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Please I Need Urgent Advice by NadiaR(m): 3:56pm On Oct 06, 2021
Good day NairaLanders!

Please I need advice on an urgent matter.
I and my fiance have been together for two and half years now. We've been through thick and thin for that period of time, I mean things I can't say here but if any of my close friends or family is reading this, they would understand.

Now we are planning on getting married soon our introduction is dated December this year. But the main concern now is that we just did our genotype few weeks back and it was confirmed that we are both AS.

At first I thought we could go ahead and make it work probably follow one of the solutions I found online (Fetus test or IVF) but looking at our financial status, we can't afford any of the two.

We've both discuss on what to do and found out separation will be the best but looking at everything, it is hard for us both or should I say it's harder for me to let her go.

At this point, I am calling on the doctors, nurses and those who have experience to advice me on what to do.

Cc: RoyalRoy please help push to front page
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by chatinent: 4:00pm On Oct 06, 2021
I am touched by this.

I have learnt sth. When next I meet a lady, in my chyking, I must include questions about genotype. “It is nice meeting you and today was fun, Mariahangel, what's you genotype?”

If she is incompatible, I move.. I run with my heels hitting my back... cry cry..rather than letting so much time pass before asking very important questions as this.

By the way, here is a new drug for sickle cell: https://www.nairaland.com/6789296/crizanlizumab-new-drug-sickle-cell#106499786

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Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by lilvicky68(m): 4:01pm On Oct 06, 2021
Separation is the best thing to do..

To avoid bringing SS genotype children..

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Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Akinsete19(m): 4:04pm On Oct 06, 2021
It's painful, but separation is the best solution.
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Psalms123: 4:06pm On Oct 06, 2021
Ok

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Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Kobojunkie: 4:08pm On Oct 06, 2021
NadiaR:
We've both discuss on what to do and found out separation will be the best but looking at everything, it is hard for us both or should I say it's harder for me to let her go.

At this point, I am calling on the doctors, nurses and those who have experience to advice me on what to do.
Na by force to have children? Consider adopting if you both want to be together. If not, go ahead and part ways. undecided

Since this is a real issue for many of you why not then get the test done before you even proceed with the relationship. Or maybe where a tag indicating your genotypes so you don't end up wasting each other's them from the get go. undecided
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Dmolar(m): 4:23pm On Oct 06, 2021
My brother if your faith is stronger you can move on with her, I had a friend with similar cases but they are married now with two beautiful kids.
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by 1F30M4(f): 2:50am On Oct 07, 2021
You both waited for 2½ whole yearss, nahh it shouldn't be so.. It hurts now I'm sorry but it will hurt even more in the future.
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by greenie77: 3:01am On Oct 07, 2021
Don't you ever dare it, go your separate ways. Why was the issue of genotype not brought up during the early days of the relationship?
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by frozen70(f): 4:47am On Oct 07, 2021
NadiaR:
Good day NairaLanders!

Please I need advice on an urgent matter.
I and my fiance have been together for two and half years now. We've been through thick and thin for that period of time, I mean things I can't say here but if any of my close friends or family is reading this, they would understand.

Now we are planning on getting married soon our introduction is dated December this year. But the main concern now is that we just did our genotype few weeks back and it was confirmed that we are both AS.

At first I thought we could go ahead and make it work probably follow one of the solutions I found online (Fetus test or IVF) but looking at our financial status, we can't afford any of the two.

We've both discuss on what to do and found out separation will be the best but looking at everything, it is hard for us both or should I say it's harder for me to let her go.

At this point, I am calling on the doctors, nurses and those who have experience to advice me on what to do.

Cc: RoyalRoy please help push to front page

If you think separation is hard,
Having a sickle cell child is a harder one
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by NadiaR(m): 10:31am On Oct 07, 2021
greenie77:
Don't you ever dare it, go your separate ways. Why was the issue of genotype not brought up during the early days of the relationship?
To be sincere, I wasn't serious with the relationship at first but seeing her stay during my hard times made me commit to the relationship more
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Kirchoffs: 2:20pm On Oct 07, 2021
Dmolar:
My brother if your faith is stronger you can move on with her, I had a friend with similar cases but they are married now with two beautiful kids.
one of the numerous mumu MONICKERS on NL.

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Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by faithfull18(f): 9:22pm On Oct 07, 2021
Pity your unborn children, being AS right now is tough not to talk about SS.
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Vision101(m): 4:51am On Oct 08, 2021
@greenie77
Don't you ever dare it, go your separate ways. Why was the issue of genotype not brought up during the early days of the relationship?[



@me
Fully concur with you. There's no option. We have cancelled several that were attending marriage course in the church when this was discovered.

There is no faith thing in this.

How you dey?..... remembered you yesterday. The lady that fought me.
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by greenie77: 5:37am On Oct 08, 2021
Vision101:
@greenie77
Don't you ever dare it, go your separate ways. Why was the issue of genotype not brought up during the early days of the relationship?[



@me
Fully concur with you. There's no option. We have cancelled several that were attending marriage course in the church when this was discovered.

There is no faith thing in this.

How you dey?..... remembered you yesterday. The lady that fought me.

I am good. Haba! Your memory of me is tied to a fight......it is not a good something o! cheesy

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Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by MufasaLion: 7:35am On Oct 08, 2021
There's nothing you can do order than to separate. You shouldn't be cruel to the extent of bringing your offsprings into pain.

You won't die if you break up with her irrespective of the duration you've been together. Moreover, at this digital age, you didn't ask her about her genotype on the first date till after 2 years? I'm sure you didn't even ask about her healty history in the 2 years of your dating.

Well, break up with her and stop looking for a way to stay together except you really wish to waste money on health care of your kids which the survival is uncertain.

Shalom!
Re: Please I Need Urgent Advice by Vision101(m): 7:19pm On Oct 08, 2021
@greenie77

Haba! Your memory of me is tied to a fight......it is not a good something o! cheesy



@me
Not really. But that was how we got to know each other. Again people like us live a caged life. We fear that we might easily be misunderstood.

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