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Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by twilliamx(m): 4:30pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
I have found out and am with the evidence that he don't belong here...

Should i go ahead and tell my dad that the child he suffer to train is not his? ..

Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill) .

Am confuse

Some men have heard such news and didn't survive it. The choice is yours. You know the kind man your dad is, if he is extremely emotional then.....well.....as for me, God forbid oo. If I discover my son or sons are not mine at the stage I am in now. Am not letting go..I love them to death.

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Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by macjireh: 4:33pm On Oct 14, 2021
Kevsmart88:
How do you think you would live a peaceful life if you don't tell that man the truth b4 he joins his ancestors.
I bet you a 76 Yr old man must have seen or heard worse things in his life.
It's always better to intentionally live with the truth than unintentionally live with a lie you wish you knew all your life. Either way it will break him but he would feel better knowing he loved the young man going forward by choice.
And have you ever thought of the chances of he finding out from someone else? Walls have ears.
Do the needful. I hate deceit whether its harmless or harmful, deceit is deceit.
d father has already spent resources and time training dat boy,,its now time for d boy to pay back to d father.... d father will suffer more loss if d truth is revealed to him...I think its best to let sleeping dogs lie
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by nurain150(m): 4:34pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:


Am just afraid...
What if i tell him and got heart-break and die... He's 76 plus
You no get Sense, it's because that step son is doing better than you.

Kill him shogbo, u just mumu I hail vagina People, them no dey get sense.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by nnennachiji(f): 4:34pm On Oct 14, 2021
I don’t think you should tell him.
Allow things to be.DNA is important but DNA doesn’t always make a family what matters is love.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Loxleyy(m): 4:37pm On Oct 14, 2021
Is it not better to live in peace with all this hard times going on...

Imagine how devasted your family will be upon hearing this and concerning the paternity test just send me the money let me get some working tools cool cool grin



Juliusmomoh:
I have found out and am with the evidence that he don't belong here...

Should i go ahead and tell my dad that the child he suffer to train is not his? ..

Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill) .

Am confuse
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by henryadex(m): 4:37pm On Oct 14, 2021
I've gone through many of the comments but I want to ask you if it was you that discovered the truth would you have gone straight to your father? Wouldn't it be wiser you had gone through his friend to let your father know, now reverse is the case it was your father's friend that made you to know and he couldn't tell his friend i.e your father. Don't be a foolish child. My advice
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Oluomo90(m): 4:37pm On Oct 14, 2021
If you are afraid that if you tell him he might surfer or even die, then why bother to tell him in the first place. Some things should better be left as they are. In my personal opinion: if he die soon after you told him then, you would be responsible. An old man does not need heartbreak at such age. Habaa!
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by nairamaniac: 4:39pm On Oct 14, 2021
What I know is that the innocent child doesn't deserve to suffer for his mother's sin.
Put him into consideration.

Also, it's not your duty to break the news to your dad.
Respect the ways and methods of his friend who confided in you about the secret.

I would suggest you both tell the boys mum to be the one to break the news to your dad herself.

Also if the dad of the boy is alive, you all need to discuss with him on how he can be a better father to the boy.

If a child looses a father, he deserves another one or at least, a better one.

It's the duty of your family to make sure him(the boy) is handed to a place he is loved.

That's a fight i would fight for a child with my full heart, if I find out he/she isn't mine.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Ak2fyn(m): 4:48pm On Oct 14, 2021
Who told you that your father is not aware?.

Have you heard that what an Elder sees sitting down, a child will not see even if he climbs a tree?

If he isn't wayward and is no threat to the family's legacy, Let the sleeping dog lie.

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Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Ibrahim3307(m): 4:51pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:


Jesus !!!
Na only god go safe us o..

So i should tell popsy ba?
oga tell your dad
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by cyrilamx(m): 5:00pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:

I was told by my dad's friend. I think he want want the son back to the original family after sunday... I will never let it happen...
is the evil genius of a step mom that u have still alive? And if yes with your dad? Well if you keep the secret and your dad dies without knowing, then you are also guilty if this paternity fraud. It is a heinous sin against God and man. It is satanic. Partake not in it.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by BnBgrillNG(m): 5:01pm On Oct 14, 2021
OP, its very simple. Meet with your said dads' friend together with your step brother, ask him to tell you what he told you to his face.

If he can't, then that your dads' friend is up to no good. If he does, then you and your brother should reason it on how to tell your dad together.

Another thing, why is he giving you a deadline for you to tell your dad? I just don't get....... till Sunday else what?
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Xclusivedaniel6(m): 5:01pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
Note i don't hate him..
I love him with my everything.

I just discover recently that he's not my dad son..


