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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Odidigboigbo(m): 6:00pm On Nov 02, 2021
Iyaebe:
Too many married women are becoming sex starved hence the increase in adultery. Men really need to up their game and live a healthy lifestyle.
Is not matter living a healthy life style, most men have less sexual attractiveness to their spouse after living together for couple of years together. Don't be surprised, the man can go for 30 minutes and bang all night with other women. One of my friends once told me that he doesn't feel sexual urge with his wife anymore even if they are both necked on bed, he only sleep with her whenever he feel like. But whenever he meet a new girl, before he says jack Robinson, his jack knife � will be up. The truth of the matter is that most men pestle don't respect familiar hole.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Trentee4eva: 6:00pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.
Talk to your husband about your desires
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by anu3: 6:01pm On Nov 02, 2021
Truthenunciator:
Stop watching porn my dear.

Exactly... That has caused too much complications for men and women from their younger days on.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by gosmoney(m): 6:01pm On Nov 02, 2021
Iyaebe:
That's an insult to the husband
so f**ing outside won't be an insult to d husband?
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by AfonjaConehead: 6:02pm On Nov 02, 2021
BlackPantherxXx:


Lol.... everyone dey talk, coneheaded structured bigot sef dey yarn.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by yungrylex00(m): 6:02pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.
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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Nobody: 6:02pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
to me it’s not all about sex. It’s the kissing, touching, things you say, all the things that build up to the sex that makes it worthwhile. My body is not a rock I have needs and feelings, I work hard and take care of my home. But I want to be satisfied.
Don't back off,it is your right to ask to be licked,cajole him into doing it,he will become an expert. Don't let this boys here talk you down.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Sterope(f): 6:03pm On Nov 02, 2021
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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Thebraveman: 6:03pm On Nov 02, 2021
Hmmm
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Toks2008(m): 6:03pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

Send me a PM.

I will like to have session with both of you. Don't be shy, i wont mention anything about seeing this on nairaland. Just tell him i am a foreign sex therapist you saw his contact online.

Trust me, after the session, he will start giving you orgasmic Mouth job that will make you fall in love with him all over.

AS they say...''A man who can go down on his wife so well can as well not do any other thing'' the other premature thing will be solved.
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Quaddafi29: 6:04pm On Nov 02, 2021
Best to seek for divorce than kill him through cheating.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by slimmoney(m): 6:05pm On Nov 02, 2021
this is where samsul oil comes in, ur hubby should try it out.
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Burgerlomo: 6:06pm On Nov 02, 2021
pickatyoubackup:
Churchill pass this one but ur husband pass will Smith.

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by InvertedHammer: 6:06pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

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Have you tried reaching out to NwaAmaikpe? He likes people in your situation.

/

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by slymansun: 6:06pm On Nov 02, 2021
[quote author=highoctane post=107276617]
Your husband is debt or debts. It is one sexual drive killer for most men.
I have been there before.
Bring this subject up and see how it comes.
For the 10 seconds, anxiety, anxiety, anxiety. If he is free, headout to the nearest pharmacy, grab a bottle of stud 100, and watch how he turns out.[/quote

Bad advice. Using sex enhancers is dangerous in the long term. Please o, let him not resort to that.
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Jman06(m): 6:06pm On Nov 02, 2021
Last time I checked women do men a favour by having sex with them. I wonder why a lady should complain about not getting sexual satisfaction from their men when we have been made to believe that sex is only for the man! "He used and dumped me", " I gave him sex" etc. Yet they still want to derive satisfaction from something that should supposedly be their bargaining chip or favour to their men.

And one ediot was even arguing with me that women "give" sex to men as a favour.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by EmperorTolson: 6:09pm On Nov 02, 2021
Iyaebe:
That's an insult to the husband
Does the husband has to know
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by sisisioge: 6:09pm On Nov 02, 2021
ahnie:

Fa

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Abi fa
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Athemisia: 6:09pm On Nov 02, 2021
Iyaebe:
You'll have to like it if your wife wants it,she's clean and I read it's even cleaner than the mouth,it cleanses and purify itself except in cases of infection
Na must to suck phussy?? Nawa nawa for Garba lawal..

Omo spiritually it's a no no for me... But I Sabi turn ladies on even without a touch... But some men no get that time na to just slide their gbola zoom and they're out again.

Marry man wey Sabi phuck oh! Because e get why... cheesy

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Toks2008(m): 6:09pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

You can also point him to this thread i created years back.

It is for this reason that i wrote it but i guess maybe it is too erotic to make front page i dont know.

https://www.nairaland.com/3372650/satisfy-spouse-mind-blowing-intimacy-strictly#49695096

Lalasticlala is this thread not ideal for front page? If it is then no wahala
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by okine4real: 6:09pm On Nov 02, 2021
The truth is, i understand how you feel. Let me be truthful here, my wife self dey want make i give her more than my power. But how i go take do am? Four children, i cant think straight... i cant think for 5 mins without thinking how i will make money and cater for my family. so sex is off the table, But i find out that my wife head is not stressed, so she wants sex. i dont even know what am trying. What am trying to say is, woman, yo have to engage yourself with work... you have too much free time.. Am just recovering from illness, i was ill for 1 straight week, i could not go to work, i was on drip and injections yet i was spending money on myself and the children plus my wife. How i won take Bleep? children dey open mouth every minute, my third child, that one na another thing entirely, she should stand my the mother in the kitchen demanding every portion of meat before e enter fire. if you nor give am, the whole flat go know say issues dey house. So constantly my mind is even off sex.

