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Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by pedrilo: 12:49pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Thread for Toxic and frustrated people. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Nobody: 12:59pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
DoggoneDogg: You people here lie. There are many that give us men a bad name. In Abuja and Lagos they target women with money and use their money to live big boy life. That is why they get disrespected at home. One was even using his wife’s car to go and fight on behalf of olosho something we used our own eyes to witness no be story. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Passionate1(m): 2:12pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Justbehave:Normally she no b wife material. . |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Passionate1(m): 2:16pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
[quote author=ityP post=107455354] Lmao. Very anyhow reasoning. Marry my type, you'd practically be begging for the sex[/quote ] Normally she no b wife material. . |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by LordOfTheGame: 2:41pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
ahnie: List of idiots, you included. 3 Likes |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by eazzzy1(m): 3:10pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Klass99: Lol Klassy, always on point. There’s a popular saying on this forum about women evolving while men remain stagnant. This man is a clear cut example of that saying. When the world is in 2021, he’s stuck in 1991. I hope it doesn’t end in premium tears for him. It’s understandable if a woman isn’t working, but someone earning? His wife’s boyfriend will be a lucky guy |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by eazzzy1(m): 3:31pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
sharone21: Definitely, no adult can be forced to do anything they don’t want to do. The man also can’t be forced to fully take care of the home or to contribute more than his wife is bringing to the table. If the wife was living alone wouldn’t she sort 100% of the bill despite being economically disadvantaged? If a man decides to take full responsibility for the bills it should be seen as a favour to the woman, not as a responsibility. Let me tell you a long story, a friend of mine was working as call centre agent, he was making $34k per year, his wife worked in a bank and made $76k per year. They were splitting bills and chores. The guy was sponsoring himself to school too in hope for a better job. Soon the guy got a job in a firm with $90k salary. The next month his wife asked him how they were splitting the bills, he responded with nothing has changed, same old same old. The next month after that she asked again, he repeated his response and that’s when she went gaga, she said if he wasn’t going to man-up she had no need for him. Family got involved, the guy said she was earning double what he earned and bills were split equally, now he’s earning just slightly above her and she wants to change the formula. Family then advised that they share bills on a percentage of income basis. The couple reluctantly agreed, after the meeting, the wife insisted that he paid the rent $2k while she takes care of food and water, electricity etc $500. Long story short, they got divorced. Moral of my story; most women will not do for a man what a man would do for them. If my guy was the one earning 76k while his wife earned 34k, he would have been solely responsible for the bills, he would not have been splitting bills equally with her. 3 Likes |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 4:21pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
eazzzy1: What was the bill splitting formula before he got the new job? |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Legendoo: 4:35pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
eazzzy1: Biggest issue abroad.. Those kids on here think marriage is about cheating and sex. How to delegate bills and responsibilities are the biggest reasons for break up, mostly with black women. You know African mentality with feminism never works. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 4:40pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Legendoo: It's nor black women it's ALL WOMEN. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Legendoo: 4:56pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
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Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 4:59pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Legendoo: Oh now I get you. You are right.... |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by eazzzy1(m): 5:34pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
BigBashiru: 50 - 50 all three years of their marriage. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by eazzzy1(m): 5:46pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Legendoo: Facts. It’s funny how more money that’s suppose to be a blessing to a family ended up breaking up their family. Everybody should use their earned money for themselves. If out of the goodwill of a partner’s heart they decide to contribute more it should be appreciated, it’s nobodies responsibility to take care of an adult. 2 Likes |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by wunmi590(m): 8:35pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
Dollish: My sister, thank you so much for your reply. I don't reply unnecessary mention, reason why I ignored him... Tomorrow they would go out and be forming big boy and the head of family, while you are forcing your wife to foot your responsibilities 1 Like |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by clericuzzio(m): 8:44pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
wunmi590: If you are married which I doubt,I don't think you will have this kinda mentality. If your wife is working or doing biz what would her earnings now be for? Na when she use her money dey take care of one Bobo for corner you go come here begin ask for advise. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Dollish(f): 10:03pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
wunmi590:you told them the bitter truth but selfishness n wickedness will not allow them see the truth. If they are not ready to take responsibility they should remain single. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by sharone21(f): 10:41pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