If hes a torn in the flesh of the family, yu can go ahead with caution but if there's peace, look for a better to table the matter
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by ekerintee: 5:02pm On Oct 14, 2021
Of what Use do you want to Tell him.is IT for him to be excluded from the will ?.i think If your father loves him,biologically He May Not be His blood but by associate,He is His child.And what makes you think your father does Not Know .There are some Secrets men keep.it depends on the relationship between your father and your Brother ,If they so much Love each Other and your father loves him dear,i dont need you need to declare IT to him.if you are thinking of him to be excluded from your fathers will,that May seems selfish.If He has been with your father for Long as a child and has served your father loyally since birth.He is still counted as His child thou Not biological.just my thought,maybe am wrong






Juliusmomoh:


Am just afraid...
What if i tell him and got heart-break and die... He's 76 plus
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Guyman02: 5:02pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:

Best advice ever.
Yes she's alive.
Not the best advice.
This is Africa, we don't even have names for step-brother, step-cousin, stepchildren, etc, all we have are brothers and sisters, Mama and Papa, Baba, Uncle and Aunty.
Remember the story of Okonkwo in Things Fall Apart, Ikemefuna was his adopted son whom he loved so much, then some wicked persons in the community reminded him that Ikemefuna was not his biological son and he subsequently lost his mind and participated in the annihilation of Ikemefuna and that moment marked the beginning of the end for the great warrior Okonkwo. His friend Anuka tried to make him to apply wise counsel by telling him 'that boy calls you Father'

In this story your brother is Ikemefuna, your father is Okonkwo, your dad's friend is the wicked persons from the community, you are Anuka, will you apply wise counsel in this matter?
Think, brother think of the consequences of whatever you decide to do.
Remember we only have brothers in African linguistics and not stepbrothers

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Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Sotland: 5:06pm On Oct 14, 2021
Your plan is the kill the aged Man right? I bet that you are one of those who fights for inheritance;hence, why should you go about digging what shouldn't be digged

Child is a child whether biological or adopted. So, what's your problem with it? And where do you want your half brother to go?? Someone who has grown up to know one dad and out of the blue, you come up with this unthinkable secret.

Just too many questions here

If you tell and your father says he is aware of it.. won't you be ashamed of yourself?

If you tell your dad and the man fell and die, the question will not be what killed your father but who killed your father.. Of course It's you..."notice i use the pronounce it"

And don't you think this will course enmity between your half brother and you? If course it could degenerate to one killing another...

OH! You are doing this for inheritance right? Don't you dare deny it....

This shouldn't be your business at all... I sense your family is not a peaceful one which is why you go about digging what you ain't suppose to dig..



Juliusmomoh:
I have found out and am with the evidence that he don't belong here...

Should i go ahead and tell my dad that the child he suffer to train is not his? ..

Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill) .

Am confuse
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by BnBgrillNG(m): 5:10pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh, its very simple. Meet with your said dads' friend together with your step brother (since you love him with everything), ask him to tell you what he told you to his face.

If he can't, then that your dads' friend is up to no good. If he does, then you and your brother should reason it on how to tell your dad together.

Another thing, why is he giving you a deadline for you to tell your dad? I just don't get....... till Sunday else what?
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by suffering: 5:19pm On Oct 14, 2021
Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill).
Do this and know peace. Woe betide you if it is later revealed that you also are not his child.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by ekerintee: 5:20pm On Oct 14, 2021
Exactly ,i agree with you.if His father has invested in the Guy to such an age .To His Brother ,He is a father maybe Not biological father .A father is the one who was there for him from birth ,Not the one who is not there .If i Love someone ,even thou ,He May Not be my biological child ,He is still my child.If His father loves him and He has been a good child ,the Revelation cant Stop anything .If He has been a very Bad child ,maybe the old man May decide to reject him.i think the OP is wicked,assuming His step brother is sucessful and maybe a billionare or a governor ,will He reveal the Secret ,will He Care If He is His Brother or not.just thinking






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We Africans need Change our paradigm of who children are to parents. Sperm and eggs contribution is the tiniest part of parent and child relationship. A child nurtured, admonished, educated, disciplined and cultured is who a son or daughter is. It takes work and relationship to achieve this. Your father loves your brother and has made sacrifices for him so does your brother also, they are both victims of a fraud from a woman, why make them suffer for something they are not responsible for? Why break your dad in his old age? My dear take that secret with you to the grave, if you destroy a good relationship because you have legitimate reasons, someone else too will destroy you too because they feel they have legitimate reasons. The pain and heart aches won't be worth it.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by SURElee(f): 5:21pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
I have found out and am with the evidence that he don't belong here...

Should i go ahead and tell my dad that the child he suffer to train is not his? ..

Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill) .

Am confuse


And what do you stand to gain by causing your father this pain? I'm sure you want to oust the brother to gain properties abi? Oya go ahead and cause your father a heart attack and enjoy it.