Madam dont blame oga ohh. to be a good father is not easy ohh. A man should not be fucking or always thinking of fucking when he is not taking good care of the house.

the best thing you should do is, look for a good job relieve your husband lots of house issues, but the time you too have bills to pay, if your husband come near you for night, you self go say or ask am if he nor get work say na only sex he dey think off.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by AK481(m): 6:10pm On Nov 02, 2021
Kobojunkie:
What I would recommend is you work on ways to channel that extra energy into something else. If you no get passion or work, find yourself one. If you already have a job, find other hobbies to help reroute your mind back to that of benefit and away from that which is not of benefit to your marriage and life undecided

As for the dynamics of your relationship, if seeing a psychiatrist for professional counseling will help, please do not hesitate at all. Also, you can engage your husband in more husband and wife -ish activities, maybe with other couples, to help you begin to see him more as a partner than as a brother. undecided

As to the love-making, maybe you can both enroll is sex therapy together as well. undecided

I read your story and I immediately thought of another story from a couple of weeks back..https://www.nairaland.com/6744817/quarrel-because-sex#105660528
Problem solved...let them exchange
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by diztantjustice: 6:10pm On Nov 02, 2021
ezugegere:
You both need to make conscious efforts to make your marriage work. I think the major problem here is his inability to last, which can be solved.
Don't try to pressure him into MouthAction since he finds it disgusting. I too don't like it. I don't think it's healthy.

Dental dams can be used to give women mouthaction without endangering yourself or even perceiving the smell down there. There are ways around this so you can have a win win situation
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by einsteine(m): 6:11pm On Nov 02, 2021
TheWolfen:
Have him reduce his sugar intake.( Food and drinks )
Workout more and take fresh ginger and garlic everyday.
In less than a month u will see positive result. But tell him to stop masturbating if he does.

He won't be a ten seconds man if he was masturbating
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Kobojunkie: 6:11pm On Nov 02, 2021
AK481:

Problem solved...let them exchange
Exchange what? you mean the other man with the semi-rigid spouse and this one? lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Athemisia: 6:11pm On Nov 02, 2021
Jman06:
Last time I checked women do men a favour by having sex with them. I wonder why a lady should complain about not getting sexual satisfaction from their men when we have been made to believe that sex is only for the man! "He used and dumped me", " I gave him sex" etc. Yet they still want to derive satisfaction from something that should supposedly be their bargaining chip or favour to their men.

And one ediot was even arguing with me that women "give" sex to men as a favour.
Ladies are sex crazy even the holy ones.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by aliya247(m): 6:11pm On Nov 02, 2021
Please let him finish his ten seconds like you said and grab the John Thomas after 20 minutes of the first round and suck the JT well and see the lion in your man in second round.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Iamthoney(m): 6:12pm On Nov 02, 2021
Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.
Get him Magic spray for men that delays ejaculation and the 10seconds thing will be over. As for the other things you talked about I don’t know how to help you
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by BlackPantherxXx: 6:13pm On Nov 02, 2021
LifeOfTrigga:

LifeOfTrigga to his useless homosexual father and his spermbank wh0re mother:

Lol your grandma toto din come outside o, you no go come carry her cos me go make sure say her toto reach her thigh side

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Athemisia: 6:14pm On Nov 02, 2021
einsteine:


He won't be a ten seconds man if he was masturbating
Not lasting long in bed is more physiological. Most men don't know are to control their climax hence ending too soon.
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by bizzibodi(m): 6:14pm On Nov 02, 2021
salvation77177:

Be careful of advice some inexperienced folks give you here. Don't go and do what will bring God's judgment upon you because of sex. Whoever is advising you to use intimacy gadgets to satisfy yourself in the absence of your husband not performing to your satisfaction is an enemy whom the devil is passing through to attck your life.
I want to remind you that God created sex between partners for procreation and not for anything else. I am thinking your past life before you got married may not be too clean hence this problem is playing out now. You cannot force a man into mouth action which I see as unclean and my wife too never assents to it in our marriage. Don't allow your ungodly sexual drive or urge to push you into committing an abomination before man and God. Accept your husband the way he is and pray for him to understand certain things rather than bringing him to nairaland here. The solution to your problem is not here but lies within you. Do not allow your sexual past affect your present and future negatively. Be careful not of you do and think for the sake of your children. They are men and women around us who choose to live a life of celibacy. This is telling us that marriage and sex is not ultimate but option. Please,love your husband ay Accord him a respect of an husband.
Been waiting for righteousness....I can smell him.....U dnt need to see a skunk to smell it. grin grin
Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Jman06(m): 6:14pm On Nov 02, 2021
Athemisia:

Ladies are sex crazy even the holy ones.
Exactly! But they make us believe only men crave sexual satisfaction.

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