eazzzy1: Your guy was SELFISH and doesn't know what it means to be a MAN, husband and father... Fatherhood actually is selflessness ( i dont know what boys interprete fatherhood to be) and a woman is a h-e-l-p-e-r to a man... I repeat 50-50 should not be enforced on a woman unless the man will carry the pregnancy and give birth to their kids apart from chores since the man wan open eye. It takes 2 fools to make marriage work. If the woman earns more and wants to do more than whatever she was previously doing fine since they are both partners in progress BUT this should not make the man not to man up and pamper her with gifts, outings to make her happy.... That is where an African man misses it. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 11:07pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
sharone21: Why shouldn't being a mother be selfless? she doesn't know what it means to be a mother. 50-50 should be enforced on a woman at all times and if she's doesn't want she should go and find another man and the man finds a woman that wants 50-50. Shekina. There's no long sermon in evening service. As for carrying pregnancy, doesn't the woman want the baby too? It's her baby too. Unless the man should do 100% provision for 9 months (equivalent of pregnancy) and then afterwards it reverts to 50-50. A woman being a help meet means 50% from her. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by sharone21(f): 11:19pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Why marry a man then? A woman with such lazy man who has no self respect will do better on HER own till her OWN rib comes( that man is NOT hers....women please, don't be blindly desperate to marry)...You want woman to sweat it for the man to dey flex around with girlfriends since he has so much extra change? ( lol).... Kolewerk.... I have said it that Nairaland is full of boys...even if your wife earns more and wants to do more, this initial oversabi will not allow that coupled with not pampering her..... I guess u need to get into the labour room to see what women go through and BLEED as some babies come to the world breeched( birth positions aside from the normal cephalic head position)... Giving birth alone is LIFE & DEATH....As one man of God put it some years back,' if men were told to have kids, na by force them go do am...highest 1 kid'( lol)... Since everything is 50-50, the man must give birth or pay a surrogate, so both man and woman can dedicate their fresh bodies for work. Boys on Nairaland need good role models/mentors. Peace. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 11:23pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
sharone21: 1. As for baby, the woman wants the baby too. And as for pain of pregnancy that's a curse God put on her so it's not the man's fault. 2. As a man, I can do 100% for only 12 months due to child birth after that its back to 50-50. 2 Likes |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by sharone21(f): 11:49pm On Nov 09, 2021 |
[quote author=BigBashiru post=107477492] 1. As for baby, the woman wants the baby too. And that's a curse God put on her so it's not the man's fault. 2. As a man, I can do 100% for only 12 months due to child birth after that its back to 50-50.[/quote You assume women want the baby too for such a man? LIE...Not every woman wants to be bugged with motherhood as 1 child alone takes 6 years off a woman's life, since the child will start school and till 6 years before he can independently go to school and come back on his own without mum. See, marriage is for mature people only...I don't think I ever saw my parents arguing on who go foot bills even when my mum was a FULL career woman and my dad was a professional who worked from home.... In fact from them I learnt a lot... E get some things I read from Nairaland boys and laugh... And my dad is someone that can give us ( wife & kids)his eyes... You will wonder why u see some kids hustling to do a lot for their dad when they are adults...the simple word is SACRIFICE...Despite my dad's busy schedule, we had him more seeing to a lot of things in our lives than even mum....Dad knew us to the extent that we have no secrets before him....Papa wen go do chores even when we had maids... See, both partners must be fools and as head of a home( even when just courting), there must be true love which ought to come first from the man THEN the woman reciprocates even to the extent of doing spending lavishly for the home. NB: I know some women that even when they have small change, they can never spend for their kids unless the man brings money and I cannot stand this. |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 12:07am On Nov 10, 2021 |
[quote author=sharone21 post=107477817][/quote] Proof of being a help meet is in bringing cash...it's also a demonstration of love to the man. I can wash plates and wash children's clothes too... |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 12:08am On Nov 10, 2021 |
[quote author=sharone21 post=107477817][/quote] True love needs to come from the woman first then the man reciprocated... |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 12:12am On Nov 10, 2021 |
[quote author=sharone21 post=107477817][/quote] If the purpose of marriage is for women to cash out then na i ain't doing. It's 50-50 unless I voluntarily make it 60-40 but that's grace.... |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Cookie14: 12:49am On Nov 10, 2021 |
WhyAWhy: Easier said than done. If a man demands for shared Bill's he should also demand for shared maintenance of the house chores,afterall the so called vacuum,washing machine you mentioned wont operate by themselves. The basic thing is men and women should use their brain when going into marriage,if a man treats u right he wont have to demand for it... Yes my husband always have the final say,doesn't mean I dont have an opinion of my own. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 2:12am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Cookie14: shared maintenance of the house chores is not a big deal at all. I will gladly do those but the woman must bring some money because im not her slave..... |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Kobojunkie: 3:09am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Pataricatering:No, splitting of bills should be an option, not a must, abeg! So what happens to this equation of yours when life hits and one partner is without employment employment an extended period of time or business goes burst? Abeg, make we try maintain sanctity of and even sanity in marriage. The formulae is still two becomes one, abi?, |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by FanOfMyself: 8:10am On Nov 10, 2021 |
ahnie:Ejiro!!! So you sef take style dey insult me abi |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by ahnie: 8:30am On Nov 10, 2021 |
FanOfMyself: |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by BigBashiru: 8:37am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: The problem with religious ppl is they do not question their beliefs rationally. "Two becomes one" only exists in the holy books and not in the minds of most women.... |
Re: Husbands, Never Force Your Wives To Split Bills by Lovelygbems: 9:15am On Nov 10, 2021 |
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