NoJex:
So I created a new account for this. I'll try too keep it as short as possible.

My Dad is an evangelist and our mom died in 2013. 4 months ago, my older brother revealed to my dad, via phone call, that He is agnostic, my Dad cried and it was shocking for me, because I have never seen my Dad cry. Since the day my brother revealed that He has left the faith, My Dad has been fasting on his behalf. Over the weeks He has lost weight, because He is fasting and praying excessively for God to arrest my brother and He is eating very little. Nowadays, He keeps talking to himself and calling himself a "failed parent" for raising an "athiest" child (To him there is no difference between being Atheist and being Agnostic). Some church members on Facebook found out that my brother had left the faith and they are putting the blame on my parents for not raising my brother properly in the faith. My brother is a frequent visitor to this website, I don't know his username, but I know He visits this website a lot.

Frankly, even though I'm Christian, I have no problems with my brother being agnostic. Right from when we were growing up, He has always been skeptical of religion and I cannot count how many times our parents punished him for skipping church or criticizing popular pastors. He has always been like that and I have gotten used to it. So when I found out that He is was no longer Christian, I was sad, but not surprised.

I have been begging my father to eat properly for over four months now and my pleas have fallen on deaf ears. Old age is starting to catch up with him, his health is already failing him, He is not taking his drugs and He is making matters worse by overthinking about my brother. I am the last born and the only lady with him in the house, as all my older siblings are not around. While I believe that God will arrest my brother in due course, I cannot help but worry about my father who is worrying himself to death over one child. Just yesterday out of frustration and anger, my father laid several hefty curses on my brother, I sent a WhatsApp vn to my brother telling him about it, thinking that his mind will soften a bit, but He replied me that He doesn't believe in curses. In fact I am tired at this point, Please what should I do?

TheWolfen:
[s] I don't know why your brother choose that path because it is only a BIG FOOL that will doubt the existence of God.
But one thing I can say about him is that he has pride and only care about himself [/s]

Vaughanlanrewaj:
Stop worrying about your brother, your father has already intervened. It's your father you need to keep praying for. Everything will be alright so don't overthink it too.
Your dad is perhaps not busy enough or the environment is limiting him or bringing too much reminder of his weakness, your brother, to his realities. If it doesn't kill him, it will make him stronger, just don't stop praying for him.

SSIPON:

There, I corrected it for you

TheWolfen:
[s]Yes he is a big fool and I will say it again..
Why will someone doubt the existence of God?
BTW why are you pained? Are you the said brother? [/s]

NoJex:
Just yesterday out of frustration and anger, my father laid several hefty curses on my brother, I sent a WhatsApp vn to my brother telling him about it, thinking that his mind will soften a bit, but He replied me that He doesn't believe in curses. In fact I am tired at this point, Please what should I do?

JeffreyJunior:
Talk to your brother and plead with him to at least pretend a little to be Christian when in your dad's presence, for the old man's sake.

I hate when parents insist on living their lives and those of their kids too but what can one do if not please them in every little way one can.

Remind your brother that a father is like an umbrella and those who still have them around should cherish and love them.

As for being agnostic, it's his choice. I believe there is God somewhere but I can bet that he is neither in today's churches nor today's mosques.

Vaughanlanrewaj:
Stop worrying about your brother, your father has already intervened. It's your father you need to keep praying for. Everything will be alright so don't overthink it too.
Your dad is perhaps not busy enough or the environment is limiting him or bringing too much reminder of his weakness, your brother, to his realities. If it doesn't kill him, it will make him stronger, just don't stop praying for him.

chukwuibuipob:
Nojex,. Hope Ur bro never join those street nuisance? . Maybe joblessness,frustration/bad friends probably the root cause of his sudden change? God will honour the parents CURSE unless Ur bro change and the old man bless him something tell me,he'll change his waywardness lifestyle and come back home like the prodigal son.Ur father can't be suffering and he care not.

NoJex:

My brother is the kind of person that if you call him, He won't pick. We only communicate via whatsapp and trust me, I have tried to make him understand, but He won't budge.

Only a few of our relatives know, but they are not helping at all, they just keep saying, "It is well, God will arrest him." My 2 other brothers are also out of the country currently.

NoJex:
He is not eating, He is not taking his drugs, He just keeps praying and fasting even with his failing health. God knows I have tried my best

NoJex:
So I created a new account for this. I'll try too keep it as short as possible.

My Dad is an evangelist and our mom died in 2013. 4 months ago, my older brother revealed to my dad, via phone call, that He is agnostic, my Dad cried and it was shocking for me, because I have never seen my Dad cry. Since the day my brother revealed that He has left the faith, My Dad has been fasting on his behalf. Over the weeks He has lost weight, because He is fasting and praying excessively for God to arrest my brother and He is eating very little. Nowadays, He keeps talking to himself and calling himself a "failed parent" for raising an "athiest" child (To him there is no difference between being Atheist and being Agnostic). Some church members on Facebook found out that my brother had left the faith and they are putting the blame on my parents for not raising my brother properly in the faith. My brother is a frequent visitor to this website, I don't know his username, but I know He visits this website a lot.

