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| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Major8: 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Op I don’t know the real circumstances which is making it difficult for you to call of this but it’s obvious this man won’t ever change. Things will get worse when you are both married. Society won’t be there to suffer with you . Op I have so much in my heart to say to you but I can’t in as much as I want to cuz I feel ur pains deeply. If things doesn’t feel right with you please don’t go ahead |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by MartinsD12(m): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14:You know all these and you still want to continue with the marriage because of what people will say clearly shows you are childish, behave so immature and not mentally fit for marriage, what people will say over your life that's the most foolish and senseless thing I have ever seen here on nairaland |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by queenfav(f): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Call am off o.. Marriage is for life,a lifetime is a long time to be unhappy.Better do it now for your own good!Abusers never change, take it from me!At least he has showed u he is a woman beater,so you are in luck. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by MummyD2020(f): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: If u cant stand the shame of calling it off, then u have signed up to live a whole life time in misery. U better face the shame now. Nobody send u msg, i swear no one thinks about ur welfare as much as u do. Emotional turmoil is worse than physical torture. Secondly i dont know ur age. But be it as it may, u need to damn what people think and face ur challenges HEAD ON. Do what is best for you. You know u can never be happy so that should be ur motivation to DAMN what people think. They aint in ur shoes. If i hear or see a thread, 'i regret my marriage', i go send more e-frustrations ur way. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Hier(m): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: Will you be able to stand the shame of divorce?? Your story is like the frog that's about to boil to death, but it keeps adjusting to the temperature of the water when it was warm, water gets hotter, eventually it has no more strength to jump out of the water when the boil gets hotter |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Salt06(m): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
You don't have to continue this way, you mean you have no one amongst your siblings/ friends / loved ones to confide in that can help you loud this whole thing? Thats not cool. one reason im not cool with ladies that are too into themselves... sadly domineering men love ladies they can dominate, manipulate and intimidate- a defination of witchcraft. Have u seen an American movie (based on a true story) called pastor's wife? She ended up mistakenly killing him her domineering/ intimidating husband in defense I'm sure u dont want to do that and ruin your life and end up in prison prolly leaving your innocent kids without parents... Think think think and act fast... U can hit me up if you want to talk about how to go about this. Don't worry, we can use msgs only- im far north. My dear, you decision now determines if you will not add to the tragic statistic of happenings in sad marriages... May God see you through... |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by stephenponti(m): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: You have listed your side of the story about your relationship with him, but we cannot judge the case based on one-sided story. We need the story from the other side of the coin so that we can make informed decision to advise you. Are you a good person what made him to lay his hand on you the two occasions, are you in any way being nasty to him, are you rude to him, do you respect him enough as a man or do you deride him based on maybe his financial capability and capacity. Is he faithful to you do you suspect him of infidelity prior to this time, have you accused him wrongly before, Is your mouth very forward in interactions with him? these things are what can make a man raises his hand against a woman. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Abikeade11(f): 10:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14:[color=#000000][/color] For how many years have you been in this relationship? Are you just knowing all this? Three weeks to wedding and you don't what to do , don't even know what to say, I pray you find peace whichever path you choose. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by jos4kay: 10:19am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Don't because of 2 beating in the past cancel your wedding. The man might have realized his mistake and vowed never to raise hand against women again I once beat my gf now my wife, that time she really needed that slap to reset her mode. Since I never beat her. Women need resetting once in a while. You never told us what you did to warrant only 2 beating in 4 years relationship |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Felalucky8(m): 10:19am On Oct 25, 2021 |
You can't stand the shame of calling off a wedding but you can stand the shame and pain of divorce. I nor sure say sense dey your head. You don't even know what you want or what you're doing else you would do the right thing |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by delezac(m): 10:19am On Oct 25, 2021 |
God is giving you a sign. May you not realize the importance of this warning from the grave. Amen. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Xscape1993(m): 10:19am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14:Is marriage a do or die affair? Getting marry to a wrong person is worse than death. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by JBoss25(m): 10:19am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Im surprised this babe never chop insults like that from the comments, it's surprising |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by generalwo(m): 10:19am On Oct 25, 2021 |
