Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

A called off marriage, is better than a divorce...... The moment you marry an abuser, you have granted him a free licence, to continually abuse you..........

Best to remain single and happy, than married and sad......

Call of the mariage!

all the red flags abi you dey colour blind?

men the worst thing that ever happened to earth

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

who send you?

Please call it off. It is better that way. Don't enter into hell with your eyes open biko.

Ynix:
Cancel the wedding for your life sake. [s]On the day of the wedding travel to a friend's place and stay[/s], or call off the wedding mentioning the area of being beaten. If it is true then you are going into self murder

That one na money wastage for both families. And no one would give any listening ears to her excuses again. I support the other one.

Why the rush then?
Why wasting resources and time when you discovered that you don't love him anymore?
Why don't you call it off?

You have told us his bad side let's hear his good side.
You can also tell us your bad and good side so that we can balance the equation. Marriage is never a bed of roses.

A broken � relationship is better than a broken � marriage.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

If you die tomorrow (God forbid) your blood is not in anybody hand.

Acidosis:
I pity you. You can't stand the shame of calling off a wedding? I hope you will be able to stand the 'shame' and pain of divorce after 3 kids?

All your threads so far on Nairaland are about this same monster that wants to kill you, yet you decided to plan your future with him. What do we call this now? Zero/dead self-esteem? Desperation? Abi na strong d**k wan make you sign your death certificate?

Brother man, hold on a little. Have you asked why she had stayed with the "bad man" for so long now and still went ahead to fix the date of their wedding? Wedding is a process which must have started from the villages long time ago but it is not until few weeks to the wedding that she is realizing that she is getting married to a monster. She is not ready to tell us the whole story yet.

You better run now if you truly feel this way and it's not just wedding jitters

If you are happy you better call it off. Nobody is forcing you to marry.

Mumu better look for work and feed yourself

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Your next step depends on you to be honest. You can only decide to remove the shame you’ve attached to calling your wedding off. I wish everyone else would stop living for people’s validation. This wouldn’t even be a problem.

Haaa you're about to make a grave mistake

Why do u want to get married to this guy?

How did you let yourself get to this point madam. ?

How did you not see all these thing before you got to this point?
Like how ?

If I were in your shoes, I no go do. My peace is my priority. If I’m not at peace, I won’t continue.

Wahala

It is better she let her family/the nut family knw now rather than let her parents/friends waste their money on Aso Ebi,food etc

Ynix:


Cancel the wedding for your life sake. On the day of the wedding travel to a friend's place and stay, or call off the wedding mentioning the area of being beaten. If it is true then you are going into self murder

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

You are not ready then.

Because you can't stand the shame from society you want to go into a marriage that probably will not work out?

Why do we live our lives for others and care so much what the world thinks of us?

Fvck people's opinions.

Geestarry:


Run!!

LOL
if she runs, the man will pursue, catch her and beat her some more

don't call it off, na for here we go read the news on how he killed you. if you like dont have sense

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

I beg you with the name of God call off the wedding otherwise regret will be inevitable.

Shame?!! What shame?!?..

You mean you value public opinion more than your life, health and well-being?!!... Interesting.

Since that's the case, enjoy your abusive marriage ahead!

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

e be like the man hold too much money, na wetin make
pray you dont wake up dead

They will beat you to death and all we will say is RIP

Made up story

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Your shame or your life, which will you choose? Will you rather die than live in shame or will rather be alive and live in shame temporarily but you get to live a happy life free of your current shackles?

Refuse to be overwhelmed, breath and answer the questions honestly, let your answer guide your next actions.

I've seen 2 weddings called of, the guys pulled the plug on D day. No one died, everyone moved on.

I wish you the best.

My sister don't be force into marriage is better to be single than in a dead marriage if the man is beating u now what will happen if u are inside the marriage. Take your decision a Wait for the right man for u

It obvious you know it's not going to work especially for you. Lucky for you, you have seen and experienced first hand what you are scared the union will be from your write up. Save yourself some pain, actually a lot of pain. Save your children from growing up in a toxic environment and yourself a life of regret.

Lady! Lady!! Lady!!!. How many times did I call you. You saw and experienced death on 2 occasions and you knew it yourself that the man and so call marriage doesn't suit your heart and you're shocking your head. I don't know why some people are not mindful of their lives and future. So you prefer doing the wedding and divorce to cancelling the wedding when you have good reasons to give people. Okay .. continue. . I pity your family

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Shame for a few months or suffering for a lifetime. You decide.

I think you're caught up in decision fatigue.

Solution to this is taking a deep breath, count one to 5, then call off the wedding. Period. No second thoughts. You're out you're out. You won't die.