Wetin you dey find, you go soon see am.
Then again, what if your father knows and decided to take it like that? Na you wan be CNN and FBI.

I just sense animosity fueled by jealousy. Small time you go drag war enter that your family.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Prestigesog74: 5:26pm On Oct 14, 2021
Consider the old man's life but he also deserves know the truth
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by chaloskyx: 5:28pm On Oct 14, 2021
YES TELL HIM QUICK YOU CANT LET AN OUTSIDER BE CUTTING OUT OF YOUR INHERITANCE WHILE HIS OWN WITH HIS REAL FATHER IS INTACT OGA SPILL THE BEANS TO YOUR FATHER JARE. HE WOULD BE ENTERNALLY GRATEFUL TO YOU FOR HELPING HIM OUT WHILE HIS WIFE AND OTHERS COSPIRED AGAINST HIM
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by naijaman2225(m): 5:41pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
I have found out and am with the evidence that he don't belong here...

Should i go ahead and tell my dad that the child he suffer to train is not his? ..

Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill) .

Am confuse
THE WORLD IS NOT A PERFECT PLACE. SH*T , SOMETIMES, HAPPEN. SINCE YOU ARE PRIVY TO THIS KNOWLEDGE AND YOUR DAD IS UNAWARE, THEN LET IT GO. LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by ekerintee: 5:45pm On Oct 14, 2021
What exactly is at stake? .is IT Family properties .If there is a good relationship bw your father and him.why do you want to destroy the relationship?. If there is a father and child relationship bw your Brother and your father ,do you want to destroy it because they are Not related by blood .If your father loves him dear ,leave IT that way.sometimes,old people Know the truth and See Things before they die,this Things you think He does Not Know might have been revealed to him one Way or the other and He might have decided to leave IT AS He is because He has Other children WHO are His by blood .its more painful to a man If none of d Kids are His .If one is Not His ,He can ignore IT,If He loves the person.your Brother has a duty to Take Care of your father If your father sufferred to train him.so why deprive your father of reaping where He sowed.Your Brother is 42 or so,so does He Care much for your fathers property,is He a black sheep ? .If all of you suffered together with your dad then you all have a right to him.if He has supported and supported your dad AS a child .If you are thinking of d property,then simply Tell your Brother when your father dies that He has No right to any property









Juliusmomoh:

My step-bros is 46
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Karlosorji(m): 5:58pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
Note i don't hate him..
I love him with my everything.

I just discover recently that he's not my dad son..

it's possible he knows. Please don't waste your time. Moreover, your dad is old
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Alhajiemeritus: 6:05pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
I have found out and am with the evidence that he don't belong here...

Should i go ahead and tell my dad that the child he suffer to train is not his? ..

Or i should tell him to conduct DNA test on all of us? (i can foot the bill) .

Am confuse
He knows.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Dpundict: 6:08pm On Oct 14, 2021
If he will leave any property when he dies, then tell him otherwise you stand to lose your inheritance to another man's child. Believe it or not.
Secondly, tell him you have someone or something you want him to help you do away from the house and not anywhere nearby so that family will not see both of you discussing it, or him rushing home to spoil the show in anger. Take him to a bar or eatery, buy something, sit and calmly show him the evidence. He will treasure it after he overcomes the hurt he has been put through by the mother of the child.
You can thank me later.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by TripleAkutigi: 6:10pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:
Note i don't hate him.. I love him with my everything.
I just discover recently that he's not my dad son..
No be say until u tell ur dad now, e don knw it already, believe me.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Chigold101(m): 6:18pm On Oct 14, 2021
AreaFada2:


grin cheesy
Reverse psychology.

Only a very foolish and guilty idiot man will do so.

But as it is, let the father know. One cannot assume that he already knows.
When someone who has never seen a family problem speak...
You must know.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by numericalguy(m): 6:27pm On Oct 14, 2021
nokspos:
some secrets are worth taking to grave, you are just going to create unnecessary issue, the man is old already , allow him to enjoy the rest of his life on earth in peace... i know secrets that i can never ever disclose to anybody in this life. and that's what makes you a man

Not secrets such as paternity fraud.

One of the reasons why we expose and shame criminals is to serve as determent for would be future culprits.
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by Chochovini: 6:29pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:


I know am his legitimate son... My problem now is, what if i tell him and this old man died out of surprise?
. In the first place, how did you come about this revelation?
Re: Should I Tell My Dad That My Step-brother Is Not His Son ? by blissfulheart(f): 6:37pm On Oct 14, 2021
Juliusmomoh:


Honestly i whould not be happy... But no am not the one engineering this..

I was told by my dad friend yesterday.

Am a man, hence the reason why i neet advice



if ur fathers friend know about it,then he should also tell u who the boys father is.abi na ur father friend born the boy,check well

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