U want to get married.... U can't call it off... Which kind advise u come need? The advise we can give u is to either stay in the marriage or call it off but you already made it clear you don't want to do either of them so what do u want us to tell u now? Madam it's better u leave now wen person never die..... At least both of u will be alive to greet each other in the future....... |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Goldiness: 10:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: You about to go down badly, if what you wrote is true and how you feel about this marriage is true, call it off before it cut your life short in the future, I think you should weigh your shame and what you will face in the marriage and see which one is better in action for you to take, since you are ashamed of been happy in life. The choice is up to you to make. Good luck! |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by nedekid: 10:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Seems he has money  |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by MummyD2020(f): 10:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
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| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Rimsd(m): 10:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Is it not better you call off the wedding than dying or being disfigured for life before the divorce you're thinking of?? Or is there something you're not telling us... |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by meobizy(f): 10:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Don’t show up for the wedding. How hard is it? Two years from now you’ll appear here claiming you want to divorce your then husband. Marriage is a long relationship, comot if the thing tire you. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by blachawk(m): 10:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: He won't change.......better to end the relationship now that you have the chance |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Richy4(m): 10:21am On Oct 25, 2021 |
seyz91: It is real.. the guy has been beating her since February...She created a thread about it... She refused to listen to voice of reason... I guess she was enjoying the beating  |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by poiZon: 10:21am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14:They r some apps that are embedded in a phone, custom Apps, they r some u download, nobody download it for u, na u see amnfor google play store, download am. Abeg this man na custom app or na u download am by ur self? |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by UpperRoom: 10:21am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Be bold to call of the wedding. There is no shame in it, given your reasons. If he can do these before marriage, do you think you can survive in the marriage. Your life and Happiness is a priority. God help you. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Felabrity: 10:21am On Oct 25, 2021 |
You better call it off if you can't live the rest of your live with him |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by akanke79: 10:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: You are getting married to a narcissist.It is better you prezend to be sick and check into the hospital on admission so the wedding can be postponed.A naricissist will rathet maim or kill you,if you ever sought a divorce. Your life is more important than the disgrace your family will face.You also need to relocate to another area or city where your fiance can never find you. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Drella(m): 10:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: Must we tell you everything? Suffer no dey tire you? Is anybody threatening you that you must marry him? Broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by FlipModeSquade(m): 10:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Truvelisback:The Beast Incarnate..  |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by Mom007(f): 10:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Look sis, just run away! Gather some money and take off! Run to osun state or something and just start a new life. You see that domestic violence of a thing... Huge deal breaker! Marriage has so many ups and downs...(coming from someone who has been married 9years to the most generous, caring, non violent soul). So many times you will just be at each others necks and if his default setting is to beat you, my dear, prepare for a life of being a punching bag because marriage makes it worse! Don't do it sis. You will regret it. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by JAYYD: 10:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
My dear sister, i will advice you call it off now, i am talking from experience, what will people say, killed me, i dont want to be a product of a broken marriage also did, until i took that courage to leave Warrior14: |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by od501: 10:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Warrior14: Your story is one-sided ma'am. You said he beats you, what warranted the beating. Cos a man can't wake up one morning and beating a woman. You said he doesn't gave the mind of his own, how exactly? Cos I don't see anything wrong in a man taking a good advise from his family and friends. And when you said he doesn't know how to treat a woman, you mean sex-wise? Or he has refused to be a woman wrapper. Please elaborate before the elders could come in. |
| Re: I'm Getting Married But I'm Not Happy by MissThaur(f): 10:23am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Please I beg you in God's name, call the wedding off and don't get trapped in a horrible union. |
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