Magnoliaa:


*sits down with popcorn and chilled pepsi to watch the drama unfolding* You don't say!

Magnoliaa:


Wow. How can I phrase this now?

Well, I agree with you. Nigerians are NOTORIOUSLY classist! Gosh.

Petyprincess:
Hehe, I dnt blame them though, because a typical nigerian newbie is looking for someone to use for green card, with the reputation of Nigerian men abroad even our sisters are afraid of you not to talk of foreign women, only men that have never moved out of their home town are claiming foreign women love Nigerian men whereas it's total opposite.

Jasmine17:


I get your point but that’s why I said in doing this, they miss out on greater opportunities.

First and foremost, what happened to being friends and finding out if one is coming close because of some hidden motives? You cant know if you dont probe deep. You are not a witch.

This last lady I spoke about is an international student and is hustling a WFH job and she assumed I do not have what it takes as I said I do not have what it takes. Whereas, I am a PR already eyeing citizenship, have a great job with one of Canada’s top organizations and have a great life too.

Anyway, its just because I want to marry a Nigerian for personal reasons. If not….

AfroKnight:


You caught me right there.

Now I have to edit it back.

Magnoliaa:


Noo ooo. Who send you?

Personal reasons? Because you think they have more values or are family-oriented, abi they are not as modern and vocal as their white counterparts, abi?



Yup. It was a very big caught. Bigger than a whale gan. Las las, na home una go come. I have forgotten the African proverb that captures that.

Jasmine17:


You have said it all

I normally would not create a topic on this but the last encounter I had made me do this.

Met this girl on an online space. Reached out to her and we got talking. Then I invite her for a date (was going to spend my money on her o) and the next question was “are you mobile?”. I purposely answered no, just to see her reaction. Next thing, she stopped replying till date. I just laughed and moved on.

AfroKnight:


You don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s about an imaginary pecking order. It’s typical Nigerian classism. “I first you come America” mentality. They do it to both men and women. Very dirty behaviour.

lkillbrokehoes:
Bro I'm highly disappointed, You leave Nigeria go America, still dey date Nigerian girls, say dem swear for you?

Dude their are better options out there, wide variety of options, it's not a must to be with Nigerian girls

lkillbrokehoes:
Bro I'm highly disappointed, You leave Nigeria go America, still dey date Nigerian girls, say dem swear for you?

Dude their are better options out there, wide variety of options, it's not a must to be with Nigerian girls

1Sharon:
The reason why the newcomers are blanked is because the women don't know if he has his papers and don't want to be used for citizenship. How will they know he's genuine?

WesternOligarch:


This is very true, but you can't dispute the fact that lots of nigerian women abroad are becoming very shallow.

Kissmyassbiach:
You created a thread to bash women and accuse them of losing “great opportunities” because they don’t want you? This is how alpha males begin.


God wee hill you.

Jasmine17:
I want to briefly share my dating experiences with Nigerian ladies in the North American sphere. I have also asked several of my paddies and it seems like a norm amongst our Nigerian sisters.

Once you ask a Nigerian lady out in this space, 9 out of 10 times, the first question you are going to get from her is “when did you arrive here?” Once you are perceived as a newbie, you will automatically be blanked out. Hence most times, you will have to lie in other to continue the conversation.

Unfortunately, most guys who arrive single are normally serious at first, as they feel that one hurdle (relocating) has been solve and the next hurdle after getting a good paying job is of course to settle down with a Nigerian sister.

But this mentality of looking for old comers with the mindset that those are the only ones who are comfortable enough has robbed many of our sisters great opportunities, and continue to push black brothers into the arms of non-judgemental white ladies.

Another funny question you will get is “are you mobile?”
A “No” to this question will automatically earn you a blank.
A such ladies are so shallow minded not to think that there are several reasons why a serious minded guy will not want to buy a car yet in his first years living in the west.

Cars are very cheap unlike in Nigeria. A very good high value toks will cost you far less than what you pay in Nigeria. But there is the issue of insurance, parking space payment, parking tickets, traffic violation tickets, etc. Hence if you buy are car just of ownership sake, you are only getting another human to take care of. And when you compare the transit system and its reliability, you will find it is only sensible to own a car if it is being used to make more money.

Now, why would any right thinking person feel a guy with a car is the key to her happiness if it is not the olosho mentality? Then when they hit 35-40years, they start crying that there is no Nigerian brother available.

I think we should change this mentality in other not to cry foul when black brothers run into the arms of respectful white sisters

Bye for now

lkillbrokehoes:
Bro I'm highly disappointed, You leave Nigeria go America, still dey date Nigerian girls, say dem swear for you?

Dude their are better options out there, wide variety of options, it's not a must to be with Nigerian girls

Jasmine17:
I want to briefly share my dating experiences with Nigerian ladies in the North American sphere. I have also asked several of my paddies and it seems like a norm amongst our Nigerian sisters.

