.

Even in the Old Covenant, we see many patterns of this among the people of Israel as well. For instance, some of His prophets, Elijah, Elisha...are not recorded to have had wives or children even.

2. God never exempted anyone of His people from following Obeying His commandments. Just because you don't understand why David was able to eat the Holy Bread - David was anointed of God unlike the others who were commanded against the eating of the same bread - is no reason to assume that David was exempted from following of God's Law.

*God was not agree with Esther since polygamy and Polyandry are not sins to begin with.

* Even your assertions about Gabriel are completely off. Zechariah was a teacher of the Law of God who taught the people to believe in the Word of God, whereas Mary was just a child. God's reasons for the different approaches are not to be assumed but understood as His.

* Where is it written that Job married a new wife and that his wife abandoned him?

That book becomes useless when you start injecting your delusions into what is written in it. The only way God can indeed bless anyone is if that person obeys His commandments. It is the same for all - even Jesus Christ submitted to and Obeyed God's Old Covenant Law in order to achieve that which He was sent to do.
So, again,

BikoMERCYme:
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FYI her mother is yoruba and it is not even rampant among igbo women.
it is normal to flirt around with yoruba women[/s]

Shut ya trash......
How many Yoruba state have u been to.......to have generalised dem.........

Was Bleep young married girl steady during my nysc days in Enugu(agbogugu)......

What does that tell u