Frankly, even though I'm Christian, I have no problems with my brother being agnostic. Right from when we were growing up, He has always been skeptical of religion and I cannot count how many times our parents punished him for skipping church or criticizing popular pastors. He has always been like that and I have gotten used to it. So when I found out that He is was no longer Christian, I was sad, but not surprised.

I have been begging my father to eat properly for over four months now and my pleas have fallen on deaf ears. Old age is starting to catch up with him, his health is already failing him, He is not taking his drugs and He is making matters worse by overthinking about my brother. I am the last born and the only lady with him in the house, as all my older siblings are not around. While I believe that God will arrest my brother in due course, I cannot help but worry about my father who is worrying himself to death over one child. Just yesterday out of frustration and anger, my father laid several hefty curses on my brother, I sent a WhatsApp vn to my brother telling him about it, thinking that his mind will soften a bit, but He replied me that He doesn't believe in curses. In fact I am tired at this point, Please what should I do?

baby124:
Many people are beginning to question religion because of the many fake pastors and fake imams preaching violence. The more they go extreme the more people are skeptical. As your dad chose his path to become an evangelist, so did your brother choose to be an agnostic. The fact is religion is forced on us from birth, as adults we can choose. Your father does not own your brother’s life, he has chosen his way. Your dad needs to come to peace with it and move on with his life.

A true Christian will try to understand and not be laying curses on his own son. Obviously some hypocritical behaviors of your father drove your brother where he is. Where is the love that Christianity preaches? Your father has made himself God by thinking he can force another’s will. Even God does not take that place in anybody’s life.

Your brother is not an evangelist, your father is. Let everyone face their business and their hustle. You can tell your brother to tone down on his views for your father’s sake. Especially on social media. They might not agree, but they both deserve the chance to live in peace and respect each other.

Your brother believes in God, he just does not believe in organized religion. Which quite frankly is cultlike and, your father is showing deep signs of a cult leader which probably chased your brother away. For people who have a free thinking/ rebellious mind, religion is not logical. Until we realize that all humans have different perspectives, we will never respect each other and appreciate the diversity.

janvier27:
It may sound insensitive, but we've all got our personal crosses to carry so let your dad process and carry his. It's not his fault wanting the child to follow a particular course, but it is his fault taking responsibility for his child's decision. Two plus two in life isn't always four. Your brother has chosen what he considers best for himself after processing all the advice he got from everyone. He may change his thinking in future. It's his decision to make.

NoJex:
So I created a new account for this. I'll try too keep it as short as possible.

My Dad is an evangelist and our mom died in 2013. 4 months ago, my older brother revealed to my dad, via phone call, that He is agnostic, my Dad cried and it was shocking for me, because I have never seen my Dad cry. Since the day my brother revealed that He has left the faith, My Dad has been fasting on his behalf. Over the weeks He has lost weight, because He is fasting and praying excessively for God to arrest my brother and He is eating very little. Nowadays, He keeps talking to himself and calling himself a "failed parent" for raising an "athiest" child (To him there is no difference between being Atheist and being Agnostic). Some church members on Facebook found out that my brother had left the faith and they are putting the blame on my parents for not raising my brother properly in the faith. My brother is a frequent visitor to this website, I don't know his username, but I know He visits this website a lot.

Frankly, even though I'm Christian, I have no problems with my brother being agnostic. Right from when we were growing up, He has always been skeptical of religion and I cannot count how many times our parents punished him for skipping church or criticizing popular pastors. He has always been like that and I have gotten used to it. So when I found out that He is was no longer Christian, I was sad, but not surprised.

I have been begging my father to eat properly for over four months now and my pleas have fallen on deaf ears. Old age is starting to catch up with him, his health is already failing him, He is not taking his drugs and He is making matters worse by overthinking about my brother. I am the last born and the only lady with him in the house, as all my older siblings are not around. While I believe that God will arrest my brother in due course, I cannot help but worry about my father who is worrying himself to death over one child. Just yesterday out of frustration and anger, my father laid several hefty curses on my brother, I sent a WhatsApp vn to my brother telling him about it, thinking that his mind will soften a bit, but He replied me that He doesn't believe in curses. In fact I am tired at this point, Please what should I do?

TheWolfen:
I don't know why your brother choose that path because it is only a BIG FOOL that will doubt the existence of God.
But one thing I can say about him is that he has pride and only care about himself

Nekky5:
It's quite an unfortunate situation but I want you to know that the devil is out to destroy your family. Your father should not see himself as a failed parent or rather be termed as one but should see it all as a plot to destabilize him. If your brother as an adult could now deny the faith he was brought up in , that means he knows what he is doing and should be responsible for everything that goes with it but looking at the angle of spirituality, let your father understand it and hand him over to God. He should not kill himself over it nor worsen it by laying curses rather let God deliver him.

kingxsamz:


Lol, e pain this one.
When your child becomes one, you too will cry and starve yourself to sleep.

Karleb:
If you are a Nigerian in Nigeria and you've never questioned your religion then you deserve thorough flogging.

NoJex:


I am not single. I am just here to seek advice, sir.