Once you ask a Nigerian lady out in this space, 9 out of 10 times, the first question you are going to get from her is “when did you arrive here?” Once you are perceived as a newbie, you will automatically be blanked out. Hence most times, you will have to lie in other to continue the conversation.

Unfortunately, most guys who arrive single are normally serious at first, as they feel that one hurdle (relocating) has been solve and the next hurdle after getting a good paying job is of course to settle down with a Nigerian sister.

But this mentality of looking for old comers with the mindset that those are the only ones who are comfortable enough has robbed many of our sisters great opportunities, and continue to push black brothers into the arms of non-judgemental white ladies.

Another funny question you will get is “are you mobile?”
A “No” to this question will automatically earn you a blank.
A such ladies are so shallow minded not to think that there are several reasons why a serious minded guy will not want to buy a car yet in his first years living in the west.

Cars are very cheap unlike in Nigeria. A very good high value toks will cost you far less than what you pay in Nigeria. But there is the issue of insurance, parking space payment, parking tickets, traffic violation tickets, etc. Hence if you buy are car just of ownership sake, you are only getting another human to take care of. And when you compare the transit system and its reliability, you will find it is only sensible to own a car if it is being used to make more money.

Now, why would any right thinking person feel a guy with a car is the key to her happiness if it is not the olosho mentality? Then when they hit 35-40years, they start crying that there is no Nigerian brother available.

I think we should change this mentality in other not to cry foul when black brothers run into the arms of respectful white sisters

Bye for now

revolt:
Oga stop complaining ...women are built to hook up with the mate that can provide security and comfort for them... As a young man your main focus should be getting your life together. Once you get some bag you'll see the chics flocking around. They're success miners. And this isn't bad ...thats just how they're built.
Infact any man from 18 to 30 shouldnt waste time dating.. spend that time hussling and if you must knack look for some easy pussy and make sure you protect your offspring so one opportunist doesn't steal a childb from you....That will destroy everything you've worked for. Then when you've balanced sit down and look for a sensible girl with good family background and genes then start a family... ( don't bother with she being a good girl. They're mostly all the same just look for a sensible one youncan flow with)... but for now get your life together.

Jasmine17:
I want to briefly share my dating experiences with Nigerian ladies in the North American sphere. I have also asked several of my paddies and it seems like a norm amongst our Nigerian sisters.

Once you ask a Nigerian lady out in this space, 9 out of 10 times, the first question you are going to get from her is “when did you arrive here?” Once you are perceived as a newbie, you will automatically be blanked out. Hence most times, you will have to lie in other to continue the conversation.

Unfortunately, most guys who arrive single are normally serious at first, as they feel that one hurdle (relocating) has been solve and the next hurdle after getting a good paying job is of course to settle down with a Nigerian sister.

But this mentality of looking for old comers with the mindset that those are the only ones who are comfortable enough has robbed many of our sisters great opportunities, and continue to push black brothers into the arms of non-judgemental white ladies.

Another funny question you will get is “are you mobile?”
A “No” to this question will automatically earn you a blank.
A such ladies are so shallow minded not to think that there are several reasons why a serious minded guy will not want to buy a car yet in his first years living in the west.

Cars are very cheap unlike in Nigeria. A very good high value toks will cost you far less than what you pay in Nigeria. But there is the issue of insurance, parking space payment, parking tickets, traffic violation tickets, etc. Hence if you buy are car just of ownership sake, you are only getting another human to take care of. And when you compare the transit system and its reliability, you will find it is only sensible to own a car if it is being used to make more money.

Now, why would any right thinking person feel a guy with a car is the key to her happiness if it is not the olosho mentality? Then when they hit 35-40years, they start crying that there is no Nigerian brother available.

I think we should change this mentality in other not to cry foul when black brothers run into the arms of respectful white sisters

Bye for now

2braithe:


If I leave the shores of this country, I won't even consider Nigerian men.
#TeamForeign

siofra:


It's not only Nigerian women who do this, all Nigerians in America do it. Chimamanda talked about it in her book Americana.

When Ifemelu first arrived in America she noticed that in a gathering of Nigerians when asked when she arrived America and she revealed that she was a newbie they looked down on her, until her aunt told her to start lying.

Stop trying to blame Nigerian women for everything. Nonsense.

AfroKnight:


You don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s about an imaginary pecking order. It’s typical Nigerian classism. “I first you come America” mentality. They do it to both men and women. Very dirty behaviour.

Vulcanheph:

My brother, you literally said my mind.
Why would I leave this country and still go over there to get involved with a naija babe.... God forbid.

Op just fall the hands of all of us that have plans to JAPA ....

GreaterFuture:

I will help you Save money on one thing at least, and that's cable
All your TV, Netflix and movies/series entertainment, don't pay monthly again
Cos no how no how, you go wan watch football and one or two from time to time